How to Protect Your Daughter Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally with Warren Petersen

Warren Petersen is the author of Becoming a Significant Man and he’s also a husband and a father to four kids. This is an important show about pulling ourselves out of the mud after losing everything, and how to protect our daughter physically, mentally, and emotionally in the world we live in today.

Warren Petersen

After the painful loss of his home, business, income, life savings, and even his own identity as a man, Warren Peterson was determined to use his experience and calling to help others. He founded Significant Man, an organization focused on leading men towards becoming the husbands, fathers, and leaders they were created to be. He loves teaching and mentoring men, seeing the changes in their lives, and the positive results in their families.

Warren was your stereotypical entrepreneurial success story. He ran an information security business and opened offices in Chicago, London, and Singapore. He was flown all over the world and traveled in limos to speaking gigs. Most men would say he was living the dream, until the recession hit. Warren lost his business, his house, his self-respect–everything.

Warren became so depressed that he considered ending it all. He felt worthless and that the best he could do was leave his life insurance money for his family. Eventually, he realized his role in his own downfall and that he had been riding the wave instead of steering his life with intention. He decided to make a choice to have faith and to start making choices based on his passion and purpose. Warren got knocked down as far as a man can get knocked down, and now he uses part of his experience to help other men.

If you’re laying in the mud, ask yourself which way are you looking? You can look down into the darkness, or you can roll over and look at the sky.

Protecting Your Daughters

Warren Petersen has three daughters. The youngest is 9 years old and the oldest is in her twenties. All dads are tempted to lock up their daughters and guard the house with a shotgun, but Warren says they will be going out into the world. We shouldn’t be paranoid and afraid. We should be smart. He believes we must protect our daughters in 3 crucial ways. As fathers, we must protect them physically, protect their heart, and protect them from today’s culture.

1. Protect Your Daughter Physically

Protecting our daughters physically is the most natural instinct fathers have. It starts from the earliest years, like when we tell them not to touch the stove. As they grow older, we warn them not to walk home alone in the dark and to have situational awareness. When they get to driving age we have to protect them by telling them to wear their seatbelt and not to text and drive. Other things dads need to do to protect their daughters is to make sure they know that they can fight back. Most girls don’t know that it’s okay. Tell her that she must fight to protect herself and maybe even take a self-defense class with her.

2. Protect Your Daughter’s Heart

Protecting our little girl’s heart is more challenging. A hardened heart is dangerous. We have to watch for signs as she grows up. We need to pay attention to her friends, her hobbies, and the music she listens to. Where does she spend her time online? We must investigate. Rarely does a child have a personality change without some influence in her life. We have to be observant and keep digging until we find the toxic friendship or event.

Also, we can’t run away from conversations about sex. Most dads leave this up to the moms, but we as dads, have a unique, powerful voice in the life of our daughters. If we avoid these tough discussions, we reinforce the idea that these are topics she should be scared of. Dads have to talk about boys and sex–not as a lecture, but an open honest conversation.

3. Protect Your Daughter in Our Culture

Our world has changed drastically with the advent of the internet. This new world is highly sexualized. Many dads are surprised to know how sexual ideas are shaped by porn.

We need to face the fact that this is the world our daughters are growing up in now.  The ideas of love, intimacy, the slow building of relationships–all these things are gone. Sex equals porn, where there is no romance or love story. Sex becomes disassociated with the relationships your daughter craves, but because it is so pervasive, girls think it’s the norm.

As awkward as it is, it’s up to us as dads to open the conversation. We have to teach the difference between love and sex. We must make sure our daughter understands respect, modesty, honor, and love. We must be the rock for her, not the judge.

 

Related Episode: How to Raise Strong, Confident, Resilient Girls with Bas Rutten


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Pressure, Perseverance, and Fatherhood with UFC Fighter James Krause

What does an ultimate fighter and a good dad have in common? UFC fighter James Krause tells us about perseverance and pressure and how he thrives off uncertainty and challenge. He also talks about being a father to his 2-year-old girl and how he came to adopt his little sister.

James Krause is an American professional mixed martial artist and entrepreneur, currently competing in the lightweight division of the UFC. He’s also featured on FOX Sports’ reality show, The Ultimate Fighter.

James Krause was born in Newport News, Virginia. His parents divorced when he was two years old. His mother moved them to Missouri where they lived in extreme poverty, sometimes surviving on only $400 a month.

In school, James was physically behind. He was small and got picked on a lot.  At the age of nineteen or twenty, he decided to try mixed martial arts. He didn’t get into fighting with the intention of competing. He wanted to learn how to defend himself and build confidence. He fell in love with the physical act and the fact that a smaller person could defeat a larger person.

You don’t have to be talented to be great.

Perseverance

James Krause says that people don’t succeed because they stop learning. People forget what hard work is and their lives become stagnant.

James never stops learning. He trains every day for the UFC, and he applies the same model to all aspects of his life. Including business, marriage, and fatherhood. He believes in intelligent repetition can allow him to accomplish goals much faster, but it takes passion to persevere. If you want to become successful at something, you must be willing to do it for fee. Hard work beats talent.

If you do something long enough and you just don’t quit, you have no choice than to become good by default.

Pressure

As a fighter, James Krause is subjected to extreme pressure, not just from the challenge of fighting his opponent, but being in front of a live audience as well as on TV. How does he push through the pressure? James says uncertainty and challenge have become essential to his growth. The only way to deal with pressure is to continuously put yourself through it. Embrace and repurpose opportunity, and objectively look at the situation without emotions.

Fatherhood

James Krause’s daughter was born two years ago. When his stepfather died of cancer and his mother ended up in prison, he also adopted his little sister who has been living with him for almost a year. It wasn’t something he and his wife planned to do, but they have been making it work. He looks at it from a positive perspective and thinks it’s one of the best things that could’ve happened to his little sister. Now that she is with him, she can become a much greater person than she would have if she had been raised by his mother.

Life Lessons for His Girls

James Krause never went through phases of drinking and partying in his youth. He feels he learned life lessons before most other people, so he expects more from his kids in advance. He says that some people are a product of their environment and won’t change, but he also knows that everything can be taught and everything can be learned. Being a genuinely good person also goes a long way. James believes that whatever you put out into the world, you will get back.

I don’t expect perfection, but I expect greatness.

 

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How To Dream Big and Conquer Your ​Aspirations with Diamond Dallas Page​

Today on The Good Dad Project I talk to wrestling legend Diamond Dallas Page about his career, his new projects, and his tips on raising FOUR daughters!

DDP’s Career

For the few who don’t know about Diamond Dallas Page, he’s famous around the sports entertainment world of professional wrestling as “DDP.” His drive and ambition would lead him on an inspirational journey from being three-time world wrestling champion to his current endeavor of inspiring others to Own Your Life. DDP has developed his life-changing DDPYoga including books, audio cd’s and DVD workouts and is touring the country to promote his system.

Diamond Dallas Page dreamed of being a wrestler since he was a kid. He started practicing and entered a few matches, but abandoned his goal of becoming a wrestler when he began working in nightclubs and bars at the age of seventeen. Page loved the bar industry, especially all the perks he enjoyed as part of the scene. But when wrestling blew up, he felt he should have been part of it and deeply regretted giving up on his childhood dream.

One day, Page and his friend were having drinks in the back office of the bar he managed. He started riffing on ideas about a character named Diamond Dallas Page and his entourage of females called “Diamond Dolls.” Page wrote it all down just for fun. Little did he know that this seed of an idea would turn into his dream career.

Page began as a wrestling manager and ended up stealing the stage away from the wrestlers in the ring. He long thought he was too old to begin training to wrestle, but he couldn’t shake the dream. Eventually, DDP made the remarkable leap into professional wrestling at the age of 36.

Diamond Dallas Page, the former good guy of World Championship Wrestling “turned bad” continues to be one of the most recognized and respected superstars of professional wrestling. Also known as the “people’s champion,” his contagious popularity can be credited to his unshakable confidence and positive energy.

DDP As a Husband and Father

Back in Page’s days as a bar manager, one of his best bartenders was abandoned by the father of her two girls. They were left with a mortgage for a $400K home and nothing else. Page stepped in and took on the roll of the father and has looked after them ever since.

His other two daughters he had with his wife, Brenda. Brenda and the two girls now help Page with DDP Yoga and his other endeavors. He says the relationship they have together now is amazing.

Dad Wisdom for Raising Daughters

Diamond Dallas Page says that living in a household with 5 women was a challenge, and it’s hard not to get caught up in the drama. He suggests the following:

  1. Breathe. The most important technique DDP uses to diffuse a situation is deep breathing. When drama ensues and emotions run high, he coaches his girls in breathing for up to five minutes before actually beginning to discuss the problem.
  2. Mediate. He also would sit his daughters in a room and break the issue down. The reason for the fight is usually below the surface, and he would force them to communicate and be accountable for their behavior.
  3. Don’t yell. As a professional wrestler, DDP knows how hard it is to control your voice when you’re angry, but he says that once you start yelling and emotions get involved, you’re not hearing them anymore.
  4. Listen. Bite your tongue, shut your mouth, and listen to their side of the story.
  5. You can’t be their buddy all the time. It’s important to learn how to say no sometimes and tell them why you are saying no.
  6. You’re not always going to do it perfectly. Page says that nobody’s going to be a perfect dad. Don’t beat yourself up about making mistakes, but…
  7. Learn from your mistakes. You can’t keep making the same blunders and expect it to turn out differently. If something is isn’t working in your relationship with your daughter, try a new approach.

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What Your Daughter Needs From You as a Father

What Your Daughter Needs From You as a Father

I’d like to apologize for not having more guests on to talk about raising girls. Parenting daughters brings unique challenges for dads, and in the future The Good Dad Project will feature more guests sharing a man’s point of view on raising daughters.

In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I talk about what your daughter needs from you as a father to empower her to speak freely, develop confidence, and set her expectations high when it comes to the men in her adult future.

Referenced Episode:

How to Raise Strong, Confident, Resilient Girls with Bas Rutten

 


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