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TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds

TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds with Remi Adeleke


Today we have a story unlike anything you’ve ever heard before. Remi Adeleke is a former Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, author, husband and dad. These are huge accomplishments for any man, but once you learn about Remi’s background, you will be astounded.

Beginning life as a son in a wealthy, royal Nigerian family and almost ending as a drug dealer in The Bronx, Remi Adeleke’s defining moment was his father’s death when he was five years old. Raised by his single mom, Remi was cast into poverty and turned to crime to fill the void of male leadership.

Remi talks about how growing up without a father impacted his journey and how he is is living proof that even when things seem hopeless, it’s possible to transform and live a life beyond imagining.

“Every boy is instinctively looking for father—to affirm us, to guide us, to teach us.” Remi Adeleke

Remi Adeleke

Remi was born into riches and wealth. His dad was the firstborn son of a Yoruba chief who had nine wives. His father went on to study in London and became a well-known engineer and entrepreneur in Nigeria. His biggest project was one of the first manmade islands in the world, now known as Banana Island. In 1987, the corrupt Nigerian government stripped his father of the island, robbing him of his largest investment. Shortly after that, his father died. Remi was so young that he didn’t comprehend his father’s death or the impact it would make in his life.

Remi’s American mother brought him and his brother to the US to settle in The Bronx, NY. As they struggled to get by, Remi finally felt the void left by his father’s death. The icons of the hip-hop culture and street lifestyle became Remi’s father figures, and he worked his way from petty stealing to running high level scams that could’ve landed him in federal prison.

After a drug-related death threat, Remi realized he wasn’t going anywhere and decided to act on a long-buried childhood dream of becoming a hero. He went directly to a recruiter’s office where a series of fortunate events led him to his chance of becoming a Navy SEAL.

After the birth of his sons, Remi chose to leave his military career. He knew how deeply his father’s death affected him, and he didn’t want to do that to his family. From there, he pursued a career in speaking and acting.

Remi holds a BS in organizational leadership and a MS in strategic leadership, both from the University of Charleston West Virginia. He now resides in Southern California with his wife, Jessica, and his sons. He wrote his book, Transformed, to show disadvantaged kids and adults that they are capable of defying all odds.

Transformed: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey from the Throne of Africa, to the Streets of the Bronx, to Defying All Odds

What are the odds? Statistics tell us that African American males who grow up in a single-parent household are nine times more likely to drop out of high school and twenty times more likely to end up in prison than any other demographic. But what would it take for one young man not only to rise above those statistics but also become a Navy SEAL, actor, entrepreneur, writer, and successful husband and father?

What You’ll Learn

  • How Remi associated everything with the absence of his father
  • How he attributed his survival in the crime life to his dad
  • The positive African American role models in movies who planted the seed in Remi’s mind that he could become a hero too
  • The moment of clarity that brought him to the Navy SEALs
  • His multiple failures during BUDs training
  • The secret to perseverance: having a deep-rooted emotional reason why he is doing what he is doing
  • How superficial reasons turn adversity into a bad idea, giving you excuses to start looking for a plan B
  • The inspiration and purpose of his book, Transformed
  • The unique challenges of writing a book
  • What Remi feels is most important about his role as a father
  • Remi’s motivation to be a good role model
  • How he wants his kids to honor women and how he’s had to set the example
  • Why love is not just a word, it’s an action.
  • How he knows the massive potential of his kids
  • How much farther he may have come with a father’s guidance
  • Teaching kids to hone their good qualities and exorcise the bad qualities
  • How his military intelligence experience translates to his life
  • Communication tips with his wife
  • His daily physical, mental, and spiritual self-care routine
  • His physical limitations due to injuries and how he gets past them
  • Advice for men who always put themselves last

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Breaking the Addiction Mindset

Breaking the Addiction Mindset

What’s your vice? What relieves your stress? What do you turn to when times get tough? Drugs, alcohol, women, validation, gambling, validation, food? Even a healthy habit like working out can be unhealthy if it’s used to avoid people and escape reality.

Addictive behaviors drain our energy, suck our time, and prevent us from connecting with those we love. They keep us from operating at our true potential. This show is about becoming aware of destructive habits and breaking the addiction mindset. No matter what vice you have, today we’ll give you new tools to crush it.

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Stop Running Away: Break Free from Porn and Let God Do More in Your Life Than Ever Before

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How to Use Problems as Opportunities

How to Use Problems as Opportunities


Life is full of challenges. We all will go through times of adversity. If we’re going through them alone, we might feel hopeless and cope in negative ways. How can we get away from a fearful victim mentality, and instead, use problems as opportunities?

Thursday Throwdown is our short show where we feature regular dads. Today we have Jason Palmer as our guest. He has faced adversity and loss, including the death of a child.

At first, he reached for alcohol to ease the pain, often drinking a whole bottle of whiskey just to be able to sleep at night. But deep down inside, he knew that he was meant for more. Life didn’t have to be this way.

Then Jason discovered our episode about giving up alcohol. It inspired him to give up drinking and join the Dad Edge Alliance.

He tells us how he took ownership of his life and trained himself to look at his problems as opportunities and to move from fear-based to solution-based thinking.

'You have to sit down an intentionally focus on what’s serving you and what’s not.'—Jason Palmer, The Dad Edge Alliance #dads #men #fathers #alcohol #drinking Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES: 

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

 

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GDP 132 - Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Today we have Omar Pinto, host and founder of the wildly popular SHAIR Podcast. SHAIR stands for Sharing Helps Addicts in Recovery. He’s part of our Dad Edge Alliance and he’s also a friend.

“O” shares the heart-wrenching story of the son he had to give up. He also takes us through his insane addiction to cocaine and alcohol, and how he not only survived, but transformed into one of the most well-known voices in recovery today. This is a special episode you will not forget!

The SHAIR Podcast

Drugs and alcohol are one of the most popular topics on the GDP. Many of us drink alcohol –  some of us are social drinkers, some of us might drink a lot – we’re all over the spectrum, but we’re all curious if we’re depending on it too much. There also might be some recreational drug users in the community who may wonder if their life could be better without drugs, but are too afraid to ask for help.

Omar Pinto has a huge fan base and he’s changing lives. Every week The SHAIR Podcast broadcasts amazing life-changing success stories from addicts and alcoholics all over the world and shares their inspiring journey into recovery. He also manages a 100% private Facebook accountability group for active and recovering alcoholics and addicts. His passion and life’s purpose is to inspire people struggling with addiction to take that first step towards recovery, to show them that their life could be so much better and that there is a better way to live.

Omar’s Story

Came from a dysfunctional home. His mom was Jehovah’s Witness, but his dad left the religion and it became a constant source of tension in the home. His dad was explosive and he grew watching parents fight all the time. At one point, Omar remembers that they each had their own bedroom, and he thought that when he got older he would do the same. This was normal to him.

His dad’s side of the family were heavy drinkers, but no one ever said the word “alcoholic.” They were social drinkers, weekend warriors. There was never a wedding, birthday, or funeral where alcohol was not involved.

Omar had low self-esteem as a kid. He worried about how he looked, whether he was smart, and if he would ever be a good athlete. He was a C student who had no special talents. Worst of all, he had a difficult time trying to fit in because his mom was Jehovah’s Witness. He couldn’t go to parties or participate in holiday activates. He was isolated and lost. It’s no wonder that drinking appealed to him.

At the age of seventeen, he got a job at a steakhouse. He left with a fat stack of cash every night and it was party time. He had no goals or aspirations. He was attending college, but not getting anywhere. He was already living the dream – a career waiter. The fun he was having was irresistible. But he started to drink on the job and one day passes out and gets fired.

He spent five years in college and didn’t get a degree. He decided to move to LA and get into the mortgage business. This was before the recession hit, and he was making the bucks. He met a girl and started a volatile relationship. Dysfunction seeks dysfunction. Omar was always wanted to be the hero, so he attracted victims. Once he rescued them, he took them hostage. Omar says he was an angry person; anger protected him and kept him sharp. His girlfriend moved in, and they had serious fights. He would go to work with scratch marks on his face.

After multiple break ups and reunions, he finally said he’s done with her for good. He was free and finally ready to move on with his life. A week later, his ex-girlfriend called.

She’s pregnant.

Fatherhood Nightmare

Omar was distraught. He called his dad and cried to him, but instead getting a sympathetic ear, his father told him, “Stop crying and man up. You’re twenty-five. You have nothing going for you. You couldn’t finish college. You can’t hold a steady job. This is the best thing that could happen to you. This will teach you how to be a man.”

The tears just stopped. Omar put his head back, and said, “Alright, Dad.”

His pregnant girlfriend moved back in, and the nightmare continues. It was rough, but Omar pushed through. As soon as his son was born, she left him to stay with her parents.

A constant battle to see his son ensued. Each time he tried to make arrangements, she avoided him or put him off. He spent the next year trying to see him. Finally, he told her, “If you want, you take full custody and relinquish me of any financial responsibility.” That was the offer she had been waiting for. She never answered him, just sent the papers. He was done.

The Descent into Addiction

Omar was broken and in a serious depression, he never stopped thinking about his son. Then someone offered him an online casino job in Costa Rica. This is where he met his present wife and the drug that would lead him into destruction.

Omar was told that above all, he had to fit in. His contacts and partners were valuable to the business. When he met all his coworkers, he couldn’t believe what insane partiers they were. They had bars in their offices. They even smoked weed right there at work. Omar drank and got high at work every day, having the best time ever.

One night, Omar was falling asleep on the desk. All his coworkers were on the way to the casino, but he told him he was too tired to go. How did they have the energy to stay out all night? Then one of the guys offered Omar some cocaine. The clouds parted. The angels sang. Omar felt like it was the secret elixir of success.

But it doesn’t take long to degrade into a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde situation. Omar’s problem skyrocketed. He regularly fell into coke-induced psychosis and paranoia, disappearing on binges and acting on insane delusions.

During the same time, he married his new wife and she was pregnant. But he couldn’t stop. One night, with his heart racing so fast he had to down booze and sedatives to prevent a heart attack, he hit an all time low. He got on his knees and prayed for God to take him out of this world or get him clean.

He woke up the next day, got in his car, and drove to his therapist. “I need help,” he finally said. The therapist new of a Narcotics Anonymous meeting that was starting in an hour. Omar made it. He shared his story. The people surrounded him. That was the beginning his journey into recovery.

A Life of Purpose in Recovery

The 12 Steps radically changed Omar’s life. They allowed him to work through his father’s death and the unresolved situation with his son. Omar knew his story might inspire people to make the first step toward recovery. He created The SHAIR Podcast for those who are suffering from this disease who are hiding behind a veil of shame, those who are isolated behind a computer who just need one ray of hope and support to get started.

Thanks to the program that saved his life, Omar is still with his beautiful wife and his daughter who is now fourteen-years-old. He surrounds himself with people with the same values and principles. Fidelity, loyalty, and responsibility are non-negotiable. As painful as the situation with his son was, Omar says he wouldn’t be the man he is today or appreciate his family like he does today if he hadn’t gone through it. Now, it’s his goal to be the best dad he can be for his daughter.

Omar’s Dad Wisdom

If you are lost and haven’t quite found out how to communicate with your kids and be a good father, you have to view your circle of influence.

If you have sucky friends who are shitty dads, get rid of them. Find guys who are solid who care about their children.

 

If you’re struggling with drugs and alcohol and you’re afraid to ask for help, if you’re afraid to be found out, go to SHAIR Private Facebook group. You will be welcomed and surrounded with absolute love and support.
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Mentioned Episodes:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

SHAIR 134: “DO EPIC SHIT” with Larry Hagner of The Good Dad Project and The Dads Edge Alliance


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Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

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