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SAVAGE GENTLEMAN

The Savage Gentleman with MMA Fighter Josh Tyler


Life can often feel like a cage fight. Punches fly at us from every angle. We’re swept off of our feet and tackled to the ground. Sometimes we’re straight up knocked out. And if we aren’t prepared to battle, we might never get back up.

Today’s guest is MMA fighter Josh Tyler. He is also the co-founder of Savage Gentleman, a retail brand and ethos that believes that men are both savages and gentlemen.

Josh is here to reveal his secret to remaining calm in the chaos of the cage. He tells us how to employ emotional intelligence, communication, and self-awareness in a masculine way. Josh also talks about how he’s applied what he’s learned as an MMA fighter to family life.

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find a man who can be both.”

Josh Tyler and the Savage Gentleman

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find the man who can be both. It is not ideal void of all traits of masculinity, nor is it suitable to succumb to one’s every base desire. There must be a balance struck between the two sides of the same coin that is manhood. This is the plight of the savage gentlemen, to cultivate both aspects of his being and achieve his full potential.”

What You’ll Learn

  • Growing up, Josh was not athletic. He wanted to become a scientist.
  • How Josh managed to remain internally calm during the external chaos of the ring
  • How to perform a stress evaluation
  • Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between stresses.
  • You can take the stress tolerance from the situations you’re used to and apply it to other areas.
  • Use times of success in the past as reference points.
  • Seek new experiences to push your limits further.
  • How marriage is like a cage fight
  • How to balance the savage gentleman
  • Learning how to operate in tandem with another human being (like in marriage) can help in business and other relationships.
  • Men are woefully ill-equipped to enter into a partnership with someone of the opposite sex.
  • Just like in the world of fighting, how can you win in marriage when you don’t know the rules or spent enough time training? You have no context to realize what you’re good at and where you need work.
  • Knowing where your weak spots are allows you to solve those problems.
  • Ignoring your feelings prevents you from finding the root cause.
  • You have to take responsibility to learn how to communicate better.
  • You do feel stuff, whether you admit it or not, and you will receive what you put out.
  • The secret is to understand where your anger is coming from.
  • Most people go through life with very little thought and reflection on the what and why.
  • Self-awareness and personal development are not for wusses.
  • Pay attention and notice the cues of where you need to focus your awareness.
  • There are appropriate times to be vulnerable.
  • In marriage, if you don’t let someone in to know you on a deep level, you end up growing apart and not knowing who each other are anymore.
  • Bitterness and resentment change your perception of someone.
  • Sometimes the best thing in marriage is to have the fight.
  • Avoiding confrontation and letting stuff go for too long destroys the chance of ever getting back on track.
  • Develop a Standard Operating Procedure for how to handle tough arguments with your spouse.
  • People are getting worse at interfacing with each other in meaningful ways because of technology and distraction.
  • But first, we need to learn how to interface with ourselves better.

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The Process, Art, and Science of Leadership with Errol Doebler

The Process, Art, and Science of Leadership with Errol Doebler


What would your world look like if you were a cool and confident leader? What if you could implement an environment of emotional awareness, problem-solving, and a never quit attitude in your work, home, and on the battlefield of life?

Errol Doebler is a former Navy SEAL, FBI Special Agent, and an elite executive consultant. He believes that the same leadership applied during the chaos on the battlefield is the same leadership that should be applied in business and at home.

No matter how you’ve approached life so far, leadership is a skill that can be learned. Errol reveals the exact methodology you need  to transform yourself into an empathetic and wise leader, living with intention in everything you do.

Errol Doebler

With over 20 combined years as a Navy SEAL and FBI Special Agent Errol believes that combat, in all its various forms, is the ultimate expression of consequence. If combat leadership is not done correctly one of three consequences will be realized, all of which are unacceptable: mission failure, injury, or death. Errol also believes that the leadership exhibited during times of chaos and struggle should not be vastly different than the leadership exhibited during times of relative calm and accord. There is no, “Break glass in case of emergency” leadership playbook.

Errol believes in the power of leadership. He believes it is leadership that can solve any problem. He believes his process, born out of the blood, sweat, and tears of mistakes and successes over a lifetime, will create an environment of clarity in purpose and behavior that will sustain you during hard times and propel you during the good times.

The Process, Art, and Science of Leadership: How Leaders Inspire Confidence and Clarity in Combat, in the Boardroom, and at the Kitchen Table

Despite the fact that leading can look and feel messy at times, there is a very distinct process to leading well that can be followed in combat, in business, and in our most important place of leadership…at home. Where most leaders struggle with accomplishing their goals and getting buy-in from their teams, this book provides a methodology that will help any leader guide their team successfully.

Leadership takes many forms in many different environments. Leaders come in all shapes and sizes, too. No matter the environment or who you are as a leader, one thing is for certain: effective leadership is not a matter of personality or circumstances. It is a process that is applicable to every leader of every stripe in every environment.

In this illuminating book, Errol Doebler shows an uncommon and refreshing vulnerability in sharing his many self-inflicted wounds and successes so that readers can learn from his many years of experience. You’ll learn the art of applying the process to your personal needs and the science of how it works, and you’ll have concrete tools for practicing the process through breathing exercises and cold exposure. The process is structured yet flexible, allowing you to lead in a way that is authentic to you.

What You’ll Learn

  • Emotional awareness is the basis of everything.
  • Errol Doebler’s home is naturally chaotic, but it runs on a set of guidelines of how they do business as a family.
  • Teaching politeness and good manners will help kids develop confidence.
  • Learn the evolution of your child’s needs to treat them in age appropriate ways.
  • When kids are upset, you must talk about it. Ask them, “How do you feel?” Help them to identify their emotions.
  • Acknowledge your child’s feelings, examine and process them, and tell them to get back out there. Don’t quit.
  • Errol’s believes his wife warrants the utmost respect. He ensures he is looking after her needs at every moment.
  • Make your home a safe space where family members can explain how they feel, no matter what it is.
  • How to ask for the time and space you need as a man.
  • Expectation and agenda build emotional resentment.
  • When you ask your spouse what is wrong, you have to be ready to absorb the answer.
  • Process–Emotional, cultural, and personal awareness and recognition—the emotions that drive our actions.
  • Process allows you to go back and see what went right and what went wrong.
  • Our minds open when we have a process. It gives us the space to see different solutions.
  • Guidelines for Behavior–Make decisions on how you want to behave.
  • Planning–Leaders (dads) make judgements based on mission accomplishment. Plan accordingly.
  • Resistance–Understanding resistance and how to push through it.
  • Science–You’re not lazy or incapable. You’re neurochemically addicted to the brain chemicals released by emotions.
  • Art–Understand the emotions and how they affect you differently compared to everyone else.
    • When acting on a bad emotion, go back and evaluate, what was the result?
    • Which emotions do you need to employ to make your life better and the lives around you better?
  • Preparing plans for the micro-situations in life.
  • Setting the intention to always forgive yourself.
  • Errol practices intention using ice baths.
  • Errol and the Wim Hof method

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The Anatomy of Marriage

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side


How is marriage supposed to work? We have never been taught, and when things start derailing, we have no idea what to do.

This show was planned for a later date, but it is too good and too relevant to hold onto. The pandemic has heightened the level of stress in our lives and in our relationships. Many couples are struggling to navigate through these challenging times.

So today we have marriage expert and coach,Melanie Studley with us. She’s the cohost of the Anatomy of Marriage podcast and co-creator of the Anatomy of Marriage app.

Melanie dissects the most common issues between a man and a woman. She tells us what our spouses really think and feel when we watch porn. Melanie also explains the underlying anatomy of a marriage and gives us a formula to communicate our needs and desires as men in a confident, calm and masculine way.

So simple and so powerful, don’t miss the pro tips in this episode!

Melanie Studley’s Story

A Marriage Counselor is supposed to know it all, they are supposed to have the tools and the skills to navigate the ups-and-downs of relationships, but 11 years ago we hit rock bottom.

Seth confessed to lying and looking at Pornography and so I gave him a black eye…

We had two little boys, 15 months and 2 weeks old, and we were completely lost. Deep down we both wanted our marriage to work, so after months of tearing each other apart we turned our attention to healing our broken marriage. But… we couldn’t find ANY marriage resources for IMPERFECT, BROKEN AND MESSY PEOPLE!

We started on our journey anyway and eventually began healing, then we decided to turn our mess into our message and to create the resources that we wish we had during the HARDEST PARTS of our marriage. With over 2.5 Million downloads of our Podcast, and listeners all over the world, our raw vulnerability, practical tools and real help for real couples is making much larger impact than we could have ever dreamed!

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What You’ll Learn

  • Most couples have no idea how to handle it when things go wrong in marriage, which it inevitably does from time to time.
  • The genesis of Melanie’s career as a marriage coach started in the pit of dysfunction.
  • Melanie didn’t understand herself, how relationships worked, and the whole point of marriage.
  • Why porn makes women feel that they are not good enough.
  • Think it through next time you want to consume pornography. What if your kids find it on your phone?
  • Children who are exposed to pornography are too young to know what it means, and it plants the seeds of sexual dysfunction.
  • Instead of giving restless energy away to porn, funnel it into positive things.
  • What men get wrong in sexuality—they have the power to make their wife feel like a goddess.
  • Porn is like kryptonite. It takes away your sexual superpowers.
  • Many men are quietly pissed off in their marriage but refuse to speak up. They don’t know what to say or how to say it.
  • Women want to be fiercely independent, yet most women are also wired to want to be there to help their husbands.
  • Men just want women to be happy, but they neglect the important things.
  • When men are frustrated, they shut themselves down until they break down.
  • Don’t wait to tell your wife when you don’t like something, are angry, or disagree with her.
  • Don’t let the pressure build up. If things are already set to explode, don’t take the lid off all at once.
  • Get in the habit of small conversations all the time to make sure you’re on the same page.
  • The “Clearing Structure”–a hyper-empowered way to express your feelings and offer solutions without your partner getting defensive.
  • King and Queen always link together. Be each other’s heroes.
  • Approach conflicts with a positive energy, not a submissive or negative one.
  • Conversation starters release the tension around things you didn’t even know were bothering you.
  • Communication doesn’t have to be complicated.

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