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Parenting Your ADHD Kid with Confidence Angela Pruess


Parenting is always a challenge. We aren’t given a manual when our kid is born. Parents whose kids have ADHD are even more unprepared. The Dad Edge constantly receives emails from dads who are struggling with their ADHD son or daughter. Most feel frustrated and helpless. They don’t enjoy parenting, and their kids can sense that. But there is hope for ADHD parents. All we need is the right skillset.

Angela Pruess is a licensed family therapist with a background in Child Psychology, Child Development, and Play Therapy. She is the founder of Parents with Confidence and also the mother of three children, two having special needs.

Angela explains the 3 different types of ADHD and the best way to manage each one. She talks about how to create an environment that encourages emotional intelligence and a growth mindset. She also tells us how to develop and leverage our parent-child connection, understand the true motivation behind our child’s behavior, and discipline our children without emotional damage.

Empower yourself to grow emotionally resilient ADHD kids who will live their best lives!

Angela Pruess

Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband).

“Kids do better when they feel better.”—Angela Pruess, LMFT

What You’ll Learn

  • Parents forget to try to understand their kids. We need to know what drives them.
  • There is no quick fix for helping an ADHD child.
  • How amazingly resilient kids are. Their high-plasticity brains keep them openminded to learning about themselves.
  • How to manage emotional resentment towards your child.
  • ADHD cannot be helped. There are differences in the child’s brain structure since birth. Executive functions are limited as well as a broad range of important skills that bleed into everything.
  • Has ADHD always been around? How come we haven’t heard of it till now?
  • The outdated diagnostic criteria for ADHD.
  • The 3 different types of ADHD: Hyperactive, Inattentive, and Combined
  • Hyperactive: Physically hyper, but also impulsive, these children have a hard time stopping and thinking before the act. They show a limited ability for self-control and taking time to make best decisions.
  • Inattentive: It may look like these children are lazy and not paying attention, but there is an invisible piece. They don’t know where to start and get stuck. Parents have to be on child’s back to get things done. These are the dreamers, staring out the window. They are observant, curious.
  • Combined: These children present both aspects of ADHD. All of these children struggle with emotional control and regulating their attention.
  • How does ADHD show up besides hyperactivity and poor academic performance?
  • How to tell if your child has ADHD and is not just misbehaving.
  • Playing too much video games, not getting sleep, and too much sugar are some habits that lead to ADHD behaviors.
  • Parents expect to treat each kid the same, but they must seek to better understand each individual child’s neurobiology and personality.
  • The more you know about how each child ticks, the more you can influence your kids.
  • Use a humble, open approach instead of being authoritarian.
  • Kids put their needs out in the form of their behavior.
  • Unwanted behavior will not end until your child’s needs are met.
  • Their behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath is a huge variety of internal factors and drivers.
  • Be aware of your child’s sensory needs. Some are triggered by noises or being touched.
  • Being the “behavior police” with your ADHD child breeds disconnect and resentment.
  • How to draw the line between positive parenting and giving into bad behavior.
  • Get into the habit of thinking of the golden rule when interacting with your child. How would you want to be addressed? What would inspire you to do better?
  • ADHD kids are bright and advanced in other ways. They want to be acknowledged and respected for their gifts.
  • When children are upset, they shift into stress brain and their thinking brain goes offline.
  • How to teach your child to be aware of their emotions and help him/her be genuinely motivated to learn how to cope with their feelings.
  • All humans are wired with a negativity bias. Try to focus on the positives and achievements instead of everything your child does wrong.
  • Growth Mindset. Think of the whole picture when it comes to dealing with your ADHD child, not just right now. Instead of putting out fires, use challenging situations as a learning experience.

 

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How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

 


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Late Bloomers

Late Bloomers: Giving Your Kids Space to Grow with Richard Karlgaard


Our society is obsessed with early achievement. We want our kids to become incredible athletes, advanced students, and high-earners. We have a tendency to compare them with their peers and if they aren’t at the same level, we worry that they won’t succeed.

Our guest is Richard Karlgaard. He’s a journalist, award-winning entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the author of bestselling book, Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement. He talks about how today’s kids are under huge pressure to perform and feel like failures if they don’t meet society’s expectations. This coincides with a 70% rise in depression and anxiety in teenagers in the past 25 years.

It’s natural for every parent to wish the best for their child’s future, but Richard Karlgaard explains how kids develop in different ways at different ages. He teaches us how to meet our kids where they are and give them space to grow. He also tells us how allowing them to find their way later in life can be an advantage to long-term achievement and happiness.

Blooming happens early or late, but it happens. When you meet that intersection of your native gifts, your deepest passions, and your sense of purpose, you can bloom.—Richard Karlgaard

Richard Karlgaard and Late Bloomers

We live in a society where kids and parents are obsessed with early achievement, from getting perfect scores on SATs to getting into Ivy League colleges to landing an amazing job at Google or Facebook—or even better, creating a start-up with the potential to be the next Google or Facebook or Uber. We see software coders become millionaires or billionaires before age thirty and feel we are failing if we are not one of them.

Late bloomers, on the other hand, are undervalued in popular culture—by educators and employers, and even unwittingly by parents. Yet the fact is, a lot of us—most of us—do not explode out of the gates in life. We have to discover our passions and talents and gifts.

That was true for author Rich Karlgaard, who had a mediocre academic career at Stanford (which he got into by a fluke) and, after graduating, worked as a dish – washer and nightwatchman before finally finding the inner motivation and drive that ultimately led him to start up a high-tech magazine in Silicon Valley, and eventually to become the publisher of Forbes magazine.

There is a scientific explanation for why so many of us bloom later in life. The executive function of our brains doesn’t mature until age twenty-five—and later for some. In fact, our brain’s capabilities peak at different ages. We actually experience multiple periods of blooming in our lives. Moreover, late bloomers enjoy hidden strengths due to taking the time to discover their way in life—strengths coveted by many employers and partners, including curiosity, insight, compassion, resilience, and wisdom.

Based on years of research, personal experience, interviews with neuroscientists, psychologists, and countless people at different stages of their careers, Late Bloomers reveals how and when we achieve our full potential—and why today’s focus on early success is so misguided, and even harmful.

What You’ll Learn

  • The emphasis on elite colleges makes schools obsessed with putting kids on a conveyor belt to early achievement
  • Teens nowadays feel like a second-rate citizen if they’re a B student.
  • Some kids would prefer to learn a skill or trade but feel inferior if they don’t go to college.
  • Neuroscience proves we bloom in multiple ways at different times throughout our lives.
  • There is a correlation between late bloomers and highly-motivated people.
  • How parents can be better at communicating that their kid’s value isn’t tied to getting into college
  • Too many parents outsource parenting their kids’ futures to educators.
  • 94% of prescriptions written for ADHD are given in the US.
  • Why parents feel so much pressure for their kids to succeed
  • How to prevent wrapping up our identity in our kids’ futures
  • How to honor your kids’ dreams
  • The fine line between pushing your kid out of their comfort zone and pushing them too far
  • Why it’s harmful when your kid feels pushed to perform
  • When you’re blooming you feel like you’re being pulled by your gifts, passion, and purpose. Not pushed.
  • What’s “repotting” and when to do it.
  • How to provide unconditional love while not acting as your kids’ best friend
  • Why the “never quit” attitude is fallible. In some cases, quitting is the smart choice.
  • Why you can outwork anybody when you’re blooming!

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how to help kids with anxiety and depression

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels


Today, more parents are raising kids with anxiety, depression, and OCD but have no idea how to cope. Judging by the downloads on our shows about anxiety and depression in kids, this topic is in high demand.

Unfortunately, the stigma that still surrounds mental health issues prevents parents from talking about them. The truth is, many mental health issues are part of physiological problems that are beyond a child’s control. We need to educate ourselves as parents and help our children walk through their fear and manage their feelings. That is why today we have an exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with child therapist, Natasha Daniels.

In this show, you will hear everyday dads talk about the real struggles they have with their kids in ages ranging from toddler to teenagers. Natasha Daniels answers questions about different behaviors including panic attacks, strange phobias, and drug abuse.

Find out how to help kids with anxiety and depression and what signs to look out for in this episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • How to uncover the theme of your child’s anxiety
  • What is driving your kids’ behavior
  • How to motivate kids to reframe their thinking
  • How to expose kids to challenges to strengthen their resilience
  • How to gamify exposure to their fears and give them rewards when they succeed
  • How to help kids through transition periods like divorce
  • What questions to ask to help your kids open up an articulate their feelings

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Parent Kids with Anxiety and Depression with Larry Hagner


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