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Lifequakes: Navigating Pivotal Times with Bruce Feiler


How are you handling all the change happening in our world? Homeschooling, job changes, financial challenges, social upheaval? We are living in tumultuous times, but our guest today tells us that we are in a constant cycle of transitions, and we can use major life changes as catalysts for huge growth that will serve us in the future.

Bruce Feiler is the bestselling author of Life is in the Transitions: Mastering Change at Any Age. He talks about these lifequake moments and how we can navigate through times of massive change. He tells about how we, as fathers, can apply this fluidity to our family dynamics. He also reveals the cyclical nature of our experience.

Life rarely works out the way we expect it to. Get mentally prepared to reap the most from transitions.

“Life transitions are a lifelong sport that no one knows how to play.”—Bruce Feiler

Bruce Feiler

BRUCE FEILER is the author of seven New York Times bestsellers; the presenter of two primetime series on PBS; and the inspiration for the drama series COUNCIL OF DADS on NBC. Bruce’s two TED Talks have been viewed more than two million times.

Employing a firsthand approach to his work, Bruce is known for living the experiences he writes about. His work combines timeless wisdom with timely knowledge to allow people to live with more meaning, passion, and joy.

For more than a decade, Bruce has explored the intersection of families, relationships, and well-being. THE SECRETS OF HAPPY FAMILIES collects best practices from some of the country’s most creative minds. The book was featured on World News, GMA, and TODAY and excerpted in the Wall Street Journal and Parade. THE COUNCIL OF DADS describes how faced with one of life’s greatest challenges, he asked six friends to support his daughters. The book was profiled in PEOPLE, USA Today, and Time and was the subject of a CNN documentary.

A native of Savannah, Georgia, Bruce lives in Brooklyn with wife, Linda Rottenberg, and their identical twin daughters. For more information, please visit www.brucefeiler.com.

Life is in the Transitions

A pioneering and timely study of how to navigate life’s biggest transitions with meaning, purpose, and skill

Bruce Feiler, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Secrets of Happy Families and Council of Dads, has long explored the stories that give our lives meaning. Galvanized by a personal crisis, he spent the last few years crisscrossing the country, collecting hundreds of life stories in all fifty states from Americans who’d been through major life changes—from losing jobs to losing loved ones; from changing careers to changing relationships; from getting sober to getting healthy to simply looking for a fresh start. He then spent a year coding these stories, identifying patterns and takeaways that can help all of us survive and thrive in times of change.

What Feiler discovered was a world in which transitions are becoming more plentiful and mastering the skills to manage them is more urgent for all of us. The idea that we’ll have one job, one relationship, one source of happiness is hopelessly outdated. We all feel unnerved by this upheaval. We’re concerned that our lives are not what we expected, that we’ve veered off course, living life out of order. But we’re not alone.

Life Is in the Transitions introduces the fresh, illuminating vision of the nonlinear life, in which each of us faces dozens of disruptors. One in ten of those becomes what Feiler calls a lifequake, a massive change that leads to a life transition. The average length of these transitions is five years. The upshot: We all spend half our lives in this unsettled state. You or someone you know is going through one now.

The most exciting thing Feiler identified is a powerful new tool kit for navigating these pivotal times. Drawing on his extraordinary trove of insights, he lays out specific strategies each of us can use to reimagine and rebuild our lives, often stronger than before.

From a master storyteller with an essential message, Life Is in the Transitions can move readers of any age to think deeply about times of change and how to transform them into periods of creativity and growth.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Bruce likes to switch up traditional gender roles in his household
  • What it means to have dads much more involved in parenting
  • Dads have a role that’s not right or wrong, just different.
  • The home is the safe space to air grievances.
  • Each day, ask your family:
    • What worked well in our family this week?
    • What didn’t work well?
    • What are we going to work on this week?
  • Tell your family that we are going to talk about our feeling no matter how painful it is.
  • Who should take the lead as the parent?
  • Moms and dads are fluid, and so are our roles.
  • A LIFEQUAKE is a huge change, voluntary or involuntary, but the transition is our choice and each individual’s transitions will differ.
  • In the ancient world, life was considered a cycle. Today we look at life as a linear path, but this is not accurate. Life is not linear. It’s not predictable.
  • We go through 3 dozen disruptors in our lifetime. One in ten is a massive life change that takes 5 years to get through.
  • Bruce talks about tools to navigate these periods when we feel scared, alone, frustrated, and helpless.
  • People who know more about family history do better in the world. Kids can better cope when they know to expect ups and downs.
  • The ascending narrative, the descending narrative, and the oscillating narrative.
  • Normalize transitions. They are not unexpected.
  • What can we ask ourselves and our kids to help them in the time of change?
  • Use rituals to be open to what’s to come.
  • Life is the story we tell ourself. Listen to the story in your head.
  • What happens when something goes wrong in our story? We have to rewrite our story on the fly. That’s what it’s all about. Add a new chapter about us going through this period and find what is constructive in it. Keep the story moving forward.
  • We each have a transition power and a transition kryptonite. What are yours?
  • We miss huge periods of growth if we turn away from transition. Don’t close your eyes when the scary parts start.

Don’t close your eyes when the scary parts start.—Bruce Feiler

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Transform Your Pain into Explosive Inner Growth

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How to Lead Your Family Through Crisis

 


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In AWE and On FIRE with John O’Leary


We are going to be in awe and on fire with this powerful show! Our guest not only overcame extreme adversity but has used it as an opportunity to grow and touch the lives of thousands.

John O’Leary is a speaker and the host of the Live Inspired Podcast. He is the bestselling author of On Fire: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life. His new book is In Awe: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning, and Joy.

Today he talks about the horrific fire that burned nearly 100% of his body and how he turned it into a force to inspire. He tells us how the power of a father’s love can pull us through anything and how we as dads can be worthy examples for our kids. We also discuss how to regain our childlike wonder and curiosity to live a richer, more fulfilling life.

Are you ready to live in awe?

 

“You can be a victim or a victor.”

John O’Leary

John O’Leary has lived through worse than most can imagine.

At the age of nine, John was severely burned on 100% of his body. No one expected him to survive the first night. But he did. He then survived months in a hospital bed, dozens of surgeries, and years of therapy. Before his tenth birthday, John lost all of his fingers to amputation.

This wasn’t the end. John’s journey was just beginning. From this tragedy, John received the greatest gift – embracing the truth that regardless of our personal and professional challenges, we choose how to.

  • Navigate adversity through decision-making
  • Reveal a brighter vision for what’s possible
  • Live boldly to impact others

As a boy in that hospital bed, John could not have foreseen the amazing things he would accomplish. But his journey proved more empowering and rewarding than he could have ever imagined. It gave him strength. It fueled and drove him on. It provided hope. It taught him compassion and understanding, and it gave him a solid foundation for living.

Some call John a survivor, but he is so much more than that. John O’Leary is a beacon of hope, and he’s ready to share his message with you.

John now lives to share his story and to spark the stories of others living boldly, so that together we can forge an extraordinary future by finding the possibility in the present.

In Awe

There once was a time when we joyfully raised our hands to answer questions, connected easily with others, believed that anything was possible, and fearlessly jumped into new experiences. A time when we viewed each day not as something to endure, but as a marvelous gift to explore and savor—when we danced through our lives in awe of the ordinary moments and eager for the promise of tomorrow.

Unfortunately, that’s far from our experience today. Instead, we feel disconnected and jaded. Social media reminds us that we don’t measure up, and the mainstream media barrages us with constant negativity. Many of us find ourselves caught in a life of dogged responsibility and mind-numbing repetition. The daily struggle to earn a living has caused us to lose the sense of wonder with which we once greeted every day.

In his new book, bestselling author John O’Leary invites us to consider that it is possible to once again navigate the world as a child does. Identifying five senses children innately possess and that we’ve lost touch with as we age, O’Leary shares emotional, humorous, and inspirational stories intertwined with fascinating new research showing  how each of us can reclaim our childlike joy, and why doing so will change how we interact with the world.

In Awe reveals how we can regain that ability to see fresh insights, reach for new solutions, and live our best lives.

What You’ll Learn

  • Your kids are watching—not only how you handle success, but when we’re struggling. Give them an example that’s worthy.
  • The beautiful thing about tragedy is you come face to face with things that actually matter.
  • Life puts us in a storm every single day and a father’s love pulls us through.
  • Be bold enough to be real.
  • You can be a victim or a victor.
  • Kids constantly unleash meaning, inspiration, and joy.
  • Adults are less likely to climb, get back up when we fall, and move forward afterward.
  • Greatness is loving the one in front of you.
  • How COVID has been one of the most remarkable times of John’s marriage.
  • Adults endure the day, our relationships, waiting for vacation and missing life.
  • Kids are fearless and questioning. They want to know why.
  • Adults pursue happiness. Kids reflect it.
  • Getting back to a state of wonder.
  • Returning to childlike (not childish) behavior in the workplace
  • Think about the possibilities. What is now? What could be? And let’s go!
  • Go for the moonshot. Like Kennedy said, not because it’s easy, but because it’s hard.
  • Don’t ignore the taps on the shoulder life gives you.
  • Be open to saying yes.
  • Show kids generosity in action.
  • 5 million Americans attempted suicide.
  • Little steps can make a mighty difference. The best days are in front of you.
  • You are worthy, and you are enough. The more realize it, the more impact you have.
  • What you focus on grows.
  • If you’re trying to be a better dad, focus on the good. Track, record, celebrate and share.

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MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Live INSPIRED an ON FIRE with John OLeary

The Seven Longest Yards with Chris Norton

COVID-19: How to Protect and Lead Your Family Through Crisis with Retired Navy SEAL Jason Redman


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The Highly-Evolved Father with Adam Schafer from MIND PUMP


Today we talk to a previous guest whose story about his father’s suicide is one of our top shows ever in the history of The Dad Edge. Adam Schafer from the hugely popular Mind Pump Podcast is back. He wasn’t a father the first time he was on the show, but now he’s the proud new dad to his one-year-old son Maximus!

Adam talks about how having a baby has changed his lifestyle and relationship with his wife for the better. He opens up about his struggles with empathy, trauma, and childhood insecurities. He also talks about manufacturing adversity for our kids so that they will build resilience and character.

You’ve never heard this side of Adam Schafer before. This show is full of insights that will take your fathering skills to the next level. Listen now!

Adam Schafer

Adam had a lot of adversity to overcome as a child. He lost his father to suicide at the age of seven and bounced around to nine different homes by the time he was seventeen. Adam was bullied in school which ultimately led to him being home-schooled.

In the midst of his childhood turmoil one constant in Adam’s life was his love for sports. He was a natural athlete who loved snowboarding, water skiing, basketball and anything else sports related. Adam’s love for sports led him down the path of learning about fitness and nutrition.

Adam got started with his career in fitness in 2001. His first entrepreneurial venture was as a child of ten so it seemed natural for Adam to become an entrepreneur in fitness. As a part of his ongoing quest to learn and grow in his career Adam has obtained certifications from top fitness training institutions. Adam has found a way to train and teach even more people through Mind Pump.

Adam found that combining his passion and expertise with that of his Mind Pump cohosts, Sal, Justin, and Doug, gives him the opportunity to make a big impact on the fitness industry.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to approach parenthood with intention instead of reaction
  • Will having a baby make you lose your identity as a couple?
  • Will you still find your wife attractive when she is pregnant?
  • Can sex actually be hotter after the baby?
  • Having a child brought Adam and his wife Catrina closer together.
  • As a couple, they knew that raising a new human being was going to change the awesome lifestyle they had created for themselves—dining out, going to sports events, traveling.
  • Even though they don’t do their favorite things anymore, they don’t feel like they’re missing out.
  • Marriage should not go on the back burner when the kids come. Your spouse must come before kids.
  • Most of us react based on the neurosis and insecurities we developed as a child. We must deal with unresolved anger towards our parents.
  • Be aware of displaying negativity as a couple in front of the kids. Do not react in front of the child. Show alignment.
  • There is always work to be done in a relationship.
  • Developing self-awareness and emotional intelligence is the key to evolving as a man and father.
  • We must make the choice to use trauma to become better instead of an excuse to be worse.
  • Why we have to manufacture adversity for today’s kids who have everything
  • Adam’s hacks on how to make sure you show appreciation to your partner.
  • Why Adam doesn’t say “I love you” without a deeper reason behind it.

MENTIONED EPISODES

When a Father Commits Suicide

Creating a Rite of Passage Experience for Your Son


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Transform Your Pain into Explosive Inner Growth

All of us have endured some kind of pain in our past. We might not think about it, but we carry it through our lives, allowing it to contaminate everything we do. If we don’t acknowledge the pain, it will hold us back from reaching our true potential. But if we look at every rock bottom moment as an opportunity to learn, we can transform our pain into explosive inner growth.

Today’s story will blow your mind. Justin Schenck is creator of the wildly popular Growth Now Movement Podcast. He grew up in dark circumstances, with an addicted mother and a dad in jail. By all outward appearances, he was destined to fail in life.

But Justin would not give up. He shed his victim mindset and took charge of his future. In this amazing comeback story, he shows us that we all have the power to climb out of the pit of despair, generate our own happiness, and create the life we truly desire.

This is an interview you can’t afford to miss!

“Things are going to change and adversity is going to happen around you. That stuff doesn’t matter. What matters is the choices we make to create the better tomorrow for ourselves.”—Justin Schenck

Justin Schenck

Justin has been named a Top 8 Podcaster to watch in 2018 by INC.com and chosen as an ‘Icon of Influence’ in the new media space. What started out as a way to connect with top people and inspire others has become a way of life. Now getting played in over 100 countries every single week he is able to make a greater impact than he could ever imagine. He not only speaks to organizations on how to overcome adversity and utilize podcasting to grow your business but he helps others launch and grow their own podcasts. His vision? To teach the world how to live happy no matter where they are today. “It’s about the journey not the destination.”

“You have complete control over the outcome of everything in your life.”—Justin Schenck

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Justin says he would’ve been the least likely to succeed
  • Mom’s death after a 20-year opioid addiction
  • How he mended his relationship with his father who’d spent time in jail
  • Even though his parents could not get themselves together, Justin knew he was loved.
  • His upbringing taught him what he didn’t want.
  • Justin was introduced to self-development through a sales job.
  • He embarked on a life of constant learning, absorbing information, and finding mentors.
  • He realized that the pain that he went through could help people heal.
  • “Life is happening for me, not to me.”
  • Using rock bottom moments as an opportunity to learn
  • How to build a life you are truly happy living
  • No matter what’s happening, you have to take care of yourself first.
  • 3 Ways to Serve Yourself Every Day
    1. 5 minutes of mediation
    2. Learn something new every day
    3. Reach out to somebody who is dear to you and see how they are doing
  • What it’s like cohabitating with his girlfriend’s kids
  • Kids’ willingness to learn and to love
  • Bonding with children over shared interests
  • How to maintain a learning mindset when blending a family
  • How to love yourself through everything
  • Feel your emotions fully. Then move forward.
  • Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react.
  • Focus and what you can control.
  • It’s not going to be easy, but no matter what, don’t give up.
  • Whenever you hit a wall, focus on what you can do to improve yourself.

RELATED EPISODES:

The Good Dad (Human) Project with Larry Hagner on Growth Now Movement

Stop Doing That Sh*t with Gary John Bishop

Frankie Edgar on Life Lessons from the Octagon

Defying All Odds with Anthony Trucks

 


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How to Thrive in the Face of Uncertainty


We all want to survive this crisis, but how can we leverage the challenges we face to actually accelerate our growth as men, husbands, and fathers? How do we use adversity as an opportunity to connect and learn in ways we never have before?

It is possible to thrive in the face of uncertainty if we look at every problem as a stepping stone to greater self-awareness and purpose. In this exclusive episode, we will teach you how.

Today we talk about the first Dad Edge Virtual Summit and the 3rd annual Dad Edge Live Summit. You will witness exactly what happens behind the scenes in The Dad Edge Alliance and the changes that take place in the lives of men who work as a tribe. Jeff Bouwman and Jason McKenzie join us, along with our members for an amazing session that shows just how everyday regular dads are reframing their challenges, using them as catalysts for extreme transformation.

What You’ll Learn

  • What is the appreciative inquiry technique?
  • The power of bringing people together to connect in meaningful ways
  • How to reframe challenge into opportunity
  • How crisis can force an evolution of the family in a positive way
  • How to be present during times of stress, see the beauty in every moment, and find something to be grateful for no matter what
  • How to stay curious
  • The power of asking yourself the right questions
  • Stop thinking about all we can’t do during this crisis. What can we do?
  • Letting go of expectation to become open to possibility
  • Being aware of the stories you tell yourself
  • How to tell if you’re acting from a place of fear

THRIVE IN THE FACE OF UNCERTAINTY

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IT’S TIME TO RE-INVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

The lessons we are learning now will only enhance what’s possible in the future.  Pause for a second.  Consider what we are really in service of.  There’s a good chance that we are going to serve a mission much… much… bigger than the one we thought we were here to serve.

Somewhere on the other side of this, maybe we are ushering in a golden era of sorts.  The thing that has taken so much blame for causing distraction, disconnection, even isolation – technology… is now the only solution we have, to bring us all together.  And it will.  History shows that hardship is always the pathway to breakthroughs!

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

EVENT DETAILS:

June 4th: Connecting to Shared Identity

– 10:30am to 12:30 CST (Morning Session)
– 2:00pm to 4:00 CST (Afternoon Session)

June 5th: Moving from Surviving to Thriving

– 10:30am to 12:30 CST (Morning Session)
– 2:00pm to 4:00 CST (Afternoon Session)

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
Dominic Quartuccio

Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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