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The Process of Family Leadership—Dad Edge Alliance Exclusive Q&A with Errol Doebler

We are all going to go some day. What kind of culture do you want to leave behind for your family and the generations to come?

We have an intense experience for you today. Errol Doebler, former Navy SEAL and FBI Special Agent, is back on the show. He is a husband, a father of three, and the author of The Process, Art and Science of Leadership.

Errol participated in a live event with the Dad Edge Alliance, where more than 70 men had the opportunity to listen to his arsenal of family leadership training and got a chance to ask him questions on how to use the process of leadership to become strong leaders for their families.

Errol explains how the leadership strategies used for battle are the same we need to use in the boardroom and the home. In this behind-the-scenes peek into the Dad Edge Alliance, you will learn how to gain trust, earn respect, and form an unbreakable family team.

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Great teams (and families) are not made by who is on them, but how they operate.
  • It’s up to the leader (the father) to create a space where everyone feels like they can speak up.
  • Communication is the main part of the planning process. You need the team’s contributions.
  • We can unwittingly create silence. We have to break that down and develop an environment of psychological safety.
  • Each member gets equal input. Do not let a few dominate.
  • Teammates must be in tune with each other’s emotions and needs to be successful.
  • Before enforcing accountability, make it clear what kids have to be accountable for.
  • Autonomy—we want kids to take initiative. We establish what we want them to do and why we want them to do it. Then we let them tell us how.
  • What to do when you’ve blown up at your kids
  • Why we must apply the same mindset to times of calm as to times of chaos
  • How to regain trust and respect from your wife and/or family when you’ve lost it
  • How to reestablish leadership when you’ve given it up
  • How to execute even when you’re feeling fear
  • How to define and enforce codes of behavior

ERROL’S FULL INTERVIEW

The Process, Art, and Science of Leadership with Errol Doebler

 


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SAVAGE GENTLEMAN

The Savage Gentleman with MMA Fighter Josh Tyler


Life can often feel like a cage fight. Punches fly at us from every angle. We’re swept off of our feet and tackled to the ground. Sometimes we’re straight up knocked out. And if we aren’t prepared to battle, we might never get back up.

Today’s guest is MMA fighter Josh Tyler. He is also the co-founder of Savage Gentleman, a retail brand and ethos that believes that men are both savages and gentlemen.

Josh is here to reveal his secret to remaining calm in the chaos of the cage. He tells us how to employ emotional intelligence, communication, and self-awareness in a masculine way. Josh also talks about how he’s applied what he’s learned as an MMA fighter to family life.

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find a man who can be both.”

Josh Tyler and the Savage Gentleman

“The world is full of savages and gentlemen. Rare is it to find the man who can be both. It is not ideal void of all traits of masculinity, nor is it suitable to succumb to one’s every base desire. There must be a balance struck between the two sides of the same coin that is manhood. This is the plight of the savage gentlemen, to cultivate both aspects of his being and achieve his full potential.”

What You’ll Learn

  • Growing up, Josh was not athletic. He wanted to become a scientist.
  • How Josh managed to remain internally calm during the external chaos of the ring
  • How to perform a stress evaluation
  • Your body doesn’t recognize the difference between stresses.
  • You can take the stress tolerance from the situations you’re used to and apply it to other areas.
  • Use times of success in the past as reference points.
  • Seek new experiences to push your limits further.
  • How marriage is like a cage fight
  • How to balance the savage gentleman
  • Learning how to operate in tandem with another human being (like in marriage) can help in business and other relationships.
  • Men are woefully ill-equipped to enter into a partnership with someone of the opposite sex.
  • Just like in the world of fighting, how can you win in marriage when you don’t know the rules or spent enough time training? You have no context to realize what you’re good at and where you need work.
  • Knowing where your weak spots are allows you to solve those problems.
  • Ignoring your feelings prevents you from finding the root cause.
  • You have to take responsibility to learn how to communicate better.
  • You do feel stuff, whether you admit it or not, and you will receive what you put out.
  • The secret is to understand where your anger is coming from.
  • Most people go through life with very little thought and reflection on the what and why.
  • Self-awareness and personal development are not for wusses.
  • Pay attention and notice the cues of where you need to focus your awareness.
  • There are appropriate times to be vulnerable.
  • In marriage, if you don’t let someone in to know you on a deep level, you end up growing apart and not knowing who each other are anymore.
  • Bitterness and resentment change your perception of someone.
  • Sometimes the best thing in marriage is to have the fight.
  • Avoiding confrontation and letting stuff go for too long destroys the chance of ever getting back on track.
  • Develop a Standard Operating Procedure for how to handle tough arguments with your spouse.
  • People are getting worse at interfacing with each other in meaningful ways because of technology and distraction.
  • But first, we need to learn how to interface with ourselves better.

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Our biggest regrets in life happen
when we’ve lost our patience. 

how to have more patience

Stop Reacting and Start Living

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Leave Behind for Your Kids

The Ultimate Gift to Leave Behind for Your Kids


If you were to leave the world right now, what would you want your kids to know? What would you tell them about the way you feel? What advice would you give to take them through the rest of their lives? Today we talk about the ultimate gift to leave behind for your kids.

Blake Brewer lost his dad in a tragic accident when he was nineteen. Their relationship was cut short, but during the heartbreak and grief, Blake’s mom handed him a letter that his father had written to him. This legacy letter not only helped Blake cope with the loss, it also made it possible for him to take his father’s words with him throughout the rest of his adult life.

In honor of his father and the powerful gift he left behind, Blake Brewer is on a mission to help 1 million dads write at least one meaningful, heartfelt letter to their children with the Legacy Letter Challenge.

Blake knows that writing a legacy letter is a huge undertaking. What do you say? How do you say it? He talks about how to compose a legacy letter and how its effects will ripple through generations to come.

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Blake’s dad was Terry Bradshaw’s tight end.
  • His father struggled to connect with kids when he got older.
  • After Blake’s freshman year in college, they planned a pinnacle family trip to Hawaii.
  • Blake and his dad went to the beach to go swimming, just the two of them.
  • As they went further out into the ocean, the waves got bigger.
  • His dad tried to get out. He yelled for help. Blake eventually got to him, and with the help of another swimmer, pulled his dad to shore.
  • Blake pulled his unconscious dad from the water.
  • His father was pronounced dead at the hospital.
  • What started off as one of the best days of his life became the worst nightmare.
  • While still in shock about his father’s death, Blake’s mother told him that his dad had been working on a letter to him, even though he had no idea he would die.
  • The letter helped Blake through his grief. He didn’t run from his pain. Instead he grew more in his faith, which would’ve never happened without the legacy letter his dad wrote.
  • No one is promised to live till old age, and many dads struggle to connect with their kids.
  • Blake helps dads put words to what is in their hearts and minds.
  • In a world with so many distractions, we can’t let the world be the main influence on our children.
  • A legacy letter is a lasting gift that can be reread whenever your children need it.
  • How the process of writing the letter helps dads articulate their feelings into a mission statement
  • Why Blake is determined to help a million dads write a legacy letter

THE LEGACY LETTER CHALLENGE

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how to motivate

How to Motivate the Unmotivated with Matt Granados


Most of us want to accomplish many things in life. We know we need to take action to improve our health, relationships, finances, and careers. But we wake up every morning without the motivation. Today’s guest is the expert on how to motivate the unmotivated.

Matt Granados is speaker, coach, and the author of Motivate the Unmotivated: A proven system for sustainable motivation. He reveals the difference between motivated and unmotivated people. He talks about how motivation is not a character trait, but a state of mind. He also tells us how we can strengthen the connection between actions and outcomes to motivate ourselves and others, including our kids.

Get ready to systemize motivation and finally make things happen!

Being motivated is not a character trait, it’s a state of mind.

Matt Granados

Over the last decade, Matt has tested, developed and helped thousands of others implement an effective and easy to duplicate system that will help you build an unbreakable foundation for your life as well as motivate even the most unmotivated individuals in your life.

These techniques in versions such as keynotes, workshops, and individual coaching have been taught and implemented in organizations of all industries and sizes. From Google Headquarters and Twitter to the United States Airforce and professional organizations all around the world. Matt has been able to teach these systems to thousands of individuals along with his team at Life Pulse, Inc.

With over 10 years and 10,000 hours of studying, using, and teaching these concepts, Matt is considered to be an expert on teaching individuals how to build an unbreakable foundation for themselves as well as their organization, along with how to properly manage motivation.

Matt is happily married to his wife and business partner (Maria) with two amazing kids (Natalie & Zach). The drive behind Matt is his obsession to make sure no person’s potential is wasted and that each person he comes in contact with, if they want, is able to experience their maximum level of success.

Motivate the Unmotivated: A proven system for sustainable motivation

Finally, a book that gives you applicable, implementable techniques for how to boost motivation in all areas of your life—as well as the lives of others. You know “what” you should do in order to motivate yourself and others. So why don’t you do it? No one has ever systemized the “How” to what you already know you should do. This book does!

What You’ll Learn

  • How to stop starting over
  • Why are some people motivated while others are not?
  • The difference between fear-based motivation and love-based motivation
  • Why you should never make your kids the butt of a joke
  • Allow your kids to fail and learn.
  • The dad is not supposed to be a friend to his kids. He is there to provide, protect, and prepare.
  • Matt’s journey with his daughter’s extremely rare genetic disorder
  • A happy family is not an accident. It’s intentional work.
  • Men try to fix problems instead of dealing with them.
  • Most guys would say that they are the emotionally stable one in their relationships, but the reality is that they are emotionally suppressed.
  • When you don’t handle your emotions, they’re going to make their way out as anger, pornography, drugs, or some other vice.
  • If you can’t learn to process your emotions, how can you expect to lead your family through their difficult feelings?
  • Don’t try to fix your weaknesses. Manage weaknesses and leverage strengths. This applies to helping your kids too.
  • How you can use video games like Fortnite to motivate your children
  • PVTT (Personal Value Tied to Task) is fundamental to motivation.
  • If you understand the value of what you’re doing, staying motivated is easy.
  • Balancing the 4 Vital Signs of Fulfillment–internal, relational, physical, and professional. When you balance these properly, it’s easy to walk through life.
  • If you’re not motivated enough as a dad, it’s because you don’t see the value in it.
  • Action=Outcome. Keep action and outcome connected so the steps you take now make sense.
  • Everyone has 1 of 3 motivational catalysts.
  • When you catch yourself falling back into a bad habit, instead of feeling shameful, be grateful that you caught yourself.
  • Gratitude reveals growth. In a grateful state, you will always see opportunity.
  • Don’t do anything that is not important. Ask yourself, what’s the value to you for taking this action?
  • Don’t use motivation to manipulate. Help others get what they want in order to get what you want.
  • Get Matt’s PODGIFT! 

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Matt Granados’s Links

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how to become a patient father

How to Become a Patient Father in 37 Minutes

Today we talk about how to become a patient father.

The Dad Edge started on one of the worst nights of my life as a dad. I lost my patience and did something I regret to this day.

I didn’t grow up with my dad in the picture, and the men in my life were not good father figures to me. I was raised in an uncertain, sometimes abusive, alcohol-ridden household. When I became a parent, I didn’t have a clue. All I knew is what I didn’t want to do, but that wasn’t enough.

Losing our temper does not mean that we are bad, hopeless people. We are only lacking the skills to talk ourselves down so that we can respond instead of reacting to the daily challenges of fatherhood.

In this show, I give you a toolbox of strategies that you can use to understand the triggers, notice the signs, and disarm the bomb before it goes off.

Patience is the capacity to accept, tolerate, or delay trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why focusing on what NOT to do as a parent backfires
  • Why it’s so hard to determine where our anger comes from
  • The shame and guilt we feel because we don’t understand why we sometimes verbally, or even physically, take our frustration out on our loved ones
  • The things we do in the morning that set us up for disaster when it comes to losing our tempers
  • The elements of patience
  • The physical triggers that signal that we’re about to react
  • How we unwittingly trigger our fight or flight mechanisms
  • How to create space between reaction and response
  • Why emotions are neither bad nor good
  • How to detach from outcomes
  • How to prepare for moments that will test our patience
  • How to give forgive ourselves when we make mistakes
  • Stopping negative self-talk
  • Executing an after-action review

BECOME A PATIENT FATHER IN 37 MINUTES

Learn how to understand, predict, and neutralize your temper in this quick, actionable eCourse.

Includes print offs, templates, plus a 30-day membership in THE DAD EDGE MASTERMIND.

Get support, motivation, and advice from other men who’ve been there. With the accountability of the community, you will not fail!


Resources

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The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

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FREE EBOOK: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

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