“Dads Discovering The Greatness Zone” Episode Overview
Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson interview Jay Forte about how Dads can their Greatness Zone by leveraging the 3 A’s: Aware, Accountable, and Authentic.
Learn the “3 A’s” (Aware, Accountable, and Authentic) and why they are important to being a Dad.
- Being Aware: How to be powerfully present in the moment
- Being Accountable: Understand how your words and impact make a difference
- Being Authentic: Having sense of self, and how to set an example of being awesome
Guest: Jay Forte – The Greatness Zone
Jay Forte, MS, CPC, ELI-MP, is a business and motivational speaker, certified workplace, CEO and life coach, author, adjunct professor and nationally ranked thought leader. He provides talent, strength-based and mindfulness tools to help people live extraordinary lives and organizations achieve exceptional results. He is the author of Fire Up! Your Employees and Smoke Your Competition and The Greatness Zone – Know Yourself, Find Your Fit, Transform the World. His new books, The Greatness Habit and The Rhodium Rule, are due out soon.
Jay is the host of the Blog Talk Radio show “The Greatness Zone” on VividLife Radio. He also is the host of the weekly podcast for today’s young adults and their parents titled, “Ready for Life.” His mindfulness and self-awareness based tools are used by people and organizations around the globe. He has published over 400 blogs, articles and white papers on the topics of performance, leadership, service, talent, mindfulness, possibilities and success at college.
When not teaching, coaching CEOs or helping today’s millennials get ready for life, he writes, gardens and cooks (as any good Italian) in Ft. Lauderdale, FL.
The Greatness Zone Thinking
“Your vocation in life is where you greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.” – Frederick Buechner
“What is it on this planet that needs doing that I know something about that probably won’t happen unless I take responsibility for it?” – Buckminster Fuller
Both quotes are the key to our greatness zone – of knowing ourselves, knowing our worlds and owning our connection of the two. Or said another way, the more self and world aware we are, the more we can build our lives around what we do best. We know and use our inventory of talents, passions, strengths and interests, to connect with the world’s needs, challenges and opportunities. This is how to live in our zone.
Talent and skills may be latent and untapped. Work doesn’t always allow opportunities to showcase and utilize them. We need to keep our eyes and ears open for the potential to enter our greatness zone.
To Find Their Greatness Zone, Dads Are:
They tune in, stop and notice themselves and their world. They pay attention to gather information about how to connect what is best in them to the needs, challenges and opportunities in today’s world. By tuning in and gathering information in this moment, they have the ability to be wiser, braver, stronger and more significant in the next moment.
To paraphrase Jon Kabat Zinn on mindfulness: The power of stopping and noticing and being aware allows you to use the information you just got in this moment to make the next moment better.
Jay’s advice: Take a moment to stop and notice the situation. Give yourself some space to be aware about how you are thinking and feeling, to think about alternative responses you can give by choosing your energetic response and then deliver it. Don’t react, instead respond.
They understand the power of words and are impeccable to their word – with themselves and others. They are accountable for supporting and guiding with their words and actions. They honor their commitments and agreements – in and out of the house.
Jay says that being aware and being accountable go hand-in-hand, referencing the first agreement The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: Be Impeccable to Your Word. Words have a great deal of impact.
As the saying goes:
“How you talk to your kids creates how they talk to themselves.”
The power of our words can never be underestimated. As parents, we need to be encouragers to our kids and guide them. Use language to support your kids and to exhibit caring and nurturing as a dad. We need to hold ourselves accountable for raising our kids up, and we need to hold our kids accountable to their commitments.
They appreciate who they are and stay strong in their sense of self. They don’t let the voices of others or peer pressure dissuade or direct them to things that are not for them. They set the example that they are great and awesome, just as they are.
“Your vocation is where your greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.” – Frederick Buechner
Your vocation, or your purpose in life, are related. Jays says that you’ve got to be authentic to know what your greatest joy is — and then, committed enough to go and find in today’s world where to do it and not be thrown. According to Jay: “We’re all either ‘true you’ or ‘you on view’.” In other words, we’re either our true selves or the image of a person whom others around us think is fill-in-the-blank (ex.: cool; financially successful; etc.). The only way you’ll ever really be happy is if you identify the true you.
Both parents and kids need to be authentic with each other. This is especially important for dads with daughters. Fathers need to be able to show their emotions and be willing to cry in front of — and with — their daughters, in particular. Ask more questions. Do more listening instead of telling.
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