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The Disease of Busyness


Are you infected with the disease of busyness?

Many of us run on all cylinders, trying to cross the next item off our to do lists. Our days are full. We commit ourselves to the point of exhaustion. It feels like we’re accomplishing a lot, but weeks, months, years go by and we find ourselves stuck in the same place. Our health, business, and relationships are neglected. We want to move forward, but how can we possibly fit more in?

Busyness is a sneaky disease. In this episode we talk with Dad Edge Alliance member Dan Zehner, host of the Anthem of the Adventurer Podcast. Dan used busyness as a distraction to avoid doing what he needed to do in life. He was overweight, stress out, and disconnected from his family. Then he got real with himself.

Dan tells us about how he confronted his pain, discovered his purpose, and took ownership of his time. He is now living at the peak of his potential and you can too!

“We must stop using the excuse of having kids and a mortgage to hold us back from a life filled with adventure.”—Dan Zehner

What You’ll Learn

  • How Dan transformed his physical fitness over the period of six months
  • Emotional, mental, and physical endurance—when you practice resilience in one area, it applies to all of them.
  • What the disease of busyness looks and feels like
  • Why “hope” is not a strategy.
  • What to do when we plateau in life
  • How to push through resistance
  • Why we must define our true purpose
  • Perseverance produces character. Character produces hope.
  • Why accomplishments do not matter
  • Eliminating the hurry in our lives
  • How to stop being overcommitted
  • A gratitude exercise that will bring priorities into focus
  • The power of mementos and totems
  • Distracting ourselves from pain deprives us of profound moments of joy in life.
  • What to do with our “margin time”
  • Allowing ourselves time to do what we loved to do as kids
  • Addressing the disease of busyness—how is it working for you and how is it making you feel?
  • Make a list of where you’re investing your time and energy. Ask yourself, is it helpful, or are you being unkind to yourself?

Perseverance produces character. Character produces hope.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

How to Accelerate Personal Achievement and Life Fulfillment with Jack Canfield

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

How to Create and Activate Your Heroic Alter Ego with Todd Herman – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A

 


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Fighting the Busyness Epidemic

Fighting the Busyness Epidemic


Most of us are busy all the time. We feel stuck and overwhelmed. This is because being busy is not necessarily being productive. Fighting the busyness epidemic starts with setting boundaries and being disciplined about what’s most important.

People want something from us every minute of every day, and we don’t know how to say no. We get sucked into a vortex of email, social media, and phone calls. We waste our time and energy on obligations and distractions that don’t move our lives forward. The most meaningful aspects of our lives are neglected.

If your marriage is heading toward a bad place, how much time are you spending learning how to reconnect with your wife? If you find yourself losing patience with your kids because you’re overwhelmed, are the things using up your time and energy worth it? What about your finances? What have you done to be proactive about budgeting, saving, and investing?

Today, we’re going to talk about fighting the busyness epidemic with a simple morning ritual that will help you discern what’s important to you, set boundaries with yourself and others, and say no to anything that does not serve you.

Tips for Eliminating Busyness

  • Every morning, create a handwritten plan of the essential things you need to do. Stick to these items to avoid being a victim to whatever people want from you in the moment. List 3 professional goals and 3 personal goals for your day.
  • Define high-value activities in your life and prioritize time for them. E.g. learning, reading, fitness, diet, family, and spiritual time.
  • Do not check email or social media when you first wake up. Designate a time period each day for answering emails and messages.
  • Limit social media and other internet activities using a timer.
  • Don’t pick up the phone every time it rings. Set aside a time to return calls.
  • Learn to say NO. If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no!

RELATED EPISODES:

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown

Digital Minimalism with Cal Newport


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Essentialism Greg McKeown

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown

Do you ever feel the urge to declutter your life? Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin? Do you sometimes feel overworked and underutilized? Are you frequently busy without getting any closer to your goals?

Most of us in this day and age feel perpetually busy and overwhelmed with little energy and time to spend on the things in life that matter the most to us.

Today we have a very special guest, Greg McKeown, the NY Times bestselling author of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. He shares astonishing insights on how family life has changed throughout the centuries, how our behavioral systems impact future generations, and how to design our lives to focus on essentials so we can stay connected with our long-term visions. You’ll want to save this epic episode!

'You’re not going to get everything done. You can get the right things done and feel like you did what really matters.' – @GregoryMcKeown #essentialism #busyness #overwhelm #dreams #goals #family #parenting Click To Tweet

'LIFE – there is less of it left than we think.' – @GregoryMcKeown #dads #men #fathers #time #life #death #inspiration #motivation #discipline Click To Tweet

Greg McKeown

Greg McKeown is married with four children, but to him the word ‘family’ includes parents, in-laws, siblings, cousins, nieces, nephews, and in-laws. Greg says only recently has the meaning of family shifted from the extended intergenerational family to today’s idea of the nuclear family. Growing up as one of six children, it’s important for Greg to think of himself as part of this larger familial structure.

Greg’s driving force to write Essentialism was when he realized how pathetically short life is. The older we get, the more quickly it seems to fly by. We are constantly busy and distracted. He cites the stoic philosopher Seneca, who wrote about the dangers of busyness 2,000 years ago. Our culture values an existence where we feel like we have to do everything. Our lives are crammed, pushing out the few vital things that will mean the most to us at the end of our lives.

What You’ll Learn

  • The Planning Fallacy – no matter how well you plan, things will take much longer than you thought
  • How to figure out which projects to take on
  • How to push past the guilt factor of not “doing it all”
  • Practicing the 100 Years Value Exercise: How to envision the impact your life will have in this world by imagining 100 years into the past and future
  • How your role as a dad can impact future generations, even if they won’t remember you
  • How to build systems for your role as a dad with cascading priorities
  • How to hold sacred time to design each week according to your essentials
  • Why you should write on paper instead of a digital device
  • 3 Things to Write Down Each Day
    • One insight
    • One memory
    • One decision
  • How the Industrial Revolution shifted our focus from family to industry
  • How we follow obsolete living strategies that we didn’t choose
  • How to choose which parts of our cultural strategies work for us
  • How to analyze the ‘because’ part of a situation to drill down to what really matters
  • how every time we say ‘yes’ to something that won’t impact our future, we are robbing our time for what is essential
  • Why or why not Greg McKeown may write another book


'It’s not about us. We will soon be forgotten, but that doesn’t change our responsibility. In fact, it extends it.' – @GregoryMcKeown #dads #men #fathers #fatherhood #manhood #legacy #impact Click To Tweet


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