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Change Your Drinking Habits

Change Your Drinking Habits, Change Your Life – Join GDP Dry September!

If you’ve been thinking of the idea of whether to give up alcohol, now’s the time to do it. We’re doing a September 30-Day no alcohol challenge with the Good Dad Project Community. Join us on our free Dad Edge Facebook group and the Dad Edge Alliance membership group and share your experience. By making a commitment to quit drinking together, we will have the support and accountability we need to succeed.

 

 

Post your challenges and successes in our groups. We want to hear when it’s hard. We want to hear about the changes you see in your life. Help and inspire others in the group. Join our challenge today!

Use the hashtag #GDPDRYSEPTEMBER

 

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For more resources to go alcohol-free, go to oneyearnobeer.com/gdp

Mentioned Episode: How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns


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One Simple Mind Hack To Get Your Mind Off Work

As all of you regular listeners know, 5 minute Thursdays are never five minutes. We are finally switching the name. Welcome to Thursday Throwdown! On this episode I’ll be revealing one simple mind hack so you can get your mind off work and be mentally present with your family.

On last week’s episode with Jim Sheils, we talked about how to magnify your presence with you kids by carving out 4 hours every 90 days to be together one-on-one without distractions. This is a game-changing practice for fathers and their kids, but what about in the ordinary evenings after work or on the weekends? What can we do to get our mind off work and focus on our kids every day?

Being present is a struggle for most men. We are Type-A personalities who were wired to compete, hunt, and multi-task. We’re always thinking about the next goal to accomplish or the next problem to be solved. When we’re our around kids, it’s hard for us to shut the rest of the world down and keep our mind from wandering.

Ryan Michler, the creator of Order of Man, gave me a crystal clear answer. Since dads are always focusing on our next big goal, make the goal being present with your child.

BE THERE

Mentally, physically, and emotionally.

That is the goal right now. That is what we’re trying to conquer.

 


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RESOURCES

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Check out our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

JOIN US FOR FOR THE SEALFIT 2oX on June 24th at Vail Lake, CA HERE.  Use “GOODDAD10” for the coupon code and save 10%

Checkout Unbeatable Mind Online HERE

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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Sean Whalen Taking 100% Responsibility and Being a Lion Not a Sheep

Sean Whalen, founder of “Lions Not Sheep” comes on the GDP Podcast to share his views on masculinity, being a father, and taking ownership.

Blame. It’s what we do when we can’t face our own responsibility for failures in our life. It’s so easy for us to point to the plank in someone else’s eye when it’s too hard for us to look at our own plank. Sean Whalen, founder of Lions Not Sheep, explains his own struggle to get to the point where he could be the best person for himself and others.

Sean Whalen and Why Lions Eat First

It is so easy for us to take care of others, thinking that if we just do what we think everyone else wants us to do, that all will be well. When we aren’t getting the response from others we expect from these actions, then we get frustrated and tend to give up. The situation may seem counterintuitive, but if we look at investing in ourselves first, we can show up so much more for others. So, be the lion who eats first so you can be strong for your pride.

Wrong Signal

We have been taught through our upbringing, religion, society that we can’t be selfish. No, you shouldn’t step on others to get what you want, but taking time to get yourself right can only improve your relationships and make you a better person. Happiness can only come from within.  We find ways to block out that negative wrong signal by whatever means necessary to get to the best version of you.

Don’t Be Prideful

As men, when we struggle, we internalize the struggle. Where we fail is when we don’t turn to others who have been through a similar struggle, and we flounder. Giving ourselves the “ok” to get help, we find that we are more successful when we have the tools to get out of the proverbial hole.  Swallow that pride, get out and find the help you need from someone who’s been there, and get better.

Sean Whalen and Failing Forward

We have to be real. Real in every aspect of our lives: our kids, our spouse, our job. In a world where everything is politically correct, we need to learn it’s ok to fail, to learn to fail forward and be better because of our failures. Doing so will only set the correct example for our kids and those around us. Being the lion in your own life only resonates to others to be the best version of themselves.

RESOURCES

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Check out our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

JOIN US FOR FOR THE SEALFIT 2oX on June 24th at Vail Lake, CA HERE.  Use “GOODDAD10” for the coupon code and save 10%

Checkout Unbeatable Mind Online HERE

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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Thanks for checking out this week’s show with Sean Whalen

intentions

Intentions Are Not Enough

Intentions…What we “intend” to do does not always come to fruition.

Intentions and the Old Saying

What’s the phrase? “The road to (fill in the blank; we are family friendly after all), is paved with good intentions.” Maybe that’s taking it a bit too far, but sometimes our intentions are shadowed by actions that speak against what we are trying to accomplish.

 

Remain Focused

The key to ensuring your intentions are reflected by your actions is to stay focused on the desired outcome. It’s just like setting a goal, if you don’t have a realistic road map to get there, you may not achieve your goal. The same with your intentions. If you don’t have a plan when life gets in the way of acting on your intentions, then you may get sidetracked. That’s ok. You’re only human. Just get back on the original path and try again.

 

Be Honest

When you do find yourself straying from your intentions, be honest with yourself and others. Don’t make excuses for why you got off track, just own up to the fact, apologize where and when necessary (yes, even to yourself) and move forward. Remember that it is not the mistakes we are remembered by, but the way we respond to the mistake.

 

Be Intentional

Be intentional about your intentions. If you really intend to be a strong role model for your kids, then be that. However, make sure you define what that looks like so you have less chance of veering off course or not meeting expectations. Those around you will take notice and you will find you don’t have to vocalize your intentions when they become your habits.

RESOURCES

 

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Check out our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

JOIN US FOR FOR THE SEALFIT 2oX on June 24th at Vail Lake, CA HERE.  Use “GOODDAD10” for the coupon code and save 10%

Checkout Unbeatable Mind Online HERE

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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Jim Harshaw on How to Achieve More Success Through Failure


Jim Harshaw believes failure, struggle and setbacks are not only an inevitable part of life but a necessary step on the path to success. Jim Harshaw has learned many life lessons on the wrestling mat. Having been a Division I All American and won three ACC Championships for the University of Virginia, trained at the Olympic Training Center and competed overseas for Team USA he has experienced significant triumph and devastating defeat. He relates those powerful lessons of failure, struggle and setback to empower his audiences to overcome their own challenges and achieve success despite their inevitable failures.

Fear and Failure

If you’re sensitive to harsh words, you may want to cover your eyes. Yeah, it’s a family show, but we’re going to talk about two “F” words. Ready? Here they come: Fear and Failure. Whew! That’s out of the way.

Success is Built on Failure

Jim Harshaw built his success on failures. As a matter of fact, he says each of his successes was built on failure. Early on, his failures, along with his successes, on the wrestling mat, gave him the foundation for the rest of his life. (He even goes on to say that Venture Capitalists in Silicon Valley, CA want to see someone with some type of failure in their background before backing someone.) That said, the life of a successful person is a grind and it’s full of failure.

It’s all about our Mentality when it comes to Failure

So many times, we sabotage our goals and dreams because we cripple ourselves with fear (the first “F” word). We’re afraid of failing (oops, the second “F” word), embarrassment, loss of respect, you name it. Maybe we don’t think successful people fail. Maybe we firmly believe that those who “make it” are just lucky and don’t struggle. Stop it. This is negative thinking. Actually, it’s the successful people who DO fail.

Successful People View Failure Differently

Not only do successful people know that failure will eventually lead to success, they surround themselves with what Jim calls an “environment of excellence.” This would be the people who support and push you forward, give you a confidence check when you need it (yes, we’ve heard this before from so many of our GDP guests!). It’s these people who will be there even when you do fail, so they can share your joy when you succeed.

The Proper Mindset

When this mindset is engrained in your own life, it is only natural that it should carry over to others-particularly, your children. Children have an incredible, innate ability to bounce back from failure early on: they fall down as toddlers trying to walk, get back up and try again. Somehow, though, this ability seems to falter as they grow in school, in sports, and anything else that takes risk. But if you, the parent, the guide, demonstrate through your own recovery from failure, that it is ok and even necessary to fail, your children will follow your lead. What better gift could we give our children than to learn that a great secret to success is mastering how to fail? See? The two “F” words aren’t that bad. When we learn that fearing failure isn’t necessary, and approach failure in a positive way, we are more apt to succeed.

Free Resources:

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