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The Dad Champion Blueprint with Jeff Spencer

Episode Overview:

Dr. Jeff Spencer has consulted and provided guidance for top-performers in sports and business. As a former Olympian himself, he’s spent a career studying the science of success and helping others implement those principles in their lives with his Champion’s Blueprint training. Shawn and I had an opportunity to talk to Jeff about how the Champion’s Blueprint and Fatherhood go hand-in-hand.

Champion Blueprint for Fatherhood

As men, we don’t like to stop and ask for directions.  Afterall, we are problem solvers!  We are wired to hunt, gather, and simply figure stuff out…sometimes…even if it’s the hard way.  The funny thing about us men is that we love directions.  We love instructions.  We love the “how-to guides.”  However, it’s the “asking part” that we don’t really like.  Most men want direction.  We want guidance.  We want a path to follow.  However, we don’t want to ask for it.

 

Discovering our Own Champion Blueprint

Every dad possesses greatness at some level even if we don’t realize it.  There truly is no distinct roadmap for successful parenting.  However, we can stack the odds in our favor if we simply take time to tap into our greatness and develop our strengths.  

 

Dr. Jeff’s Links

Website:  www.drjeffspencer.com

Facebook:  www.facebook.com/jeff.spencer1

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jeffspencer

Blog:  http://drjeffspencer.com/blog/

Champion’s Blueprint:  http://drjeffspencer.com/the-champions-blueprint

 

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

 

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Why We Honor Our Veteran Dads with Ryan Michler

Episode Overview:

The Good Dad Project Podcast is a weekly show that releases a new episode every Monday.  Shawn and I have the highest respect for our military service and we honor our veteran dads.  So, in honor of Veteran’s Day, we wanted to show our appreciation, respect, and gratitude to the men and women who serve our country with a bonus episode with a very special guest, Ryan Michler.

For this episode we really wanted to dive into the life of a soldier who served our country for eight years.  During that eight-year service, he spent twelve months in Iraq where he was literally under fire and attack every single day.

 

Key Takeaways:

  • Ryan shares what it was like living under daily enemy fire for over a year
  • Discover the Warrior Ethos
  • Ryan shares the challenges of readjusting to civilian life after war
  • Learn how the families of our soldiers share the risk and burden of our veterans

 

Honor our Veteran Dads

Ryan Michler, veteran and our guest for today’s show, shares several critical lessons he learned from his time in the military.  Even as a young boy, Ryan has always considered himself a patriot.  He was always so inspired to follow in his grandfather’s footsteps to serve his country.  At the young age of only seventeen and only a junior in high school, he decided to answer an internal calling to serve his country.

Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure in his life for most of his childhood.  In the military, he found several positive male role models and mentors.  It was in his training and time in the military that has really shaped the man he is today and what he stands for.

 

Being under enemy fire every day for one year

Ryan dove into detail about his one-year tour in Iraq.  During this episode, Ryan paints a vivid picture of what it was like on a daily basis serving in Iraq.  He lived under enemy fire literally every single day.

 

 

Being a warrior and a father

The Warrior Ethos.  “I will always place the mission first.” 

 

“If you think of your life’s mission as: being a better father, husband, and man…you will focus all efforts towards that goal. 

You will not quit.  You will succeed. 

No matter the challenges, being a veteran has taught me to always put the mission first.  I can take all that I have learned through my military training and implement those same strategies and lessons into being a better man, husband, and father.” – Ryan Michler

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Honor our Veteran Dads and their families:

Ryan talks about how hard it was for his wife when he was active in Iraq.  The families of our veterans who are left at home are sacrificing just as much as the veterans themselves.  Ryan shares the importance of not only honoring our veterans, but the families as well.

 

Raising our kids with a problem-solving mentality

The military teaches problem solving skills and the importance of completing every mission.  One of the greatest lessons we can teach our kids is following through with their commitments (completing the mission).  The greatest gift we can give our kids is room and space to problem solve to figure out ways to complete their missions.  As parents, it’s our instinct to protect and even rescue our kids before we give them an opportunity to problem solve.  Part of Ryan’s mission as a father is giving his kids room to problem solve while instilling the importance of following through on their commitments.

A Special Thanks from the Good Dad Project to our Veteran Dads

Shawn and I would like to personally thank every Veteran Dad who defends the freedoms we enjoy.  If you are reading this, please send this episode to a Veteran you respect, love, and honor.

 

 

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Blogs/Articles mentioned in this show:

http://www.orderofman.com/why-order-of-man/

Where to find Ryan:

  • www.facebook.com/orderofman
  • www.twitter.com/orderofman
  • www.instagram.com/orderofman
  • www.youtube.com/orderofman 
fear as father

How to Defeat the Number One Fear as a Father – GDP031

Episode Overview:

In this episode, Larry and Shawn go over some key takeaways from Larry’s Amazon #1 Best Seller, “The Dad’s Edge.”

Key Takeaways:

  •             Learn how to overcome fear as a father
  •             Discover how fear as a father are based on the meaning we give them
  •             Learn how to rewrite your meaning and perspective
  •             Discover how you can take your game to the next level

How to Defeat Fear as a Father

You what really makes us miserable at times?

The answer may surprise you.  It’s you.  That’s right.  It’s ourselves.  It’s me.  It’s you.  It’s absolutely positively ourselves.

Unfortunately, so many of us have negative inner chatter. As men and Dads, we have a tendency to put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves. We can’t screw up. Not even once. We need to be exceptional. No, we need to be more than exceptional. We need to be perfect.

I want you to take a moment and really think about your daily inner chatter. What do you say to yourself quietly? Do you build yourself up or tear yourself down?  Learning how to defeat fear is absolutely critical to the success of our dad journey.

Most of us have a voice that can tear us down

  •             It’s the voice that constantly tells you that you are doing it all wrong
  •             It tells you that you are not enough
  •             You are not a lovable person

  •             You don’t deserve something or someone
  •             You can’t

  •             You never will

  •             You aren’t good at your job

This inner self-talk not only destroys our enjoyment of being a good dad, but all aspects of life.  Your inner self-talk can magnify our fear as a father.

Our Worst Fear as a Father

I will let you in on a secret: There is one ultimate fear we humans share. It is a fear that we all have in common whether you are a father, a mother, a son, a daughter, a grandparent, an employee, or a business owner. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do. We ALL share the same ultimate fear that is so incredibly deeply rooted. If you look at “things” in life that we are afraid of, it literally all boils down to just ONE CORE FEAR.

And here it is:

“THE FEAR THAT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH”

Think about it for a moment: Take anything that you are afraid of or something that is causing you stress. For instance, think about your job for a minute. What really scares you or stresses you out about your job?

You might say:

  • “It’s the workload…it’s hard for me to keep up.” 

  •  “I lost a customer or a big client. How will I make up for that?” 

  •  “I am afraid of making a mistake and being let go.” 
  •   “My boss is always all over my case.” 


Then ask yourself why you stress about that in particular? It’s because at the root of that perceived stress there is an underlying fear that “YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH AT YOUR JOB AND YOU WON’T BE NEEDED and THEREFORE LET GO.”

Fear as a father and troubled relationships

Think about a troubled relationship. What really scares and causes you stress about a troubled relationship? Certain things may come to mind such as: 


  •        “We fight about everything.” 

  •        “I feel like I am being taken for granted.” 

  •        “I feel I am not respected.” 

  •        “I don’t get the affection that I truly desire.” 

  •        “I don’t get the recognition and appreciation that I deserve.” 


All of these perceived stressors can be rooted in one common FEAR: ”Ultimately, I am not enough for this other person, they won’t love me, and will leave.” 
Are you beginning to see a pattern here? 


The Solution to Defeating your Worst Fear as a Father:

In order to change this debilitating fear that all humans share, we must do two things.

First, we have to change the story we keep telling ourselves over and over.  We have to re-write our story of defeat and replace it with a winning mentality.

The real question is how to defeat fear?

Second, you need to develop a daily and weekly strategy to sharpen the necessary skills for a fulfilling life and fatherhood journey.

Check out this episode and grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge for several solutions that will empower several aspects of your life…not just fatherhood…but all areas.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Thank You!

Thank you so much for checking out this episode of The Good Dad Project. If you haven’t done so already, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a quick rating and review of the show on iTunes by clicking on the link below. It will help us to keep delivering life-changing information for you every week!

 

Dad Edge

The Dad Edge: Progress Vs Perfection-GPD030

Episode Overview:

In this episode, Larry and Shawn go over some key takeaways from Larry’s Amazon #1 Best Seller, “The Dad’s Edge.”

Key Takeaways:

  •             Discover Unlimited Patience
  •             How to be a good dad by being a good husband
  •             How perfection will cripple your journey as a father

Having the “DAD EDGE” means making mistakes

As you guys know, a few weeks ago, I launched a book called  The Dad’s Edge:  9 Simple Strategies to Have:  Unlimited Patience, Improved Relationships, and Positive Lasting Memories. I was humbled by the response.   After being on Amazon for just one day, it hit #1 in 2 categories and hit #4 in the Fatherhood category.   When I first launched this book, I thought it would be great to land somewhere within the top 100 of Amazon’s Best Sellers..but never did I think it would gain so much momentum so fast.  As I have stated time and time again…I am no dad expert.  I have no accolades behind my name.  I am just another dad who makes a million mistakes a day.  I put this book out there for several reasons.

When I first started my dad journey 9 years ago, I felt frustrated and lost.  I felt I was trying to find a destination without a map.  It was confusing, frustrating, and defeating to say the least.  I decided long ago to simply become a student of fatherhood and just try to learn as much as I could.  I opened myself up to learning because simply wanted guidance and I was tired of feeling defeated.  Once I opened myself up to learning…my life and fatherhood journey changed more than I could ever imagine.  What I have learned and lived by is 9 simple strategies that have made all the difference in the world.  I’m not saying everyday is perfect…far from it.  In fact, I have learned a very hard lesson about trying to be perfect…it doesn’t exist.  In fact, measuring myself against perfection was the quickest way to cripple my journey.  Being a good dad means mistakes and a lot of them!

Dads and Men are wired to solve problems

As men, we are wired up to conquer and solve problems.  We don’t like to show weakness or make mistakes.  We view ourselves as leaders and the rock of strength for our families.  It is something we take very seriously.  However, it is something we don’t have to take so seriously to the extreme.  For example, when we dads make mistakes we can be incredibly hard on ourselves.  Maybe we went overboard blowing up at our kids for doing something wrong?  Maybe we came home from work in an awful mood and ended up taking out our aggressions out on our families.  Not only do we feel bad about our mistakes, but we also feel bad the mistake was made in the first place.  Listen, I want you to know here and now mistakes will happen and they will happen often.  Being a good dad is how we respond to those mistakes.

Being a Good Dad Means Mistakes and Lots of Them

If you are not a Dad who is making mistakes then it simply means you are either not human or not engaged.  If you listen to our podcast or read our blog, that is not who you are.  Mistakes are a part of being a dad.  Plus, if you feel pretty bad when you make mistakes, that is a really good sign.  The men who are worried about whether or not they are good dads…are good dads…simple as that.

The Dad Edge Takeaway Tips:

  1.  As a Dad, be prepared to make mistakes and laugh at yourself. If you want to really put a damper on your enjoyment during the journey of fatherhood, make sure you are super hard on yourself and beat yourself up when you make a mistake.
  2.  When you make a mistake, be the first to openly apologize to your kids and/or wife. Being open about being human and apologizing will teach your kids the same valuable lesson. You are teaching them to be human and mistakes are not necessarily “life-ending,” but instead a learning experience from which we all can grow.
  3.  Know that when you are making mistakes, it means you are more engaged and involved. The player that never makes a mistake is the one that is sitting on the bench. If you are an active, involved, and engaged Dad, you will make mistakes. But that simply shows you are there and present.
  4.  Remember: You are a Dad, but you are also human. You are most likely doing a better job than you think.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Thank You!

Thank you so much for checking out this episode of The Good Dad Project. If you haven’t done so already, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a quick rating and review of the show on iTunes by clicking on the link below. It will help us to keep delivering life-changing information for you every week!

 

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5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2 – GDP029

“5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2” Episode Overview:

Shawn and I did things a bit different for this episode.  We really wanted hear from our audience.  So, I reached out on social media and posed a question:

“What was one life changing lesson you learned from your dad growing up that has inspired you to be a better man?”

The responses were incredible.  We chose five quotes from five different fathers and then reflected on each quote.  If one of these quotes really hit home, tweet it.  You never know who needs inspiration and you could literally change someone’s day and life.

Life Changing Lesson #1 from Jay Forte

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“My mother, when teaching us how to cook, would tap us on the head and say, “When you know your ingredients, you can make something good.” Then in the next moment she would tap us on the heart and say, “When you know YOUR ingredients, you can make something good.”

What a great quote!  Truly illustrates knowing our strengths and using them for the greater good.  Everyone of us is born with gifts and strengths.  Being able to recognize what we are good at and sharing with the world is the best thing we can do.

Life Changing Lesson #2: from Jeff Watts:

Jeff Watts

“Always wear a belt if your pants have belt loops.”

Shawn and I got off on a tangent on this one (sorry Jeff LOL!).  All kidding aside, this quote is a great reminder to always pay attention to detail.  Also, to always stay curious about the world around us.

Life Changing Lesson #3 from Coach Jelani Bush:

Jelani

“Don’t wear your head as a hat rack!”

Short, simple, and to the point.  Use your brains to make purposeful and good decisions.  Simple as that.

Life Changing Lesson #4 from Katie Logan

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“Don’t call him.  If he is interested, he will call you.”

For all you men out there who have daughters…make sure you share this one with them.  Katie is spot on here.  For the most part, guys are pretty simple creatures.  If we are interested in a woman, it’s usually pretty obvious.  On the other hand, if we are not interested, it’s pretty obvious as well.  For all the dads out there who have daughters…I have no doubt you wouldn’t want your daughter wasting time and stressing about a guy that you know is not interested.  This quote will save a ton of time and heartache.

Life Changing Lesson #5 from Mike Rekart:

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“One night I overheard my son praying…”Dear Lord, please help me be the person my dad wants me to be.”  Later that night I prayed…”Dear Lord please help me be the father my son needs me to be.”

This one was just epic!  Reason being, there are so many meanings in this quote.  One thing Shawn and I took from Mike’s quote was “shared vulnerability.”  This quote illustrates how important it is to a child that they are accepted and loved by their fathers.  Moreover, it shows the desire from a father’s point of view to want to be guided to be the very best.  The Good Dad Project Show, Community, and Resources are exactly that…a resource for dads to be their very best.

Thanks again for checking out our show!  If you are an avid listener of the show or this is your first time…WELCOME to the GDP!  Check out all of our resources for fatherhood and simply being our best.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Thank You!

Thank you so much for checking out this episode of The Good Dad Project. If you haven’t done so already, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a quick rating and review of the show on iTunes by clicking on the link below. It will help us to keep delivering life-changing information for you every week!