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The 12 Traits of a Warrior Part 1: The Hard Traits with Chris Sajnog


As men, we do battle every single day. Not only are we fighting to maintain and grow our careers, finances, and family, we fight an internal battle at all times. We have to deal with negative self-talk, bad habits, and anxiety. It’s not to say that life is always a warzone, but it can be challenging, and we can be prepared to face the challenges with a warrior’s skillset.

Chris Sajnog is a Navy SEAL sniper and our third more popular all-time former guest. He is back to teach us how master our thoughts and emotions, become solid leaders, and raise strong children by adopting the Twelve Traits of a Warrior. In this first part of a two-part series, we discuss the six ‘Hard Traits.’

We are the stories we tell ourselves and most people are telling themselves the wrong stories. @ChrisSajnog #dads #fathers #men #warriors Click To Tweet

Chris Sajnog

Chris Sajnog is one the most elite Navy SEAL snipers in the world and the bestselling author of ‘How to Shoot Like Navy SEAL’ and ‘Navy SEAL Shooting’. He is on a mission to help men develop The 12 Traits of the Warrior in order to live a more balanced life. The hard traits are:

  1. Confidence
  2. Strength
  3. Aggressiveness
  4. Discipline
  5. Being Active
  6. Bravery
Every morning when you wake up, you can tell yourself what kind of day you're going to have. @ChrisSajnog #motivation #selftalk #mindset Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How he teaches snipers
  • Why a warrior is able to learn and become great at whatever they want to do
  • How a civilian can learn the warrior mindset to learn and improve more quickly
  • What are the hard traits and why we need them
  • What are the soft traits and how do they balance the hard traits
  • What happens when someone is out of balance
  • How these traits affect PTSD
  • How to go from the mentality of an ordinary dad and worker to the mentality of a warrior
  • How warrior traits can be applied to everyday life
  • How to grow a set of N.U.T.S. (non-negotiable unalterable terms)
  • Why waiting for a situation to happen to decide how you’re going to react is a mistake
  • How to decide in advance how you will respond
  • How to feel confident doing something you’ve never done before
  • Why mental strength is superior to physical strength
  • Why being aggressive is necessary
  • Why constantly taking action is crucial to keep moving forward
  • What bravery really means
  • How to teach our kids warrior qualities
  • Why you should let your kids fight and wrestle
  • How to show your children the rewards of being disciplined
  • How to make your kids aware of the consequences of their own choices

Sometimes people need to get punched in the face, and you need to be okay with that. @ChrisSajnog #men #dads #fathers #parenting Click To Tweet

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How to Unf*ck Yourself

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop

As men, we like to plan. We like to be able to foresee what’s going to happen so that we can be prepared, but life will inevitably throw curveballs our way. These periods of uncertainty can provoke stress, anxiety, and fear. How can we embrace uncertainty and use as the most powerful opportunity to grow?

Gary John Bishop is one of the world’s elite performance coaches and NY Times Bestselling Author of Unf*ck Yourself. He is here to teach us how to embrace uncertainty, how to take extreme ownership of our lives, and how we can teach our kids to do the same.

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Gary John Bishop

You might notice from his accent that Gary John Bishop is Scottish. He moved to the US in 1994 and toured as a musician, meeting famous people and his wife who he is still very much in love with to this day.

Gary eventually gave up music and got into construction. He was asked to do a personal development course and refused. It seemed liked foo-foo stuff to him. But Gary ended up taking the course and it blew his mind. He was forced to get uncomfortable and face his life. He came out the other side with life-altering insights.

From then on, Gary was fascinated by the personal development world and became the senior program director for the largest personal development company. He realized that he was wrong about himself. He was not the solid person he thought he was. He started questioning his thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and how they were affecting his decisions in life. He listened to the dialogue he kept with himself. He started to explore it and change it. Now he has his own coaching business, his book, and a series of courses.

'You have so many thoughts a day. 80-90% of those thoughts you had yesterday. You want to change your life, but you’re thinking the same stuff.' @GaryJohnBishop #thoughts #innerdialogue #selftalk #personalgrowth Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why we are wired for certainty
  • Why uncertainty is inevitable no matter how hard we try to avoid it
  • How you can empower yourself by embracing uncertainty
  • How to analyze your thoughts to find weak and limiting inner dialogue
  • How to stop living in the idea of what you think should happen and operate in reality
  • Why there’s a lot of pressure as a dad to have all the answers
  • How to give yourself room for your own humanity
  • Why it’s good to be human in front of your kids
  • How to take responsibility for the way you are
  • How we give away our power by basing our happiness on other peoples’ behavior
  • How to instill ownership in your kids from an early age
  • How to stop the blame game
  • How to be with yourself when you’re at your worst
  • Why men avoid being pressed, but should embrace being stressed
  • How to be in communication with your feelings
  • Why positive psychology doesn’t work for some people
  • Why the language you use with yourself is so important
  • Why consciously and cognitively connecting other people is crucial
'The things that stop you in life are very much in the background of your own thinking.' @GaryJohnBishop #men #dads #fathers #thoughts #selflimitingbeliefs Click To Tweet

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4 Questions to Crush Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

4 Questions to Crush Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

In our last episode, Wes Chapman shared his horrific story of trauma and how his whole life he had been told that he would never be a normal, successful, happy person because of what he went through. Wes healed and soared above his past. If he believed in his heart what all the doctors and adults told him, he would never be able to become the extraordinary man he is today.

It’s bad enough when other people are putting us down, but for many of us, our worst enemy is ourselves. We tell ourselves we’re not good enough, that we’re not capable, or that we’re inadequate. This negative self-talk silently kills us every day.

In today’s short episode I give four questions we can ask ourselves to crush self-sabotaging thoughts.

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Process to Build Unshakable Confidence

The 4-Step Process to Build Unshakable Confidence

In this episode of Thursday Throwdown, I’m going to share with you some very powerful information from former Navy SEAL Larry Yatch and outline his 4-step process to build unshakable confidence in every aspect of your life. You don’t want to miss this short, simple, yet life-changing podcast.

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The Art of Charm and Professional Relationships with Jordan Harbinger

The Art of Charm and Professional Relationships with Jordan Harbinger

Work relationship issues can lead to broken deals, missed promotions, and lost jobs. Today, Jordan Harbinger from the Art of Charm Podcast uncovers the truths and smashes the myths about building relationships at work. He also tells us how our body language dictates how we are treated, and gives us his drill to start appearing more confident and competent right away.

Jordan Harbinger’s Story

Jordan is not a dad, but course, he had a dad. He got into trouble as a kid because his dad was always working. Working hard was how his father showed love to his kids. Jordan says this was not a great way to be a father. Every kid would rather have time with their dad.

Jordan started skipping school. He wasn’t cool, so he didn’t go hang out with the other kids. He went home to his computer and spent all his time on the internet – the internet of 1993. It was nothing like the world wide web we know today. Jordan figured out ways to tap phone calls. At the age of thirteen, he was exposed to conversations about real emotions and problems. The world of adults became three-dimensional to him and it opened him up to how complex human relationships are. It became his obsession.

After he graduated law school, he got internship at an old prestigious white-shoe firm. Jordan noticed one of the partners was never there. One day he asked him, “why are you always out of the office? And how do you still make so much money?” The man told Jordan that he didn’t worry about billing hours because he brought in a lot of deals. He focused on business generation, not so much client service. He went out to enjoy golf, jujitsu, cruises, and events for charities. His socializing generated the relationships that brought the firm revenue.

At that moment, Jordan’s mind imploded. All patterns he had in his head about how work works were turned upside down. He realized that the way you network is through generating and putting energy into relationships, and, like parenting and marriage, something grows out of that.

What Happens if We Don’t Work on Professional Relationships?

Jordan keeps tabs on his old buddies who are finding themselves behind. They keep hitting barricades and never get the promotions they’re expecting. They work hard and wonder why they’re stuck.

Jordan says, ninety-nine times the guy didn’t outperform you, but out-networked you.

If you’re in an organization, and you’re not mindfully working on relationships, you’re being willfully ignorant of the secret game being played around you.

Why We’ve Ignored the Social Aspects of Business

Most of our dads taught us to work as hard as we can and never give up. Eventually, our hard work gets noticed. We get promoted and promoted again. Maybe we even get to the top. Or, maybe not.

Myth

This old-school mindset leads us to believe that:

  • We should be getting promoted for work ethic and skill – nothing else.
  • If we didn’t sweat and grind for it, it isn’t ours.
  • Getting something as a result of our relationships is wrong.

This way of thinking is setting us up for failure. Relationships with people in our career-life are just as important as the ones with our wife and family. If we put time and effort into connecting with people, there is nothing wrong with enjoying the success we may achieve as a result. If we fail to build rapport with the people in our professional lives, we will lose out.

Face It.

People are going to choose the people they like. If there are three candidates with roughly the same qualifications, the person in charge will choose the one they feel most comfortable with. They will choose someone they work well with and have fun with.

It’s not just about likeability, it’s about productivity and success. It’s very rare that a team who is qualified and gets along doesn’t succeed. But we see the disaster that happens when teams that do NOT get along. One poorly chosen team member can ruin a whole project, and everyone fails. This is why sometimes highly-qualified candidates get passed over for a better team player or someone with better social and management skills.

Building Rapport and Self-confidence

We receive first impressions visually. Nonverbal communication is our first way to show confidence and competence. Appearing confident will cause people to treat you differently. Once we’re treated with respect, we act accordingly. When we carry ourselves differently, we’re treated differently. When we’re treated differently, we’ll act differently. We actually grow into those personality characteristics.

Project Confidence, not Ego

Projecting confidence is not trying to be the emotionless Rambo-type. Some of us developed emotional toughness in our school days to protect us and never outgrew it. But now it’s time to drop the tough-guy act. We want to act confident, not egotistical.

Be the First One to Be Vulnerable

People bond over shared experiences. Knowing, liking, and trusting has to do with vulnerability. Be the first person to display weakness with confidence. Share a relatable problem. This helps generate rapport and people feel they can trust you. No one will feel safe sharing with you if you don’t share with them.

Body Language and Confidence

Stand up straight with your chin up, shoulders back, and with a smile on your face. This is open, positive body language, but it’s hard to manage nonverbal when you’re in the middle of interacting. You can’t remember all the time. It needs to be a habit so you don’t have to think about it anymore.How can we condition ourselves to use confident body language without thinking about it?

Jordan Harbinger’s Doorway Drill

You can do this drill in your own house. Every time you walk through a doorway, remember to stand up, put your chin up, put your shoulders back, and smile. If you have trouble remembering to do this, take a pad of post it notes and leave them on all the doorways. Every time you see the post it, you’ll wonder why it’s there and you’ll remember the drill. By the time you become blind to the post it notes, you will get the doorway drill.

Jordan Harbinger’s Dad Wisdom (as a son)

Don’t think that talking about your day is boring to your kids.

Many men don’t want to talk about work to our families. We think it’s stressful or uninteresting. But as a boy, Jordan said he would have loved to hear about his dad’s work and about what grown men are supposed to do day to day.

Being a dad is not just provide, provide, provide. Part of being vulnerable is sharing daily challenges with our kids. Spend some time with your kids. Use it to build a bond with them.  Take advantage of the fact they want to listen to you. When they’re older, they might not.

 


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