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How to Fix Your Marriage

How to Fix Your Unhappy Marriage with Seth and Melanie Studley

Why is it so hard to make a marriage work? And is it too late to fix your unhappy marriage?

If you’re struggling in your marriage, you’re not alone. About 50% of marriages end in divorce, but staying in a toxic marriage can be even worse.

Today we have husband and wife team Seth and Melanie Studley on the show. They are the creators of the Anatomy of Marriage podcast and app, and they coach couples back to sane and happy marriages.

It’s hard to believe that not long ago, Seth and Melanie’s marriage was a complete train wreck. How did they fix their impossible marriage?

The Studley’s talk about how taking personal accountability and extreme ownership is the first step to healing a relationship. They reveal how escaping with porn, alcohol, or other distractions is not the issue, but the symptom of an underlying complication that’s not being addressed. They also explain how to finally stop fighting and start solving problems.

Don’t waste another day being miserable and frustrated. Start fixing your unhappy marriage right now!

The Anatomy of Marriage

A great marriage is built little-by-little over time. AOM Radio is a fun and engaging daily show that will help you create a fulfilling, sexy, fun and life-giving marriage. And hey, it’s cheaper than marriage counseling!

No one person has the answers for every marriage, that is why Seth and Melanie Studley bring on amazing guests and have REAL CONVERSATIONS about sex, money, kids, marriage counseling, relationships, and so much more!

Seth and Melanie believe that marriage help shouldn’t be boring so we created the Anatomy Of Marriage App, the Couples Counseling App that’s fast, fun and NEVER BORING! Better relationships in the blink of an eye and WAY CHEAPER then marriage counseling!

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What You’ll Learn

  • Stop the blame. What would it look like to put your ego aside and be open to a growth mindset toward your marriage?
  • We take the easiest path to not feeling discomfort to mask something that needs to be resolved.
  • Porn is a common coping mechanism because it’s an instant state change.
  • When we habitually use porn to escape, we create worn pathways that are hard to get out of.
  • Contrary to popular belief, women also have porn issues.
  • Does porn equal infidelity to women?
  • Good sex is about connection and pleasure. Pornography bypasses the connection part.
  • Our sexual needs don’t get met because we are usually not honest in sexual conversations.
  • Unresolved issues always come up in uglier ways the longer they’re ignored.
  • If we minimize the problem, hold it in, and try to white-knuckle through, it will only get worse.
  • Things change in a couples’ sex life over time. Expect it to evolve as you start a family and grow through different stages in life. Understand your spouse will not be the same sexually as she was when you first met.
  • The most common issue in couples is communication.
  • Couples think that if they keep fighting, they will resolve the issue, but they’re usually not even arguing over the same thing.
  • Couples end up fighting about how they fight and not about the issue.
  • Personal accountability and extreme ownership–We put all the weight on our spouse. You’ve got to take care of your own crap.
  • Take responsibility for yourself. What kind of man, husband, father will you be regardless of how your wife behaves?
  • When you have kids, you’re now the adult. You have to act like one. How we treat our spouses is how our kids will treat their spouses.
  • Family is the university of our relationships. This is where we learn relationship habits.
  • If your family was dysfunctional, make yours a new family. Create your own family origin story for your kids and establish a new set of healthy values.
  • Get out of our own way. Stop complaining your way out of growing and becoming strong.
  • A happier relationship is possible for you. It’s there if you’re willing to let go of BS you’ve learned. No porn will stand up to the experience of a fulfilling marriage.
  • Look at your spouse as a teammate. Collaborate. Discuss every play that will come up in the game.
  • Kick resistance’s ass every day.
  • About the Anatomy of Marriage App—Quick, not boring, and includes games like Battlestrip!

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MENTIONED EPISODES:

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 2: The Man’s Side

Reclaiming Your Sovereignty with Ryan Michler


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Seth and Melanie Studley’s Links

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Money and Your Marriage

Money and Your Marriage with Jesse Mecham

Financial issues are one the biggest causes of divorce. Not only do money problems make life stressful, they can lead to conflicts that can damage a marriage and destroy a family. But what if you could take a few, simple steps right now to totally change your money situation? Today, we talk about money and your marriage and how you can make budgeting decisions with your spouse easily and argument-free.

Jesse Mecham is the creator of the YNAB (You Need a Budget) app. He is back on The Dad Edge to talk about how to approach the money discussion in a way that will stop friction and encourage intimacy. He outlines his 4 Money Rules to future-proof your finances and gives guidelines for trimming the fat on your expenses without feeling deprived.

After listening to this show, you will feel confident about budgeting, prepared for the unexpected, and hopeful about your dreams for the future.

“Money’s not always simple, but it can get a lot simpler.”—Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham

Jesse Mecham founded YNAB in 2004 to help him and his wife, Julie, watch their money. Studying for his master of accountancy at Brigham Young University at the time, he put his numbers wizardry to work to develop a system to track their expenses, and that became YNAB. He lives in Utah with Julie and his seven kids!

YNAB – You Need A Budget

You Need A Budget is award-winning software and a proven method—that works.

What really makes You Need A Budget different is that we can teach you how to manage your money and get ahead—for good.

What if your bills rolled in, and instead of piling up, you just paid them? No sweat.

What if you didn’t even realize it was payday because you had money in the bank and weren’t desperate for that check to arrive?

Forget everything you think you know about budgeting and prepare to experience total control.

Get a FREE 34 Day Trial at YNAB.com/dads

What You’ll Learn

  • A money dysfunction in your marriage is a landmine that will eventually go off.
  • You can make huge leaps in your marriage even when you think it’s already good.
  • You don’t get commitment without conflict, and you don’t get conflict without trust. You must trust your spouse enough to handle whatever you’re going to tell them.
  • On patience—increase the gap between stimulus and response and fill it with curiosity.
  • Jesse’s morning habit of reading “hard books”
  • As a couple, ask yourselves … What do you want? What are you dreaming about? Not in the distant future, but in the next few years? Most couples don’t have this conversation.
  • All the questions that used to add tons of stress are easy decisions when your visions are aligned.
  • You can feel more peace in as little as an hour and a half after you have this money talk with your spouse.
  • Do whatever you want with your money as long as it means something to you.
  • In Jesse’s experience working with men on their budgets, eating out is the easiest, most effective expense to cut.
  • Rediscover cooking at home.
  • Becoming more self-reliant to save.
  • Tip: Only budget money you have on hand. Don’t give money a job you don’t actually have yet.
  • How to pre-budget for big experiences, upcoming expenses, and emergencies.
  • How to keep your budget changeable.
  • Age your money—the dollar you spend today you should have made 30 days ago.
  • Make reviewing your budget part of your morning coffee routine.
  • Getting to where you want to be financially won’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself.
  • 4 Rules of YNAB
    1. Give every dollar a job
    2. Embrace your true expenses
    3. Roll with the punches
    4. Age your money

MENTIONED EPISODES

The Easy and Effective Way to Budget for Your Goals with Jesse Mecham

The New Mindset for Money with Grant Sabatier

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

Battling Cancer as a Dad with Hal Elrod


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YNAB. You Need a Budget

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Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse

3 Techniques for Deep Communication with Your Spouse


We feel like communication with our wives and children should come naturally. If we love them, and they love us, it should be easy to understand each other. Right?

Wrong. What most of us don’t realize is that communication is a skill that can be learned. If we master the way we approach conversations, we will drastically improve our relationships.

In this episode, we share three techniques for deep communication with your spouse. These simple skills will put an end to stress, arguments, and misunderstandings.

At the same time, they will create a space of connection, safety, and intimacy in your marriage. Don’t miss this short, incredibly effective episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • Why women get so frustrated when trying to talk to men
  • How to practice tactical empathy to create a space of psychological safety
  • How to ask generative questions
  • Why we should exclude the word “why” when our spouse is sharing with us

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Lessons from the Tribe of Millionaires

Who do you surround yourself with? Is your current tribe helping or hurting your chances for success and abundance? What lessons can we learn from our tribe members to improve our lives and shape our destinies?

Mike McCarthy is back on the show for a special Thursday Throwdown. Mike McCarthy is a super-successful entrepreneur, the cofounder of GoBundance, and a member of the Tribe of Millionaires. He is also the co-author of The Miracle Morning for Parents along with his wife and Hal Elrod.

Today Mike teaches us lessons from the Tribe of Millionaires and the pillars of GoBundance. He also reveals how he cultivates a rich relationship with his wife and kids and the magic formula to turn an argument into a romantic encounter in minutes!

The people around you are a mirror to see yourself more clearly.

Lessons from the Tribe of Millionaires

  1. The Influence Effect
  2. The Multiplier Effect
  3. The Accountability Effect
  4. The Authenticity Effect
  5. The Purpose Effect
  6. The Connection Effect

Pillars of Gobundance

  1. Age Defying Health
  2. Authentic Relationships
  3. Bucket List Adventures
  4. Extreme Accountability
  5. Genuine Contribution
  6. Horizontal Income

You being who you are is a gift to the world.


RELATED EPISODES:

The Miracle Morning for Parents with Mike McCarthy

Being a Good Dad with The Miracle Morning

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual


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