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What to Expect When You Go Alcohol-Free


Are you concerned about your alcohol intake?

It’s the peak season for drinking. Many guys waking up with a nasty hangover will wonder what it would be like to give up alcohol for awhile.

But we worry.

Wouldn’t it be boring? What would our friends think? How would we relax at the end of the day?

Today we have everyday dad and alliance member, Darren Bellew on the show. After 35 years of drinking, he decided to try a 30-day detox. Once he reached that milestone, Darren experienced the benefits of being alcohol-free and just kept going.

More than a year later, Darren is still alcohol-free. Instead of feeling deprived, he has more energy, more time, better performance, and a deeper connection with his family. Darren has built a better relationship with himself, learning to solve his problems rather than putting them off by drinking.

If you’re thinking of taking a break from the beer and the booze in 2020, this episode will help you understand what to expect when you go alcohol-free!

“When you start to go alcohol-free, the biggest fear is losing that connection.”—Darren Bellew

RELATED EPISODES:

Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto


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atomic habits james clear

Atomic Habits for Dads with James Clear

Are you having trouble breaking bad habits and committing to good ones?

Today’s guest says the problem isn’t you, it’s your system.

James Clear is the NY Times Bestselling Author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones.

James talks about how building a system of small habits will compound over time for huge results.

He’ll also teach us how to design our environment so that we’ll stick to good habits without even thinking about it.

Most importantly, James will tell us how we can apply atomic habits to our relationships with our spouses and children.

Whether you want to quit drinking, lose weight, excel in your business, or build deeper connection with your family, get ready to reshape your life for success!

“Most of your results in life are a lagging measure of your habits.”—James Clear

James Clear

James Clear is an author and speaker focused on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter at jamesclear.com.

He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Through his online course, The Habits Academy, Clear has taught more than 10,000 leaders, managers, coaches, and teachers. The Habits Academy is the premier training platform for individuals and organizations that are interested in building better habits in life and work.

“The shape of your environment is one of the most overlooked drivers of your habits and behavior.”—James Clear

Atomic Habits

No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.

“If you can’t find a tribe to join, go out and create it.”—James Clear

What You’ll Learn

  • A significant part of our life is structured and shaped by our habits.
  • Tiny habits are the fundamental unit of a larger system.
  • Why men are so extreme with their habits
  • We dismiss small rewards and always look for a huge, immediate payoff.
  • Our psychology can run counter to what’s best for us.
  • Change your mindset to focus on process and system rather than goals.
  • Good habits make time your ally.
  • Bad habits make time your enemy.
  • Habits have a compound effect.
  • When men reach the point that they are frustrated with the time it’s taking for results, they must remember that the work is not wasted, it’s being stored.
  • The power of the willingness to get better by one percent each day.
  • We often don’t set goals for relationships because it’s difficult to measure if we’re being a better friend, spouse, or parent.
  • How atomic habits can be applied to relationships
  • How have atomic habits served James in his relationship with his wife
  • Creating sacred time and space with your spouse
  • Making a habit of displays of affection
  • Creating habits you and your wife can do together, like a daily gratitude list
  • Use environmental design to cue the habit we are trying to create. Make the good habit the path of least resistance.
  • How to create friction against bad habits
  • Designing your digital and social environment
  • How to make sure you’re taking action on your real priorities
  • What James struggles with when it comes to sticking with habits.
  • An ambitious person has a lot of goals in all aspects of life, and we are forced to choose. When we say to yes to one thing, we so no to everything else
  • The way to choose what goals to pursue is to look at life as a series of seasons. What season are you in now? Business, family, retirement?
  • Prioritizing according to where you are in life doesn’t mean you can’t do it all, you just can’t do it all at the same time.
  • The best way to increase your performance is to cut your priorities in half.
  • How to make decisions when you’re in a stressed or emotional space
  • James’s dad’s mantra: I am free. I don’t have to do anything. I have time and space.
  • Shifting your definition of success–Many standards we measure ourselves against are social ideas that don’t truly mean anything to us. Come up with a standard for yourself.
  • Life lessons he learned from his dad, who played for Minor league baseball. “Trust your preparation.” The win is not in the moment of the game or test, it’s all the practice and lessons that came before it.
  • Greatest lesson James learned about marriage.


 RELATED EPISODES:

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown


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Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns

Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns


Alcohol is embedded into our society. Besides its traditional use as a social lubricant and its presence in nearly every celebration, the alcohol industry has psychologically programmed us to crave alcohol. But is it really adding to our enjoyment of life?

Today we have Ruari Fairbairns back on the show. He is the cofounder of One Year No Beer, a massive, global alcohol-free movement. Ruari started in a job where drinking was part of a successful career, but he when he became a dad, the late nights and hangovers threatened his relationship with his family. He quit alcohol and was surprised to find how it revolutionized his life. His story comes full circle with a recent encounter with the Dalai Lama.

Ruari talks about rewiring your brain and changing your relationship with alcohol. Whether it’s the occasional binge or a few daily beers after work, alcohol has a huge impact on your mental and physical wellbeing. He also tells us how to combat the stigma associated with not drinking and how to be alcohol-free and still have fun.

One Year No Beer

Society has conditioned you that you need alcohol to be successful, to be cool, to be sexy, to have fun, to relax, the list goes on and on. How will you fare going up against years of social conditioning, second-hand peer pressure and self-doubt, all on your own?

The key difference between One Year No Beer challenges and just “stopping drinking” is that we teach you to have a mindset shift. We help break down the habits associated with drinking, the same habits that can help change multiple areas of your life.

What You’ll Learn

  • Alcohol is the most harmful drug in existence to individuals and society
  • How Ruari had the chance opportunity to meet the Dalai Lama
  • The Dalai Lamas surprising answer to Ruari’s question, “What would you say to somebody who is trying to change their relationships with addictions?”
  • Why we have to involve alcohol in social settings
  • The trillions of dollars the alcohol industry has spent on marketing
  • How our identity and tribalism are associated with alcohol
  • How society will soon shift away from promoting alcohol, just like cigarettes
  • The idea behind OYNB
  • How to fight peer pressure to drink
  • Stealth drinking (pretending to drink)
  • The “FEAR” behind quitting alcohol (False Evidence Appearing Real)
  • How to not be the boring sober person
  • How OYNB uses social media as a step to change
  • How if you’re drinking more than 5 or 6 beers a week regularly, the OYNB program will have a huge impact
  • How a low amount of alcohol can have a massive impact without you realizing it
  • How long it takes to process alcohol
  • How alcohol is literally poison—ethanol, a colorless flammable liquid
  • How the liver must process alcohol before anything else, including fat
  • Alcohol is a known depressant
  • Why hangovers last longer as you get older
  • Most people don’t know who they are or who they can be until they detox
  • Why choosing to quit is different from being forced to quit
  • What can dads expect who rely on a beer to chill out after work
  • How to still enjoy beer while being alcohol free
  • How drinking alcohol-free beer releases dopamine and helps you relearn how to relax without alcohol
  • How Ruari does drink sometimes
  • When quitting alcohol, think of what you’ll gain. If you come from a place from abstaining from something you love, it reaffirms that you’re making a sacrifice
  • The details of all One Year No Beer challenges
  • How to switch off a stressed brain at night
  • Freeing yourself from other addictions by starting with quitting alcohol—it will change your relationship with all things
  • How going alcohol free will help you be a better dad, husband, and man

When there’s pain, if you invest your time, energy, and resources where that pain is, it will most likely evolve and flourish.

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Mentioned Episodes: 

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains


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How to Use Problems as Opportunities

How to Use Problems as Opportunities


Life is full of challenges. We all will go through times of adversity. If we’re going through them alone, we might feel hopeless and cope in negative ways. How can we get away from a fearful victim mentality, and instead, use problems as opportunities?

Thursday Throwdown is our short show where we feature regular dads. Today we have Jason Palmer as our guest. He has faced adversity and loss, including the death of a child.

At first, he reached for alcohol to ease the pain, often drinking a whole bottle of whiskey just to be able to sleep at night. But deep down inside, he knew that he was meant for more. Life didn’t have to be this way.

Then Jason discovered our episode about giving up alcohol. It inspired him to give up drinking and join the Dad Edge Alliance.

He tells us how he took ownership of his life and trained himself to look at his problems as opportunities and to move from fear-based to solution-based thinking.

'You have to sit down an intentionally focus on what’s serving you and what’s not.'—Jason Palmer, The Dad Edge Alliance #dads #men #fathers #alcohol #drinking Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES: 

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

 

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Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto

Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto


Drinking alcohol is ingrained in our culture. It’s socially acceptable and even expected, but sometimes we wonder if we’re drinking too much and what life might be like if we eliminate alcohol from our lives.

Today we have Steve Galatioto on The Dad Edge podcast. Steve is a husband and dad who runs an English school in Japan. He is also living alcohol-free after many years of heavy drinking. He blogs at Serene and Sober and has just published his book, Sobered Up, So Now What?: 3 Keys To Staying Sober & Succeeding At Life.

Listen as he tells us how quitting drinking can improve your body, mind, and soul, enabling you to become a better dad and more successful person.

'I did my best to be present as a father, but with something as powerful as alcohol and its physical toll on the body, it’s impossible to do anything, let alone parent.' – @stevengalatioto #alcohol #drinking #parenting #dads #fathers… Click To Tweet

Steve’s Story

Steve’s dad was an alcoholic and addict. One of his earliest memories was comforting his brothers while the cops’ blue and red lights flashed outside after his dad came home from one of his benders. Because of the unreliability of his father, Steve grew up hyper-vigilant. This anxiety laid the groundwork for his future reliance on alcohol.

Steve experienced a normal family life when his mom divorced his dad and she remarried a stable, hard-working man. He and his brothers split time between both worlds. Steve used to think this was a negative dynamic, but now he is grateful for the insights he gained from both sides.

Things got crazy when Steve went to college and started binge drinking. He had frequent blackouts where he couldn’t remember anything he had done the night before. He was able to maintain good grades and kept himself fit with power-lifting, but his problem with alcohol was solidified.

The day he met his Japanese future-wife, he knew she was the one he wanted to marry. Soon, they both moved to Japan and started a family. He had periods of sobriety when his wife was pregnant, but every time he went back, the alcohol sunk its hooks deeper and deeper into him. He got to the point where he was drinking every day and even during work.

Steve finally sought help and now lives a sober lifestyle. He wants to share his experience with others so they have the courage to try quitting and know how to reframe their lives without alcohol.

'Every single person in our life, no matter how bad they’ve been to us, there is always something we can get from that.' – @stevengalatioto #trauma #addiction #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  •  The physiological effects of drinking
  • How he used to drink while carrying his son around town in a harness
  • How he let go of the guilt
  • His message for guys thinking about taking the plunge into sobriety
  • What life looks like after quitting drinking
  • How to stay sober and succeed in life
  • The 3Ds to sobriety (these also apply to porn, food, nicotine, or any addiction)
  • His parenting BASICs to thrive as a father
    • Be your best self
    • Actively engage
    • Set standards
    • Inform yourself
    • Connect with something greater
  • His “floor time” ritual
  • One cool question to prime your kids for a real discussion
'It’s much easier to be pulled through life through a compelling vision than to try to push your way through it.' – @stevengalatioto #motivation #inspiration #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODE: Wake Up the Hero with Wes Chapman


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