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How to Build a Ridiculously Fulfilling Marriage with Nate Bagley


Marriages have taken a beating during the pandemic. We are under a constant generalized stress that keeps our nerves on edge and lowers our emotional capacity. But we can use this time to build a ridiculously fulfilling marriage, and our guest today teaches us how.

Nate Bagley is a marriage researcher, educator, husband, and a new dad. He is the founder of the Growth Marriage Community and podcast and his mission is to rid the world of mediocre love.

Nate has an incredible story. Before he got married, he quit his job and toured the country to gather information that 99% of us do not get. What do madly in love couples do that everyone else is missing out on?

Let’s find out!

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Nate sold everything he had, rose 30K on Kickstarter, and went cross-country to interview 100 couples.
  • Your marriage is the sum of all the couples you’re surrounded with.
  • Just because people are married doesn’t mean they have a good marriage.
  • Most fulfilled couples don’t pursue happiness. The goal is not to be happy. Pursue growth and happiness will be the result.
  • You cannot depend on your partner to validate your existence.
  • Going through struggles together increases joy and connection.
  • It’s your job to make you happy, not your partner’s.
  • Our body chemicals trick us into expecting happiness from our partner because that’s what we experience when we first fall in love.
  • We go from yearning to earning affection.
  • There are different stages of love that we must accept.
  • The idea that couples are supposed to become one is mistaken. That is codependency or enmeshment.
  • You are two separate individuals with different desires who support each other.
  • How to tell if you are integrated with your partner in an unhealthy way
  • The paradox of marriage—you have to meet opposing needs at the same time.
  • Sometimes you need swing from closeness to independence, or from novelty to predictability, and back again.
  • If you’re not having great sex, your marriage is probably not great.
  • There is an emotional and spiritual aspect of sex beyond physical satisfaction.
  • When marriage becomes like work, it’s important to make sex a priority.
  • Find a balance between safety and pleasure in the bedroom.
  • Most people have stale sex lives because it consists of whatever they’re comfortable with without rocking the boat.
  • Sex becomes a routine that feels boring because it feels safe. Expand your comfort zone to improve your sex life.
  • Manage your anxiety. Self-soothe. Learn to recognize what is legitimate fear. Then you can tolerate uncomfortable conversations and be curious instead of anxious about new experiences in the bedroom.
  • Part of having a great sex life is to handle rejection with grace.

RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to an Awesome Marriage with Dr. Kim Kimberling

How to Fix Your Unhappy Marriage with Seth and Melanie Studley

Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman

 


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AWESOME marriage

Secrets to an Awesome Marriage with Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage is one of the most challenging and important relationships in our lives, yet most of us come into it completely unprepared. So many men struggle to connect with their wives. Maybe we’re giving it all we have, and it seems like nothing works. We might wonder if it was ever meant to be, and we must decide whether we should divorce or settle for a lifelong roommate.

We want neither.

We want an awesome marriage.

Today we have Dr. Kim Kimberling on the show to reveal the secrets to an awesome marriage. He is going to teach us to empower ourselves with simple tools that we can use everyday to build trust, communication, and sexual intimacy.

A strong marriage is the best gift we can give our kids.

It’s time to build an awesome marriage you believe in.

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Dr. Kim has been a professional counselor for over thirty years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. He also holds Masters Degrees in Christian Ministry and Theological Studies, and a Bachelors of Business Administration. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage reaches thousands of people each month with God’s plan for marriage and relationships.

Dr. Kim has been married to his lovely wife Nancy for over 40 years. Together they have two adult married children and five awesome grandchildren.

7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage: Strengthen Your Most Intimate Relationship

All of us want an enduring marriage, a beautiful marriage we can believe in. That kind of marriage happens through intimacy. Intimacy requires hard work and a guide. Dr. Kim Kimberling is that guide and this book and its tools will show you how communication and intimacy in marriage can be yours.

Kimberling offers insights like connecting every day in spite of what’s in the way, learning how to fight in the right ways, stopping the insanity of doing the same thing over and over even when it isn’t working, and finding that the best sex ever is well within the context of Christian marriages.

Once these 7 secrets are a part of your marriage, you can stand together and fight anything that would ever try to tear your marriage apart.

Whether you have just celebrated your first anniversary or your fiftieth, 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage by Dr. Kim Kimberling is for you.  If you have a good marriage, this book can help you have a great marriage.  If you are struggling, Kim Kimberling will help you turn the corner and make your marriage into what you want it to be.

What You’ll Learn

  • The best gift for kids is a strong marriage
  • Your kids need to see you dating
  • You can’t put your marriage on hiatus
  • We’re all vulnerable to affairs if we leave our marriage unattended
  • We work very hard to put the ring on the girl’s finger, but then we slack off.
  • We have to keep pursuing our wives.
  • Your wife wants to have a relational conversation with you. Communicate 30 minutes a day.
  • Be a good listener. Focus and respond and engage.
  • You have to know your spouse. What makes her feel loved and care for?
  • She must know that you are there for her today, tomorrow, and always.
  • Women must completely trust you to open up sexually
  • Affirm your spouse in public.
  • How to express your needs as a man without feeling shame, guilt, or needy
  • Do not minimize what is important to you.
  • Reinforce what you like from her.
  • Keep your expectations realistic.
  • Being a bad communicator is not in your DNA. You can learn how to communicate.
  • The simplest way to start communication is to ask basic questions. What’s the best thing that happened to you today? What’s the worst thing? How did you see God work in the world today?
  • It’s not her against you or vice versa. You’re a team.
  • Try this for 30 days and see what results you get.
  • How to evaluate if your marriage has improved?
  • Stay true to the values you share with your spouse.
  • Get an accountability partner to help you avoid temptation to pornography or other women.
  • Use this time of social distancing to grow your marriage instead of destroying it.

RELATED EPISODES:

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Ultimate Guide to Demystifying Women with Robert Kandell

Sexploration and Intimacy Tips for Married Men with Dr. Corey Allan



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healthy habits

Healthy Habits for Marriage, Fatherhood, and Fitness


Lockdown has affected us physically as well as mentally. Our relationships have been challenged like never before. But we have the power to recalibrate with healthy habits that will help our bodies, minds, and connection to our families.

Today we talk to everyday dad and Dad Edge Alliance member, Jordan Kaufman. He talks about the signs that warned him he needed to change, why he committed to an extreme health challenge, and how he will use his newfound resilience to keep making his body, mind, and marriage stronger.

What You’ll Learn

  • Step outside of arguments to keep your cool and solve problems.
  • Train yourself to have more humility and be less defensive.
  • Listen to what your wife is really saying and not to how it’s being delivered.
  • Apply the growth mindset to your marriage. You might not get it today, but you will get it down the road.
  • Approach disagreements with appreciation and curiosity. You don’t have to agree, just understand.
  • You’re in control of your thoughts, responses, and actions, no matter how you feel.
  • Help your kids solve the problem instead of reacting to it.
  • Jordan took charge of his health when he realized he was getting dad boobs.
  • Accountability is the biggest factor in the success of fitness goals and all other goals.
  • Take care of yourself in the between moments. Small habits add up to big results.
  • Use your fitness routine as time with your children.

RELATED EPISODES:

Real AF Self-Discipline with Andy Frisella

What It’s Like to Do the 75Hard Challenge

Start Reaching Your Goals with an Accountability Partner


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fatherhood skills

Critical Fatherhood Skills

You do not have to be a victim of you past. You can learn to pivot and become stronger. Today’s guest proves it.

Everyday dad and Dad Edge Alliance member Christopher Wilson grew up with an abusive, alcoholic father. He never knew what a normal, healthy family was supposed to look like.

Now he is a husband and a father and works for the inspirational fitness community, Critical Bench. Chris shares what he learned from his difficult childhood, how he deals with his own patience and anger issues, and the critical fatherhood skills he uses to make sure his home is a happy one for his wife and kids.

Chris Wilson

Chris Wilson, BS, CPT, SSN has worked in the fitness industry for 20 years. He began as a personal trainer at World’s Gym after college in 1998 working with clients face to face. After managing a fitness center for years, he wanted to reach more people and has continued his coaching helping people all over the world sharing his passion and enthusiasm for fitness, strength and health.

What You’ll Learn

  • Abuse is a form of attention that children can learn to crave
  • How Chris got over anger and patience issues
  • Kids need to be part of something. Connection can help teens get through a rough life.
  • How Chris got through the why me victim moments
  • Even when Chris thought his dad didn’t love him, he knew God loved him and that got him through.
  • What Chris has learned about marriage.
  • Spouses become roommates when everything is about the kids.
  • As a man, be a sounding board for you wife. Women want to be heard.
  • If you don’t listen to you wife, she feels you don’t care.
  • Your wife needs you to show up at random moments.
  • When a woman’s unspoken needs are not fulfilled, she will reach a breaking point.
  • The importance of praise. Show your appreciation for all the little things.
  • How to stop taking things so personally in life
  • What to do about your inner bully
  • Don’t be too good to apologize to your kids.
  • Praise your kids for owning up to mistakes.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: The Modern Revolution of the Masculine Heart with John Eldredge


Our biggest regrets in life happen
when we’ve lost our patience. 

how to have more patience

 

Stop Reacting and Start Living

Do the work. Make a plan. Follow along with simple, yet powerful exercises and tap into the patience that is within you.

Get the Patience eCourse
Plus 1 FREE Month in the Dad Edge Alliance

Create an action plan to help you thrive in life and build the legacy you want.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE


Chris Wilson’s Links

youtube.com/user/Criticalbench/

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SAVAGE GENTLEMAN

The Savage Gentleman with MMA Fighter Josh Tyler


Life can often feel like a cage fight. Punches fly at us from every angle. We’re swept off of our feet and tackled to the ground. Sometimes we’re straight up knocked out. And if we aren’t prepared to battle, we might never get back up.

Today’s guest is MMA fighter Josh Tyler. He is also the co-founder of Savage Gentleman, a retail brand and ethos that believes that men are both savages and gentlemen.

Josh is here to reveal his secret to remaining calm in the chaos of the cage. He tells us how to employ emotional intelligence, communication, and self-awareness in a masculine way. Josh also talks about how he’s applied what he’s learned as an MMA fighter to family life.

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find a man who can be both.”

Josh Tyler and the Savage Gentleman

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find the man who can be both. It is not ideal void of all traits of masculinity, nor is it suitable to succumb to one’s every base desire. There must be a balance struck between the two sides of the same coin that is manhood. This is the plight of the savage gentlemen, to cultivate both aspects of his being and achieve his full potential.”

What You’ll Learn

  • Growing up, Josh was not athletic. He wanted to become a scientist.
  • How Josh managed to remain internally calm during the external chaos of the ring
  • How to perform a stress evaluation
  • Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between stresses.
  • You can take the stress tolerance from the situations you’re used to and apply it to other areas.
  • Use times of success in the past as reference points.
  • Seek new experiences to push your limits further.
  • How marriage is like a cage fight
  • How to balance the savage gentleman
  • Learning how to operate in tandem with another human being (like in marriage) can help in business and other relationships.
  • Men are woefully ill-equipped to enter into a partnership with someone of the opposite sex.
  • Just like in the world of fighting, how can you win in marriage when you don’t know the rules or spent enough time training? You have no context to realize what you’re good at and where you need work.
  • Knowing where your weak spots are allows you to solve those problems.
  • Ignoring your feelings prevents you from finding the root cause.
  • You have to take responsibility to learn how to communicate better.
  • You do feel stuff, whether you admit it or not, and you will receive what you put out.
  • The secret is to understand where your anger is coming from.
  • Most people go through life with very little thought and reflection on the what and why.
  • Self-awareness and personal development are not for wusses.
  • Pay attention and notice the cues of where you need to focus your awareness.
  • There are appropriate times to be vulnerable.
  • In marriage, if you don’t let someone in to know you on a deep level, you end up growing apart and not knowing who each other are anymore.
  • Bitterness and resentment change your perception of someone.
  • Sometimes the best thing in marriage is to have the fight.
  • Avoiding confrontation and letting stuff go for too long destroys the chance of ever getting back on track.
  • Develop a Standard Operating Procedure for how to handle tough arguments with your spouse.
  • People are getting worse at interfacing with each other in meaningful ways because of technology and distraction.
  • But first, we need to learn how to interface with ourselves better.

RELATED EPISODES:

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

Pulling the Positive from Failures with UFC Champion Frankie Edgar

The Real, Transparent, Imperfect Dad with Tim Kennedy

How to Fix Your Unhappy Marriage with Seth and Melanie Studley

 


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Our biggest regrets in life happen
when we’ve lost our patience. 

how to have more patience

Stop Reacting and Start Living

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Get the Patience eCourse
PLUS 1 Free Month in the Dad Edge Alliance

Create an action plan to help you thrive in life and build the legacy you want.

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Josh Tyler’s Links

savagegentleman.com

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