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Owning Fatherhood with Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former Marine and veteran of the war in Afghanistan. He’s also the host of the Owning It Podcast and the divorced father of two little girls.

Dakota shares his experience with PTS and his attempted suicide. He talks about how to step out of the victim mentality to become a greater version of ourselves. He also tells us the secrets to owning fatherhood, how to be an emotionally intelligent parent, and why we need to always surround ourselves with a trusted team for counsel.

You will hear a side of Dakota Meyer you haven’t heard on any other show. Get ready to own your life as a man and a dad!

If you’re not living for something bigger than yourself, it’s hard to do the right thing.

Dakota Meyer

Dakota Meyer is a former United States Marine. A veteran of the War in Afghanistan, he was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions during the Battle of Ganjgal on 8 September 2009, in Kunar Province, Afghanistan. Meyer is the second-youngest living Medal of Honor recipient, the third living recipient for either the Iraq War or the War in Afghanistan and the first living U.S. Marine in 38 years to be so honored.

Owning It

This Owning It podcast is about owning your life, about leaving a legacy and giving more than you take. It’s about making the most of each day and giving your life true meaning. When your last day comes, your living legacy is left only in the memories of your loved ones and on your tombstone. On that tombstone are only two of the important dates in your life, the day you were born and the day you pass on; The only two days you don’t control. Owning the dash is about taking control of the days in between: That dash between the day you’re born and the day you die.

What You’ll Learn

  • The first time Dakota realized he wasn’t a victim was the day he put the gun to his head
  • Whatever’s in your head is not true. It’s not necessarily reality.
  • You may tell yourself your life sucks, but is really only a day or a minute that sucks?
  • How you have the make the choice not to be a victim over and over again
  • Complain or do something about it
  • You’ll let yourself down before everything else
  • How to define a mission and purpose
  • How most men haven’t seen an example of being a good father and are just doing what they were taught
  • Why your entire life, you always need counsel
  • Dakota says his only real skill is to surround himself with incredible people
  • His advice for men who feel threatened when they’re surrounded by people more successful than them
  • Don’t bitch about a problem unless you’re willing to fix it yourself
  • The formula = 5% bitching (stating problem) 5% planning (how to fix it), 90% taking action
  • His perspective on the war on masculinity
  • Why domestic, violence, and rape are the result of masculinity being taken away
  • What’s important for him to emulate as a man for his daughters
    1. Be an example of what a man should be – He wants his daughters to know what qualities to look for in her partner.
    2. Show how a woman should be treated – He wants to show his girls how a man is supposed to treat a woman so they will expect the same from their future relationships.
    3. Divorce is an option if necessary – Dakota didn’t want to model that it’s okay to be miserable. Divorce was the best solution in his case.
  • The most difficult part of being divorced
  • How being divorced from his wife, Bristol Palin, makes them better parents
  • His unwavering commitment to quality time
  • Why we should call dads out who brag about not changing diapers
  • How society has set a low bar for men on what being a dad is about
  • How dads need to accept that parenting is hard and there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t enjoy it at times
  • How Dakota didn’t feel the love with his second daughter and thought something was wrong with him
  • The most important life lessons he’s learned
  • Advice to fathers with sons on how to raise them to become better men
  • How men are not emotionally intelligent or mature, but we can exercise our empathy by feeling our emotions and connecting with people
  • The most destructive team to have around you are the people that buy into your bullshit and don’t call you out when you’re wrong.

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Using the Past to Become a Better Dad with Former NFL Player Billy Miller

Using the Past to Become a Better Dad with Former NFL Player Billy Miller

Today we are psyched to have Former NFL player and Super Bowl Champion Billy Miller on The Dad Edge Podcast. Most of the time we only see sports stars on the field or getting interviewed after the game. They have to give their camera-ready answers about the team’s performance, but rarely do we see the husband, the father, or the man behind the athlete.

In this episode, Billy Miller opens up his world to us. He delves into his rough childhood as the son of two drug addicts, his battle against depression, and how he uses his difficult past as a reference to become the best dad he can possibly be. He also talks about maintaining a circle of intimate friends, co-parenting with his ex-wife, and how he keeps work separate from his family.

'We are built, as men, to change.' – former NFL Player, Billy Miller @billymiller83 #men #dads #fathers #fatherhood #manhood Click To Tweet

Billy Miller

From the time Billy can remember, his parents were addicted to drugs. He’d wake up on a Saturday morning, make himself breakfast, lunch, dinner, go to bed, wake up, and do the same thing all over again for days. Billy was alone a lot and had to learn to take care of himself. He was forced to grow up quickly.

Billy’s dad was abusive to his mom and him. He also went to prison several times. Billy didn’t think anything of it because it became his normal.

As he got older, Billy moved to a much nicer area called West Lake Village. His new school was a total culture shock and a blessing for him. Billy is half white and half black, but he had never spoken a word to another white person except to his mom and his grandmother until he was thirteen-years-old.

In West Lake Village, Billy saw how parents could get along and how healthy families functioned. He realized very early how important being a father was. He noticed that every single word his father said resonated within him. He held onto this realization until he became a dad himself.

'It's those moments where you're becoming a reflection of your past that you know you're doing the best learning of what not do to as a father.' – former NFL Player, Billy Miller @billymiller83 #dads #fathers #men #fatherhood #legacy Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How Billy suffered a bout of deep depression after he was done playing football
  • How depression helped him develop humility
  • What you need in addition to the desire to change
  • How we as men be better at asking for help
  • How to be honest about how you feel with your kids
  • How to show your kids how to be vulnerable
  • How being competitive lessens the chances of a man’s success
  • The trusted and honest relationship he had with his tribe of intimate friends
  • How to start a men’s group
  • How to deepen relationships with existing friends to go beyond the ordinary
  • About Billy’s divorce
  • How he coparents with his ex-wife
  • How couples can coparent peacefully and successfully even if they don’t get along
  • Why he didn’t talk to his brother for a long time
  • Why he hates when dads are not involved
  • How to not bring stress home to your kids, even when under the pressure of a job like playing in the NFL
  • How to come home and be superman
'Don't wait till the last minute. Don't wait to the bottom of the bottom to ask for help.'– former NFL Player, Billy Miller @billymiller83 #men #depression #stress #mentalhealth Click To Tweet

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Rob Youngblood on How To Successfully Raise A Family As a Single Dad

Rob Youngblood, TV personality, motivational speaker, victim of a Chuck Norris beating (LOL!), and single father with purpose comes on the GDP Podcast to talk about successfully raising kids through divorce.

Be the best version of yourself. It’s a wonderful phrase and so true, but when you don’t know who you really are in the first place, being the best version of you is nearly impossible. Rob Youngblood, former actor and news anchor and, currently, motivational speaker and coach, talks with the GDP about getting yourself to that best version as well as being a great dad, even in the face of difficult circumstances.

The Man in the Mirror

Sometimes we tell ourselves our lives are great, even when there is a storm of turmoil raging inside. The hardest part is facing the stuff we don’t like about ourselves, confronting the inner demons so we can be our best selves. Identifying and facing those issues is not easy, but it helps us grow and provides a great example for those who count on us.

Rob Youngblood on Prioritizing

Life will always throw curve balls. It’s what we do with these curve balls that defines who we are and our resiliency. Sometimes these challenges force us to choose between our personal wants and our responsibility to those who rely on us-AKA our children. These choices aren’t always easy to make, even though we love our children more than anything. Prioritizing our wants versus what we need to do puts the focus on what we deem important.

Be Real

As men, we a generally not known to be expressive with our feelings. We tend to bottle up our anger and frustration and sadness when we really should be sharing these emotions. Having a solid and trusting support system you can feel safe expressing these emotions in is crucial to our overall health and well-being.

Our lives inevitably change as we get older. Embracing these changes and providing a healthy example of how to manage these changes for our children will help us and our kids enjoy life that much more.

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