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The Dad Difference with Bryan Loritts

What does it really take to be a great father? How can we inspire our kids to reach for more, even if our fathers didn’t show us a good example?

Bryan Loritts is a pastor and the award-winning author of seven books, including The Dad Difference: The 4 Most Important Gifts You Can Give to Your Kids.

Today Bryan teaches us the four RITEs of fatherhood and how to implement each. He tells us how we can be proactive about our operating systems as fathers, becoming constant guides and teachers so that our kids have the best chance of living a meaningful and fulfilling life.

Bryan Loritts

Bryan Loritts is a pastor, and award winning author. He’s also the founder and president of the Kainos Movement- an organization committed to seeing the multiethnic church becoming the new normal in our country. He’s the husband of Korie and the proud father of Quentin, Myles and Jaden. Bryan has been a featured speaker at the Willow Creek Global Leadership Summit, Catalyst and a host of other events.

What You’ll Learn

  • What kids learn is “is caught, not taught.”
  • The power of presence and modeling
  • The 4 gifts, or RITEs
    • Relationship
    • Teaching
    • Integrity
    • Experiences
  • Leadership is born from relationship, not authority.
  • 90% of being a great dad is just showing up.
  • There is a profound connection between home and society.
  • Dads are the “tenured professors” of the home.
  • We are always in teaching-mode non-verbally.
  • Integrity is not moral perfection but admitting when you’re wrong and making amends.
  • Teaching involves connecting real life to spiritual principles.
  • Give your children experiences instead of gifts.
  • Why Bryan took his kids to Guatemala to work with the poor.
  • Letting kids experience the negative outcomes of their bad decisions
  • The danger of valuing success or goodness
  • Being proud of your kids, independent of their performance
  • Every dad has an operating system. Which one works the best?

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why should i forgive

Why Should I Forgive? with Derek Stone


Is there someone in your life that you are finding it hard to forgive. A sibling, friend, or parent? We all have grudges, but we don’t realize how much emotional and mental bandwidth they’re stealing from us.

Derek Stone is the author of Why Should I Forgive? He grew up in poverty and was sexually abused by his stepfather. His bitterness led him into drugs, alcohol, and dysfunctional relationships. But he found the faith he needed to forgive and move on. Now his mission is to empower people to transform their lives and walk them through the hell of confronting past trauma and teaching them to forgive.

Derek talks about his painful journey out of hate, anger, and shame and how the power of forgiveness can free us to create the full and happy lives we were meant live.

“For true forgiveness to happen, something has to die.”—Derek Stone

Derek Stone

Derek Stone is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Stone’s Repair and Remodel, LLC. He’s been married to his high school sweetheart, Crystal for the past 17 years and together they have two boys: Ashton, 14 years old and Noah, 7 years old.

Derek came from humble beginnings and grew up in Section-8 housing located in Mobile, AL. Derek has a fraternal twin brother and was the youngest of 4 children growing up. His parents divorced when he was 5 years old and had to raise himself when his mom started working 3 jobs to keep the lights on. He moved to North East Mississippi at age 16 when his mother re-married for the 3rd time and started his life over.

He gives all the credit for his success to one decision he made while a senior in high school. He says, “I started looking back at my life to figure out what made me so different from my other three siblings. I chose to forgive my dad and not take the same paths my parents did. I blamed dad for every bad thing I went through as a child: from being sexually abused, going hungry (thank God for school lunches), to having to take cold showers because the power got cut off. I was very bitter as a teenager and wanted a better life, so when the opportunity presented itself, I took it!”

36 years since the beginning of his story and he is currently living his best life, not someone else’s. He enjoys hunting, fishing, knife making, and hanging out with his family. He loves helping people re-tool to change their lives and empowering them to do so. He loves God, loves his family, and loves people.

Why Should I Forgive?

Why Should I Forgive? came from a place of discontent. It drove me to change my behavior, relationships, and habits. When I asked myself that question, I was met with a choice. Do I forgive, and be free of the burden of bitterness I was carrying around, or do I live in it, locking myself in a prison of torment and anger?

My passion is to empower people to change their own lives. I personally know the poison that bitterness injects into your body, mind, and spirit. I know the deep hate, anger, and shame that can drive you to your breaking point. I know how you can hurt the people who love you the most, or, even worse, yourself.

I have no Ph.D, M.D., or Doctorate degree in psychology. This is real. It’s my story of how I overcame bitterness, and now I want to give you the tools to walk you through your own journey. I want you to know that if you choose to forgive, it will lead to your freedom.

Join me on this journey. We will laugh, cry, and share life for a moment. This is my story of why and how. At the beginning of this book, the question is “Why should I forgive?” By the end of it, I will have given you the tools to help you in your quest to forgive. These tools will help you to forgive and start your path to spiritual freedom.”

 

What You’ll Learn

  • How to stop thinking of yourself as a victim
  • The process and benefits of forgiveness
  • How to forgive someone without giving them access to you
  • When and how to get rid of toxic people
  • Derek’s favorite quote: “If I associate with chickens, I will learn to scratch at the ground and squabble over crumbs. If I associate with eagles, I will learn to soar to great heights. I am an eagle. It is my destiny to fly.”— Andy Andrews
  • How Derek re-established the relationship with his father
  • Abusive people are repeating what was done to them. They serve as an example of what not to be.
  • How forgiveness set Derek’s stagnant life in motion
  • Forgiveness is a choice. If you’re not forgiving people, you’re opening yourself up to torment.
  • The difference between forgiveness and being taken advantage of
  • Why you should never go to your pastor, friends, or family for marriage advice
  • The 4 signs that spell doom for your marriage
  • Your spouse is not an enemy, but a gift.
  • Going with your gut when it comes to letting people into your life
  • How to use your purpose as a filter for all of your relationships. Does this person help or hinder your purpose?
  • Neutralize negative thoughts by telling them that you don’t need them anymore.
  • On challenges—we never know how they’re preparing us for what’s to come.
  • Having patience in “the waiting room” when we feel plagued by setbacks and delays

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faith through loss

Glory and Strength: Keeping the Faith Through Loss with Nate Edmonds


The death of a spouse is something that’s almost impossible to comprehend. How can you go on without the love of your life? How do you survive without the mother of your children? Going through something this life-altering can cause a man to question his faith and wonder if he will ever find happiness again.

Today’s guest is Nate Edmonds. He is a musician, worship leader, and author of More Than All the Glories. Nate’s story is brutally tragic. He was living his dream as a touring musician with his wife, Dana. Life couldn’t get any better, when they had two kids, until Dana was suddenly taken from him by an aggressive cancer.

Nate talks frankly about being tested, not only as a husband and father, but also as a spiritual leader. He tells the heartbreaking story of Dana’s last days, and how he and his children tapped into their faith to survive. He also reveals how he fought through the darkness and rebuilt his life and his family to live in a happiness he has never known.

Nate’s story is a testament to the power of faith in the face of devastation and grief. Don’t miss this powerful interview.

Nate Edmonds

Growing up the son of a minister, Nate Edmonds has lived a life in search of the heart of God as far back as he can remember.  In his 25 years of ministry, he has held many positions from administrative and broadcast roles to leading worship and writing songs through Fuzed Worship, an outreach of Joyce Meyer Ministries.  After tragedy struck his family in 2015, Nate set out on a path of discovery.  In 2017, he was ordained as the Worship Pastor of Element Church, in Wentzville, Missouri.  Through his latest book and music project, MORE THAN ALL THE GLORIES, Nate tells his families dramatic story of love and redemption.  Together with his beautiful wife Amy and their 5 children, Nate’s vision for his life is to bring glory to Christ through his story and songs.


MORE THAN ALL THE GLORIES: A Memoir of Love and Redemption

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 (ESV) If you need hope, encouragement, and a renewed faith in the goodness of God, this book is for you. MORE THAN ALL THE GLORIES is simply captivating. In it, Nate Edmonds shares with vivid detail, his family’s story of love and redemption. He painstakingly relives the trials and suffering his family experienced through a battle with cancer and rebuilding an entirely new life after a tragedy. But this memoir is not a sad story full of lamenting or bitter questions. Rather, it’s a celebration of God’s faithfulness in all seasons of life. Nate’s journey exemplifies Romans 8:28, “God works all things together for good.” It reveals the glory of God in suffering. It shines the light of truth that is so hard to see in the middle of the storm.

Look for truth. Everyone has the ability to hear the voice of God.

What You’ll Learn

  • Nate’s wife’s sudden cancer diagnosis
  • How he and Dana broke the news to their six and eight-year-old kids that their mom was dying
  • Within a month, Dana went from being totally normal and running a business to sleeping 20 hours a day.
  • What the stress and anxiety of her illness did to his body.
  • Nate had a hard time asking for help.
  • He eventually learned he had to take care of himself to be strong for his family.
  • The words that have lead Nate all his life, “For His glory, by His grace.”
  • Being resilient with faith
  • How to hear the voice, the internal guidance from God
  • How he and Dana made the decision to stop cancer treatment.
  • How Nate trusted the journey of Dana’s death. If God planned it, He also gave Nate the strength to get through it
  • Dana made videos for her kids to watch after her death each year up into their twenties.
  • How he met his future wife, Amy, while he and Dana were making arrangements at the funeral home.
  • 3 months after Dana died, Nate moved on. He married Amy within 30 days of the first date.
  • The people who were still grieving for Dana were angry with him, but he had pre-grieved.
  • The love for Dana was not passionate love. Amy ignited something new in him.
  • How Nate manages his blended family.
  • How he sees the goodness of God in all the hardship and loss.
  • What to do when kids have a crisis of faith and give up on God
  • How to reframe tragedy into a battle

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The Biblical Meaning of Masculinity

The Biblical Meaning of Masculinity


Jeff Hemmer is the author of the book Man Up!: The Quest for Masculinity. He is also a pastor, a husband, and the father of six children.

We don’t usually do spiritual topics on The Dad Edge podcast, but whether you’re spiritual or not, you will get a lot of value from today’s show. We’re going to talk about what it means to be a spiritual leader in your house and go beyond the “Sunday School” versions of the Bible to explore the true masculinity of Jesus.

'How do I know that I’m doing the right thing as a father? As a husband? What does it really mean to be a man?' – @jeff_hemmer #men #dads #fathers #spirituality Click To Tweet

Jeff’s story

Jeff says he had an average upbringing. He had faithful loving parents who were very supportive of Jeff and his brother. They are still married today. Jeff never questioned their support.

He and his wife have been married for fifteen years. They were high school sweethearts and neither of them has ever dated anyone else. Their sixth child on the way in August. Jeff says it’s rarely quiet in their house, but each child brings something wonderful to the family and they muddle through the chaos together.

When Jeff had his first child, his son who is now nine years old, he realized that even though biologically, he’s a man, he never knew what it meant to be his own man in a society that values people for their sameness.

He was struck that the church should have been teaching and talking about manhood, the differences between men and women, and the dynamics of a family. He had to seek resources outside the church to explore masculinity like The Art of Manliness, Order of Man, and Jack Donovan. He also looked to the Bible for examples. He was dumbfounded that very few people in the church taught about this robust biblical masculinity.

Jeff doesn’t claim he’s an expert. He still struggles with the things a man needs to learn. It’s his journey, and he’s not to the destination yet. Jeff says all men are on a the same road. They are always learning from fellow travelers. Some have made mistakes. Some have succeeded and encouraged others. Jeff’s at a point now where he has learned wisdom from his experiences and is passing it along to those who are slightly behind him on the road. This is why he wrote Man Up!: The Quest for Masculinity.

'Masculinity is fundamentally about giving.' – @jeff_hemmer #masculinity #men #dads #fathers Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • How writing his book helped him become better in all his roles as a man
  • How he was able to acknowledge the ways he wass prone to fail as a father, husband, and man
  • An example of perfect masculinity you can find anywhere else
  • How softness is selfishness
  • How true masculinity is the opposite of selfishness, to be and instrument for the good of others
  • The biblical duties of a man : protect, provide, and procreate
  • How Jesus was an example of masculinity
  • How Jesus is both the solution for men’s failings, and also the example of what a perfect man is and does
  • Mind-blowing insights about Adam and the Original Sin
  • Why men have to be called to something higher to lose their selfishness
  • How Jesus on the cross is the ultimate display of masculinity
  • About the real Jesus who was rough around the edges, who called people out, and confronted religious leaders of the day
  • About Jesus’s band of brothers and how they helped him
  • What fathers need to do as the spiritual leaders of their households
  • How to model Christianity to your kids
  • How dad’s should serve as the pastor of their families
  • Jeff Hemmer’s parting piece of dad wisdom
'Children are a discipline in learning patience.' – @jeff_hemmer #parenting #children #kids #discipline #manhood #fatherhood Click To Tweet

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