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Embracing Fear and Living Life to the Fullest with Sal Frisella

Sal Frisella

Sal Frisella is a husband, father of three children, and the President of 1st Phorm Supplements, which was founded by his brother Andy. He was a Minor League Baseball player who was drafted by the St. Louis Cardinals and played for the Single A New Jersey Cardinals.

Sal went from a baseball player to selling copiers to medical sales where he worked for Johnson and Johnson as a successful sales agent. After these phases of his life, Sal realized that these jobs were not meant for him. Sal knew that he had to take a chance on himself and live the best possible life ever. Becoming the President of 1stPhorm gave him the best life that he could want.

However, Sal’s goals weren’t always clear. The fear of rejection and fear of the word “no” often held him back during his younger years. Yet, fear didn’t stop him from trying. Sal’s success in his life can attest to this because even through doubt and others negative opinions, he was able to push through and achieve the life he wanted. Sometimes, we are so afraid of rejection that we live with the regret of not trying at all.

Take advantage of every single day and live as if it were your last, or you’ll live with regret. The greatest strikeout of life is never stepping up to the plate. In order to live a fulfilling life, we have to embrace fear and live life to the fullest. 

What You’ll Learn: 

[3:45]

Sal begins talking about his wife and children.

[7:35]

Sal talks about the meaning behind his son’s name, “Enzo,” which means champion in Italian. He talks about how a name can be a unique identifier in a child’s life.

[11:29]

Time goes by so quickly when you have kids. Try to slow down and embrace the moments. Sal and his wife bought a farm to slow down in life.

[15:34]

COVID-19 caused a force to be present and break away from technology because we were home with our kids, and we had nothing but time to spend with them. Your phone becomes a pillar of your life and takes away your attention.

[17:53]

Sal talks about how he learned discipline when it comes to technology and putting the phone away in order to have quality time with his children.

[27:51]

Sal talks about how he makes his wife the Queen by letting her choose what they do because it’s her time to lead in the relationship. Setting boundaries is extremely healthy in a relationship.

[30:20]

Meeting in the middle goes a long way. It’s not always about being right. God gave you a mouth and two ears for a reason.

[32:44]

Guys don’t want to ask for help and admit that they’re struggling.

[38:04]

Sal talks about building a legacy so powerful that his stories and life lessons will live on beyond him. He wants to build relationships so meaningful that his kids will have someone to take care of them and tell them memories about their dad.

[43:37]

Sal talks about how he wasn’t always like this during his younger years. He recalls how he has been extremely blessed in the sense of having perspective. He says that his advantage has been being able to live a lot of really cool lives.

[45:58]

If you could treat every day as your last at bat, how hard would you swing?

[47:55]

Coming to 1st Phorm allowed Sal to go from being a jellyfish to being a shark; he got to hunt for what he wanted. With that, comes a little selfishness.

[50:01]

Most men are afraid of rejection and failure. You never know unless you try.

[53:33]

Sal says he would tell his younger self, 7 years ago, to be more adventurous in life. It gives you the opportunity to see what you like and what you don’t like.

[1:04:48]

Sal talks about what he and his family would be talking about in the next 25 years. He would want to say that he gave everything he could in order for them to have the best life.

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Health is Wealth with Shawn Tolleson

Shawn Tolleson

Shawn Tolleson is a husband, father, former baseball player, public speaker, and entrepreneur. He is the founder of Tolleson Health Advisors which is a company that uses a person’s biological process and creates a personalized plan for increasing their productivity and fulfillment.

Tolleson was a relief pitcher for the Los Angeles Dodgers and the Texas Rangers. Since his youth, Tolleson was raised to be a hard worker and to fulfill the purpose that God had for his life. When Shawn was in college, he discovered that he wanted to play baseball as a career. He started playing for the Dodgers as a pitcher and fell in love with the game.

In 2015, Shawn’s father was diagnosed with two forms of Stage 4 cancer. Since his passing, Shawn formed a passion for health and how health can affect one’s life. In 2020, he founded Tolleson Health Advisors and has had twenty clients since its launch.

One’s of Shawn’s greatest priorities in his morning routine. He stresses how much a morning routine can affect the whole rest of your day, whether it’s done right or wrong. Shawn’s mantra is that making small changes in your health can lead to astronomical changes in your life.

 

What You’ll Learn: 

[3:43]

Shawn recalls playing in the Major Leagues and how he misses that camaraderie amongst his teammates.

[10:17]

Shawn recalls trying to separate the game from his work and the difficulties that came along with that. He remembers setting strict boundaries in order to manage his time effectively.

[13:15]

Shawn recalls his childhood and how hard work was instilled in him at a young age. His dad always reminded him to be the very best he could be no matter what profession he did in life. God was at the focal point of his family.

[16:57]

Tolleson recalls becoming a believer at 15 years old. Being a faith-driven person helped him become a hard-worker. He worked hard because he wanted to make his family proud.

[18:15]

Shawn talks about how he helped his kids change their morning routine from unproductive habits to habits that will enable them to become better and more hardworking. The morning routine sets the tone for the whole day.

[21:20]

You have to make things fun for your kids. You have to show them that they can enjoy hard work and that you enjoy it too.

[28:14]

Shawn recalls when he first felt the push to turn baseball from a hobby into a career. His friend played for the Dodgers and convinced them to sign Shawn to play for them because of his work ethic and talent for the game.

[32:58]

Being an athlete made Shawn realize the importance of biology on health and how it’s important to eat and train like an athlete.

[34:10]

In 2015, during the last game of the season, Shawn found out that his father was diagnosed with 2 forms of Stage 4 cancer.

[35:42]

He decided he was going to do whatever it took to get his health and his father’s health back on track. He made simple changes in life to become the healthiest and happiest version of himself. His father was able to live another 4.5 years after his diagnosis.

[40:00]

Shawn’s father-in-law told him that he should pursue this health journey and Shawn made the decision to go all in. Since 2020, Shawn has had 20 clients with whom he has built his business, Tolleson Health Advisors.

[40:40]

The changes Shawn made to his life for his health were – he stopped working so hard, changed when he ate, began fasting,

[51:47]

Being alone is excellent for you, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. Just to be still will help you to slow down and listen to God.

[56:30]

Having other like-minded men in your life can help keep you accountable and become your support group.

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Healthy Habits for Marriage, Fatherhood, and Fitness

Creating a Family Culture of Connection

Drowning in Distraction? Optimize Your Morning Routine

 


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Relentless Success Through Triumph and Tragedy with Todd Stottlemyre

As you know, Todd Stottlemyre is a 3-time World Series MLB pitcher. You loved his last interview on The Good Dad Project. In this powerful episode, I sit with Todd face-to-face as he opens up about the most painful moment in his life, how he fought the enemy within himself, and what elements have helped him in his pursuit of relentless success.

Todd Stottlemyre

Todd Stottlemyre, author and speaker, has a passion for coaching how to win at the highest levels in business and personal life. Todd’s process demonstrates how lofty ambitions are achievable when you follow the sequential steps in his proven success system.

Todd is a former major league baseball pitcher where he played for 15 seasons and participated in three World Championships. He played for the Toronto Blue Jays, Oakland Athletics, St Louis Cardinals, Texas Rangers, and the Arizona Diamondbacks. Todd received the prestigious Branch Ricky Award and the Lou Gehrig Award. After his baseball career, Todd had a career in finance building an asset management business at a high-profile Wall Street firm. Todd lives in Phoenix, Arizona with his wife Erica and their five beautiful children.

The second you become prey to others’ opinions, your goals and dreams become the dreams of those people.

Todd spent his childhood going to Yankee Stadium with his dad, Mel Stottlemyre. He grew up amid other legendary baseball players and considers himself very lucky to have had such a wonderful experience. His father never pushed his brother and him to become baseball players. His parents wanted them to focus on doing whatever it was they enjoyed, but Todd wanted nothing more than to become a pitcher like his dad, and he did.

Despite having a childhood many boys would dream of, the family endured an unfathomable loss when Todd’s younger brother, Jason, was diagnosed with leukemia. Jason went through a few years of treatments and remission periods, but eventually the disease hit full-force and a bone marrow transplant was the only hope. Todd was the best match and went into surgery to have his marrow removed and given to his brother.

The transplant appeared to be a success. His brother was running around the hospital and the doctors were preparing for Jason to go home, but Todd would never get his little brother back. Two days before his release, Jason fell into a coma and died shortly afterward. Todd says that driving back home without his brother was the worst drive a person could ever make, and that beyond the sadness was hatred and guilt that his bone marrow was rejected by his brother’s body.

Todd says his brother was his greatest teacher because he never felt sorry for himself, he never quit. Todd decided he would never give up on anything and was determined to not let anything keep him from his dreams. This became his greatest driver in all his pursuits in live, but he did also have to get some help to move past his guilt and pain.

He taught me how to die.

Todd talks about the lives of all the others that poured into his – his dad, his mentors, and those who contributed to his success and helped him through his failures. His book, Relentless Success: 9-Point System for Major League Achievement is coming out on July 1st, 2017.

Listen to Todd’s first interview – Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre


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Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

Former Major League Baseball star, Todd Stottlemyre, tells us how to dream big, set goals, and create a plan to break the world of impossible.

Todd Stottlemyre is a former MLB starting pitcher, entrepreneur, speaker, and a transformational mindset coach. His book, RELENTLESS SUCCESS, comes out on July 1st, 2017. He also is the proud father of four daughters and one son.

Todd’s dad, Mell Stottlemyre, was a pitcher for the Yankees, and Todd grew up in Yankee Stadium among baseball’s most legendary players – Yogi Barra, Roy Munson, and Mickey Mantle.

He knew since he was a child that he wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps, and made his way to the big leagues. Like his dad, he also played with the world’s greatest players and was part of three different champion teams.

After his baseball career, Todd built a Wall Street firm that specialized in asset management. He was very successful, but he says it was only because he failed a bunch of times and learned how to jump up and try again.

Todd Stottlemyre considers himself blessed. His parents said you can, you will, go for it. He has achieved his goals and he’s gotten to the point where he wants to give back. Now he helps other people break the impossible to realize their dreams.

Chase your dreams, not someone else’s

Todd Stottlemyre says a goal becomes real by a massive desire that comes from within. There is no I want to do. There is only I must do. Some people might ask, what are you going to do if you don’t make it? If you have a true goal, that’s not a thought.

Just like in baseball, not every major league player’s son follows in his father’s footsteps, but Todd fell in love with the game early on. His Dad would come home from road trip and play ball with his brother and him before going to the stadium. If his dad saw them playing and they weren’t having fun, he’d tell them, “if you’re not having fun, don’t do it.” He didn’t care if they wanted to dig ditches, if when they dug a ditch, they did their best. Sports wasn’t required by his parents. They wanted him to follow his own dreams, work hard, live a life of passion, and strive to be the best at whatever they did.

However, Todd did share the same passion for baseball as his father. There was no I want to play. It was an I must play, and he focused and sacrificed to make his dream come true.

Habits and Sacrifice

Success is simple, but not easy. Small behavioral changes and action steps lead you closer to your goal, but you must make sacrifices and adopt new habits.

Some say it takes twenty-one days for a new habit to stick. Others say it takes much longer. It might be different for everyone. Todd says to force yourself to do new habits until you don’t have to think about it anymore. Just like when you were a kid and your parents reminded you to brush your teeth over and over, every night. It had to be drilled in. Now you brush your teeth without having to consciously think about it.

The good news is that successfully adopting new habits builds momentum into the next habits. Once you see it working, you believe in can happen, and it makes new habits much easier to take on in the future, and if your habits are part of your big picture goal, there will be no more should do’s, just do’s.

Balance

While you’re working toward your goals, Todd says it’s crucial to maintain balance in eight areas of your life – spiritual, family, relationships, health, job, financial, business, and personal development.

When striving toward goals, you can drive so hard, it consumes you. Sometimes you can forget the other pieces of your life and you are in danger of losing balance.

Todd sees these eight areas of life as a wheel. When one or two spokes in the wheel break down, you have a wobbly wheel. Life becomes unstable.

Family is one of the most important spokes in the wheel of life. Todd remembers one day when his wife told him, “When you’re at home, you’re not really home.” She said even the kids noticed, and wondered why dad always had to be on the phone or in the office working.

Todd’s advice on that balancing act is, “Wherever you are, be there 100%.”  When he’s on a date with his wife, there’s no calling, texting, email, or social media. When he’s working, he’s focused on work. He doesn’t take other calls while he’s in a meeting. The goal is to be well rounded and to keep the wheel rolling smoothly toward your goals.

Don’t Play the Victim

Some of us might think we’re not in ideal circumstances to chase our dreams. Todd says that when you’re stuck in a place that you feel is unfair, if you’re struggling, remember that it’s happening to you for a reason. The problems you’re facing now are giving you the wisdom that you will need for something around the corner you can’t see. Instead of playing the victim, play the champion and learn from the challenges that face you.

Ignore the Haters

Naysayers are going to try to take the wind out of your sails. You’ll come across small-minded people and even friends that will say “you can’t do that.” As we get older, we buy into all the reasons it’s not going to work.

Remember that most people who’ve done extraordinary things were surrounded by naysayers, but once they broke into the world of the impossible, then it became possible. If great achievers listened to the haters, they would’ve never crossed the threshold to the next level.

Seek Mentors

It’s human nature not to be coachable, especially men. We’re stubborn. We like to think we got it all figured out. We don’t even like to stop and ask for directions. But most successful people have had a mentor or group of mentors behind them.

Getting coached doesn’t mean you’re inadequate or lacking in talent. Coaches don’t stretch the human performance, coaches help us understand what our potential is. They see areas for improvement we don’t see. They shorten the learning curve

Todd’s Dad Wisdom

Todd Stottlemyre’s parents never said, you can’t do that, that’s crazy. He credits them for his winning attitude in life. That’s why he says that as dads, we must empower and encourage our kids no matter what. You, yourself, might think your kids are going to fail and be tempted to warn them that they might not make it. Don’t be the naysayer. You might not even know anything about the goal they’re trying to achieve. Ask yourself, is this an opinion?

Todd also urges dads to spend quality time with their families. Again, wherever you’re at, just be there. Do the listening, Be genuinely interested. Tell them you love them. Especially when it comes to the dad/daughter relationships, it’s important for them to know they’re loved. Don’t wait for them to approach you.

 


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