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Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Resist Average with Tommy Baker

Most men are motivated by the same thing, and it’s the wrong thing—fear.

We run away from the life we don’t want, struggling to avoid discomfort and scarcity. We are under constant stress and have nothing left for ourselves. But fear is a bad motivator. We can only run so far and so fast before we become depleted and burned out.

Today I have an amazing guest who is no stranger to the spotlight. Tommy Baker is the host of Resist Average Podcast and helps dreamers create the lives they truly desire. He is the author of three bestselling books, and his most recent release, The Leap of Your Life, is about how we can resist average and make bold decisions toward the dreams that scare us.

Tommy talks about the myth of clarity, leveraging regret, and taking action despite never feeling ready. If you’re in survival mode or in a comfortable but boring rut, this show will change your trajectory!

Tommy Baker

Tommy grew up in two different cultures. His family moved back and forth between Columbia and US. Tommy had a life of solitude because he didn’t know where he fit in. This was a challenge that forced him to ask himself deep questions. Who am I? Why am I here? What am I capable of?

This led him on a path of entrepreneurship and self-discovery that helped him realize what prevented himself and others from living to their full potential. Today, Tommy Baker helps men make decisions into the unknown with faith trust and resilience and find ways to reverse engineer their success from the inside out.

Through his writing, high-performance coaching and Resist Average Academy podcast—he’s helped thousands of people take their next bold step and never look back.

Entrepreneurship is one the best ways to create personal growth in life.

What You’ll Learn

  • How all change is going to come from two places—a place of honesty about who you are and your pain and struggles, or by becoming inspired by something out in the future on the horizon that you are excited about
  • The three states of existence:
    • A state of survival- where you just make it through the day and make decisions out of scarcity and competition.
    • A state of comfort-where there is no urgency, but there’s nothing exciting or challenging in your life and you drift aimlessly.
    • A state of thriving—where you seek challenge every day and are willing to get to know yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually. You can tackle bigger and better problems and grow every day.
  • The importance of getting non-emotional data on our lives about what’s not working
  • Why comfort is the hardest state to change from
  • A powerful visualization exercise—5 years down the line, where will you be if you stay on the same path that isn’t working for you?
  • How to set your goals so that you will achieve them
  • Why you must go to environments that light you up in some form
  • Cutting negative stuff out of your space—relationships, environments, gossip, bad habits, and bad mindsets
  • How to break free from the “I’m not ready yet” syndrome
  • How to recognize fear in all its forms
  • By the time you feel ready, it’s too late
  • How in a distracted, over-stimulated world, we chase the wrong things for the wrong reasons
  • Regret can be a tool to leverage or a tool used to imprison yourself
  • Why ruminating leads to anxiety, depression, and despair
  • Dialing up your intuition
  • Why you may not be lacking clarity but courage
  • How lack of clarity can become an excuse to procrastinate
  • How to have the courage to step forward even if you lack a clear vision
  • Powerful exercise—how to take inventory of your foundation in life
  • That it’s okay to say, “I don’t know,” and give yourself space to figure it out

When we say we’re not ready, it becomes a convenient mechanism to let ourselves off the hook.

MENTIONED EPISODE: Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


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How to Start When You're Stuck Jason Womack

How to Start When You’re Stuck with Jason Womack


Today’s show is going to ramp you up! Jason Womack is an executive coach and bestselling author of Your Best Just Got Better and Get Momentum: How to Start When You’re Stuck.

He’s going to talk about why men are so good at starting things but not finishing them, and how to surround yourself with people who will instantly rocket you to where want to go.

He also shares two of his forward thinking tools that will completely blow your mind and crush the limited view you have of your future.

You show up, you do good work, and you stay in touch.

Jason Womack

Jason Womack is a force of energy. He is a speaker, coach, and author advising leaders worldwide. He invests his time, energy and focus serving as an agent of change. He is now a Professor of Leadership studies for the US Air Force

Jason Womack is not a father, but he does have advice that will alter every dad’s view of their future and how to prime ourselves for huge opportunities and experiences beyond our wildest dreams.

I’ve got to give myself the gift of my own attention.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to create the right conditions for success
  • How to be prepared to do the good work
  • How to differentiate yourself from others
  • Why it’s crucial to take care of ourselves—Chaos, surprise, and opportunities are coming you won’t be able to take advantage of it if you are not 100%
  • What you can do to be ready to before you need to get ready
  • The big 3 of self-care – Rest, Movement, and Nutrition and what they really mean
  • How to track your behavior and results and do objective/subjective analysis
  • Advice for men who feel guilty for spending time and money on self-care
  • Why journaling is important to your future
  • Stop judging until you journal for 6 months
  • Prove that who you were before was better than who you are today
  • Why you don’t realize how much you ARE growing through time (The Zeigarnik effect)
  • Why it’s better to control your direction instead of focusing a definitive goal
  • Two-way analysis
    • Past to present – Where you were and where you are now
    • Future to present – Where you are going to be and how you are going to put yourself on that course
  • Jason’s 2 powerful forward-thinking tools
    • 30-30 rule
    • Ideal Day Process
  • How to backfill the time the Universe gives you
  • How people limit themselves by what they think is possible
  • Write down what’s impossible, and it may drop in your lap
  • Larry’s live example of how to do the Ideal Day Process
  • Why Jason writes with his non-dominant hand
  • How to open up your consciousness to let new information in
  • If you want to change your health, wealth, or relationships, hang out and ask the person who has what you want
  • Why American men don’t ask for help
  • The moment you start hanging out with someone who is where you want to be, your life already changes
  • How to build your team
  • How to keep momentum
  • Not start stop and judge
  • What do you want to be known for?
  • Why awkward eye contact and vulnerability will change the world
  • Why cognitive diversity is the gateway to a better future
  • You don’t want likeminded men on your team, but those who think differently than you
  • Personal development advice – drop what doesn’t work for you, pick up what does, and make it your own
  • How to stop “shoulding” on yourself
  • Why practice does not make perfect – it makes it comfortable, normal, and accepted
  • Why and how to share what you’re working on
  • If you do not walk in armed with what you already unconsciously want, then you’re just going to listen to someone else and what they did and how they did
  • The fear of success and the thoughts that hold us back e.g. Don’t want more than you have. Share with everyone else. Who are you to want that?
  • Why we don’t finish what we start
  • What to do when you’re stuck
  • Clearing out ‘shoulds’ that are getting your way
  • Focusing on rituals and measuring results

Change who you spend time with and you’ll change your life.


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Get Lit: Forget the Pressure to Find Your Why with Dominick Quartuccio

Today, there is so much pressure to find our why, to have a clear purpose in life. Some people seem to have it all figured out. We see them on social media living their dreams. Others think they know what they were meant to be, only to find out they’re unfulfilled. Those of us who haven’t defined a clear purpose yet seem to be looked down upon (or maybe we just feel that way). Today’s guest tells us why you need to forget the pressure to find your why and how to let it reveal itself to you.

Dominick Quartuccio, bestselling author of Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life, is back on The Dad Edge. He says that in looking too hard for our purpose in life, it eludes us. Most people don’t know what their destiny is, and that’s okay. He teaches us how to analyze ourselves to become aware of what lights us up, and how to follow that passion to create a life that excites us. We also go over exactly how to frame conversations about sex with our spouses and how to avoid drift by rewriting our narrative about ourselves.

This show is packed with loads of advice. Are you ready to get lit?

'What you need to focus instead of purpose (which is such a monumental task) is to start to build this acumen around what lights you up. It will give you clues to what that purpose is.'—Dominick Quartuccio #purpose #yourwhy #goals… Click To Tweet

 

 

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio’s passion is helping people design a future they can’t wait to live in. He once had it all—a so-called successful life and lucrative 15-year career in financial services, running sales teams in Fortune 100 companies. He led “a good life.” The result? He was bored, restless and uninspired. So he left the corporate world and became a human guinea pig, subjecting himself to experiments and experiences that challenged him to assess his long-held beliefs and stories. Gradually, his behavior changed, and his life changed—for the better. Dominick is now a mentor, speaker, trainer and author dedicated to supporting others to be better versions of themselves. He helps successful, stressed and incredibly busy professionals take command of their habits – time, energy, focus and execution—so they can raise their performance in business and all aspects of their day-to-day lives. His purpose now to help people design lives they can’t wait to step into.

Who do you believe yourself to be, and are you interested in authoring a new narrative?—Dominick Quartuccio #selfhelp #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #men #manhood Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

Find Your Why

  • Why there is this new pressure to find our why
  • Why the pressure to figure out the why?
  • How to align yourself with what lights you up
  • How to use what lights you up to begin the quest for your purpose in life
  • How to hold the idea of your purpose loosely until it crystalizes
  • The importance of service to others while following what gives you energy
  • Doubling down on what lights you up
  • Why people fail when pursuing their why
  • How to develop a realistic strategy to become successful in chasing your dream
  • Where people fail when transitioning from job to passion
  • How to take inventory of your fears so you are approaching it from a place of confidence, not necessity
  • How commitment comes first and the how is second because once you’re committed the how illuminates itself
  • Oversimplifying the vision – we envision only the worst- and best-case scenario instead of all the possibilities in between
  • When you don’t meet your unrealistic visions of success, you feel like a failure
  • How to overcome guilt for getting paid for doing something that you love
  • Rewriting the false narrative that if you love what you’re doing that you should give it away for free

Sex

  • What happens when you don’t have a conscious strategy for your sex life
  • Designing a vision board for sex for 2019
  • Why couples need to talk about sex before there is a problem
  • How men usually they come to the sex conversation with an agenda, making the woman feel unsafe
  • How exactly to frame your conversation about sex
  • How to design the sex conversation container with boundaries and intentions
  • How to cultivate trust and mutual collaboration instead of just trying to get what you want in the bedroom
'The only time that couples are having conversations around sex and their sex life is when something is going wrong. It's brought up from a place of dissatisfaction and ambushes the other partner.'—Dominick Quartuccio #sex #marriage… Click To Tweet

Drift

  • How the opposite of drifting is intentionality
  • Intentionality makes a determined, unstoppable man
  • How to break habits and patterns that put your life on auto-pilot
  • Just staying connected and doing the best you can
  • How to follow through with things you’ve started
  • The difference between starting energy, sustaining energy, and finishing energy
  • How to adapt to energy downshifts while pursuing goals
  • A discussion about James Clear’s Atomic Habits
  • How behaviors change when you step into your identity
The definition of hell is on your deathbed you meet the man you could’ve become. #men #dads #fathers #purpose #drift Click To Tweet

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Simple, Sexy Marriage with Dr. Corey Allan

How to Quit Your Job in 12 Months Part I with Ryan Enk

How to Quit Your Job in 12 Months Part 2 with Ryan Enk

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Creating A Legacy That Inspires with Armando Cruz

Creating A Legacy That Inspires with Armando Cruz

Armando Cruz is back on The Dad Edge podcast! He is the author of The Legacy Code: Modern Man’s Guide To Escape Obscurity & Live A Life Unleashed, a performance coach, and a father of three.

In this episode, he talks about why building a legacy is about much more than leaving wealth behind for your children. He also gives us his five key steps to purposefully creating a legacy that inspires … starting today!

'You need to be very clear that you are capable of creating this reality for yourself that no one is going to do but you.' – @Armando_Cruz #legacy #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Armando considers himself a ‘connoisseur of experiences’
  • Why he wakes up at 3am to run trails by moonlight
  • What leaving a legacy means
  • The difference between ‘personal legacy’ and ‘impact legacy’
  • How to rank your priorities
  • How to maximize what matters most to you
  • Why he wrote The Legacy Code
  • Why men who strive for something bigger than themselves are more fulfilled
  • Why self-centered people are not as happy or successful
  • The 5 Steps to Creating Your Legacy
    • Awareness
    • Vision
    • Purpose
    • Process
    • Implementation
  • How to push yourself out of your comfort zone by doing things you love to do
Advice for men facing obstacles from @Armando_Cruz: 'Fail more often.' #failure #success #goals #dreams #motivation #learning #growth Click To Tweet

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The Relentless Pursuit of Greatness with former NFL Pro Thomas Williams

Today we have a treat for you. We’re interviewing former pro football player Thomas Williams who’s played for the Jaguars, the Seahawks, the Patriots, the Bills, and the Panthers. Listen as he takes us from overcoming his troubled childhood, to achieving his NFL dream, to using a career-ending injury as the jump-off point to the relentless pursuit of greatness.

Thomas Williams

Thomas struggled through a childhood of adversity. He was born to a white mother and a black father who split up when he was little and moved to opposite sides of the country. Thomas lived in a small town called Vacaville, CA with his mother. As a child he had a build up of anger and, being biracial he struggled with identity issues. He got into fights with other kids and was always getting into trouble at school.

What Thomas remembers most was thinking, why isn’t my dad here? He felt alone, hurt, and angry. He saw all the other kids with their dads and felt resentful. He took his frustration out on his teachers and schoolmates.

At the end of first grade, he got suspended. His mom said she  couldn’t take it anymore. Thomas still regrets what he said to her that day. He told her he didn’t love her and that he wanted to go live with his dad.

Thomas got what he wished for and went to live with his dad for a whole year. He expected to do all the father/son stuff–going to games, playing catch, and spending time together. The reality was altogether different. His dad was still in the military and spent little time at home. On most days, Thomas had to let himself in the house after school and cook and clean for himself. He was also exposed to alcohol abuse, gambling, and fornication at an extremely young age. His dad’s idea of fatherly instruction was to sit down with Thomas when he was in 2nd grade and watch Boyz n the Hood. The portrayal of the father and son in the movie was his indirect message to Thomas of what he expected their relationship to be like.

Thomas asked to move back to live with his mother by his 3rd grade year. He was never so apologetic. However, after the experience of living with his father and being exposed to such an unhealthy adult way of life, he noticed he was much more mature than his peers. He felt isolated and started getting into fights and into trouble again.

After he realized how truly frightened his mom was about his future, Thomas finally made the decision to change in the 6th grade and began a transformation into a more positive mindset. This allowed him to pursue his new dream, which was to be on a field with people filling the stadiums to see him play. His mom was doubtful that he could make it. Not many people succeed in professional sports, but he didn’t let her discourage him. He gave himself permission to dream, and he worked until that dream came true.

Football Career

Thomas gave everything he had to make it to pro football, but when asked what it was like to make it to the NFL he says:

It’s everything you can possibly imagine and less.

He found it unfulfilling compared to his expectations. He had the money and the status. He was living the dream, but like when he was able to move to his dad’s, the reality of the situation was entirely different. He had become a man by surmounting obstacles to reach his goals. Because of the determination and toughness he developed, he knew he couldn’t fail no matter the outcome. He realized that the journey was what was important, not the destination.

Don’t do things for the outcome. Do things because that’s who you are.

Thomas continued to push himself in his performance before suffering a severe neck injury that ended his football career for good. That night, he went to bed as a professional athlete, and the next morning, woke up as a former professional athlete. He was only 29 years old.

This didn’t stop him at all. Thomas knew he lived a hell of a life already, and he knew it was time to transform yet again. He wanted to share his story and show others that they can achieve their dreams no matter how big they are. It was this passion that gave him the platform to his purpose. Now he is a coach, a motivational speaker, and the author of two books.

Thomas Williams Dad Wisdom

Thomas isn’t a dad yet. He’s not even a husband yet, but he watches and learns from all those around him. He believes the most important thing to teach his future kids is that it’s okay to be themselves.

 

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