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Communication with Your Wife

Communication with Your Wife: What You’re Missing


All marriages have highs and lows, but what happens when things never seem to get better? Have you tried to do everything you think is right, but nothing seems to be working? Communication with your wife has broken down. Resentment grows, walls build up, and you look at your spouse and wonder, what happened to us?

Today we have everyday dad and husband, Ryan on the show. He is the thirty-five-year-old father of three and has a fourth child on the way. His marriage fell into a slump, and he knew he couldn’t just leave it on auto-pilot. He joined The Dad Edge Alliance, and in talking with the other members, learned that the marriage problems he had were extremely common and fixable.

In this short episode, Ryan shares what he’s learned to take his relationship from “fine” to on fire, and one communication tip that will totally shifted the way his marriage works.

 

RELATED EPISODES

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 2—The Partnership

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 3—Becoming Friends

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

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One Extraordinary Marriage

One Extraordinary Marriage with Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo


Today we’re going to focus in on our marriages. Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo are the hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, which has been going nine years strong. They are also the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, 7 Days of Sex Challenge. When you listen to their actionable advice, you’ll understand how they’ve helped people from all over the world transform their relationships with their spouses. get ready to transform yours.

In this show, Tony and Alisa talk about:

  • How to become a proactive instead of reactive participant in your marriage
  • Why you need to take divorce off the table and go “all in”
  • How to approach your spouse with appreciation, not expectation
  • How to begin difficult conversations about raising kids, sex, and finances
  • What their 7 Days of Sex Challenge is all about and how it will make your marriage extraordinary

Learn the principles of keeping your marriage passionate, alive, and flourishing!

People look at love as a noun, but love is a verb. It’s action.

From Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo

“We have been married for 22 years and not all of them have been happy ones.  Like you, we came together with every good intention and “forever” in mind, but then “life” happened and we found ourselves ill prepared to deal with our marriage challenges.

Not only were we struggling as a couple, but also we were both struggling with our own personal hurdles independent of one another.  Our “bumps in the road” were actually mountains in our eyes and we knew that in order to get to the other side, keep our family together, and experience a loving, intimate marriage, we were going to need to dig deep and address our circumstances head-on.

Dealing with it all was our commitment to each other.  Together, we overcame Tony’s 18-year addiction to pornography, the loss of a child at 18 weeks, debt in excess of $50,000, poor communication, lack of collective interests, and questioning trust.  But, the key word here is “together”.

We’ve learned some hard knock life lessons and we’ve discovered key principles that have kept our marriage (and sex life) alive and flourishing… and we did it together.  We can do the same for you!”

Get ready to create one extraordinary marriage!

What You’ll Learn

  • What birthed the idea of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast
  • How at one point in their marriage, Tony and Alisa’s options were to divorce now, divorce when the kids turned 18, or get radical
  • Their experience with a 60-Days of Sex Challenge
  • The oversight most of us make when it comes to marriage—we’re intentional about health and business and we’ll hire fitness coaches and financial advisors, but we assume that our relationship will work out on its own
  • The importance of becoming an active participant in marriage
  • Why leaving divorce on the table keeps us from committing to making a marriage work
  • What happens when we remove divorce as an option and have to go “all in”
  • Why you have to work on yourself individually as well as a couple
  • If you lost that loving feeling it’s probably because you haven’t taken any action
  • How men often wait for their spouses to tell them what they want when they should just ask
  • How to find out how to speak to your wife’s heart again
  • Why her definition of romance may have changed since you first fell in love
  • How to ask her the right questions and give her a safe space to answer you
  • The old-fashioned charm of handwritten love letters
  • How expectations can be destructive, especially if they stay in your head
  • Using appreciation to shift the energy between you and your spouse
  • The adversarial physical positions you should avoid when having and important conversation
  • How to be on the same team, shoulder to shoulder with the two of you against the problem, not each other
  • If you think brining up a subject like sex is going to feel weird, own it. Say that you feel awkward
  • Why you don’t have to fix everything before initiating a sex challenge
  • How to add a sex challenge into your schedule, even if you have kids
  • Alisa’s script you can use to open your wife up to the idea of doing a sex challenge
  • Why you should never talk about sex in the bedroom

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How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

Everything You Need to Know About Identity Theft with Barry Russel


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Tony and Alisa’s Links

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How to Light Your Woman Up

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar


Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Out of those that stay together, only seventeen percent report being happy. It seems like the odds are against us. Is it possible to take our marriages, whether they are meh or miserable, and transform them into passionate, thriving relationships?

Today we get a woman’s raw perspective. Brandy Salazar, co-author of The Miracle Morning for Couples, is back on the show. She talks about what we’re missing in marriages, communication secrets, and why your wife never seems to be “in the mood.” She also tells us how to get to know our wives on the deepest level so that we have fewer arguments, more fun, and the most amazing sex ever.

Gentlemen, you’ll want to take notes on this episode. Get ready to learn how to light your woman up!

Brandy Salazar

Brandy Salazar grew up in a dysfunctional home. At fifteen years old she found herself living with friends. She didn’t have a high school diploma. But that didn’t stop her from developing a six-figure real estate business. She met Lance and they got married. They had the house, the cars, the overly expensive shoes, but they were disconnected from each other. By the time they had their two daughters, their marriage was over. Brandy asked for a divorce.

Before making the final decision to end their marriage, Brandy and Lance gave it one more shot. What they realized is that they were not bringing their strengths to the marriage. The talents and effort they used to excel in business were not leveraged at home. When they approached their marriage with the right tools and mindset, they’re marriage went from hate and resentment to love and passion within thirty days.

You’re either growing or you’re dying

What You’ll Learn

  • How and why marriages fall into a boring routine
  • What motherhood does to a woman mentally and physically
  • How to focus on goals and a vision for your marriage instead of what’s wrong
  • Using a hat full of questions to become closer
  • The importance of investing in dates
  • Why women can become so overwhelmed and irritated
  • Planning out the logistics of household responsibilities so that everything gets done and you and your woman make space to relax and enjoy each other
  • Why you shouldn’t underestimate the power of taking out the trash
  • Staying curious about your partner
  • Defining partnership roles
  • Breaking patterns of complacency
  • How to communicate what you want without seeming needy
  • What inhibits women the most when it comes to sex
  • How to approach your woman with the same dedication you give to your business, health, or hobby
  • Getting your woman to a place where she feels sexy
  • The secret to leveraging your woman’s cycle for the best sex of your lives
  • How to fan the flame during sexual off-times
  • Switching neediness to desire
  • The right time to approach your woman about improving your marriage
  • Why your wife shouldn’t be your “everything”
  • Helping your wife to find herself again and grow so that she feels confident and empowered
  • Finding out what lights your woman up and brings her joy in a way that makes her more receptive to you
  • Why a woman sometimes takes on a masculine role
  • Why you need to be the servant leader of the household
  • What to do when you try everything you can to make her happy and nothing works

 

RELATED EPISODES

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 2—The Partnership

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 3—Becoming Friends

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids


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Brandy Salazar’s Links

Relationship Planning Guide

legendarycouples.com

The Momma Wives Tribe

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Amazon: The Miracle Morning for Couples: Create Legendary Connections One Morning at a Time

Resources

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Marriage Partnership

Marriage Partnership in Action

Last month for Thursday Throwdown, we covered the 4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage with Lance Salazar. Over 4 weeks, he broke it down into: The Individual, The Partnership, Becoming Friends, and Becoming Lovers. Today I’m going to talk about the marriage partnership in action.

I applied a quasi business-like approach to working with my wife to make sure we were on the same page when it came to responsibilities. This included a weekly meeting where we “frontloaded” and planned everything in advance, from who was taking the kids to school to what we were having for dinner. We even synchronized our schedule in a Google calendar. Is it worth doing all this tedious planning? How does it benefit our marriage?

Listen and find out!

Don’t forget to catch up with the other episodes in this series!

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 2—The Partnership

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 3—Becoming Friends

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 4—Becoming Lovers

 

RELATED EPISODES

How to Optimize The Structure of Work, Family, and Fulfillment with Dave Hollis

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood


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4 Elements of a LEGENDARY MARRIAGE

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 2—The Partnership

We are dedicating this month to designing our relationships with our spouses. Lance Salazar cofounder of Legendary Couples and coauthor of The Miracle Morning for Couples is back for Part 2 of  this series. He has broken down the 4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage as:

  1. The Individual
  2. The Partnership
  3. Becoming Friends
  4. Becoming Lovers

Last week, we talked about putting marriage aside and developing ourselves as individuals first. This week we focus on the partnership, which includes opening up a dialogue about goals, roles, finances, and parenting.

The Partnership

The partnership aspect is about working as a team. It’s about focusing on each other’s strengths instead of weaknesses. What are you good at? What do you actually like to do? What is your spouse better at? What does she enjoy? Assign tasks accordingly. There is no need to argue when each partner knows what they are responsible for.

In a partnership, it is also important to define shared core values for the family and develop a “being” statement. Then a family can decide how they will put those values into action. Each member knows why they must do their part and how it fits into the bigger picture of family goals.

What is your money mindset as a couple? Once core values and goals are identified, planning finances is easier.

Finally, when it comes to parenting, Lance Salazar says if you’re not talking about it, you’re fighting about it. A couple must agree on how they will discipline their kids. He also suggests having a family meeting once a week to go over everyone schedules. This helps eliminate surprises, confusion, and unnecessary stress.

“Coming together is the beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”—Henry Ford

Be sure to tune in next Thursday for the third episode with Lance Salazar, 4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 3—Becoming Friends.

 

MENTIONED EPISODES

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

How to Optimize The Structure of Work, Family, and Fulfillment with Dave Hollis


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MENTIONED EPISODES

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

Being a Good Dad with “The Miracle Morning”


Lance Salazar’s Links

Relationship Planning Guide

legendarycouples.com

Facebook

Instagram

Amazon: The Miracle Morning for Couples: Create Legendary Connections One Morning at a Time

Resources

Fill out an application for The Dad Edge Alliance

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

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We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links


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Learn More About Our Live Event!

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