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Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio


Neuroscience research shows that 95% of what we think and feel falls below our conscious detection, meaning almost all of what we do is beyond our conscious control. Instead of creating our lives, we drift. We fill our time with distractions and bad habits instead of living to our full potential.

Our guest today is author, speaker, and executive coach Dominick Quartuccio. He is here to talk about his book Design Your Future: 3 Simple Steps to Stop Drifting and Take Command of Your Life. He outlines how to upgrade our environments, discipline ourselves efficiently, and rewrite the narrative in our heads so that we can live to our ultimate potential.

The definition of hell—On your deathbed you meet the man you could’ve become.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #regret #mindset #potential #breakthrough Click To Tweet

Dominick Quartuccio

Dominick Quartuccio is one of the few guests we’ve had on The Dad Edge that is not a father yet. He is an aspiring dad who works with many high-performing family men.

Dominick spent fifteen years in the corporate arena. He was very successful, but something was missing. He felt a higher calling and in 2016 left his career to become a speaker and coach who helps men take command of their lives.

'Drift is the single greatest thing that keeps us off the path.'—Dominick Quartuccio #men #dads #fathers #distraction #technology #pornaddiction #selfdevelopment Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why many of us feel lost and uninspired in life because we’re not connected to what means most to us
  • How we drown out our existential anxiety using vices like porn, technology, and even workaholism
  • How apps, social media, and technology are designed with psychological hooks to keep you using them
  • How social media notifications use variable rewards to make them more addictive
  • Dominick’s own recovery from porn and sex addiction
  • The 3 Fs that shape our sexual development.
    • Family
    • Faith (or lack thereof)
    • Friends
  • The best way to prevent getting sucked into the internet vortex
  • How to design effective and efficient no-brainer boundaries for yourself that don’t tax your willpower
  • Why you should never use your cell phone as an alarm clock
  • How to relate to other men instead of compete with them
  • What it takes to break free from drift
    • Catalyze your own awakenings
    • Disrupt your patterns and habits
    • Replace with designing a conscious, intentional future
  • How to stop self-sabotage
  • How to curate a relationship with your inner self
  • How to rewire your inner-narrative to live to your full potential
It's easier for men to fight battles than to go inward.—Dominick Quartuccio #personaldevelopment #wisdom #selfdiscovery #selfsabotage Click To Tweet

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Breaking the Addiction Mindset

Breaking the Addiction Mindset

What’s your vice? What relieves your stress? What do you turn to when times get tough? Drugs, alcohol, women, validation, gambling, validation, food? Even a healthy habit like working out can be unhealthy if it’s used to avoid people and escape reality.

Addictive behaviors drain our energy, suck our time, and prevent us from connecting with those we love. They keep us from operating at our true potential. This show is about becoming aware of destructive habits and breaking the addiction mindset. No matter what vice you have, today we’ll give you new tools to crush it.

Everyone has a vice. What's yours? Are you ready to crush it? #addiction #vice #porn #drugs #alcohol #badhabits Click To Tweet

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Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair

Dad Edge Alliance Q&A: Video Game, Porn, and Social Media Addiction with Cam Adair


Technology is changing our lives and habits more quickly than ever before in history. We live a life of instant gratification and constant entertainment. Smart phones, tablets, and computers enrich our lives in many ways, but they can also be overstimulating and keep us from interacting with the real world. What can we do for ourselves and our families to prevent video game, porn, and social media addiction?

We had Cam Adair on last week to talk about the epidemic of gaming disorder. This topic is so important and we as a society are just beginning to understand the implications. And it’s not just video games. Pornography and social media can alter our brain chemistry in the same destructive ways. We asked Cam back to do a live Q&A session with the Dad Edge Alliance so real dads could share their concerns about raising kids in the digital age.

'I realized that if I never quit gaming I would never do anything else.'—@camerondare #gaming #gamingdisorder #addiction #videogames #kids Click To Tweet

'...that’s tragedy in this technology conversation. We’re not giving these kids the opportunity to just be kids, to have to figure it out and learn how to play.'—@camerondare #kids #children #parenting #techonolgy Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • The immersive powers of video games and the internet
  • Why kids go into meltdown mode when you take their devices
  • How to give kids the chance to develop skills to interact with the environment and people around them.
  • Strategies to control technology use outside the house or when coparenting:
    • Develop relationships that make it comfortable to have the tech conversation
    • Come up with ideas of other things kids can do without technology
    • Inspire your kids to take charge of thinking of alternative activities to do with their friends
    • Controlling duration and frequency of screen exposure
  • How gaming can be a gateway to pornography addiction
  • The effect of violent video games on children’s minds
  • The shocking statistic: the first viewing of porn starts at the age of 8 and regular porn viewing begins at age 11
  • How porn, gaming, internet, and social media are all linked to digital addiction
  • The harmful sexualization of women in games and media
  • The structural brain changes that occur in regular gaming, social media, and porn
    • Numbed pleasure response
    • Hyper reactivity
    • Willpower erosion
  • The detox symptoms such as cravings, anxiety, boredom
  • Why binging makes the problem worse.
  • Why the lack of a father figure is a huge risk factor for violence
  • Why empathy is stunted by gaming
  • The dangerous myth that gaming friends aren’t “real” friends
  • How to regulate screen time when schools are pushing techonology
  • How to be intentional about screen time in your home
    • Being open and honest
    • Keeping devices in a visible, central area of your home
    • Taking conversations about technology outside the home and away from the computer
    • Apps that help regulate screen time
    • Getting a your kid a flip phone instead of a smart phone
  • Why you need to be okay about allowing your kids to go through the process of being bored
  • Why you shouldn’t use technology to engage with your kids
  • Why entertainment leads to entitlement
  • How to empower kids to take control of their screen time
  • How to keep your kid’s playful spirit and love of the outdoors
  • 3 things you need to do to be proactive about gaming and screen time
    • Be aware of you own emotional experience
    • Encourage your kids to create instead of consume. Programming, designing,
    • Take action when you see red flags. It’s so much easier to prevent it than to try to find a way to deal with it once it becomes a problem.
  • How to help boys specifically
'Playing violent video games doesn’t mean you’re going to be the next school shooter. It does mean that you’re being desensitized, and that can be a risk factor.'—@camerondare #gaming #gamingdisorder #violence #isolation Click To Tweet

 

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Parents’ Guide to Video Game Addiction with Cam Adair


This is a hugely important episode. Video games are part of almost every kids life, but there is a difference between playing for fun and using them to replace real life. Games like Minecraft and Fortnite have become part of our popular culture and make up a large part of kids’ social lives.

According to the World Health Organization, video game addiction is now an official mental health condition. It changes a child’s brain chemistry and can lead to depression and isolation.

In this episode, TEDx speaker Cam Adair talks about his experience with gaming disorder. He also tells us why video games are so addictive, how to recognize the signs of video game addiction in our kids, and how parents can set healthy boundaries for gaming.

'Kids are always going to push your boundaries, but you have to stay firm. And especially for parents, you have to do your own emotional intelligence work yourself.'—@camerondare #gaming #gamingdisorder #videogameaddiction #kids… Click To Tweet

 

About Cam Adair

Cam was raised by a loving mother and father, but he always struggled with anxiety and depression. He used video games as an escape, and they provided him relief for a time. The problem was that escaping his mental health issues didn’t fix anything. Cam became so depressed that at nineteen years old, he didn’t feel like there was any point in continuing his life anymore. He wrote a suicide note and was going to kill himself that night.

Luckily, his friends invited him to go watch a movie. That was enough to distract him from his plans so he could think about what he was doing. He knew that there was a big difference between thinking about suicide and actually planning it. It was serious, and he went home to ask his father to get him counseling.

Cam still struggles with his issues but has found healthier ways to deal with them. He’s also founded GameQuitters.com, a resource for parents and teens on how to prevent video game addiction and how to detox from gaming to get back into a real, fulfilling life.

'The thing that’s always kept me alive is knowing my parents’ love and knowing that ending my life wasn’t just about me…'—@camerondare #dads #men #fathers #moms #mothers #parenting #suicide Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • That 13% of kids between grades 7 and 12 have reported a problem with game addiction
  • The negative impact on the brain every year earlier a child starts with games and screen time
  • How gaming prevents kids from developing the intangible skills they need
  • Why video games are entertaining and fun, but cannot fulfill us in life
  • The paradigm of instant gratification that makes normal life boring
  • The emotional needs gaming and tech fulfill
    • escape
    • social connection
    • measurable progress
    • certainty and purpose
  • How the stimulation of gaming far exceeds what you can get in real life
  • Why kids addicted to video games experience withdrawal
  • The 3 structural brain changes that take place during video game addiction
    • Numbed pleasure response
    • Hyper reactivity
    • Willpower erosion
  • How it takes 90 days for brain to come back to normal levels after quitting gaming
  • Which games are more addictive than others and why
  • The incorporation of ads, in-game offers, and gambling type games online
  • How kids face being a social outcast if they don’t participate in gaming
  • Is there a healthy way to game?
  • What can parents do?
  • The dangers of video game binging
  • Why you should let your kid get bored
  • How to help kids during transition phases during the day
  • How to talk to your child about video game addiction
  • Why knowing what you stand for as a parent will help your child
  • Why you should connect with other parents who share the same goals
'Parents need to live an inspired life to be an example to their kids.'—@camerondare #parenting #parents #moms #dads #children #kids #gaming #fortnite #minecraft Click To Tweet

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What Kind of Father Do You Want to Be?

What Kind of Father Do You Want to Be?


We have two choices when we become a dad. Are we going to be like our fathers? Or are we going to try to be different. Some men have a good sense of what a good dad should be by watching their fathers. Other men are trying to break a pattern of bad fathering, whether it be addiction, anger, or complete absence.

On today’s short show we have Dad Edge Alliance member Andy Nelson. He is a divorced dad who admits that he was not there mentally for his kids or their mother. He knew he had to break the pattern of his father’s parenting and began to proactively improve his relationship with both his kids and his ex-wife.

Andy tells us how he developed a framework to change his life and how he succeeded by focusing on his goals instead of running away from what he didn’t want.

'You have to embrace all your feelings. You won’t feel the extreme highs without the extreme lows.'—Andy Nelson #fatherhood #mentalhealth #menshealth #gratitude Click To Tweet

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