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Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse

3 Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse


We feel like communication with our wives and children should come naturally. If we love them, and they love us, it should be easy to understand each other. Right?

Wrong. What most of us don’t realize is that communication is a skill that can be learned. If we master the way we approach conversations, we will drastically improve our relationships.

In this episode, we share three techniques for deep communication with your spouse. These simple skills will put an end to stress, arguments, and misunderstandings.

At the same time, they will create a space of connection, safety, and intimacy in your marriage. Don’t miss this short, incredibly effective episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • Why women get so frustrated when trying to talk to men
  • How to practice tactical empathy to create a space of psychological safety
  • How to ask generative questions
  • Why we should exclude the word “why” when our spouse is sharing with us

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Fixing Your Marriage

Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage with Mort Fertel

We think that if our marriages take work, something’s wrong. Our culture makes love out to be a mystery. We believe we have to be lucky in love to find a happy relationship.

Today, we are going to debunk that mindset. There is a methodology to fixing your marriage.

Mort Fertel is the creator of Marriage Fitness, the most successful marriage crisis program in the world. He tells us that marriage is not something that comes naturally. It’s something that must be, and can be, learned.

Mort reveals the elements that destroy a marriage and gives us the tools we need to take our parenting and relationship skills to the next level.

We also invite listeners to a 30-day challenge that will make effective relationship behaviors a solid habit. Get the secrets to fixing your marriage and more in this episode!

Marriage is like anything else in life—hitting a golf ball, shooting a jump shot, arguing a case in court, or performing an operation. If we can understand and practice, we are more likely to succeed.—Mort Fertel

Mort Fertel

Mort Fertel is the creator of Marriage Fitness, a relationship renewal system that’s been used by millions of people in marital crisis. In addition to his success with couples, he pioneered the “Lone Ranger Track,” which offers people with an obstinate spouse a path to reconciliation.

People from all over the world schedule private tele-sessions with Mort Fertel and seek his counsel by joining the Marriage Fitness Tele-Boot Camp, the most comprehensive relationship home learning program in the world. Mort Fertel is the author of Marriage Fitness Audio Learning System and the host of the “Fix Your Marriage” podcast. Over 3 million people have subscribed to his free report “7 Secrets to Fixing Your Marriage.”

Mort Fertel is the subject of Back from the Brink, a documentary written and directed by Toroes Thomas, which chronicles people in marriage crisis.

Mort Fertel graduated from the University of Pennsylvania in 1987, was the CEO of an international non-profit organization, and a former marathon runner. He lives with his wife and 5 children (including triplets!) in Baltimore, Maryland.

We have to become experts at catching our spouse doing something right.—Mort Fertel

What You’ll Learn

  • Marriage and relationships work according to universal laws, like gravity.
  • Why people are resistant to get help when their marriage is in trouble
  • Why humility is the number one a quality you should look for in a partner
  • Three Cs that destroy a relationship, leading to the 4th C, cancer of the marriage:
    • Criticize
    • Condemn
    • Complain
  • How to discipline ourselves to not complain and criticize our spouses and children
  • How to express feelings and disappointment without condemning
  • Avoiding “You always… You never…” phrases
  • “The remember when…” technique to encourage more of what you want from your wife
  • How to set your wife up to be your hero
  • Highlight what she’s doing right.
  • Why we should never lie to our kids
  • How to parent our kids without being critical
  • A lack of self-esteem is the root of personal problems in adult life.
  • Punishment creates distance.
  • Connection is the most important thing in parenting.
  • It’s not possible to control a child, only to influence them.
  • Some moments with our kids are not teachable.
  • Sometimes the best thing for a parent to do is nothing.
  • When it comes to time with our kids, both quality AND quantity are important
  • Why we should let a child experience and see the natural consequences of their behavior
  • Always speak in a calm voice. Dignified people never yell.
  • The secret of practicing gratitude and appreciation in marriage.
  • Why we become numb to the qualities of our spouse that first attracted us
  • We pick out all the faults instead of what our spouse is doing right.
  • Being grateful and appreciative does not absolve our spouses from doing things we don’t like, but we should highlight and encourage the good.
  • Forming a new habit takes a tremendous amount of energy initially, but once we get momentum we keep going.
  • What it means to blend ourselves on the inside to stand out on the outside
  • Why we shouldn’t be flashy or behave in ways to try to attract attention to our external appearance.
  • Dress modestly to not make a statement and force people to get to know you inside.
  • Focus on becoming a tower of moral authority and a man of substantial character.
  • The ultimate fulfillment in life springs from character development, not physical and material accomplishments.
  • Gratitude, humbleness, discipline are the most important character traits.
  • The energy we spend on looking good on the outside should be spent reading, being introspective, and in prayer. Working on our flaws.
  • The quickest and easiest thing a guy can do to boost their marriage—catch your wife doing something right every day and make a big deal out of it.
  • The 30-day Challenge—add a reminder in your Google calendar every day to find something wonderful about your spouse and tell her.

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10 Questions to Deeper Connection with Your Teen


As our kids get into their teens, they tend to isolate and become more independent. Their thoughts and feelings grow more complex. Asking them about their day at school is not enough to get them to open up about what’s going on inside their heads, and they are not going to volunteer information. How can we better connect with our teenagers?

This is a crucial time for our kids, and the quality of our relationships depends on the quality of the questions we ask. If we want our teenagers to feel free to communicate with us, we have to be proactive about getting to know the person they’re becoming.

In this short episode, we list ten questions to a deeper connection with your teen.

10 Questions to Deeper Connection with Your Teen

1. Would you rather receive 1 million dollars in one month or one cent doubled every day for 30 days?

2. Would you rather be a boss or an employee?

3. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

4. Describe yourself in five words or less.

5. If you could give every person in the world a gift, what would it be?

6. If you were president and had to choose three people to assist you, who would you pick and why?

7. If you could set one rule for our family to follow, what would it be?

8. Where would you live if you could live anywhere in the world?

9. When do you think a teen becomes and adult?

10. What lesson have you learned in life do you feel has been the most useful?

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Communication with Your Wife

Communication with Your Wife: What You’re Missing


All marriages have highs and lows, but what happens when things never seem to get better? Have you tried to do everything you think is right, but nothing seems to be working? Communication with your wife has broken down. Resentment grows, walls build up, and you look at your spouse and wonder, what happened to us?

Today we have everyday dad and husband, Ryan on the show. He is the thirty-five-year-old father of three and has a fourth child on the way. His marriage fell into a slump, and he knew he couldn’t just leave it on auto-pilot. He joined The Dad Edge Alliance, and in talking with the other members, learned that the marriage problems he had were extremely common and fixable.

In this short episode, Ryan shares what he’s learned to take his relationship from “fine” to on fire, and one communication tip that will totally shifted the way his marriage works.

 

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One Extraordinary Marriage

One Extraordinary Marriage with Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo


Today we’re going to focus in on our marriages. Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo are the hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast, which has been going nine years strong. They are also the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, 7 Days of Sex Challenge. When you listen to their actionable advice, you’ll understand how they’ve helped people from all over the world transform their relationships with their spouses. get ready to transform yours.

In this show, Tony and Alisa talk about:

  • How to become a proactive instead of reactive participant in your marriage
  • Why you need to take divorce off the table and go “all in”
  • How to approach your spouse with appreciation, not expectation
  • How to begin difficult conversations about raising kids, sex, and finances
  • What their 7 Days of Sex Challenge is all about and how it will make your marriage extraordinary

Learn the principles of keeping your marriage passionate, alive, and flourishing!

People look at love as a noun, but love is a verb. It’s action.

From Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo

“We have been married for 22 years and not all of them have been happy ones.  Like you, we came together with every good intention and “forever” in mind, but then “life” happened and we found ourselves ill prepared to deal with our marriage challenges.

Not only were we struggling as a couple, but also we were both struggling with our own personal hurdles independent of one another.  Our “bumps in the road” were actually mountains in our eyes and we knew that in order to get to the other side, keep our family together, and experience a loving, intimate marriage, we were going to need to dig deep and address our circumstances head-on.

Dealing with it all was our commitment to each other.  Together, we overcame Tony’s 18-year addiction to pornography, the loss of a child at 18 weeks, debt in excess of $50,000, poor communication, lack of collective interests, and questioning trust.  But, the key word here is “together”.

We’ve learned some hard knock life lessons and we’ve discovered key principles that have kept our marriage (and sex life) alive and flourishing… and we did it together.  We can do the same for you!”

Get ready to create one extraordinary marriage!

What You’ll Learn

  • What birthed the idea of the One Extraordinary Marriage podcast
  • How at one point in their marriage, Tony and Alisa’s options were to divorce now, divorce when the kids turned 18, or get radical
  • Their experience with a 60-Days of Sex Challenge
  • The oversight most of us make when it comes to marriage—we’re intentional about health and business and we’ll hire fitness coaches and financial advisors, but we assume that our relationship will work out on its own
  • The importance of becoming an active participant in marriage
  • Why leaving divorce on the table keeps us from committing to making a marriage work
  • What happens when we remove divorce as an option and have to go “all in”
  • Why you have to work on yourself individually as well as a couple
  • If you lost that loving feeling it’s probably because you haven’t taken any action
  • How men often wait for their spouses to tell them what they want when they should just ask
  • How to find out how to speak to your wife’s heart again
  • Why her definition of romance may have changed since you first fell in love
  • How to ask her the right questions and give her a safe space to answer you
  • The old-fashioned charm of handwritten love letters
  • How expectations can be destructive, especially if they stay in your head
  • Using appreciation to shift the energy between you and your spouse
  • The adversarial physical positions you should avoid when having and important conversation
  • How to be on the same team, shoulder to shoulder with the two of you against the problem, not each other
  • If you think brining up a subject like sex is going to feel weird, own it. Say that you feel awkward
  • Why you don’t have to fix everything before initiating a sex challenge
  • How to add a sex challenge into your schedule, even if you have kids
  • Alisa’s script you can use to open your wife up to the idea of doing a sex challenge
  • Why you should never talk about sex in the bedroom

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