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Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns

Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns


Alcohol is embedded into our society. Besides its traditional use as a social lubricant and its presence in nearly every celebration, the alcohol industry has psychologically programmed us to crave alcohol. But is it really adding to our enjoyment of life?

Today we have Ruari Fairbairns back on the show. He is the cofounder of One Year No Beer, a massive, global alcohol-free movement. Ruari started in a job where drinking was part of a successful career, but he when he became a dad, the late nights and hangovers threatened his relationship with his family. He quit alcohol and was surprised to find how it revolutionized his life. His story comes full circle with a recent encounter with the Dalai Lama.

Ruari talks about rewiring your brain and changing your relationship with alcohol. Whether it’s the occasional binge or a few daily beers after work, alcohol has a huge impact on your mental and physical wellbeing. He also tells us how to combat the stigma associated with not drinking and how to be alcohol-free and still have fun.

One Year No Beer

Society has conditioned you that you need alcohol to be successful, to be cool, to be sexy, to have fun, to relax, the list goes on and on. How will you fare going up against years of social conditioning, second-hand peer pressure and self-doubt, all on your own?

The key difference between One Year No Beer challenges and just “stopping drinking” is that we teach you to have a mindset shift. We help break down the habits associated with drinking, the same habits that can help change multiple areas of your life.

What You’ll Learn

  • Alcohol is the most harmful drug in existence to individuals and society
  • How Ruari had the chance opportunity to meet the Dalai Lama
  • The Dalai Lamas surprising answer to Ruari’s question, “What would you say to somebody who is trying to change their relationships with addictions?”
  • Why we have to involve alcohol in social settings
  • The trillions of dollars the alcohol industry has spent on marketing
  • How our identity and tribalism are associated with alcohol
  • How society will soon shift away from promoting alcohol, just like cigarettes
  • The idea behind OYNB
  • How to fight peer pressure to drink
  • Stealth drinking (pretending to drink)
  • The “FEAR” behind quitting alcohol (False Evidence Appearing Real)
  • How to not be the boring sober person
  • How OYNB uses social media as a step to change
  • How if you’re drinking more than 5 or 6 beers a week regularly, the OYNB program will have a huge impact
  • How a low amount of alcohol can have a massive impact without you realizing it
  • How long it takes to process alcohol
  • How alcohol is literally poison—ethanol, a colorless flammable liquid
  • How the liver must process alcohol before anything else, including fat
  • Alcohol is a known depressant
  • Why hangovers last longer as you get older
  • Most people don’t know who they are or who they can be until they detox
  • Why choosing to quit is different from being forced to quit
  • What can dads expect who rely on a beer to chill out after work
  • How to still enjoy beer while being alcohol free
  • How drinking alcohol-free beer releases dopamine and helps you relearn how to relax without alcohol
  • How Ruari does drink sometimes
  • When quitting alcohol, think of what you’ll gain. If you come from a place from abstaining from something you love, it reaffirms that you’re making a sacrifice
  • The details of all One Year No Beer challenges
  • How to switch off a stressed brain at night
  • Freeing yourself from other addictions by starting with quitting alcohol—it will change your relationship with all things
  • How going alcohol free will help you be a better dad, husband, and man

When there’s pain, if you invest your time, energy, and resources where that pain is, it will most likely evolve and flourish.

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Mentioned Episodes: 

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains


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How to Use Problems as Opportunities

How to Use Problems as Opportunities


Life is full of challenges. We all will go through times of adversity. If we’re going through them alone, we might feel hopeless and cope in negative ways. How can we get away from a fearful victim mentality, and instead, use problems as opportunities?

Thursday Throwdown is our short show where we feature regular dads. Today we have Jason Palmer as our guest. He has faced adversity and loss, including the death of a child.

At first, he reached for alcohol to ease the pain, often drinking a whole bottle of whiskey just to be able to sleep at night. But deep down inside, he knew that he was meant for more. Life didn’t have to be this way.

Then Jason discovered our episode about giving up alcohol. It inspired him to give up drinking and join the Dad Edge Alliance.

He tells us how he took ownership of his life and trained himself to look at his problems as opportunities and to move from fear-based to solution-based thinking.

'You have to sit down an intentionally focus on what’s serving you and what’s not.'—Jason Palmer, The Dad Edge Alliance #dads #men #fathers #alcohol #drinking Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES: 

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

 

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Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto

Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto


Drinking alcohol is ingrained in our culture. It’s socially acceptable and even expected, but sometimes we wonder if we’re drinking too much and what life might be like if we eliminate alcohol from our lives.

Today we have Steve Galatioto on The Dad Edge podcast. Steve is a husband and dad who runs an English school in Japan. He is also living alcohol-free after many years of heavy drinking. He blogs at Serene and Sober and has just published his book, Sobered Up, So Now What?: 3 Keys To Staying Sober & Succeeding At Life.

Listen as he tells us how quitting drinking can improve your body, mind, and soul, enabling you to become a better dad and more successful person.

'I did my best to be present as a father, but with something as powerful as alcohol and its physical toll on the body, it’s impossible to do anything, let alone parent.' – @stevengalatioto #alcohol #drinking #parenting #dads #fathers… Click To Tweet

Steve’s Story

Steve’s dad was an alcoholic and addict. One of his earliest memories was comforting his brothers while the cops’ blue and red lights flashed outside after his dad came home from one of his benders. Because of the unreliability of his father, Steve grew up hyper-vigilant. This anxiety laid the groundwork for his future reliance on alcohol.

Steve experienced a normal family life when his mom divorced his dad and she remarried a stable, hard-working man. He and his brothers split time between both worlds. Steve used to think this was a negative dynamic, but now he is grateful for the insights he gained from both sides.

Things got crazy when Steve went to college and started binge drinking. He had frequent blackouts where he couldn’t remember anything he had done the night before. He was able to maintain good grades and kept himself fit with power-lifting, but his problem with alcohol was solidified.

The day he met his Japanese future-wife, he knew she was the one he wanted to marry. Soon, they both moved to Japan and started a family. He had periods of sobriety when his wife was pregnant, but every time he went back, the alcohol sunk its hooks deeper and deeper into him. He got to the point where he was drinking every day and even during work.

Steve finally sought help and now lives a sober lifestyle. He wants to share his experience with others so they have the courage to try quitting and know how to reframe their lives without alcohol.

'Every single person in our life, no matter how bad they’ve been to us, there is always something we can get from that.' – @stevengalatioto #trauma #addiction #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  •  The physiological effects of drinking
  • How he used to drink while carrying his son around town in a harness
  • How he let go of the guilt
  • His message for guys thinking about taking the plunge into sobriety
  • What life looks like after quitting drinking
  • How to stay sober and succeed in life
  • The 3Ds to sobriety (these also apply to porn, food, nicotine, or any addiction)
  • His parenting BASICs to thrive as a father
    • Be your best self
    • Actively engage
    • Set standards
    • Inform yourself
    • Connect with something greater
  • His “floor time” ritual
  • One cool question to prime your kids for a real discussion
'It’s much easier to be pulled through life through a compelling vision than to try to push your way through it.' – @stevengalatioto #motivation #inspiration #dads #men #fathers Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODE: Wake Up the Hero with Wes Chapman


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Change Your Drinking Habits

Change Your Drinking Habits, Change Your Life – Join GDP Dry September!

If you’ve been thinking of the idea of whether to give up alcohol, now’s the time to do it. We’re doing a September 30-Day no alcohol challenge with the Good Dad Project Community. Join us on our free Dad Edge Facebook group and the Dad Edge Alliance membership group and share your experience. By making a commitment to quit drinking together, we will have the support and accountability we need to succeed.

 

 

Post your challenges and successes in our groups. We want to hear when it’s hard. We want to hear about the changes you see in your life. Help and inspire others in the group. Join our challenge today!

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Mentioned Episode: How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns


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How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

Ruari Fairbairns from One Year No Beer is back to talk about his relationship with alcohol before and after he gave it up. In this episode, you’ll learn how giving up alcohol will revolutionize your life mentally, physically, and socially. You will also be given the tools you need to control your drinking with confidence and inspire people around you.

BEFORE ALCOHOL-FREE LIVING

Ruari Fairbairns was twelve years old the first time he got drunk. He saw adults do it and copied them. As he got older, he became the center of the party and the last man standing at the end of the night.

Ruari says he doesn’t think he had a bad relationship with alcohol. He didn’t drink alone at home. He never felt he needed it, but alcohol was part of his lifestyle, his career, and his social life. Even when he met his wife, they partied hard together.

But when it came time to start a family, it caused friction in his life. Ruari went out to binge drink two times a week, and his wife wasn’t happy about him coming home at four o’clock in the morning.

At first, he couldn’t see a way around living without alcohol. Alcohol was part of entertaining his clients. Drinking was part of being a man. Then Ruari became involved in an anger management program where he learned that caffeine and alcohol were the two biggest instigators. It was then that he decided to quit drinking for ninety days.

Ruari says that during that 90 days his whole life changed. A fog had been lifted away. He felt excitement and passion for life again. His ADHD and depression where gone. He couldn’t believe something so simple as not drinking could have such a profound effect on his life.

He decided to keep going and went two years without alcohol. Now his mission is to help others experience a more productive and fulfilling life without alcohol.

MOST PEOPE THINK “THIS IS GOING TO SUCK”

The fears most people have about quitting alcohol is that they will be bored and socially excluded. They’re thinking, No one’s going to like me. How am I going to have a good time? How am I going to go out with my wife and not have a cocktail?

But Ruari says that everything you’re thinking right now about why you can’t quit is bullshit. You’ll realize that when you get past it. Think back to when you were a kid. Did you need alcohol to have a good time? To stay up and play all night

ONE YEAR NO BEER

The One Year No Beer challenge educates people on how to exist and survive without drinking for 30 days to 90 days and beyond. The strategy is not to hide away. It’s to change your relationship with alcohol by creating new neuropathways in your brain.

Key to this thing is tribalism. One of the reasons people react negatively when you stop drinking because you are appearing to leave the tribe. People are made to question their own habit and that makes them fearful.

You are the total of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you’re hanging around friends who drink, chances are you will be dragged into it. One Year No Beer builds a tribe for you so you have support while you’re doing the challenge. They have video groups, a Facebook group, and a forum community. They send daily emails and have courses. You’re able to belong to something while you step away briefly from your own tribe until you are strong enough to be among people who drink again.

DRINKING AND YOUR KIDS

As parents, we must lead by example. You can say what you like to your kids, but they will follow your actions before your words.

In the US 11% of alcohol consumed is by 12 to 20-year-olds. 90% of this consumption is in the form of binge drinking. It has been shown that young people who start early drink more heavily and more frequently than those who delayed their first drink. We know our kids are modeling our behavior. That is why it’s especially important for dads to set a good example by not relying on alcohol.

YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Many people feel like they need alcohol to bond with their spouses, but drinking actually kills your relationships. So many fights and arguments are triggered and spiral out of control when alcohol is involved. Going out and drinking together doesn’t build a long-term sustainable relationship.

Ruari says that step one for couples in distress is 90 days without booze. You can’t face any problems when you’re numbing yourself. You can connect on a deeper level when sober.

MONEY

Have you ever added up the money you spend on alcohol? Not just cost of drinks, but the taxis to drive you home, the junk food you consume when your drunk, the price of the inevitable health consequences. Saving money is one more reason to take on a One Year No Beer Challenge.

THIS IS NOT FOREVER

Ruari decided two years was enough abstinence for him. Sometimes he drinks, but in total control. One Year No Beer challenges put control back in your hands so you can choose when you want to drink and when you don’t want to.

JOIN THE CHALLENGE!

Join the Good Dad Project community in a 28-Day Alcohol-Free challenge and rewire your brain so that YOU are in control of your drinking. Your family, your career, your liver and your pocket will thank you!

You’ll get

  • daily email support
  • daily motivational videos
  • support and accountability on the go

Go to oneyearnobeer.com/gdp and get signed up for 20% off.

Don’t worry if you’ve caught this episode later. This discount will always be available for GDP listeners.

 

Mentioned Episodes: 

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains


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