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The Dad Edge Mailbox for May 2019


We’re going to do something new for Thursday Throwdown. I receive a lot of emails from listeners, so in this episode I’m going to answer three questions from The Dad Edge mailbox. Send your email to support@gooddadproject.com and your question might be featured in the next show!

Today we’re going to cover three topics:

  1. How to get a child to listen and obey without yelling.
  2. How to stay motivated when you’re in a funk.
  3. How to start a side-hustle without sacrificing family time.

My son is two years old and he is currently at the stage where he is not listening. He’s actively trying to ignore us when asked to do things. He seems to respond immediately if my voice gets raised and I yell, although I don’t like raising my voice and I don’t want to make a habit of doing it. Any tips? — Ben

  • If you want kids to listen, get down on their level, touch them on the shoulder and look them in the eyes when you speak to them
  • Nobody likes being told what to do, even kids. Empower them by forcing them to make decisions. Give them a choice of how or when to do whatever it is they are refusing to do.

How do you tackle a slump of motivation and bring yourself back into focus?

  1. Give yourself grace for being in a slump. You’ll make it worse by beating yourself up about it.
  2. Remind yourself of what is it your chasing. What is your desired end-goal? What will you feel like once you accomplish it?
  3. Make a plan to jump back in. Remind yourself by looking at your map of what you need to do. The best time to take action is now.
  4. Find someone you can partner up with for accountability.

Do you have any suggestions on a side hustle or part time job that won’t take time away from my family?

  • Ask yourself, what do you like doing? You’ll be spending a lot of time working on it. Make sure it’s something you like.
  • Audit your time. It may feel like you don’t have enough time to develop a side-business, but how many hours are you spending watching Netflix?
  • We do more before 8 a.m. than the rest of the world if we wake up a few hours early. You can rack up 10 or 12 hours per week to devote to your new business this way. That’s 40 hours a month—a whole work week!
  • Think about ways to develop passive income that require minimal time and attention, like real estate investments.

Have a question for The Dad Edge? Send it to support@gooddadproject.com.

 


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F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

Up to 95 % of the decisions we make are based on what we feel. This means that in almost every situation, we are reacting instead of responding. Think about decisions you’ve made based on fear, selfishness, or anger. How did they serve you? How did they affect those around you?

Today’s guest is the author of F*ck Your Feelings, Ryan Munsey. He is a speaker, coach, and the host of the Better Human Project Podcast. He tells us how to recognize our feelings, understand them, and look at them from an objective point of view. He teaches us how to remove emotions from the equation and act on our values instead. He also talks about reframing frustrating situations so that we can make the right choice in our behavior and become the leaders our families need us to be.

'Show me a great father and I’ll show you a great leader.'—@ryanmunsey #dads #fathers #fatherhood #leadership Click To Tweet

Ryan Munsey

Ryan Munsey is a high-performance consultant, and thought leader in the wellness and personal development space. He has worked with professional and Olympic athletes, Navy SEALs, and entrepreneurs – helping them optimize their minds and bodies, win medals, further careers, and build multiple 6-figure businesses. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness. F*ck Your Feelings is a neuroscience-based exploration of high performance and success.

'In parenting, relationships, business, fitness—we’re going to have to do what we know we’re supposed to do whether we feel like it or not.'—@RyanMunsey #parenting #relationships #business #motivation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Where Ryan got the idea for his book
  • How his background in fitness and nutrition lead to his fascination with high-performance
  • How, “Fuck your feelings,” was a phrase Ryan used in his self-talk to get him through when he didn’t feel like doing something
  • The profound affect Ryan’s dad’s actions had on him
  • Why our feelings have such an impact on the decision-making process
  • How nothing has meaning, only the meaning we assign to it
  • How feelings affect our micro-decisions
  • Why feelings lead us off course
  • How to act according to your values instead of your feelings
  • How to find enjoyment in things you don’t feel like doing
  • The reframing technique
  • How to transcend temporary states like being tired
  • How awareness creates choice
  • Practicing the witness perspective
  • Practicing parasympathetic activities
  • Creating a toolbox to handle every challenge
  • The best way to create space in a heightened emotional state
  • Detaching from outcome
  • The danger of defining yourself by your child’s success

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MENTIONED EPISODES:

Parents’ Guide to Video Game Addiction with Cam Adair

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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Resources

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'Motivation doesn’t last, but our values never fade away'—@RyanMunsey #motivation #values #integrity #character Click To Tweet
Breaking the Chain of Bad Fathering

Breaking the Chain of Bad Fathering


Being a dad is the toughest and most important job in the world. For those of us who didn’t have a good dad to learn from, it’s even more difficult to navigate life. We didn’t have a proper role model, leaving us without a map to become a good husband and father. But breaking the chain of bad fathering is complex. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, we see ourselves falling into the same behaviors we watched as a kid. We feel hopeless and infuriated.

There were no resources for men in previous generations, but we’re going to change that. The mission of the Dad Edge is to empower fathers to be their best. Today, we have a Dad Edge Alliance member on the show to talk about his experience being raised by a violent dad. He vowed not to become like his father, but he fell into the same patterns after his own son was born. He knew he had to stop the cycle for the sake of his son.

Listen to how he learned to grow beyond his upbringing to become a happy, confident, and resilient man.

 

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Resources

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==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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What did you think of the show?

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habit stacking

Habit Stacking to Reach Your Goals

The Dad Edge podcast usually features the most inspirational thought leaders of today, but our listeners have also been telling us that they enjoy our shorter episodes interviewing the everyday-dads who are trying to grow.

Today we have Nick Elkins on the show. He has been a long-time member of The Dad Edge Alliance and is our finance guy. He is a 30-year-old happily married father of three. He talks about how he used habit stacking to reach his goals of losing weight, managing anger, and growing his finances so he can retire in his 40s!

'Being around a bunch of men who are all hungry for change has been instrumental in making stuff happen.' – Nick Elkins #men #dadlife #dads #fathers #mastermind #selfimprovement Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Master Anger Management

Wild at Heart with John Eldredge


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Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

Wild at Heart with John Eldredge

The Dad Edge Podcast is honored beyond words to have John Eldredge on the show. He is the author of the bestselling book Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul and is here to talk about our core needs as men and our constant quest for validation.

He also shares life-changing insights on how to become a student of our child’s heart and interpret their experiences for them so that they can become happier, stronger adults.

 

On being a dad: 'It’s not about perfection. It’s about love.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The inspiration for John Eldredge’s book, Wild at Heart
  • How we are in the midst of the collapse of gender
  • Why guys are confused on what it means to be a man
  • How men can be restored by doing internal work
  • Why most men don’t know they have a genuine strength to offer the world
  • How most of us ‘fake it’ through life, but inside, we doubt who we are
  • What things men are compensating for
  • Why men are so afraid to fail
'The number one ingredient for a child's success is having a dad who cares and who is involved.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #dads #fathers #fatherhood #parenting Click To Tweet
  • What it means to be a student of your child’s heart and why you need to become one
  • How to start giving your kids low-grade challenges to build their confidence
  • How to also implement low-grade failures so they can discover that they will survive through setbacks
  • How looking to your kid as a source of personal validation is damaging
  • How to wire your parenting for each child
  • How to be a dad to daughters
  • How a father defines his daughters identity
  • What a father can do to ensure his daughter trusts masculine strength
  • What to do when you blow up and anger
  • How to not let your child’s feelings turn into ‘agreements’ or negative conclusions about life
  • How to take the power of validation away from high-pressure situations
'A man will design his entire life to avoid anything that might expose him, and to only stay in the areas where he is getting some validation.' – John Eldredge @ransomedheart #men #dads #fathers #masculinity #comfortzone #fear… Click To Tweet

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THE DAD EDGE SUMMIT 2018

JUNE 7TH – 9TH – ST. LOUIS

Are you an extraordinary father looking to accelerate in all aspects of your life?
Are you looking to connect to like-minded Dads that want to come together to strengthen and grow in their abilities both personally and professionally?
The Dad Edge 2018 Summit (Live Event) will set you up to do exactly that.

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Resources

The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links


Create an Epic Life

join The Dad Edge Alliance

CLICK HERE!

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