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Resilience Parenting with Chris Santillo


How can we teach our kids to navigate hardships and adversity while also raising them to be well-behaved? Today’s guest is Chris Santillo, the author of Resilience Parenting: Raising Resilient Children in an Era of Detachment and Dependence.

Chris is a black belt instructor of Kempo karate and has established a foundation of three pillars in parenting—learning, service, and integrity. You will find out what snowplow parenting is and why it’s so damaging. You’ll also learn why you should formulate a family creed, how to teach ownership and independence, and how to give kids space to overcome challenges to become constant learners in life.

If you don’t intentionally communicate your values to your children, then they’re either going to end up with no values or someone else is going to shove their values onto your kids.—Chris Santillo

Chris Santillo

Chris Santillo is founder and head instructor at Potomac Kempo, a martial arts studio with four locations in Alexandria, Virginia. Holly is his co-author and the founding conductor of Mount Vernon Children’s Choir and a Senior Instructor at Potomac Kempo. Together, they have been working with and educating children for more than thirty-five years. Chris has a degree in computer science from Harvey Mudd College and an MBA from Georgetown University; Holly has a degree in anthropology from Willamette University. As of the date of publication they are nomadic, exploring the world and worldschooling their three sons.

Anything they figure out by themselves sticks a little bit better than anything I can say.—Chris Santillo

Resilience Parenting

Your children will face many challenges in the years ahead, so you want to raise them to be resilient—strong, adaptable, and able to recover. It is your mission to empower your son or daughter to cultivate a functional and fulfilling life. This essential handbook will help you achieve that goal.

In Resilience Parenting, martial arts instructors Chris and Holly Santillo share the insights they have gained as teachers and parents. They offer positive alternatives to lecturing, bribing, and punishing; focusing instead on three Pillars: Learning, Integrity, and Service. By applying these powerful principles, you can inspire your children to develop the independence they need to succeed as adults, while renewing their connection to family and community.

Whether you are raising a teenager or just starting your family, the methods prescribed in this book will help you unlock your greatest potential as a parent.

The world is a better experience with children.—Chris Santillo

What You’ll Learn

  • What snowplow parenting is and why it leaves kids dangerously unprepared when they go out into the world
  • How we need to give kids opportunities to grow and develop and not do everything for them
  • Letting kids learn to take care of themselves
  • How to raise responsible kids who follow directions
  • Letting go of the constant need to look perfect in front of your kids
  • Why kids need us to talk about our failures as well as our successes
  • How to teach kids on their level
  • How to encourage kids to find solutions
  • The importance of understanding your values as a parent
  • Creating a family creed to reiterate on a daily basis, and making sure behavior is consistent with the creed
  • The Three Pillars of Parenting—Learning, integrity, service
    • Learning–How it’s not about kids learning stuff. It’s about them developing the confidence that they can learn stuff and overcoming challenges even if they don’t have tools readily available.
    • Integrity to self–if you don’t have integrity with yourself, you won’t have it anywhere in your life. You must follow through with the promises you make to yourself.
    • Integrity to others–if you promise something, you must keep your word.
    • Service–Building connections with other people and performing a service for them to have a fulfilling life.
    • Staying connected to other people while preserving independence
  • As dads, when we don’t have the perfect answer to a question, we blow it off or diminish it instead of admitting we don’t know and exploring it together with our child
  • Developing mental and physical strength, adaptability, and recovery
  • Learning to develop strength to approach problems better, then adapting to adversity and setbacks
  • Recovery–knowing that when everything goes wrong and you’re broken down, you possess the confidence that you’ll get back up again
  • Leading by example–Don’t tell kids to do homework or practice their instrument while you go watch Netflix. Show them you’re a lifelong learner too.
  • How to help kids be better at failure
  • Pulling lessons out of books and real life to show our kids
  • The importance of repeating these lessons
  • If kids are not participating in the family chores, you become their servant
  • How to address kids who do not obey
  • Setting rules–reasonable, unambiguous, consistent, and age appropriate
  • How to undo bad parenting habits with kids
  • Chris’s proudest moment in his martial arts career
  • What we all want to know—who would win a sparring match between Chris and his wife?

 

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Turning SHAME and REGRET into POWER

Turning Shame and Regret into Power

All of us at some time in our lives will face a time of darkness and despair. It could be financial ruin, divorce, a health crisis, or a shameful mistake. Chances are that when we are struggling through a difficult time, we won’t let anyone know about it. When someone asks us how we are, we’ll say, “I’m fine.”

In this case FINE means:

  • F*cked up
  • Insecure
  • Neurotic and
  • Emotional

We tend to take our frustrations out on those around us, blind to the damage we are causing. Addictions can take over when we feel like there is no other way to calm the chaos.

We’re excited to bring Joe Burnham back on the show. He is a Dad Edge Alliance mastermind member who was on the podcast previously to talk about his life after getting arrested in a prostitution sting.

Today he tells us how no one is beyond redemption and that it is possible to recover from a downfall by turning shame and regret into power.

MENTIONED EPISODE: A Dad’s Recovery from Sex Addiction


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How to Get Anything You Want Tony Stephan

How to Get Anything You Want with Tony Stephan

What if you could have anything you want? Sounds crazy, right? Here’s the truth—you CAN have anything you want. The problem is we run away from our fears instead of running toward our dreams. We shrink from adversity, hard work, and the unknown. The worst part about it is, this is what we show to our children.

Our guest today is Tony Stephan. He is a registered dietician and nutrition coach who’s been featured on Fox News, NBC, Huff Post, and Women’s Health Magazine. His childhood was full of hardship and tragedy. Anyone would’ve understood if he felt sorry for himself and drifted through life, but his humble father gave him the secret to achieving what he thought was impossible. Tony Stephan’s not only going to tell us how to use this secret to get the health we want, but how to get anything we want in life.

You can have anything you want if you’re willing to work for it.

Tony Stephan

Tony Stephan’s fascination with health began when his mother left the family. She was an addict, and Tony remembers clearly the moment his father took him down to the basement to tell him his mother was gone.

Tony was only fourteen years old and he couldn’t process what was happening. His dad knew his son would be hurt and confused. His solution was simple—an old bench and a set of weights. He told Tony that he couldn’t bring his mom back, but he wanted fitness to be Tony’s outlet instead of drugs, alcohol, and crime.

A few years later, when Tony was eighteen, his mother was found on a motel room floor dead from a drug overdose. Once again, Tony channeled his anger through working out. Fitness literally saved his life—mentally, emotionally, and physically.

From then on, Tony felt compelled to help other people cope with loss and trauma through fitness. He started out as a personal trainer making $6 an hour. Then he went into debt to finish his education. He spent the last of his savings on coaching to deal with his negative, self-limiting beliefs in order to reach people on a larger scale. Now he’s twenty-eight, just married, and living his dream life. He credits his dad’s greatest piece of advice.

You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can choose the meaning of it and what you do with that meaning.

What You’ll Learn

  • How adversities are here to make you not break you
  • How Tony’s dad couldn’t give him money, college tuition, or new cars, but what he gave him something invaluable—a work ethic and the possibility that Tony wouldn’t be defined by his circumstances
  • The danger of operating out of fear
  • How approaching from a perspective of abundance gives you more motivation and impact
  • How to make the shift from scarcity to abundance
  • Understanding you have a choice every day to interpret your life in a way that serves you
  • How adversity molded him into a fighter
  • How he feels about his future kids being raised in abundance
  • Why he doesn’t want to pay for his kids’ college tuition
  • Why he will consider himself a failure if he doesn’t produce children who are not contributing members of society
  • How a lack of resources helps you become resourceful
  • Why investing in yourself is a selfless act
  • How to hack your diet with protein and fiber
  • Exactly how much protein you need at every meal
  • Why you should eat foods that rot
  • Healthy fats sources
  • The importance of creating awareness of what you’re eating daily
  • Why there’s no such thing as bad food, just bad portions
  • The myth of intermittent fasting
  • Implementing behavior-based change – adding one easily achievable new habit at a time

Hunger was the best sauce I ever received.

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Diets Suck: The Ultimate Blueprint on Enjoying Food and Getting Lean with Josiah Novak

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

The Power of Letting Go of Resentment Toward Your Father with Cody McBroom

Optimizing Male Hormones for Fat Loss, Energy, and Libido with Alex Van Houten


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How to Execute Major League Achievement Todd Stottlemyre

How to Execute Major League Achievement—Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Todd Stottlemyre

It doesn’t matter where you’re at. It only matters where you’re going. That is what Todd Stottlemyre says. He’s a former 3-time World Champion Major League Baseball player and the author of Relentless Success: 9-Point System for Major League Achievement.

Todd’s a good friend of The Dad Edge Alliance and returns for this live Q&A in our mastermind group where he answers questions about failure, fatherhood, and how to make an impact in life. He confesses the mistakes he has made, the adversity he’s faced, and what compelled him to pass on what he has learned in his life in the form of a book.

Todd Stottlemyre is a dynamic guest. Prepared to get fired up and learn how to execute major league achievement in your life!

 

MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

Relentless Success Through Triumph and Tragedy with Todd Stottlemyre


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How to Use Problems as Opportunities

How to Use Problems as Opportunities


Life is full of challenges. We all will go through times of adversity. If we’re going through them alone, we might feel hopeless and cope in negative ways. How can we get away from a fearful victim mentality, and instead, use problems as opportunities?

Thursday Throwdown is our short show where we feature regular dads. Today we have Jason Palmer as our guest. He has faced adversity and loss, including the death of a child.

At first, he reached for alcohol to ease the pain, often drinking a whole bottle of whiskey just to be able to sleep at night. But deep down inside, he knew that he was meant for more. Life didn’t have to be this way.

Then Jason discovered our episode about giving up alcohol. It inspired him to give up drinking and join the Dad Edge Alliance.

He tells us how he took ownership of his life and trained himself to look at his problems as opportunities and to move from fear-based to solution-based thinking.

'You have to sit down an intentionally focus on what’s serving you and what’s not.'—Jason Palmer, The Dad Edge Alliance #dads #men #fathers #alcohol #drinking Click To Tweet

MENTIONED EPISODES: 

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

The Life Lessons Learned from Going One Year Without Drinking

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

 

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