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Transition from Boy to Man

The Transition from Boy to Man


The transition from boy to man is an epic time in the lives of our sons. As fathers, it’s our job to teach them what it means to be a man as they close the chapter on childhood and embark on the next stage of life as an adult.

In recent episodes, I talked about a rite of passage experience I created for my 11-year-old son, Mason. He hiked with me and the Elite Elevation Dad Edge Mastermind to the top of Mount Quandary in Breckenridge Colorado. I also shared the letter I read to him about The Pillars of Manhood when we reached the summit.

Today, Mason is here to share his perspective of what it was like to take on such a tough physical and mental challenge, how he felt among a tribe of men, and the life lessons that he will carry into manhood.

Mason Tells Us:

  • What it was like to start the hike in the dark at 3 a.m.
  • Logistics of pooping and peeing when there is no cover
  • What it felt like to get to the top of the mountain
  • What happened when he told his friends he completed a eleven-and-a-half hour, 14,265 feet hike
  • The pillars of being a young man
  • How Mason uses a practice of gratitude to get over anxiety and depression
  • Modern dating culture in elementary school
  • Thoughts on friendship

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Creating a Rite of Passage Experience for Your Son

How to Know if You’ve Been a Good Dad

#DoEpicShit – Sharing Amazing Experiences with Your Kids

Never Give Up No Matter What with Mason Hagner


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Late Bloomers

Late Bloomers: Giving Your Kids Space to Grow with Richard Karlgaard


Our society is obsessed with early achievement. We want our kids to become incredible athletes, advanced students, and high-earners. We have a tendency to compare them with their peers and if they aren’t at the same level, we worry that they won’t succeed.

Our guest is Richard Karlgaard. He’s a journalist, award-winning entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the author of bestselling book, Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement. He talks about how today’s kids are under huge pressure to perform and feel like failures if they don’t meet society’s expectations. This coincides with a 70% rise in depression and anxiety in teenagers in the past 25 years.

It’s natural for every parent to wish the best for their child’s future, but Richard Karlgaard explains how kids develop in different ways at different ages. He teaches us how to meet our kids where they are and give them space to grow. He also tells us how allowing them to find their way later in life can be an advantage to long-term achievement and happiness.

Blooming happens early or late, but it happens. When you meet that intersection of your native gifts, your deepest passions, and your sense of purpose, you can bloom.—Richard Karlgaard

Richard Karlgaard and Late Bloomers

We live in a society where kids and parents are obsessed with early achievement, from getting perfect scores on SATs to getting into Ivy League colleges to landing an amazing job at Google or Facebook—or even better, creating a start-up with the potential to be the next Google or Facebook or Uber. We see software coders become millionaires or billionaires before age thirty and feel we are failing if we are not one of them.

Late bloomers, on the other hand, are undervalued in popular culture—by educators and employers, and even unwittingly by parents. Yet the fact is, a lot of us—most of us—do not explode out of the gates in life. We have to discover our passions and talents and gifts.

That was true for author Rich Karlgaard, who had a mediocre academic career at Stanford (which he got into by a fluke) and, after graduating, worked as a dish – washer and nightwatchman before finally finding the inner motivation and drive that ultimately led him to start up a high-tech magazine in Silicon Valley, and eventually to become the publisher of Forbes magazine.

There is a scientific explanation for why so many of us bloom later in life. The executive function of our brains doesn’t mature until age twenty-five—and later for some. In fact, our brain’s capabilities peak at different ages. We actually experience multiple periods of blooming in our lives. Moreover, late bloomers enjoy hidden strengths due to taking the time to discover their way in life—strengths coveted by many employers and partners, including curiosity, insight, compassion, resilience, and wisdom.

Based on years of research, personal experience, interviews with neuroscientists, psychologists, and countless people at different stages of their careers, Late Bloomers reveals how and when we achieve our full potential—and why today’s focus on early success is so misguided, and even harmful.

What You’ll Learn

  • The emphasis on elite colleges makes schools obsessed with putting kids on a conveyor belt to early achievement
  • Teens nowadays feel like a second-rate citizen if they’re a B student.
  • Some kids would prefer to learn a skill or trade but feel inferior if they don’t go to college.
  • Neuroscience proves we bloom in multiple ways at different times throughout our lives.
  • There is a correlation between late bloomers and highly-motivated people.
  • How parents can be better at communicating that their kid’s value isn’t tied to getting into college
  • Too many parents outsource parenting their kids’ futures to educators.
  • 94% of prescriptions written for ADHD are given in the US.
  • Why parents feel so much pressure for their kids to succeed
  • How to prevent wrapping up our identity in our kids’ futures
  • How to honor your kids’ dreams
  • The fine line between pushing your kid out of their comfort zone and pushing them too far
  • Why it’s harmful when your kid feels pushed to perform
  • When you’re blooming you feel like you’re being pulled by your gifts, passion, and purpose. Not pushed.
  • What’s “repotting” and when to do it.
  • How to provide unconditional love while not acting as your kids’ best friend
  • Why the “never quit” attitude is fallible. In some cases, quitting is the smart choice.
  • Why you can outwork anybody when you’re blooming!

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how to help kids with anxiety and depression

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels


Today, more parents are raising kids with anxiety, depression, and OCD but have no idea how to cope. Judging by the downloads on our shows about anxiety and depression in kids, this topic is in high demand.

Unfortunately, the stigma that still surrounds mental health issues prevents parents from talking about them. The truth is, many mental health issues are part of physiological problems that are beyond a child’s control. We need to educate ourselves as parents and help our children walk through their fear and manage their feelings. That is why today we have an exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with child therapist, Natasha Daniels.

In this show, you will hear everyday dads talk about the real struggles they have with their kids in ages ranging from toddler to teenagers. Natasha Daniels answers questions about different behaviors including panic attacks, strange phobias, and drug abuse.

Find out how to help kids with anxiety and depression and what signs to look out for in this episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • How to uncover the theme of your child’s anxiety
  • What is driving your kids’ behavior
  • How to motivate kids to reframe their thinking
  • How to expose kids to challenges to strengthen their resilience
  • How to gamify exposure to their fears and give them rewards when they succeed
  • How to help kids through transition periods like divorce
  • What questions to ask to help your kids open up an articulate their feelings

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Parent Kids with Anxiety and Depression with Larry Hagner


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E 218 - Anxiety and Depression in Kids

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels


There is a great deal of awareness surrounding autism and ADHD in children. What has not been equally addressed are anxiety and depression in kids. Many children suffer in silence and parents don’t understand what’s wrong.

Today we are going to talk about how to identify and differentiate between depression and anxiety, signs and behavior patterns to look out for, and tools to help us teach children how to cope.

Natasha Daniels is a child therapist who specializes in anxiety and OCD. She is the bestselling author of Anxiety Sucks! A Teen Survival Guide and How to Parent Your Anxious Toddler. Her work has been featured on various sites including Huffington Post, Scary Mommy and The Mighty. She’s a mom to three kids who have anxiety issues and her mission is to create support for parents through her private practice, podcast, videos, and online courses.

The worst thing to do if you suspect your child may have a problem with anxiety and depression is avoid it. Learn how to tackle this problem head on so that you and your children are empowered to deal with anxiety and depression in a proactive way.

Avoidance is the food of anxiety and depression.

Natasha Daniels

Natasha Daniels is a child therapist who has worked with children, teens and families for over 16 years. With her raw, direct approach to anxiety, Natasha has helped thousands of children, teens and parents in both her practice and through her writing.

Natasha is passionate about helping children and teens with anxiety and OCD. When she is not working in her private practice, you can find her writing about anxiety on her site AnxiousToddlerstoTeens.com, creating podcast episodes on the AT Parenting Survival Podcast, making Youtube videos on her channel Ask the Child Therapist and teaching in her online classes at http://anxioustoddlers.teachable.com.

Natasha lives in Phoenix, Arizona with her husband and three children.

We think that to acknowledge anxiety and depression is to acknowledge weakness.

What You’ll Learn

  • The difference between anxiety and depression
  • The genetic and physiological aspects of anxiety and depression (it’s out of the child’s control)
  • How to identify if your child has a problem
    • What are other kids comfortable with doing that he/she is not?
    • How much is the fear or depression getting in the way of his/her life as well as the family’s?
    • Is your child acting out in unusual, irrational ways?
    • Is there a change in the pattern of his/her behavior?
    • Trusting your parenting gut
  • Why friends, family, and doctors try to normalize the behavior and blow it off
  • The difference between the signs of anxiety and depression in boys and girls
    • Boys will not look anxious or depressed. They will look angry, irritate, annoyed, and defiant.
    • Girls have a bigger emotional vocabulary, but will tend to be avoidant and spend time alone.
  • Parent’s intuitive response is to use discipline, but this is the opposite of what the child needs
  • Parents need to pause instead of becoming authoritative
  • Why you must become inquisitive when your kid blows up or melts down for something that seems like no big deal
  • How to tell if you child is acting out to be manipulative or if they genuinely have a problem
  • The mistake of being overly protective and coddling with anxious and depressed kids
  • Many parents blame themselves when the cause is genetic
  • Being up front with your kids about their diagnosis
  • Teaching kids to accept that they are going to feel anxious or depressed sometimes, but that it will always pass
  • Allowing kids to become detectives of their own behavior
  • Why a therapist should be the first stop if you suspect your child may have anxiety and depression, not the last stop
  • Why you shouldn’t rely on your pediatrician in the case of mental health
  • How to choose the right therapist that both you and your child feel comfortable with
  • How to refer to a counselor or therapist as a “feelings teacher” or “feelings coach” to make it easier for kids to understand
  • Framing therapy as an “us” activity that encompasses the whole family instead of just on the child alone
  • How much you should be involved in the therapy of your child
  • The first step when you suspect your child may have anxiety or depression—Educate yourself and observe. Read books, listen to podcasts. Meanwhile, watch your child’s avoidance and moods from an objective point of view. Ask them if they feel overwhelmed.
  • When and how to use medication and behavioral therapy

MENTIONED EPISODE: How to Parent Kids with Anxiety and Depression with Larry Hagner


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