Why Nice Guys Don't Get Their Needs Met

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, dropped some knowledge bombs on us in our last episode. He also did a live Q & A with our Dad Edge Alliance membership group. Today you will hear a clip of highlights from the call itself as Dr. Robert Glover expands on why nice guys don’t get their needs met.

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Mr. Nice Guy’s 3 Covert Contracts

  1. If I’m a good guy, I will be liked and loved (and women will desire me).
  2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
  3. If I do everything right, I’ll have a smooth problem free life.

The number one way to stop the effects of Nice Guy Syndrome is to assume the responsibility of taking better care of ourselves and making sure our own needs are met.

Each of us is like a big cup that only holds so much. Nice guys take care of everyone else and hope that others will fill them back up. We can’t figure out why we do everything right and yet fail in our work, love, and sex life. We become more desperate to please and seek validation from others. Women turn a cold shoulder to us, not because they are rejecting sex. They are rejecting the neediness.

When we take care of ourselves, we become more generous and  more judicious givers. Healthy giving is not giving to get, it’s a measured response.

Mentioned Episodes: No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover


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#DoEpicShit – Sharing Amazing Experiences with Your Kids

In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I’m following up on my show Why It’s Time to Do Epic Shit TODAY. I got a great response from that episode. Listeners have been posting pictures of the epic things they are doing with their kids and tagging it with #DoEpicShit.

Sharing amazing experiences with our family doesn’t have to be complicated. Hikes, camping in the back yard, getting pedicures with daughters–we just need to step out of the normal routine and connect to make a lasting memory.

Today I talk about an epic experience I shared with my two older sons and how I marked that experience by writing them a letter about it and reading it to them.

Letter to my boys in the mountains.

Mentioned Episode: Why It’s Time to Do Epic Shit TODAY


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4 Ways to Show Your Kids What It Means to Be a Leader

We talked about how fatherhood is leadership in the last episode of GDP. We also want to instill these leadership skills in our children. Telling them how to be leaders is not nearly as effective as leading by example. Today we’re going to outline four ways to show your kids what it means to be a leader.

  1. Kids will learn how or treat other people through what they see from us. We need to be mindful of how we interact with others every day.
  2. A leader will never oppress, suppress, or depress the potential talents in a child’s life. Never tell them their dreams are out of their reach.
  3. Create an environment for growth where they can make mistakes and they’ll be okay. Disappointments and failures are a part of life, and learning to use them as tools to grow will develop resiliency.
  4. Lead through vulnerability. Sometimes we don’t have all the skills and we need to show our kids that’s okay. When we don’t have all the answers, we are willing to learn.

 


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4 Examples of How NOT to Praise Your Kid

Today’s episode is all about mindset.  As parents, most of us are praising our kids in a harmful way and we don’t even know it. We have the best intentions, but we are actually setting them up for disaster. In this episode, I outline four examples of how NOT to praise your kid and one example of how to encourage them in a way that cultivates a growth mindset.

Mentioned Episodes:

How to Instill the Growth Mindset in Your Kids with Larry Yatch

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

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It’s Time to End the Social Isolation Epidemic Among Men

Most of us men live isolated lives because we feel it’s noble, selfless, and the right thing to do. We pay most of our attention to two things – our family and our jobs. When it comes to relationships with other men, we don’t have them. In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I talk about why it’s time to end this social isolation epidemic among men.

When was the last time you made friends with a likeminded man? Have you developed a relationship where you could feel safe to call and lean in for help or advice?

99% of the guys I talk to have not made any true connections in a long time. We have a lot of acquaintances, but no close friends. This is unhealthy, because humans are community beings. We die a little bit inside when we don’t belong to a social group. We try to solve the problems of the world alone.

When we’re bottled up without a tribe to turn to for guidance and support, we live life overwhelmed, low on patience, irritated, and pissed at ourselves that we’re living life stressed-out and unhappy. It’s not supposed to be that way, and it doesn’t have to be.

Social isolation is bad for our health and well being. If you’re feeling alone with no one to turn to, find support at a local level. It could be through your church, or a local organization like the Freemasons or the Knights of Columbus. If you’re having trouble finding likeminded men in your community, reach out online.

For example, we have the free Dad’s Edge Alliance Facebook Group, and we also have the Dad’s Edge Alliance Membership Group. There are hundreds of similar groups online now. Find the one that resonates with your values and goals and join in. There is no need to deal with all the challenges of life, work, and family alone.


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