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The Unbelievable Power of Sharing Your Story


Men are acutely aware of their mistakes and shortcomings. Rarely do we pay attention to our strengths and contributions. We don’t realize how much we have to give if we would just open up. Today we talk about the unbelievable power of sharing your story.

We interview new Dad Edge Alliance member, Tommy Morgan. He’s been married for ten years and has an 8-year-old son. Tommy’s marriage was going downhill fast, and the lack of control he felt over his life made him easily triggered to anger and rage.

Fast forward a few months, and Tommy’s relationships with his wife and son are growing. He’s made a commitment to self-care and is happier and hopeful. He talks about how hearing the experiences and wisdom of other men helped him to surmount his struggle, and how passing along his own story has changed the lives of those who hear it.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Extreme Ownership for Fathers with Leif Babin

Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt


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No Bad Kids: The Psychology of Toddler Parenting with Janet Lansbury


We all love our kids. At the same time, we all have those moments when they drive us crazy. Sometimes, they don’t listen or become defiant. They have meltdowns and throw tantrums that can get on our last nerve.

But babies, toddlers, and children see the world through different eyes. They depend on us for everything and look to us to guide them. How can we teach and discipline them while being more patient and understanding parents?

Today’s guest is Janet Lansbury. She’s a well-known parenting expert, the host of the Unruffled Podcast, and the author of No Bad Kids.

Janet is going to talk to us about what our kids are trying to communicate with their behavior, why we should back off when they explore during play, and how we can best help them to learn and develop without frustration.

This show is a revelation for parents of kids of all ages. Don’t miss it!

Kids know themselves better than we do. They know what they’re ready to take on.—Janet Lansbury

Janet Lansbury

A former actress and model, Janet’s passion for parent education began when she became a mother and sought guidance from infant expert Magda Gerber. Deeply inspired and grateful for her wisdom, she began training with Magda professionally. For the last 20 years, Janet has taught RIE parenting classes in Los Angeles, been a presenter at numerous early childhood conferences, written parenting articles, and served on the board of directors of Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE).

Janet is privileged to now be supporting hundreds of thousands of parents across the globe through her website JanetLansbury.com, sharing insights gained through her parenting classes and personal experiences as a mother of three. Janet encourages parents and child care professionals to perceive babies as unique, capable human beings with natural abilities to learn without being taught; to develop motor and cognitive skills; communicate; face age appropriate struggles; initiate and direct independent play for extended periods; and much more.

“Janet Lansbury Unruffled” is one of the most downloaded parenting podcasts on the web and recommended listening by “The Washington Post” for anyone seeking guidance in parenting. Her audio series “Sessions” is available on her website and features intimate recorded consultations with parents.

No Bad Kids

Janet Lansbury is unique among parenting experts. As a RIE teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, her advice is not based solely on formal studies and the research of others, but also on her twenty years of hands-on experience guiding hundreds of parents and their toddlers. “No Bad Kids” is a collection of Janet’s most popular and widely read articles pertaining to common toddler behaviors and how respectful parenting practices can be applied to benefit both parents and children. It covers such common topics as punishment, cooperation, boundaries, testing, tantrums, hitting, and more. “No Bad Kids” provides a practical, indispensable tool for parents who are anticipating or experiencing those critical years when toddlers are developmentally obliged to test the limits of our patience and love. Armed with knowledge and a clearer sense of the world through our children’s eyes, this period of uncertainty can afford a myriad of opportunities to forge unbreakable bonds of trust and respect.

What You’ll Learn

  • The importance of being present for the times our children are not feeling happiness and contentment
  • Babies have a right to cry. We instinctively shut them down, but this is not always the best thing to do.
  • Acknowledging and being accepting about your child’s imperfections
  • What “begin present” with your child really means
  • Observation is the key to good parenting. Note the differences between you and your child. Let them explore playing, learning, interests, passions, and creative interests without imposing your own projections.
  • Why babies are such incredible learners
  • Why you shouldn’t drag your kids to sports and activities they’re not enthusiastic about
  • When should a child quit an activity?
  • The power of our suggestions as parents
  • Exploring your child’s behavior from a place of curiosity and interest
  • After school, encourage your kids to follow their intuition on what they want to do. Their time is theirs.
  • Why you never have to be the one who nags your kid to get homework done
  • The biggest frustration is that we perceive our children’s behavior as being reasonable. Reason won’t work on impulses that come from stress and emotion.
  • Don’t ever repeat yourself. If you’ve said it, and they’re not listening, go help them change their behavior.
  • Why getting excited, raising your voice, or spanking can make the behavior worse
  • Why you should speak in first-person (“I said stop doing that.”), not third-person (“Mommy/Daddy said stop doing that.”)
  • We get triggered into the way our parents handled us.
  • We can’t change our child’s, or our, reactions. But we can practice the right perspective. Reframe the situation to what is really going on. Your kids are not intentionally trying to annoy or aggravate you.

 


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Inadequacy, Insecurity, and Imposter Syndrome

Inadequacy, Insecurity, and Imposter Syndrome with Mike Kitko


Do you feel the need to be perfect, and at the same time, think you’ll never be good enough? As a man, husband, and father, are you plagued by deep-rooted feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, leaving you terrified that people will find out you have no idea what you’re doing? That’s your imposter in charge and he’s preventing you from living as who you really are.

Mike Kitko is an Executive Self-Mastery Coach, speaker, and author. After a colossal career and personal meltdown, he found his true purpose—inspiring leaders to find the power in their authenticity, purpose, and passion.

Today, Mike Kitko talks about how inadequacy, insecurity, and imposter syndrome ruled his life. He teaches us how to cultivate self-awareness and diffuse the imposter before it sabotages us. He also tells us how to stop running from fear and start chasing our purpose so we can provide a loving, safe, and prosperous environment for our families.

Do you suffer from imposter syndrome? How do you defeat the imposter in charge? Find out in this episode!

Mike Kitko

A Marine with an MBA, Mike has decades of experience in leadership roles for Fortune 500 companies, yet he always felt like an imposter. His outward persona was one of strength and wealth, yet he struggled internally with self-confidence and self-fulfillment. His inability to understand his emotions led him to alcoholism, uncontrolled anger, and ballistic rage. He abused his marriage, family, professional career, and health.

Through coaching, intense study, and deep work, Mike learned to embrace self-doubt and care for his body, mind, emotions, and soul with self-mastery. Now Mikes overflowing energy, clarity, and love inspires souls. With an infectious zest for life, internal power, and inward confidence that matches how people perceive him externally, Mike has turned his life around. And he wants to help you to do the same.

If you can’t feel it, you can’t heal it, and if you can’t heal it, you can’t be you.—Mike Kitko

The Imposter in Charge

Life’s good, right? You’ve got the high-paying job, the car, the home, the family–so why do you feel so incomplete?

Maybe your ego is bursting at the seams and you can’t show yourself for who you really are. Perhaps you have no boundaries and you pour yourself into others–their problems, their pressures, their pleasures–at the expense of yourself and your own family. You might think you need to be perfect but are acutely aware that you’re not good enough. Could it be that deep-down you feel inadequate, incapable, and like a fraud?

You don’t have to live like that. The Imposter in Charge is the vulnerable and raw account of Mike Kitko’s journey from being an overweight, overstressed, overachieving alcoholic business executive who was on the brink of divorce, to a life of authenticity, courage, confidence, and clarity. This transparent account offers a then-to-now experience, as well as practical applications and practices to help you break out of the imposter syndrome yourself–once and for all.

What You’ll Learn

  • Men learn from a very young age to not be real, vulnerable, and or have emotions.
  • When we wear a mask and shrink, we can’t really feel human.
  • What it means when everything you thought would bring you happiness doesn’t.
  • How the world loves you exactly the way you are. When you realize that, things start to change
  • Mike used to be over 300 pounds and an alcoholic.
  • When Mike figured out that he had nothing figured out
  • When Mike quit drinking, he lost who he thought were friends, but then real people showed up.
  • How Mike made the bold move to leave his corporate job and create his coaching business.
  • How he fell head over heels in love with his wife again after their marriage was nearly destroyed.
  • Perfection is impossible
  • Emotions are going to make us behave badly.
  • Accept that on the journey of improvement, you’re going to stumble,
  • Why you must surrender to the natural feeling of inadequacy and insecurity.
  • What is a critical purpose decision?
  • 90% of people are running away from fear. 10% are chasing purpose.
  • We’re not here to survive, play small, provide and buy more stuff.
  • You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to have a lucrative business.
  • Your desires are your gateway to understanding what purpose you serve.
  • How men can find their true purpose and make sure they’re not chasing someone else’s purpose.
  • Lack of self-awareness drives the imposter syndrome.
  • The importance of knowing your talents and weaknesses.
  • Getting and staying in your “zone of genius” as much as possible
  • Clarity is a creative force.
  • His mission is to move men from survivorship to leadership
    • Yourself
    • Society
    • Family
  • We can’t provide a safe prosperous loving environment for our families if we are not living authentically.
  • Love = Letting Others Voluntarily Evolve
  • How we’re inadvertently telling our kids their choices aren’t good enough.
  • We’re not here to help our kids avoid mistakes, but to help them make choices after they understand the consequences.

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The Dad Edge Mailbox for May 2019


We’re going to do something new for Thursday Throwdown. I receive a lot of emails from listeners, so in this episode I’m going to answer three questions from The Dad Edge mailbox. Send your email to support@gooddadproject.com and your question might be featured in the next show!

Today we’re going to cover three topics:

  1. How to get a child to listen and obey without yelling.
  2. How to stay motivated when you’re in a funk.
  3. How to start a side-hustle without sacrificing family time.

My son is two years old and he is currently at the stage where he is not listening. He’s actively trying to ignore us when asked to do things. He seems to respond immediately if my voice gets raised and I yell, although I don’t like raising my voice and I don’t want to make a habit of doing it. Any tips? — Ben

  • If you want kids to listen, get down on their level, touch them on the shoulder and look them in the eyes when you speak to them
  • Nobody likes being told what to do, even kids. Empower them by forcing them to make decisions. Give them a choice of how or when to do whatever it is they are refusing to do.

How do you tackle a slump of motivation and bring yourself back into focus?

  1. Give yourself grace for being in a slump. You’ll make it worse by beating yourself up about it.
  2. Remind yourself of what is it your chasing. What is your desired end-goal? What will you feel like once you accomplish it?
  3. Make a plan to jump back in. Remind yourself by looking at your map of what you need to do. The best time to take action is now.
  4. Find someone you can partner up with for accountability.

Do you have any suggestions on a side hustle or part time job that won’t take time away from my family?

  • Ask yourself, what do you like doing? You’ll be spending a lot of time working on it. Make sure it’s something you like.
  • Audit your time. It may feel like you don’t have enough time to develop a side-business, but how many hours are you spending watching Netflix?
  • We do more before 8 a.m. than the rest of the world if we wake up a few hours early. You can rack up 10 or 12 hours per week to devote to your new business this way. That’s 40 hours a month—a whole work week!
  • Think about ways to develop passive income that require minimal time and attention, like real estate investments.

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F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

F*ck Your Feelings with Ryan Munsey

Up to 95 % of the decisions we make are based on what we feel. This means that in almost every situation, we are reacting instead of responding. Think about decisions you’ve made based on fear, selfishness, or anger. How did they serve you? How did they affect those around you?

Today’s guest is the author of F*ck Your Feelings, Ryan Munsey. He is a speaker, coach, and the host of the Better Human Project Podcast. He tells us how to recognize our feelings, understand them, and look at them from an objective point of view. He teaches us how to remove emotions from the equation and act on our values instead. He also talks about reframing frustrating situations so that we can make the right choice in our behavior and become the leaders our families need us to be.

'Show me a great father and I’ll show you a great leader.'—@ryanmunsey #dads #fathers #fatherhood #leadership Click To Tweet

Ryan Munsey

Ryan Munsey is a high-performance consultant, and thought leader in the wellness and personal development space. He has worked with professional and Olympic athletes, Navy SEALs, and entrepreneurs – helping them optimize their minds and bodies, win medals, further careers, and build multiple 6-figure businesses. His work has been featured in Fortune Magazine, Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness. F*ck Your Feelings is a neuroscience-based exploration of high performance and success.

'In parenting, relationships, business, fitness—we’re going to have to do what we know we’re supposed to do whether we feel like it or not.'—@RyanMunsey #parenting #relationships #business #motivation Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Where Ryan got the idea for his book
  • How his background in fitness and nutrition lead to his fascination with high-performance
  • How, “Fuck your feelings,” was a phrase Ryan used in his self-talk to get him through when he didn’t feel like doing something
  • The profound affect Ryan’s dad’s actions had on him
  • Why our feelings have such an impact on the decision-making process
  • How nothing has meaning, only the meaning we assign to it
  • How feelings affect our micro-decisions
  • Why feelings lead us off course
  • How to act according to your values instead of your feelings
  • How to find enjoyment in things you don’t feel like doing
  • The reframing technique
  • How to transcend temporary states like being tired
  • How awareness creates choice
  • Practicing the witness perspective
  • Practicing parasympathetic activities
  • Creating a toolbox to handle every challenge
  • The best way to create space in a heightened emotional state
  • Detaching from outcome
  • The danger of defining yourself by your child’s success


MENTIONED EPISODES:

Parents’ Guide to Video Game Addiction with Cam Adair

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


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