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Self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice

Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Sacrifice

At the Dad Edge Alliance, we’re disrupting the default settings of fatherhood so that we can go from living ordinary to extraordinary lives. One of the reasons we men become frustrated and burned out is because we feel it’s our job to shoulder the load for everyone. But if we practice self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice, not only will we feel happier, but we’ll also find we have more to give to everyone in our lives.

Today we interview another dad in the trenches. John Culford is a recent Dad Edge Alliance member who’s been married for fourteen years and is the father of two sons, aged twelve and thirteen.

John shares his challenges with communication, understanding, and connection with his wife and kids. He reveals what strategies he’s implementing to make his family grow closer during quarantine and beyond. He also tells us how getting into the habit of being kind to himself, claiming space, and opening up about his struggles with his family his secret to staying grounded and moving forward.

You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice yourself for the benefit of others.—John Culford, DEA member

What You’ll Learn

  • John’s experience with a pre-marriage bootcamp
  • We he’s learned that no conflict is really resolved
  • How to listen effectively during disagreements so that your spouse knows she’s being heard
  • Why Joh is setting aside 1 hour a week with his wife to talk about things they don’t know about each other.
  • Strip down to the facts of a challenging problem or source of stress. We often don’t know why we’re really bothered by something.
  • Detach from feelings when thinking of solutions to a problem. Emotion creates noise that distracts us from the best path forward.
  • How to parent a child with anxiety
  • How to be there for your kids when they’ve matured and don’t open up to you any more
  • How to intentionally make time for important discussions so it’s best for everyone
  • Why you must remove “buts” from your responses
  • How to show your kids to turn challenging situations like coronavirus into a positive experience they look back and remember in a positive light.
  • How to explain to your family when you need time alone.

Be kind to yourself. You’re going to fail. As put together as you think you are it’s okay to make mistakes. Let your family become part of that story.—John Culford, DEA member

 


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Dad Edge Virtual Summit 2020

IT’S TIME TO REINVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
Dominic Quartuccio
Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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your best self

Your Best Self: Initiate the Transformation


Your best self exists somewhere in the future. How can you initiate the transformation and bridge the gap between who you are now and the man you are capable of becoming?

Today, we have everyday dad Ben Killoy on The Dad Edge. He is a long-time Dad Edge Alliance member and is now one of our call team leaders. Ben is a military veteran turned blogger and motivational speaker. He’s founded the Military Veteran Dad Podcast, and his mission is to bring every dad both physically and mentally back home to his family.

Ben talks about how he broke free from the fear and resistance that was preventing him from living to his full potential. He explains how he cultivated the self-awareness and self-love to become strong enough to lead himself and his family. He also shares how he’s grateful to be in a place to help other men to access the truth beneath their fears and initiate the transformation to their best selves.

If you want a result in your life you never had, you need to do something you never done.

The amount of people you’re talking to is directly correlated to the amount of opportunity you feel in your life. You can’t create new opportunity unless you’re talking to people.—Ben Killoy

What You’ll Learn

  • The moment Ben realized that no one is going to care when he is no longer around.
  • The power of connecting with others for opportunity.
  • Social media cannot replace human connection.
  • Men have a tendency to numb their feelings, keeping them stuck. Once you have access to the feelings, the dam breaks and you can move forward.
  • You never know the power of the words you say. You can move mountains.
  • What Ben learned about the meaning of masculinity
  • If you don’t love your past, your current situation, or the future you’re headed to, you can’t bring love into other people’s lives without some expectation of them meeting your needs.
  • When your outside doesn’t match your inside.
  • How to debunk and neutralize old stories you have about yourself.
  • How to grow “deep roots” to get you through any storm
  • You have everything inside already. You just have to believe it is there.
  • Look forward to meeting the new version of yourself.
  • Success doesn’t happen when conditions are perfect.
  • Advice for men who want to grow but are afraid to leave a comfortable (yet unfulfilling) life
  • Pick something you’ve always wanted to do, start it, and suck at it.
  • Fear holds you back, but love conquers fear.
  • Why you can’t be strong for your spouse if you don’t love yourself.
  • How to open up new possibilities for yourself through intentional challenge
  • How to have real conversations that lift you up
  • If you don’t have a tribe, you will always feel like something is missing.
  • Why you should learn how to talk to strangers
  • Using the coronavirus pandemic as a time to reflect and grow

MENTIONED EPISODES:

The Challenges of Being a Military Veteran Dad

The Secrets to Achieving Wildly Important Goals with Mark Divine

TRANSFORMED: A Navy SEAL’s Unlikely Journey to Defying All Odds with Remi Adeleke


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THRIVE IN THE FACE OF UNCERTAINTY

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Dad Edge Virtual Summit 2020

IT’S TIME TO REINVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
Dominic Quartuccio
Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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karen brody

The Secret Language of Your Woman’s Desire with Karen Brody


How can we get back the amazing sex and emotional connection we had when we first met our wives? Where do we go wrong when it comes to exciting our women and igniting their passion? How can we change the direction of our relationship with our spouse when it seems like everything we do is wrong?

Karen Brody is a man coach and bestselling author of Open Her: Activate 7 Masculine Powers to Arouse Your Woman’s Love & Desire.

Karen goes in-depth about how we, as men, lose our power in marriage, how we kill the attraction our wives have for us, and how we can understand our women better than they understand themselves.

You will have some major epiphanies during this show as Karen Brody reveals the secret language of your woman’s desire. Put this episode on repeat!

You don’t want to rely on your partner to fill a hole in you. When you have a sense of fullness you will be more attractive to her.—Karen Brody

Karen Brody

Karen Brody is a Relationship Coach for Men and a former journalist, who lives in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, with her sweetheart and her cat. Her favorite things to do are Salsa dancing, road trips with no destination, and weekends in nature hiking, reading and writing. Karen’s life purpose is to help awaken a healthy masculinity in men, and to guide men and women to discover each other in a deeply connected, eyes wide open dance of love.

If a man’s going to negotiate a woman well, he has to learn to not take what she feels personally, because it’s always changing.—Karen Brody

What You’ll Learn

  • How Karen Brody helps men orient to their power, goodness, and sexuality
  • The false ideas women have about men
  • How married men are invested in their relationships
  • The richness of a man’s sexuality
  • When men are starved for sex, their focus becomes about sex.
  • The most common problems men have in relationships:
    • A lost spark
    • The woman isn’t sharing anymore
    • The woman has lost desire
    • The woman is not trusting the man’s decisions and makes her own way
  • Most men think the more accommodating they are to their woman, the happier she will be. It is the opposite.
  • Women want positive tension with a man. They will test their partner’s strength and resolve. When the man backs down, the sexual attraction decreases.
  • Don’t tell women what they want to hear to secure sex. They will know.
  • Weak listening is how a man loses connection with his wife.
  • Women want a man’s acceptance.
  • Men want to resolve problems. Women just want to be heard.
  • Why women will nag about what’s negative and what’s missing. A man must learn how to listen between the lines.
  • Don’t take criticism literally but interpret what’s going on behind her complaints.
  • A woman must be open emotionally to be open sexually.
  • Invite your woman to express her emotions.
  • The smallest thing men can do is focus on the quality of their attention.
  • Women pull away when their men seem bored, tense, or irritated.
  • Ask her how she is and really mean it.
  • Women always look for safety and turn to men to be a safe harbor.
  • Men should take time for themselves to become calm before reaching out to connect.
  • The more a man doesn’t get upset at his woman’s emotional storms, the more he looks like her hero.
  • Why expectation diminishes your influence
  • When a relationship is in turmoil, the woman withholds sex. The man withdraws support.
  • Do things for your wife selflessly and because it makes you feel good, not to bargain for sex. Being needy robs you of power.
  • How we can communicate our needs without being demanding
  • How to ask for more affection in a way that won’t pressure a woman.
  • Women are turned on by men who are clear on what they want.
  • Scheduling sex is a good thing.
  • Give your woman space to miss you.


RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar

How to Have Amazing Sex in Your Marriage with Dr. Emily Morse

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

 


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Creating a Family Culture of Connection

Creating a Family Culture of Connection

Some of the most popular shows on The Dad Edge Podcast are interviews with female guests. Men love to hear a woman’s perspective on how we, as husbands and fathers, can deepen our relationships with our wives and children.

Today’s guest is Mary Saturnio. She is the creator of the Mindful Moms Movement, a mastermind for women that aims to create wildly fun memories and a legacy of intention.

She is going to talk about how to create a family culture of connection by using simple hacks that open creativity, encourage communication, and keep family life fun and thriving.

Get ready to live a joyful, mindful life with your family!

Creating a Family Culture of Connection

What You’ll Learn

Connection with Kids

  • Go-to activities to get kids to flourish
  • The benefit of letting kids create using items around the house
  • Getting your kids to start a Problem Journal where they write about how to solve the problems they see in the world
  • Getting your kids comfortable with public speaking on the fly by giving them prompts and having them improvise stories out loud
  • Making mealtimes into conversation times
  • Creative questions to ask your kids on the way home from school that deepen connection

Connection with Spouse

  • The value of setting an intention together as a couple every morning
  • How and why vulnerability is attractive to women
  • Advice for men on being open and honest with your wife
  • Why holding back your stressful feelings to protect your wife is destructive to the relationship

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10 Questions to Deeper Connection with Your Teen


As our kids get into their teens, they tend to isolate and become more independent. Their thoughts and feelings grow more complex. Asking them about their day at school is not enough to get them to open up about what’s going on inside their heads, and they are not going to volunteer information. How can we better connect with our teenagers?

This is a crucial time for our kids, and the quality of our relationships depends on the quality of the questions we ask. If we want our teenagers to feel free to communicate with us, we have to be proactive about getting to know the person they’re becoming.

In this short episode, we list ten questions to a deeper connection with your teen.

10 Questions to Deeper Connection with Your Teen

1. Would you rather receive 1 million dollars in one month or one cent doubled every day for 30 days?

2. Would you rather be a boss or an employee?

3. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

4. Describe yourself in five words or less.

5. If you could give every person in the world a gift, what would it be?

6. If you were president and had to choose three people to assist you, who would you pick and why?

7. If you could set one rule for our family to follow, what would it be?

8. Where would you live if you could live anywhere in the world?

9. When do you think a teen becomes and adult?

10. What lesson have you learned in life do you feel has been the most useful?

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