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Your Values: Defining, Planning, and Taking Action

Our journey if life is not linear. It’s unpredictable. We might be okay when things are going our way, but what happens when we face adversity? How can we know the next right thing to do? How do we pivot and act with grace when we are tested?

A legendary life is about your values—not only knowing what they are, but also defining, planning, and taking action.

Today we have long-time mastermind member, Judd. He joined The Dad Edge Alliance when his marriage was in trouble. He was so programed to avoid confrontation that he didn’t know who he was or what he wanted anymore. He was making his decisions based on others’ expectations and living a life that wasn’t his own.

Judd finally got real and faced the truth. He stopped the lies he was telling himself and looked deep inside to discover what mattered most to him.

Today, Judd lives according to his values. He knows who he is and what he stands for, no matter what happens.

What You’ll Learn

  • The damage of avoiding conflict
  • Why real intimacy can only happen if you really share yourself
  • Using friction as an opportunity to go deeper
  • The practice of naming emotions and expressing yourself
  • How to cope with going through a divorce
  • Why making decisions based on what’s important to you gives you hope for the future
  • Why you must accept that life doesn’t go according to plan
  • Knowing you will be okay no matter what happens
  • Being brutally honest about where you are so you can get to where you want to go

Don’t give up. There is such power in thinking through what’s important, making a plan to live it out, and just doing it. You learn so much, and it becomes part of you.


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Inadequacy, Insecurity, and Imposter Syndrome

Inadequacy, Insecurity, and Imposter Syndrome with Mike Kitko


Do you feel the need to be perfect, and at the same time, think you’ll never be good enough? As a man, husband, and father, are you plagued by deep-rooted feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, leaving you terrified that people will find out you have no idea what you’re doing? That’s your imposter in charge and he’s preventing you from living as who you really are.

Mike Kitko is an Executive Self-Mastery Coach, speaker, and author. After a colossal career and personal meltdown, he found his true purpose—inspiring leaders to find the power in their authenticity, purpose, and passion.

Today, Mike Kitko talks about how inadequacy, insecurity, and imposter syndrome ruled his life. He teaches us how to cultivate self-awareness and diffuse the imposter before it sabotages us. He also tells us how to stop running from fear and start chasing our purpose so we can provide a loving, safe, and prosperous environment for our families.

Do you suffer from imposter syndrome? How do you defeat the imposter in charge? Find out in this episode!

Mike Kitko

A Marine with an MBA, Mike has decades of experience in leadership roles for Fortune 500 companies, yet he always felt like an imposter. His outward persona was one of strength and wealth, yet he struggled internally with self-confidence and self-fulfillment. His inability to understand his emotions led him to alcoholism, uncontrolled anger, and ballistic rage. He abused his marriage, family, professional career, and health.

Through coaching, intense study, and deep work, Mike learned to embrace self-doubt and care for his body, mind, emotions, and soul with self-mastery. Now Mikes overflowing energy, clarity, and love inspires souls. With an infectious zest for life, internal power, and inward confidence that matches how people perceive him externally, Mike has turned his life around. And he wants to help you to do the same.

If you can’t feel it, you can’t heal it, and if you can’t heal it, you can’t be you.—Mike Kitko

The Imposter in Charge

Life’s good, right? You’ve got the high-paying job, the car, the home, the family–so why do you feel so incomplete?

Maybe your ego is bursting at the seams and you can’t show yourself for who you really are. Perhaps you have no boundaries and you pour yourself into others–their problems, their pressures, their pleasures–at the expense of yourself and your own family. You might think you need to be perfect but are acutely aware that you’re not good enough. Could it be that deep-down you feel inadequate, incapable, and like a fraud?

You don’t have to live like that. The Imposter in Charge is the vulnerable and raw account of Mike Kitko’s journey from being an overweight, overstressed, overachieving alcoholic business executive who was on the brink of divorce, to a life of authenticity, courage, confidence, and clarity. This transparent account offers a then-to-now experience, as well as practical applications and practices to help you break out of the imposter syndrome yourself–once and for all.

What You’ll Learn

  • Men learn from a very young age to not be real, vulnerable, and or have emotions.
  • When we wear a mask and shrink, we can’t really feel human.
  • What it means when everything you thought would bring you happiness doesn’t.
  • How the world loves you exactly the way you are. When you realize that, things start to change
  • Mike used to be over 300 pounds and an alcoholic.
  • When Mike figured out that he had nothing figured out
  • When Mike quit drinking, he lost who he thought were friends, but then real people showed up.
  • How Mike made the bold move to leave his corporate job and create his coaching business.
  • How he fell head over heels in love with his wife again after their marriage was nearly destroyed.
  • Perfection is impossible
  • Emotions are going to make us behave badly.
  • Accept that on the journey of improvement, you’re going to stumble,
  • Why you must surrender to the natural feeling of inadequacy and insecurity.
  • What is a critical purpose decision?
  • 90% of people are running away from fear. 10% are chasing purpose.
  • We’re not here to survive, play small, provide and buy more stuff.
  • You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to have a lucrative business.
  • Your desires are your gateway to understanding what purpose you serve.
  • How men can find their true purpose and make sure they’re not chasing someone else’s purpose.
  • Lack of self-awareness drives the imposter syndrome.
  • The importance of knowing your talents and weaknesses.
  • Getting and staying in your “zone of genius” as much as possible
  • Clarity is a creative force.
  • His mission is to move men from survivorship to leadership
    • Yourself
    • Society
    • Family
  • We can’t provide a safe prosperous loving environment for our families if we are not living authentically.
  • Love = Letting Others Voluntarily Evolve
  • How we’re inadvertently telling our kids their choices aren’t good enough.
  • We’re not here to help our kids avoid mistakes, but to help them make choices after they understand the consequences.

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money personalities

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language with The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer


Money is the number one cause for friction between couples. Out of the 50% of marriages that end in divorce, 70% of them end because of financial issues. This is a staggering number, but money in marriage is not something we are taught to navigate, and we don’t know how to show our kids a good example either.

Today we have The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer on The Dad Edge. They are financial advisors who got tired of seeing their clients’ marriages destroyed because of money. Together they wrote The 5 Money Personalities and The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage.

Scott and Bethany reveal the 5 money personalities, the reasoning behind each one, and how we can learn to work with our spouse’s and our children’s money personalities. They also discuss how harmful it is to argue about money in front of the kids and how to use money language to actually bring your marriage and family closer than ever before.

(Look for the link at the end of the show notes to money personality assessments for you and your whole family.)

Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple

“Over two decades ago, our passion to save marriages was born. As Financial Advisors, for over 25 years,  helping couples, we discovered: money “issues” are not about dollars and cents. Couples struggle to communicate about and agree on money which creates tension, fights, and even divorce.

Couples struggles along with ours,  broke our hearts and propelled us into a decade of research and work with a Stanford scientist to develop The Money Personality Assessment. We now have the Assessments, tools and resources for couples to agree about money and experience a magnificent marriage.”

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language

The hidden key to a healthy relationship is not just managing money but understanding how the other approaches money.

Every couple argues about money. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 40 years or dating for 4 months, money touches every decision you make as a couple―from the $5 cup of coffee to the $50,000 car. And when the two of you don’t see eye-to-eye on how much to spend or how much to save, that’s when arguments turn into ugly toxic fights that leave both persons feeling hurt and angry. It’s why money has become the #1 cause of divorce in the U.S. Obviously, something needs to change. The reason this crisis has not been addressed is because it has never been identified, defined, or given a name. Scott and Bethany Palmer, aka “The Money Couple,” have identified and defined this problem and offer concrete solutions to fix it.

Once you know your Money Personality, you can get to the root of money arguments and start really working together. You’ll discover what has an impact on your loved one’s money decisions, and you’ll learn how to talk about money in a way that’s actually fun! You’ll figure out how to put an end to money secrets and lies once and for all.

It’s not just about money management, and it’s definitely not just about overcoming debt. It is a whole new way of living that will change everything in your relationship. Tens of thousands have already been transformed. Are you ready?

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage

Raise your hand if your parents had “the talk” with you. No, not that talk. We mean the money talk.
Money affects you and your kids every day. Now there’s a way to talk about money in a way that actually brings your family closer.

With two kids of our own, we suspect our parenting goals are likely the same as yours—no spoiled brats, no crippling debt, and kids who know a dollar actually takes work. That’s why we wrote this book.

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage offers practical advice for dealing with three age groups (5–12, 13–17, and 18 and beyond). It is the parenting “how to” book you don’t want to live without.

  • Conquer the 5 toughest money conversations to have with your kids
  • Discover your kids’ Money Personalities by taking the age-based Money Personalities Assessment (access code included inside)
  • Learn their Money Languages so you can be heard

We give you relationship secrets, share our experiences, and make it fun. Whether your kids are 5 or 25, this book will change the course of your family forever!

What You’ll Learn

  • How huge arguments start from simple differences in how you spend money
  • How money personalities can come up in every conversation you have
  • Money arguments in front of the kids model a bad marriage to them.
  • We think that if we have the perfect cashflow, budget, and retirement, we’ll have a great marriage. This is not true.
  • Opposites attract and then attack.
  • There are no right or wrong money personalities, just different ones.
  • You have to understand which money personality you’re married to and accept that.
  • Why we’re not good at compromising when it comes to money
  • Why you should “never stop getting a PHD on your spouse”
  • How couples might have the same primary money personality, but different secondary money personalities that will cause conflict.
  • Exercises you can do to appease to your spouse’s money personality
  • Family money huddles to discuss E.N.D.s—Evaluation, Needs, Dreams.
  • Dreaming together is important for a couple.
  • What is financial infidelity and how it is damaging to marriages.
  • The importance of understanding a kid’s money personality
  • Teaching kids the financial and relational sides of money.
  • Encourage your kids to work from a young age to instill work ethic (and prevent them from living in your basement when they become adults).
  • You can’t just have one talk with your kids about money. You have to look for real-life opportunities to train them.

FREE MONEY PERSONALITY ASSESSMENT

KIDS MONEY ASSESSMENTS

RELATED EPISODES:

Optimizing Your Personal Relationship with Money — Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&#038;A with Grant Sabatier

How to Raise Money-Empowered Kids with John Lanza

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence


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be the father your kids need

How to Be the Father Your Kids Need with former Navy SEAL Luis Rivera

How can you learn how to be a good dad if your father wasn’t there for you? What does it mean to be a good dad? How can you learn to be the father your kids need?

Today we have retired Navy SEAL Senior Chief Luis Rivera on the show. He served with the SEALs for 24 years and was featured in Discovery Channel’s documentary Navy SEALs BUDs Class 234. Luis has been married for 14 years and has three kids.

Growing up, Luis’s father never made an effort to be involved in his life. Luis admits, he wasn’t always a good dad either. Military life always came first, until he realized what an impact his behavior was making on his kids.

Luis is now a fully present and invested dad. He’s also part of Mighty Oaks Programs, an organization that helps veterans, active duty military, and first responders deal with PTS and life trauma.

Luis opens up about his struggles and failures as a husband and father. He tells us how he spent 9 days in a hotel with his daughter to help her through drug withdrawals. He also talks about the free 5-step program that helps men get a full understanding of who they are and what their purpose is in the world.

You’ve never heard this side of Luis Rivera before. Don’t miss this in-depth interview!

“If you somehow break up the family, you’ll break up a community, and you’ll break up the nation.”—Luis Rivera

What You’ll Learn

  • Luis gave up caring about things after his parents split up when he was 12 years old.
  • Luis’s older brother took over a fatherly role, showing him how to ride a bike and teaching him about life.
  • Luis remembers being angry at his dad for not being someone he could lean on and talk to, like his older brother.
  • His father paid no child support, and Luis’s mom put herself through the police academy to support her five kids. I was her work ethic that gave Luis the example he needed to become a SEAL.
  • Later, Luis discovered his dad, also a military man, was dealing with his own demons. He was sent home from Korea because after being involved in a grenade explosion that killed his cousin.
  • Even when Luis became an adult, the relationship with his father never rekindled. His father is now deceased.
  • Where Luis’s motivation to join the military came from
  • How the stress from consequences of his bad decisions made him give up on BUDs training the first time.
  • What helped him to grow up and start working hard to take care of his responsibilities
  • What made him go back to BUDs after having been in the military for ten years
  • Luis didn’t understand what he was doing to his kids at the time.
  • During his second attempt, Luis got swimmer induced pulmonary edema and was pulled from the class
  • Then he had to start over BUDs from the beginning for the third time.
  • Luis knew this last attempt would make him or break him, and he welcomed the challenge.
  • The thoughts that kept him going through the training
  • How he used the Bible selfishly to avoid pain
  • How passing BUDs was not a finish line, but a new beginning
  • His mistake in putting his military life before his family
  • The point when he decided to change things
  • Luis realized that he didn’t maintain the same morals at work and home.
  • When he finally felt good about who we was as a father and husband
  • The harrowing meth 9-day meth detox he helped his daughter through
  • How the experience with his daughter bonded them together and triggered his healing process
  • How he’s held his marriage together
  • His relationship with Christ and how it has changed his heart
  • The 5-day program that equips warriors to fight through life’s challenges and discover the very purpose for their lives moving forward
  • How veterans, active military, and first responders can apply for Might Oaks Programs, free of charge, including travel, food, and boarding
  • Might Oaks programs available for women and couples

RELATED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&#038;A with Chad Robichaux


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unshakable marriage

5 Rules for an Unshakable Marriage


How can we get past our flaws and failures to become the best men we can be? Marriage is the foundation of everything. It is our home and our refuge. A solid, happy relationship with our spouse is crucial to raising emotionally strong and mentally healthy kids.

Today’s guest is a legend in our mastermind community, Joe Bailey. Joe is on his fourth marriage and it will be his last. He’s made lots of mistakes when it comes to relationships, but he’s been lucky enough use them to grow and adapt. He knows to stay wary of his weak spots and to double down on his strengths.

In this short episode, Joe shares his firsthand experience and five rules for an unshakable marriage.

RELATED EPISODES:

A Dad’s Recovery from Sex Addiction

Everything Men Need to Know About Porn with J.K. Emezi

Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

 


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