Do you feel the need to be perfect, and at the same time, think you’ll never be good enough? As a man, husband, and father, are you plagued by deep-rooted feelings of insecurity and inadequacy, leaving you terrified that people will find out you have no idea what you’re doing? That’s your imposter in charge and he’s preventing you from living as who you really are.
Mike Kitko is an Executive Self-Mastery Coach, speaker, and author. After a colossal career and personal meltdown, he found his true purpose—inspiring leaders to find the power in their authenticity, purpose, and passion.
Today, Mike Kitko talks about how inadequacy, insecurity, and imposter syndrome ruled his life. He teaches us how to cultivate self-awareness and diffuse the imposter before it sabotages us. He also tells us how to stop running from fear and start chasing our purpose so we can provide a loving, safe, and prosperous environment for our families.
Do you suffer from imposter syndrome? How do you defeat the imposter in charge? Find out in this episode!
A Marine with an MBA, Mike has decades of experience in leadership roles for Fortune 500 companies, yet he always felt like an imposter. His outward persona was one of strength and wealth, yet he struggled internally with self-confidence and self-fulfillment. His inability to understand his emotions led him to alcoholism, uncontrolled anger, and ballistic rage. He abused his marriage, family, professional career, and health.
Through coaching, intense study, and deep work, Mike learned to embrace self-doubt and care for his body, mind, emotions, and soul with self-mastery. Now Mikes overflowing energy, clarity, and love inspires souls. With an infectious zest for life, internal power, and inward confidence that matches how people perceive him externally, Mike has turned his life around. And he wants to help you to do the same.
If you can’t feel it, you can’t heal it, and if you can’t heal it, you can’t be you.—Mike Kitko
The Imposter in Charge
Life’s good, right? You’ve got the high-paying job, the car, the home, the family–so why do you feel so incomplete?
Maybe your ego is bursting at the seams and you can’t show yourself for who you really are. Perhaps you have no boundaries and you pour yourself into others–their problems, their pressures, their pleasures–at the expense of yourself and your own family. You might think you need to be perfect but are acutely aware that you’re not good enough. Could it be that deep-down you feel inadequate, incapable, and like a fraud?
You don’t have to live like that. The Imposter in Charge is the vulnerable and raw account of Mike Kitko’s journey from being an overweight, overstressed, overachieving alcoholic business executive who was on the brink of divorce, to a life of authenticity, courage, confidence, and clarity. This transparent account offers a then-to-now experience, as well as practical applications and practices to help you break out of the imposter syndrome yourself–once and for all.
What You’ll Learn
- Men learn from a very young age to not be real, vulnerable, and or have emotions.
- When we wear a mask and shrink, we can’t really feel human.
- What it means when everything you thought would bring you happiness doesn’t.
- How the world loves you exactly the way you are. When you realize that, things start to change
- Mike used to be over 300 pounds and an alcoholic.
- When Mike figured out that he had nothing figured out
- When Mike quit drinking, he lost who he thought were friends, but then real people showed up.
- How Mike made the bold move to leave his corporate job and create his coaching business.
- How he fell head over heels in love with his wife again after their marriage was nearly destroyed.
- Perfection is impossible
- Emotions are going to make us behave badly.
- Accept that on the journey of improvement, you’re going to stumble,
- Why you must surrender to the natural feeling of inadequacy and insecurity.
- What is a critical purpose decision?
- 90% of people are running away from fear. 10% are chasing purpose.
- We’re not here to survive, play small, provide and buy more stuff.
- You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to have a lucrative business.
- Your desires are your gateway to understanding what purpose you serve.
- How men can find their true purpose and make sure they’re not chasing someone else’s purpose.
- Lack of self-awareness drives the imposter syndrome.
- The importance of knowing your talents and weaknesses.
- Getting and staying in your “zone of genius” as much as possible
- Clarity is a creative force.
- His mission is to move men from survivorship to leadership
- We can’t provide a safe prosperous loving environment for our families if we are not living authentically.
- Love = Letting Others Voluntarily Evolve
- How we’re inadvertently telling our kids their choices aren’t good enough.
- We’re not here to help our kids avoid mistakes, but to help them make choices after they understand the consequences.
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