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The Anatomy of Marriage

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side


How is marriage supposed to work? We have never been taught, and when things start derailing, we have no idea what to do.

This show was planned for a later date, but it is too good and too relevant to hold onto. The pandemic has heightened the level of stress in our lives and in our relationships. Many couples are struggling to navigate through these challenging times.

So today we have marriage expert and coach,Melanie Studley with us. She’s the cohost of the Anatomy of Marriage podcast and co-creator of the Anatomy of Marriage app.

Melanie dissects the most common issues between a man and a woman. She tells us what our spouses really think and feel when we watch porn. Melanie also explains the underlying anatomy of a marriage and gives us a formula to communicate our needs and desires as men in a confident, calm and masculine way.

So simple and so powerful, don’t miss the pro tips in this episode!

Melanie Studley’s Story

A Marriage Counselor is supposed to know it all, they are supposed to have the tools and the skills to navigate the ups-and-downs of relationships, but 11 years ago we hit rock bottom.

Seth confessed to lying and looking at Pornography and so I gave him a black eye…

We had two little boys, 15 months and 2 weeks old, and we were completely lost. Deep down we both wanted our marriage to work, so after months of tearing each other apart we turned our attention to healing our broken marriage. But… we couldn’t find ANY marriage resources for IMPERFECT, BROKEN AND MESSY PEOPLE!

We started on our journey anyway and eventually began healing, then we decided to turn our mess into our message and to create the resources that we wish we had during the HARDEST PARTS of our marriage. With over 2.5 Million downloads of our Podcast, and listeners all over the world, our raw vulnerability, practical tools and real help for real couples is making much larger impact than we could have ever dreamed!

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What You’ll Learn

  • Most couples have no idea how to handle it when things go wrong in marriage, which it inevitably does from time to time.
  • The genesis of Melanie’s career as a marriage coach started in the pit of dysfunction.
  • Melanie didn’t understand herself, how relationships worked, and the whole point of marriage.
  • Why porn makes women feel that they are not good enough.
  • Think it through next time you want to consume pornography. What if your kids find it on your phone?
  • Children who are exposed to pornography are too young to know what it means, and it plants the seeds of sexual dysfunction.
  • Instead of giving restless energy away to porn, funnel it into positive things.
  • What men get wrong in sexuality—they have the power to make their wife feel like a goddess.
  • Porn is like kryptonite. It takes away your sexual superpowers.
  • Many men are quietly pissed off in their marriage but refuse to speak up. They don’t know what to say or how to say it.
  • Women want to be fiercely independent, yet most women are also wired to want to be there to help their husbands.
  • Men just want women to be happy, but they neglect the important things.
  • When men are frustrated, they shut themselves down until they break down.
  • Don’t wait to tell your wife when you don’t like something, are angry, or disagree with her.
  • Don’t let the pressure build up. If things are already set to explode, don’t take the lid off all at once.
  • Get in the habit of small conversations all the time to make sure you’re on the same page.
  • The “Clearing Structure”–a hyper-empowered way to express your feelings and offer solutions without your partner getting defensive.
  • King and Queen always link together. Be each other’s heroes.
  • Approach conflicts with a positive energy, not a submissive or negative one.
  • Conversation starters release the tension around things you didn’t even know were bothering you.
  • Communication doesn’t have to be complicated.

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MENTIONED EPISODES:

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt

#75Hard: Start Reaching Your Goals with an Accountability Partner

 


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The Full Monty: Dad-Life as an Ex-Navy SEAL with Monty Heath


Becoming our best selves is a choice. We can choose to watch life pass us by, sleepwalking to our deathbeds full of regret. Or we can make the decision to take destiny into our own hands, leaving a distinct mark on the world.

Today we have former Navy SEAL Monty Heath on The Dad Edge Podcast. Monty made the choice to leave the Navy SEALs before getting married and starting his family. He talks about how keeping calm is the most effective and important way to operate in life. He reveals how closely he came to divorce and the choice he made to never quit on his marriage. Monty also discusses his approach to dad life and teaches us how we can keep cool and rational through the inevitable chaos of fatherhood.

“I want to raise kids who are better than me.”—Monty Heath

Monty Heath

In 1993, Monty Heath became a U.S. Navy SEAL, completing one of his lifelong goals. He was fortunate enough to serve alongside America’s finest in Operations Enduring Freedom and Joint Forge. Monty credits SEAL Team Two and Red Squadron as adding significance to everything else he would do in life. During his service, Monty was twice awarded the Bronze star with combat Valor designation.

After eleven years of faithful service, Monty left the SEALS (admittedly one of the most difficult things he’s ever done) to start a family and change focus to the civilian sector. Through the years, he has lead a variety of successful military and civilian endeavors, including supervising the U.S. Navy’s SEAL mentorship program and BUD/S preparatory program. He has provided executive protection for several Forbes 400 individuals and their families. He is truly honored to be helping those he feels need and deserve it the most – America’s veterans and service members.

“Calm people are the best people.”—Monty Heath

What You’ll Learn

  • Monty considered himself to be an immature warrior.
  • The difference between approaching life with a subjective or objective mindset.
  • Avoid conflict when one or both sides are emotional instead of logical.
  • Monty’s advice to his younger self—You don’t have to classify and quantify everything in your sight. Mostly, people don’t want your unsolicited opinions and advice. If they did, they would ask you for it.
  • Seek mentorship and knowledge. Sometimes you have to step into the thick of it to grow.
  • Why Monty didn’t try to have kids until he felt he was ready
  • In life, try to get “mission focus.” Keep your eyes on the future and the goal, and all the pieces of uncomfortableness are just hoops you need to jump through to get there.
  • How to use empathy to help people in a heightened emotional state
  • The emotion/logic seesaw—We cannot judge people for their visceral reactions. Meet them where they are in their feelings and validate them.
  • Growing up in a dysfunctional family helped Monty in keeping calm through his experiences as a Navy SEAL.
  • How Monty and his wife have beat the odds when it comes to their marriage after being on the brink of divorce many times.
  • It’s a conscious decision to be married and monogamous.
  • Monty believes life is about more than casual sex. It’s better to have a wife, friend, and partner.
  • He credits his wife for putting up with his caveman antics for so long.
  • Marriage—If you love each other, then it’s worth it.
  • Choice—Tomorrow has nothing to do with today. You can choose to do something to make yourself better. Apply time, effort, and discipline.
  • Anything worth doing is hard. If you’re out of your comfort zone, you’re doing it right.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

Warrior Toughness for Real Life with Navy SEAL Stephen Drum

COVID-19: How to Protect and Lead Your Family Through Crisis with Retired Navy SEAL Jason Redman

Navy SEAL Tactics for Parents with Chris Sajnog

 


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The Dad Life Overhaul


This one’s for the guy who is miserable with his life. Maybe your marriage isn’t working, you feel stuck in your job, and you can’t remember who you are anymore. Something’s got to give, but you don’t know what to do to make things change.

Craig Mills used to be miserable. He got into his profession by default, thinking it was what he was supposed to do. He neglected his needs and desires to accommodate an unhappy marriage. He lived an empty life and felt like a shell of a human being.

Today, Craig is blissfully remarried with a stepdaughter and a baby. He’s excited about life and has found the work that makes him comes alive.

How did he make this complete dad life overhaul? Don’t waste another minute being miserable. Listen in!

What You’ll Learn

  • Craig endured an acne problem growing up that traumatized him.
  • He didn’t feel deserving of love or that he belonged with people.
  • He lost his identity trying to please his first wife, but he doesn’t consider his first marriage a waste.
  • Craig knew there was more out there for him. His life needed an overhaul.
  • Follow your energy to the life you’re drawn to.
  • Stop and seriously think about what’s God’s purpose for you?
  • Craig spent two summers in a row “couch surfing” on strangers’ couches.
  • How to live your life without fear
  • Go a little outside of comfortable every single day.
  • What it is like taking on a stepchild
  • Having confidence in your ability to father
  • Our huge impact as dads
  • How a husband and wife develop each other
  • Become a better person for your spouse. Show her the kind of man you are.
  • How he and his wife play naked tag!

MENTIONED EPISODES:

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Man Uncivilized with Traver Boehm

The fallout from coronavirus has put unbelievable stress on all of us, but what if the situation was worse?  Would we have the mental stamina to endure?

You may remember today’s guest for sharing his incredible story of going on a darkness retreat in the jungles of Guatemala, where he stayed in a 12 x 8 concrete room for 28 days in absolute black silence.

Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise and the founder of the Man Uncivilized Movement. He is back to tell us how he tapped into his inner strength to endure the unimaginable. He also talks about embracing our primal masculine gifts to squeeze the juice out of life, even while we’re up against a crisis like COVID-19.

Traver teaches us how to make the best of our situation, draw on our inner strengths, and connect with people in ways we never have before. He inspires us to look deep inside and view our lives in an empowered light.

This episode will have you pumped up. Let’s get uncivilized!

“We don’t get that much time here. Why don’t we squeeze the juice out of life?”—Traver Boehm

 

What You’ll Learn

  • The power of going one day without judging yourself
  • The mindset that will allow you to play life bigger and take more risks
  • How to channel aggressive energy
  • Honoring the primal masculinity of man
  • Owning your space and bringing your gifts into the world
  • How to feed your soul
  • Why you must be dangerous, but not a danger
  • Why your wife not be wanting to get intimate with you
  • What happens to repressed feelings
  • The difference between sharing your thoughts and feelings
  • The power of having access to your emotions

RELATED EPISODES:

The Masculine, the Man, and the Mountain with Traver Boehm

Stop Doing That Sh*t with Gary John Bishop


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Your Values: Defining, Planning, and Taking Action

Our journey if life is not linear. It’s unpredictable. We might be okay when things are going our way, but what happens when we face adversity? How can we know the next right thing to do? How do we pivot and act with grace when we are tested?

A legendary life is about your values—not only knowing what they are, but also defining, planning, and taking action.

Today we have long-time mastermind member, Judd. He joined The Dad Edge Alliance when his marriage was in trouble. He was so programed to avoid confrontation that he didn’t know who he was or what he wanted anymore. He was making his decisions based on others’ expectations and living a life that wasn’t his own.

Judd finally got real and faced the truth. He stopped the lies he was telling himself and looked deep inside to discover what mattered most to him.

Today, Judd lives according to his values. He knows who he is and what he stands for, no matter what happens.

What You’ll Learn

  • The damage of avoiding conflict
  • Why real intimacy can only happen if you really share yourself
  • Using friction as an opportunity to go deeper
  • The practice of naming emotions and expressing yourself
  • How to cope with going through a divorce
  • Why making decisions based on what’s important to you gives you hope for the future
  • Why you must accept that life doesn’t go according to plan
  • Knowing you will be okay no matter what happens
  • Being brutally honest about where you are so you can get to where you want to go

Don’t give up. There is such power in thinking through what’s important, making a plan to live it out, and just doing it. You learn so much, and it becomes part of you.


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