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Parenting Your ADHD Kid with Confidence Angela Pruess


Parenting is always a challenge. We aren’t given a manual when our kid is born. Parents whose kids have ADHD are even more unprepared. The Dad Edge constantly receives emails from dads who are struggling with their ADHD son or daughter. Most feel frustrated and helpless. They don’t enjoy parenting, and their kids can sense that. But there is hope for ADHD parents. All we need is the right skillset.

Angela Pruess is a licensed family therapist with a background in Child Psychology, Child Development, and Play Therapy. She is the founder of Parents with Confidence and also the mother of three children, two having special needs.

Angela explains the 3 different types of ADHD and the best way to manage each one. She talks about how to create an environment that encourages emotional intelligence and a growth mindset. She also tells us how to develop and leverage our parent-child connection, understand the true motivation behind our child’s behavior, and discipline our children without emotional damage.

Empower yourself to grow emotionally resilient ADHD kids who will live their best lives!

Angela Pruess

Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband).

“Kids do better when they feel better.”—Angela Pruess, LMFT

What You’ll Learn

  • Parents forget to try to understand their kids. We need to know what drives them.
  • There is no quick fix for helping an ADHD child.
  • How amazingly resilient kids are. Their high-plasticity brains keep them openminded to learning about themselves.
  • How to manage emotional resentment towards your child.
  • ADHD cannot be helped. There are differences in the child’s brain structure since birth. Executive functions are limited as well as a broad range of important skills that bleed into everything.
  • Has ADHD always been around? How come we haven’t heard of it till now?
  • The outdated diagnostic criteria for ADHD.
  • The 3 different types of ADHD: Hyperactive, Inattentive, and Combined
  • Hyperactive: Physically hyper, but also impulsive, these children have a hard time stopping and thinking before the act. They show a limited ability for self-control and taking time to make best decisions.
  • Inattentive: It may look like these children are lazy and not paying attention, but there is an invisible piece. They don’t know where to start and get stuck. Parents have to be on child’s back to get things done. These are the dreamers, staring out the window. They are observant, curious.
  • Combined: These children present both aspects of ADHD. All of these children struggle with emotional control and regulating their attention.
  • How does ADHD show up besides hyperactivity and poor academic performance?
  • How to tell if your child has ADHD and is not just misbehaving.
  • Playing too much video games, not getting sleep, and too much sugar are some habits that lead to ADHD behaviors.
  • Parents expect to treat each kid the same, but they must seek to better understand each individual child’s neurobiology and personality.
  • The more you know about how each child ticks, the more you can influence your kids.
  • Use a humble, open approach instead of being authoritarian.
  • Kids put their needs out in the form of their behavior.
  • Unwanted behavior will not end until your child’s needs are met.
  • Their behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath is a huge variety of internal factors and drivers.
  • Be aware of your child’s sensory needs. Some are triggered by noises or being touched.
  • Being the “behavior police” with your ADHD child breeds disconnect and resentment.
  • How to draw the line between positive parenting and giving into bad behavior.
  • Get into the habit of thinking of the golden rule when interacting with your child. How would you want to be addressed? What would inspire you to do better?
  • ADHD kids are bright and advanced in other ways. They want to be acknowledged and respected for their gifts.
  • When children are upset, they shift into stress brain and their thinking brain goes offline.
  • How to teach your child to be aware of their emotions and help him/her be genuinely motivated to learn how to cope with their feelings.
  • All humans are wired with a negativity bias. Try to focus on the positives and achievements instead of everything your child does wrong.
  • Growth Mindset. Think of the whole picture when it comes to dealing with your ADHD child, not just right now. Instead of putting out fires, use challenging situations as a learning experience.

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

How to Unlock ADHD Superpowers with Peter Shankman

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

 


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atomic habits james clear

Atomic Habits for Dads with James Clear

Are you having trouble breaking bad habits and committing to good ones?

Today’s guest says the problem isn’t you, it’s your system.

James Clear is the NY Times Bestselling Author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones.

James talks about how building a system of small habits will compound over time for huge results.

He’ll also teach us how to design our environment so that we’ll stick to good habits without even thinking about it.

Most importantly, James will tell us how we can apply atomic habits to our relationships with our spouses and children.

Whether you want to quit drinking, lose weight, excel in your business, or build deeper connection with your family, get ready to reshape your life for success!

“Most of your results in life are a lagging measure of your habits.”—James Clear

James Clear

James Clear is an author and speaker focused on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter at jamesclear.com.

He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Through his online course, The Habits Academy, Clear has taught more than 10,000 leaders, managers, coaches, and teachers. The Habits Academy is the premier training platform for individuals and organizations that are interested in building better habits in life and work.

“The shape of your environment is one of the most overlooked drivers of your habits and behavior.”—James Clear

Atomic Habits

No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.

“If you can’t find a tribe to join, go out and create it.”—James Clear

What You’ll Learn

  • A significant part of our life is structured and shaped by our habits.
  • Tiny habits are the fundamental unit of a larger system.
  • Why men are so extreme with their habits
  • We dismiss small rewards and always look for a huge, immediate payoff.
  • Our psychology can run counter to what’s best for us.
  • Change your mindset to focus on process and system rather than goals.
  • Good habits make time your ally.
  • Bad habits make time your enemy.
  • Habits have a compound effect.
  • When men reach the point that they are frustrated with the time it’s taking for results, they must remember that the work is not wasted, it’s being stored.
  • The power of the willingness to get better by one percent each day.
  • We often don’t set goals for relationships because it’s difficult to measure if we’re being a better friend, spouse, or parent.
  • How atomic habits can be applied to relationships
  • How have atomic habits served James in his relationship with his wife
  • Creating sacred time and space with your spouse
  • Making a habit of displays of affection
  • Creating habits you and your wife can do together, like a daily gratitude list
  • Use environmental design to cue the habit we are trying to create. Make the good habit the path of least resistance.
  • How to create friction against bad habits
  • Designing your digital and social environment
  • How to make sure you’re taking action on your real priorities
  • What James struggles with when it comes to sticking with habits.
  • An ambitious person has a lot of goals in all aspects of life, and we are forced to choose. When we say to yes to one thing, we so no to everything else
  • The way to choose what goals to pursue is to look at life as a series of seasons. What season are you in now? Business, family, retirement?
  • Prioritizing according to where you are in life doesn’t mean you can’t do it all, you just can’t do it all at the same time.
  • The best way to increase your performance is to cut your priorities in half.
  • How to make decisions when you’re in a stressed or emotional space
  • James’s dad’s mantra: I am free. I don’t have to do anything. I have time and space.
  • Shifting your definition of success–Many standards we measure ourselves against are social ideas that don’t truly mean anything to us. Come up with a standard for yourself.
  • Life lessons he learned from his dad, who played for Minor league baseball. “Trust your preparation.” The win is not in the moment of the game or test, it’s all the practice and lessons that came before it.
  • Greatest lesson James learned about marriage.


 RELATED EPISODES:

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown


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john tig tiegen

The Mindset of an Elite Operator with John “Tig” Tiegen


What if we could tap into the mindset of an elite operator and become a hero in everyday life? Today we’re going to learn from the very best.

John “Tig” Tiegen is one of the heroes who was behind The Battle of Benghazi when militants attacked a diplomatic compound on September 11th, 2012, an incident that was portrayed in the Michael Bay film called 13 Hours.

Tig talks about what it was really like in Benghazi and how he’s adjusted to civilian life since. He tells us how to navigate obstacles while staying true to our authentic selves. He also shares his thoughts on being a husband to a military woman and the father of seven-year-old twins.

Being true to who you are and what you believe in and always stand by it, even if it pisses people off, you have to be that way. – John “Tig” Tiegen

 

John “Tig” Tiegen

John ‘Tig’ Tiegen leverages over 13 years of high-profile security and force protection expertise within contract and government agencies along with his military experience as a Marine Sergeant, to bring a powerful, thought-provoking, and engaging presentation of his first-hand account of the Benghazi Attacks to his audiences.

Growing up in a broken home in Colorado Springs, John ‘TIG’ Tiegen learned early in life the importance of a strong work ethic and a will to overcome hardships in the face of adversity. Determined to not allow his past to dictate his future and driven by deeply rooted desire to serve other, he join the United States Marine Corps at the young age of 17 on a delayed entry program. Those four years in the service with the 3rd Battalion 7th Marines India Company would shape and mold the principled, driven man the former Sergeant and Infantry Leader is today.

Wanting to continue serving his country once his military service concluded, Tig, spent several years as a security contractor with Blackwater Security on missions in Afghanistan, Pakistan and Iraq. He then joined the Central Intelligence Agency’s Global Response Staff where he was tasked with conducting low profile security in high-threat environments throughout the world. As an integral part of the team, taking part in more than 40 overseas deployments, his time would culminate in an event that would change his life forever and bring about unexpected recognition on a global scale.

The Battle of Benghazi: On September 11, 2011, Islamic militants attacked the American Diplomatic Compound in Benghazi, Libya. Quiet and precise, Tig was the most experienced Annex Security Team member. Defying a stand down order, he along with his team, rushed into burning buildings to defend the Consulate and fought arm-in-arm in defense of the Annex, holding off the radical Islamic terrorist until CIA employees could be safely evacuated.

No American forces showed up to assist the security team during those 13 hours of combat and four Americans lost their lives; Ambassador J. Christopher Stevens, Information Officer Sean Smith, and two CIA operatives, Glen Doherty and Tyrone Woods, both former Navy Seals. If not for the heroic acts of Tig and his team that number would be much greater. Tig personally saved the lives of many of his team and was paramount in rescuing over two dozen others. He received the Award for Heroism and Valor for his bravery that night.

Tig teamed up with other members of the Annex Security Team and New York Times best-selling author, Mitchell Zuckoff, to write 13 Hours: The Inside Account of What Really Happened in Benghazi. “We wanted to honor Bub and Rone by making sure their story—our story—was told and not by the media or politicians in Washington but by those of us who fought alongside them,” Tig stated. In 2015, the book was made into a movie.

Tig and his wife, Margaret, have been married for 19 years and are the proud parents to two seven-year-old twins. They reside on their ranch in Colorado.

What You’ll Learn

  • How he grew up without his real dad
  • How he overcame his traumatic childhood to become the hero and father he is today
  • How he teaches his kids to both lead and follow
  • About his relationship with his wife of twenty years, Margaret
  • What got Tig interested in military life
  • What was it really like in The Battle of Benghazi
  • As a new dad, did he think he would make it out and see his seven-month-old twins again
  • How true to life the movie 13 Hours really is
  • What it’s like being a publicly known hero
  • Why he taught his kids to handle guns from an early age
  • What he draws from his military experience to use as a parent
  • Why he doesn’t treat his kids like kids
  • How he prepares his kids for adversity
  • Why being true and authentic is a core value for Tig
  • How he teaches his kids to deal with bullies
  • Tig’s marriage advice
  • What Tig’s foundation does for veterans

If you baby your kid and shelter them from things, it’s going to be worse for them. – John “Tig” Tiegen

MENTIONED EPISODE:

The Ranger Way with Kris ‘Tanto’ Paronto


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Everything MEN NEED to KNOW About PORN

Everything Men Need to Know About Porn with J.K. Emezi

Today our show is about porn, sex, and masturbation addiction. This subject constantly comes up in The Dad Edge community and our episodes about pornography have massive downloads. In this age where we can watch it anytime and anywhere on our phone, it is becoming a huge problem. This crucial, controversial topic is not discussed enough because of the taboo, but porn addiction is real and we need answers.

J.K. Emezi is a sex and porn addiction coach for the last 9 years and is the founder of Elevated Recovery, where he helps men overcome sexually compulsive disorders. He tells us everything men need to know about porn—how it changes our brains, affects our relationships, and alters our perspectives. He gets real about how to tell if porn is a problem and what to do about it. He also tells us how we can prepare our kids for their inevitable encounter with porn, which is happening at startlingly earlier ages.

Pornography changes your values as a man.—J.K. Emezi

 

The Porn Addiction Problem

When it comes to internet porn, we have no idea what we’re up against. In the olden days, porn was hard to get. It was in the magazine rack behind the counter or the back room of a video store. Now it is available at anytime of day, in any place, at the tip of our fingers. J.K. Emezi says the most common place men watch pornography is at work.

The most disturbing thing about internet porn is that our kids are being exposed to it before they understand what they are looking at. In decades past, kids may not have run into porn until their teens, but in 2016, 11 was the average age of a child’s first exposure. Now, the age is 8.

J.K. Emezi had his own struggle with pornography and discovered that many of the men he worked with did too. Forums were filled with men who were seeking help, but there weren’t any resources. J.K. first began blogging anonymously about recovering from his porn addiction, but he eventually came out into the open to help others end their out-of-control behavior with porn, sex and masturbation.

What You’ll Learn

  • J.K. Emezi’s background as a bible salesman
  • Where and when the porn problem begins
  • How parents are getting too lax with computers and devices
  • How there is actually Minecraft porn now
  • Why one talk with your kids about porn is not enough. It must be randomly brought up from time to time.
  • Why porn is just as bad as drugs or alcohol
  • When porn is okay
  • Why men watch porn, especially at work
  • The role of brain chemicals in porn addiction
  • How to rewire your brain for monogamy
  • How to reconnect and become aroused again by your partner
  • How porn addiction, little by little, destroys your values
  • Why some women view porn as cheating and suffer ‘betrayal trauma’
  • How to define a compulsive sexual behavior
  • If, when, and how to disclose a porn problem to your spouse
  • Why masturbation is normal, but porn is not
  • What can men do when their wife is pregnant or has just given birth and can’t have sex
  • Why watching unrealistic bodies is unfair to your wife
  • How to use a rubber band to snap out of physical urges
  • How to anchor yourself in the morning to stick to your recovery goals
  • How to clean up your online environment to avoid triggers
  • How to interrupt porn urges by journaling and visualization
  • Advice for men in sexless marriages

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

Porn Addiction and Affair Recovery Mentoring

How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography with Kristen Jenson

Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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Why Kids Lie and What Dads Can Do About It

Why Kids Lie and What Dads Can Do About It

We usually interview an alliance member on Thursday Throwdown, but this week’s going to be a little different. This is about being a human and fallible dad in the midst of some challenges with my 11-year-old son. He’s been caught in a few lies lately, and that’s the type of behavior a dad wants to get in front of right away.

Why do kids lie and what can dads do about it? How do we punish them without making them feel as if we only exist to make their lives miserable? How can we make our kids understand how difficult it is to be a parent? You’ll find out my personal experience in this episode.

 

 

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