Dad Edge Mailbox January 2021

The Dad Edge Mailbox January 2021

Today we check The Dad Edge Mailbox and answer some questions like:

Is it possible to have a fulfilling and passionate marriage after the kids?

How do we keep things fresh and exciting over the years and even decades?

In this world of busyness, how can we accomplish everything we want to do?

What are the skills we need to learn to become the parents our kids can always rely on?

Learn these secrets and more in this quick episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • It’s not our fault if we have a mediocre marriage, but it is our fault if we don’t do anything about it.
  • Marriage and parenting skills can and must be learned.
  • Self-care gives us the grounding and inner-reflection we need to be good husbands.
  • How to make date nights more than just a dinner out
  • What respect really looks like in a marriage
  • Drilling down your schedule to 3 daily priorities
  • Time-blocking strategy for productivity
  • Tracking the time you spend on social media
  • Planning your fitness first thing in the morning sets you up for success.
  • Using tactical empathy with your family
  • Creating an environment of psychological safety for your kids

RELATED EPISODES:

The Art of Negotiating with Your Kids with Chris Voss

Communication Mastery for Fathers with Chris Voss

The Dad Edge Mailbox for August 2019

 


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How to Build a Ridiculously Fulfilling Marriage with Nate Bagley


Marriages have taken a beating during the pandemic. We are under a constant generalized stress that keeps our nerves on edge and lowers our emotional capacity. But we can use this time to build a ridiculously fulfilling marriage, and our guest today teaches us how.

Nate Bagley is a marriage researcher, educator, husband, and a new dad. He is the founder of the Growth Marriage Community and podcast and his mission is to rid the world of mediocre love.

Nate has an incredible story. Before he got married, he quit his job and toured the country to gather information that 99% of us do not get. What do madly in love couples do that everyone else is missing out on?

Let’s find out!

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Nate sold everything he had, rose 30K on Kickstarter, and went cross-country to interview 100 couples.
  • Your marriage is the sum of all the couples you’re surrounded with.
  • Just because people are married doesn’t mean they have a good marriage.
  • Most fulfilled couples don’t pursue happiness. The goal is not to be happy. Pursue growth and happiness will be the result.
  • You cannot depend on your partner to validate your existence.
  • Going through struggles together increases joy and connection.
  • It’s your job to make you happy, not your partner’s.
  • Our body chemicals trick us into expecting happiness from our partner because that’s what we experience when we first fall in love.
  • We go from yearning to earning affection.
  • There are different stages of love that we must accept.
  • The idea that couples are supposed to become one is mistaken. That is codependency or enmeshment.
  • You are two separate individuals with different desires who support each other.
  • How to tell if you are integrated with your partner in an unhealthy way
  • The paradox of marriage—you have to meet opposing needs at the same time.
  • Sometimes you need swing from closeness to independence, or from novelty to predictability, and back again.
  • If you’re not having great sex, your marriage is probably not great.
  • There is an emotional and spiritual aspect of sex beyond physical satisfaction.
  • When marriage becomes like work, it’s important to make sex a priority.
  • Find a balance between safety and pleasure in the bedroom.
  • Most people have stale sex lives because it consists of whatever they’re comfortable with without rocking the boat.
  • Sex becomes a routine that feels boring because it feels safe. Expand your comfort zone to improve your sex life.
  • Manage your anxiety. Self-soothe. Learn to recognize what is legitimate fear. Then you can tolerate uncomfortable conversations and be curious instead of anxious about new experiences in the bedroom.
  • Part of having a great sex life is to handle rejection with grace.

RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to an Awesome Marriage with Dr. Kim Kimberling

How to Fix Your Unhappy Marriage with Seth and Melanie Studley

Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman

 


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Mindset-Driven Fitness with Marc Hildebrand

Without challenges, we cannot grow. One of our biggest challenges as fathers is to make sure we don’t neglect our health. But learning how to take care of our bodies is the foundation that sets us up for success in all other areas of our lives.

Marc Hildebrand is a husband, father, and LAPD sergeant. He is the creator of First Responder Fitness and provides mindset, fitness, and nutrition solutions for those in the unpredictable career of being a first responder. After losing 100 pounds, he tells us from firsthand experience how to balance work, family, and fitness.

He talks about how outer success is a reflection of our inner growth, and that is why mindset-driven fitness is the only way to get lasting results on your health goals for this year and the rest of your life.

What You’ll Learn

  • Most dads feel like they have to choose between work, family, and fitness, but they can have it all.
  • The right questions bring the right answers. Ask yourself a solutions-based questions. “How might I make it possible to do what I need to do?”
  • How Marc lost 100 pounds
  • Lasting fitness is more about mindset than tactics.
  • The people you surround yourself with lift you up.
  • Your outer success is a reflection of your inner growth.
  • You can’t be a good role model if you’re not taking care of yourself.
  • Cop tactics for parenting—Slow down your speech and lower your voice to calm kids. Ask yourself, “How can I be most effective right now?”
  • You being under control will ripple to those around you.
  • The simplest things men can do to get tiny wins
  • Thank about what you put into your brain.
  • Start the morning with content that will put you into the right mindset.
  • Pick up a book or subscribe to a podcast that inspires you.
  • How to bring your family into your health and fitness lifestyle
  • Don’t push your wife and kids to join you, but model it for them.
  • Show your kids that you are constantly working. Dad is always willing to learn.
  • The 80/20 rule—20% of your actions produce 80% of your results.
  • What tasks are not bringing your results? Eliminate them.
  • Go all in on the 20% activities

RELATED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

How to Become a Patient Father in 37 Minutes


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The Art of Masculinity with Johnny Elsasser


If we don’t know who we are or what’s important to us, we will be driven by outside forces and will lack the strength to show up in our lives with purpose and integrity.

This can lead to a feeling of being lost, powerless, trapped, and alone. Worst of all, it can cause us to dislike the man in the mirror—if we can even recognize him at all.

Today’s guest is Johnny Elsasser. He is a former Army Ranger, a men’s leadership coach, and the host of The Art of Masculinity podcast. He is going to tell us how to create a Masculine Blueprint so that we can identify what kind of men we want to become. In living by our own code, we will always know who we are and where we stand.

Feel the power of living as the person you really are.

Johnny Elsasser

John served in the Elite 2nd Battalion 75th Ranger Regiment with 4 combat tours between Iraq and Afghanistan, and protected the U.S. Ambassador to Iraq for 5 years out of Baghdad. He lost his own sense of purpose when he came back to the U.S. full time and became depressed and alone. This emptiness ended in divorce.

Today, John’s found new purpose in starting his own podcast to shed the light of how alpha men struggle and how they can together. He’s been featured in podcasts such as Tuff Love, Destined to Be, Think Yourself Healthy, and others to teach men how to build a strong foundation in authentic masculinity. John Elsasser is truly on a mission to help as many men as possible own their masculinity in the way that honors them.

The Art of Masculinity

Through a quickly evolving world we are living in today, most men were shown at a young age to act, feel, and conduct their lives in a certain way. The Art of Maculinity helps empower men to embrace both forms of energy—the Masculine and Feminine—so that they can step out of their hard shells and create a life where there’s equal strength and toughness while still retaining fluidity and softness.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to transition out of occupations you identify with
  • If you lack direction, you will succumb to dark places.
  • You feel less than others when you don’t know who you are
  • Look into your subconscious. You’re acting on things you didn’t choose.
  • Knowing who you are, you can through anything.
  • Live and pay attention to the journey. You are having experiences you should be enjoying.
  • Drop the ego to evolve.
  • The toxicity of the bravado mentality
  • Your Masculine Blueprint:
    • Where were your values? Do they serve you right now? Keep the ones that still hold true. Get rid of the ones you don’t need anymore.
    • Look at whom you admire. What traits do they have?
    • Combine your old values that still serve you with the new ones you want.
    • Choose 3-5 of these traits to define the man you truly want to be.
  • You will never have regrets if you live as who you are. You will always love the man in the mirror.

Your Masculine Blueprint Challenge

What is your masculine blueprint? Share it on Instagram and tag us @jonnyelsasser and @thedadedge and we’ll share it in our story!


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Own Your Career, Own Your Life with Andy Storch

Would you believe that 82% of men are unhappy with what they do for a living? How tragic is it that so many of us are letting the days slip away in misery? How can we find work that both makes us come alive and also helps us provide the life we want for our families?

If you’re feeling frustrated and trapped, there is good news. It’s never too late to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, and you’re in the perfect place right now to take the first step to where you truly want to go.

Andy Storch is the author of Own Your Career Own Your Life: Stop Drifting and Take Control of Your Future. He is the host of two podcasts, The Talent Development Hot Seat and the Own Your Career Own Your Life Show and he is going to teach us how to stop waiting for something to happen and create a life that excites us!

Andy Storch

Andy Storch spent years stuck in the wrong career and drifting aimlessly through life. Now, he is a professional coach, consultant, speaker, and author whose life mission is to equip others to live intentionally, love the life they live, and fulfill their true potential.

In his eagerly-anticipated book Own Your Career Own Your Life, you’ll learn how to direct your own career, prepare for the future, and ultimately get back in the driving seat of your own life.

This book is intended to be a practical guide, so it is packed full of useful tips and easily actionable steps, as well as inspirational accounts of real-life events and helpful insights into the author’s own life – including the exact, real-life strategies he has used to design a career and life he loves.

What You’ll Learn

  • Most people are waiting for things to happen to them—the new job, the promotion, the side business, but you have to take the initiative.
  • It’s up to you to wake up and live life intentionally.
  • We often go by default into the careers we are offered, or we pursue what our parents think we should do.
  • Figuring out where you’ve gone wrong is not about guilt and regret. It’s about realizing you’re in the perfect spot to take action, change, and move forward.
  • How to discover what path to choose:
    • Self-awareness—Ask yourself about your strengths and weaknesses?
    • What energizes you?
    • What are your values?
    • Have conversations with friends. What do they perceive your strengths are?
  • Weight the priorities and trade-offs.
  • The smallest thing you can do to get started is to shift your mindset from being a trapped victim to one of ownership. You get to choose.
  • Ask yourself, why do I go to this job I don’t like? Is there a better option?
  • What are you really unhappy about? Can you tweak your existing work to make it better?
  • Find people who are doing what you’d like to do and follow them.
  • How to praise effort in your own life instead of results.
  • Failing doesn’t make you a failure. Are you really afraid of failure, or just what others will think?
  • Most men say, I don’t have time to try something new. Is that really true? Where are you really spending your time?
  • How to integrate home and work life in a healthy way
  • Use your values to set your schedule and boundaries.

How to Elevate Your Game with Andy Storch


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