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How to Manage Your Thoughts and Emotions by Letting Sh*t Go with Todd Stottlemyre

Todd Stottlemyre

Todd Vernon Stottlemyre is an entrepreneur, business coach, author, and Major League Baseball player. During his youth, Todd watched his father, Mel Stottlemyre, pitch for the New York Yankees. Todd and his brothers grew up watching their father’s games, going to practices, and helping out with the team. Todd quickly fell in love with the game and went on to play 15 seasons of Major League Baseball as a pitcher. Stottlemyre played for the Toronto Blue Jays and was the starting pitcher for two world championships in 1992-1993. After Todd retired from baseball in 2002, he developed a passion for the stock market and co-founded a hedge fund in 2010. Since 2010, Todd has been co-running this business, writing books, and telling his story to listeners around the world.

Managing Your Thoughts and Emotions

Today, Todd is a husband, father, and self-made business and life coach who learned how to turn guilt into joy by one simple action – letting go. He shares valuable life lessons as well as emotionally captivating stories that demonstrate how he took control of his emotions and began living his life more intentionally.

Guilt can lead to the emotional baggage that is carried with us every day if we don’t learn to let it go. That guilt can drain the joy from our lives and bring us to dark places. Recognizing this guilt and letting go of your baggage can help you start the healing process with not only yourself but your relationships with others as well.

Todd recalls the guilt he carried with him for 12 years of his life and how he hated the man he saw in the mirror. Through a family loss, emotional baggage, his journey to fame, and the life-changing words of Harvey Dorfman, Todd was able to abolish the guilt he carried with him and live a more intentional, thoughtful life. 

 

What You’ll Learn:

Pursuing a Passion – Todd’s Dream Turns Into Reality

[9:43]

Todd introduces himself and talks about how his childhood led him to become a Major Leaguer and life coach.

[15:39]

Todd talks about how people’s opinions get in the way of other people’s dreams and it can ruin them. Todd and his brothers chose not to listen when people were constantly telling them that they would never be like their father.

[17:25]

Todd explains how we are born into the world of impossible, so why stop there? You have a whole life to live and you were born for greatness. 

[19:10]

OWN your dream. Don’t let someone else tell you what your dream is.

[22:10]

Todd talks about winning a second world championship with the Toronto Blue Jays. Todd looks like he is living the dream on the outside, but hates the guy staring back at him. He tells the story of his brother dying at 11 years old from Leukemia and how it affected his guilt for 12 years.

Turning Guilt Into Joy

[26:46]

Todd reached out to Harvey Dorfman, an American Mental Skills coach, for an hour meeting that turned into twelve. The two talked about Todd’s emotional baggage that was taking away from Stottlemyre’s happiness.

[29:52]

Stottlemyre mentions his book, “The Observer,” and the inspiration behind it.

[32:16]

Todd talks about how men become their pain if they bottle it up and never let it out. Yesterday’s emotional baggage becomes today’s emotional baggage if we carry it with us everyday.

[38:55]

Todd recalls focusing on things he couldn’t control and how it stole his joy.

Making the Most Out of Your Relationships

[44:30]

Todd emphasizes building wealth around God and your family. The path to true wealth is building upon your faith and relationships with your family, children, and others.

[51:57]

Todd’s rule for building relationships with others: Don’t expect things from other people, just appreciate them.

[52:26]

Emotion is the driver of all action.

[55:40]

“The Observer” book overview. Todd recalls the purpose of the book and why it was written the way it was.

1:06: 13 – New experiences are a valuable force because we have no know-how in the new experience, which teaches us valuable lessons

[1:07: 55]

COVID brought new perspectives on family, politics, race, and work.

[1:08: 26]

Do things with your family that you’ve never done before and experience new things. This builds upon your relationship with your family.

[1:09:05]

Experiencing a loss can be difficult. However, learning to let go and heal can allow our hearts to open up to new possibilities and feel their presence in our lives.

RELATED EPISODES:

How to Execute Major League Achievement—Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Todd Stottlemyre

Relentless Success Through Triumph and Tragedy with Todd Stottlemyre

Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

 


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what it means to be masculine today

What It Means to Be Masculine Today


In this episode, we have invited Nicky Billou, the host of The Thought Leader Revolution Podcast. He is inspired by achievement and is dedicated to assisting others in achieving outstanding results.

But there was a time when Nicky’s marriage was in ruins and he didn’t even want to live anymore.

Today, Nicky talks about the biggest mistakes men make when it comes to marriage and what it means to be masculine today.

What You’ll Learn

Childhood days

[4:36]

Nicky had a great childhood as a Christian boy from Iran. He grew up admiring his father and treated him as a hero as his father taught him how to be a man.

[8:29]

His father was an old-fashioned, masculine man who taught him to be humble. His father portrayed how to show love and affection despite being a manly man.

Marriage

[16:41]

Nicky was married to a wonderful woman. They have two wonderful boys. Their youngest was diagnosed with a condition called Subglottic Tracheal Stenosis, which required a hazardous surgery that caused his wife to panic.

[17:42]

The doctor explained that the surgery would require a tube on their son’s throat and grafts on his body. However, there is also a 20% chance of failure, which could worsen their son’s condition.

[18:55]

Nicky felt that he had to be tough and strong (different from what he would do today), which caused him and his wife to argue often. A couple of weeks after his son came out of the hospital, Nicky was presented with a divorce petition from his wife. This made him feel like he wanted to die.

[20:01]

One morning, Nicky reached out to one of his friends and shared his frustrations. His friend encouraged him that life is worth living, and Nicky was thankful he made that call.

[21:01]

Nicky insists on the importance of having friends around when you have troubles. He encourages people to avoid hurting themselves as it will make life infinitely worst for their children.

Dealing with relationship trauma

[21:41]

Nicky met Owen Williams, an expert in helping men dealing with relationship trauma. He helped Nicky to recover by joining several sessions with men’s group. Two things got in the way of Nicky and his wife getting back together. His wife was not receptive to it at the time and Nicky still held much anger toward her.

[23:06]

Nicky’s perspective changed the day he was asked when he’d stop blaming his wife and when will he would take responsibility for his mistakes.

[25:32]

Nicky learned from Owen Williams that a woman will think about leaving her marriage for two years before giving a hint of that possibility. By the time a woman comes to tell you that she wants a separation, it will be hard to turn that around. Before that happens, wake up, be wise, and be a father to your children.

Buildup of emotions

[29:47]

When Nicky’s wife decided to divorce, he lost his sense of self and self-worth, and it was one of his worst experiences. But when he was in the room with his fellow men, he felt a surge of love and life-force coursing through his body, as if God were speaking to him that everything will be all right through a messenger.

Strength to walk a new path

[32:37]

Nicky expresses his yearning for his children. But even though he could not speak to them, he knew that his children missed him. He trusts God, and he knew that he had a bigger purpose in life. Nicky knew that his calling was to go out there and guide men and families to be of service to their children.

Advice

[40:03]

Nicky admires women and their ability to help each other. That is why he encourages men also to aid each other in times of need.

[42:05]

Going through a divorce means losing 70% of the wealth you’ve accumulated, denied access to kids, and it also destroys your sense of self, making it impossible to be your best.

[43:05]

Nicky is honored to help men be their best for their children their wives. As a man, it is his job to make sure that his children do not suffer.

[48:10]

You need to draw a line when it comes to the people that you associate with. It is even more important as a couple.

RELATED EPISODES:

Strong Men, Strong Marriages with Dr. Mike Frazier

The Art of Masculinity with Johnny Elsasser

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side


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The Pursuit of Happyness with Chris Gardner

Today, our guest is Chris Gardner, New York Times and Washington Post Best Selling author of the critically acclaimed The Pursuit of Happyness, which has been translated in over 40 languages and became a popular 2006 film starring Will Smith.

The book was the story of Chris’s life, a way to project onto the world that everyone can do anything, no matter what the obstacles are, no matter what the adversity is, because we all embrace the Power of Choice. That’s what this episode is all about!

In our conversation with Chris Gardner, we will talk about how we can make powerful pivots in our lives when we are confronted with adversities. We go over how we can show up as more empowered and compassionate fathers than we ever thought possible, even when we’re dealing with everyday stress and obstacles in our lives.

We also discuss how his upcoming book, Permission to Dream, lays out a blueprint for building a dream-come-true life, even during uncertainty.

Chris Gardner

“The first and most important decision that I ever made in my life was that, my children would always know who their father was. Without knowing the names, circumstances, social or social conditions I consciously chose to break every cycle that I was born into. Child abandonment, Child abuse, alcoholism, domestic violence, fear, poverty, and illiteracy. The second most important decision that I ever made in my life was that I would become WORLD CLASS as whatever I did in my life.”

Permission to Dream

A true fable, Permission to Dream is a timeless and timely manifesto for turning dreams into action—beginning right now.

At its heart, this book lays out a blueprint for building a dream-come-true life—even during uncertainty. Gardner delivers the secrets to achieving a prosperous career—from a method for identifying your ultimate dream to a playbook for becoming world class at it. His tools include the “new 3 R’s”—or the Rep, the Rap and the Rolodex—which reveal how to earn a stellar reputation, develop a rap for marketing yourself, and amass a Rolodex of rewarding relationships. No matter how much wealth you achieve, Chris notes, true success comes from enriching the lives of others—so all can still have access to the American Dream.

Toward the end, Brooke observes that in Atomic Time it’s never too late for anyone to reinvent themselves and change their fortune. Chris, hearing her, realizes what his next pursuit will be—to go back to high school and give permission to dream to the next generation of problem solvers and change makers.

What You’ll Learn

What His Childhood Looks Like

16:47

The first and most important decision that Chris ever made in his life was that his children would always know who their father was. Chris grew up with a stepfather constantly reminding him that he was not his father. Without knowing the names, circumstances, and social conditions, this decision allowed Chris to break all of the other associated links that he was born into, including child abuse, domestic violence, alcoholism, illiteracy, fear, powerlessness, and generational poverty.

Getting Through an Obstacle

21:50

You need to own your situation. Chris was reminded with the last conversation he had with his friend and mentor, Dr. Maya Angelou who was talking about struggle and how important it is to be mindful that there are people who came before us, who came up a steeper side of this mountain, carrying a bigger to heavier load, with little to no opportunity, but they kept going forward, onward and upward. And now, it’s our turn to experience and get through all these things.

23:45

As we go forward, we need to take baby steps. We take strides when the path is clear, when there’s no obstacles, no issues, and no challenges. But sometimes you need to take those baby steps in the dark. Part of taking that first step is embracing the joy that is yours, that has been presented only to you and the moment of the greatest darkness you have ever seen.

Meeting the Biological Father

34:24

Chris only met his biological father because of his son. Chris was reading this storybook where there are illustrations of a cow family with a mother cow, baby cow, and daddy cow, and as they were going through the story, Chris’ son gave his own interpretation and apply it in the human context of having both mother and father. That’s when Chris knew he needed to reach out to his biological father. The next time Chris saw his father was at his funeral.

The Blessing of the Curse

43:23

Chris’ stepfather showed him what Chris did not want to become. Because of what he has experienced with his grandfather, it made him strive harder to be the best for his children.

The Inspiration behind Permission to Dream

51:49

Since the day Chris’ granddaughter was born, the greatest gift that he ever got was the permission to dream. He also was motivated by his mother who told him every day that he can do or be anything.

53:06

Another big part of the book is Chris talking about the greatest export in the history of the United States is the American dream. And this ideal look that there’s a place where you could do or be anything that is the greatest export in the history of this country.

54:37

The biggest thing that we have to understand is that the American has changed. The biggest change is that because of globalization and technology, and that you’re competing with people around the world. While we are young and enjoying our time, it is important to know that the people that we are competing with are in someplace grinding. They’re studying, they’re practicing. They’re networking, they’re rehearsing their research.

 


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Pivoting During the Pandemic

Pivoting During the Pandemic with Ben Rector


Whether you had plans for your business, career, family, or personal life, COVID has probably derailed it to some point. Today, we talk about pivoting during the pandemic and turning our setbacks into new opportunities.

Ben Rector is a singer, songwriter, and record producer. Ben has appeared and performed on various television shows like Jimmy Kimmel Live! Conan, Live with Kelly and Ryan, and others. His songs make appearances on shows like American Idol, Ellen DeGeneres Show, World of Dance, Pretty Little Liars, and Castle.

In this episode, Ben talks about his music journey and how he’s had to restrategize his plans since the pandemic. He also shares his parenting insights and how he hits his reset button to stay on track.

What You’ll Learn

The Musician’s Journey

[03:21]

Ben had a humble beginning. He had no model to follow with no one in his family being musically-inclined. He grew up never thinking that music is something he would consider a job. He only started to embrace music professionally during college.

[04:48]

Ben loves playing any keyboard instrument or guitar.

 

Ben’s Appreciation for His Father

[07:19]

Ben appreciates his father for being stern while caring. His dad always showed up.

[08:35]

Ben witnessed his dad’s selflessness. He never doubted the love, care, and trust his dad had in him.

 

Pivoting during the Pandemic

[16:14]

Ben wants to make the best out of everything. He does not feel like there is any other option. Things will be difficult and challenging, and he will never be able to do any of it without his wife, Hillary.

[17:32]

The pandemic was the first time Ben was forced to slow down. It was the time he felt genuinely powerless. When his twins were born in such a time, it was peaceful yet weird for Ben.

[21:10]

Ben owns many aspects of his music. Any artist feels the sting in their income if they are highly-dependent on their record labels since they do not “own” the music.

 

Reset Button

[25:41]

Being honest with his feelings about situations has always been helpful for Ben. He is thankful that he and his wife have always been open with each other.

Being able to say out loud and name your difficulties is an affirmation that they exist and you are facing it. Everybody goes through challenges, and this rough time is a challenge for Ben and his wife—they are determined to take the challenge.

 

Parenting Legacy

[33:53]

Ben hopes to do an excellent job of letting his children know that he cares, loves, and supports them, just like how his father was for him. He hopes to gain their respect and to never doubt the love he has for them. He admires his father for the stern but caring approach, and he hopes to do the same thing.

 

What’s Next for Ben?

[37:40]

Ben envisions finishing his new record in the winter of 2022. His music and tours have been delayed due to the pandemic.

[39:04]

This pandemic was a luxury for Ben because, unlike pre-pandemic when things were chaotic, he now has space. He and his team take time to plan things out. Ben looks forward to being a dad, husband, and to moving around more before things start to get crazy again.

RELATED EPISODES:

Running Your Family as a Team with Marc Roberge from O.A.R.

Weird & Wonderful Ways to Build Mental Resilience with Ben Aldridge

To the Beat of Your Own Drum


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ron worley

How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life with Ron Worley


Ron Worley is a business coach, entrepreneur, and the author of “Ditches to Riches: How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life and Create a Kick-Ass Business.”

Living a life of treachery, drugs, and helplessness, Ron almost succumbed to the abyss of death.

Today, Ron is a self-made millionaire, a husband, and a dad. He reveals his chaotic past, personal reflections, pivotal decisions, and life lessons. He also shares how every man needs a woman that will support him throughout it all—in happiness and pain.

Your dreams may be free, but getting there demands a price.

Ron Worley

Ron L. Worley, II is successful business owner, real-estate investor, mentor, and self-made millionaire who follows his own code, The Worley Way. He is a proud papa and dedicated husband making his home in Colorado. He refused to accept circumstance, taking himself from a man on a path to death to living a world-changing reality. He shares real life lessons that inspire countless entrepreneurs, thinkers, and those wanting lasting change. His systems guide wealth and well-being. Ron is the host of the podcast, Sons of Ditches, and the author of Ditches to Riches: How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life and Create a Kick-Ass Business.

Ditches to Riches: How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life and Create a Kick-Ass Business

Homeless. Addicted. Alone. Ron Worley hit rock bottom, but climbed his way back and into money, a successful business, and fulfillment. Now he is helping others do the same.

Negative circumstances can overshadow a life of purpose. Making the brave hard choices can seem impossible. Yet, you don’t have to accept mediocrity. Your growth is your choice. If trauma and failure have set you adrift, it’s time to step up with Ditches to Riches.

Unlock potent strategies to revolutionize your well-being, create personal wealth, and build a prosperous business! Worley’s inspiring true success story teaches you to overcome feeling defeated, directionless, and driven to the edge. Give yourself the chance you deserve.

You need to show up and make the right choices to make your dreams happen. Follow heartening real-life stories to help you ditch a shattered life and build a new rich one. These are life lessons for the new entrepreneur, strategic-thinker, or anyone sick of not using their full hidden potential.

What You’ll Learn

Ron’s Appreciation for His Wife

[07:43]

Ron works, plays, lives, and does everything together with his wife. They treat each other as best friends and he fully appreciates her loyalty. His wife knows the difference between right and wrong and she helps Ron navigate his gray world.

[09:03]

His wife brings peace. She is his rock, and Ron feels she is the reward for his pursuit to change his life.

Ron’s Chaotic Upbringing

[11:23]

Ron’s father has two children, Ron and his brother, Les. When his parents eventually separated, his father married the babysitter and had another two children. During the honeymoon with his new wife, his father got another woman pregnant.

[13:31]

His dad had a total of six kids and three different wives. Ron grew up witnessing many horrible things and started to smoke weed at as a little kid.

[15:26]

These unsupervised ways of taking drugs became his way of life. He became an alcoholic and a drug addict at 15 years old.

[16:31]

Ron worked to keep himself high all the time. Meanwhile, he was also athletic in various sports and had offers for scholarships. He made sure to not let the two worlds cross with each other.

[17:07]

Ron only started to learn as an adult about integrity. When nobody is looking, is he really doing the right thing? As a child, the only thing that mattered for him was to feel good.

[18:43]

His father died in 1997. He lived a dangerous lifestyle where he was killed by the police.

[20:39]

When kids are young, they look at their father as if he is a god. He grew up realizing what he had been idolizing was not good.

Regrets

[24:24]

Ron feels a tremendous loss. It made him mad and upset for not having the opportunity to be a child.

Living Through Your Children

[29:05]

Ron felt he has not grown up yet. He is reliving his childhood through his children as they are growing. He is enjoying a part of their lives he never had.

[31:23]

When Ron retells his childhood to his kids, he wants them to learn something from it. Since he has lived through the worst, he hopes it helps them understand and to not repeat what he has experienced.

Flipping the Switch

[35:37]

Ron’s mother cut ties with him because of his dysfunctional life. It was the final straw for him, realizing that he had no one to lean on anymore.

[36:21]

It was at that moment where he would either be the biggest loser or he would get sober.

[38:33]

Ron felt that rehabilitation was not for him, and it was at this time he found business. He started working out, getting healthy, feeling good. He found a job and started a small business to save money.

[40:11]

Everybody has this insight to know that when enough is enough and to change their circumstances.

Outlook on Life

[46:29]

Ron learned to set aside his guilt and let go of the past. He treats his experiences as his Medals of Honor, telling the world the wisdom he can offer. He wakes up every single day with a positive frame of mind.

[49:01]

He battles insecurities all day. It was ingrained from his childhood and it is something he has to live with. He goes through his values, anger management skills and ends up exhausted. But Ron emphasizes to be positive no matter what you do.

[51:12]

Ron has an hour of power he calls The Dream Time or active meditation. It is the time where ideas for his next business come up. He makes a list of solutions for problems, finds change, and figures out how to do better.

Living Authentically

[57:13]

Ron does not want to let the people down and he is honest about the fact that he has many things to learn. Even if he can only do meager things for the meantime, Ron has learned that faking does not always work. If you are dumb or ignorant to something, you should never hide it.

Legacy

[01:07:12]

Ron’s eldest daughter is stubborn, hardworking, and a forward-thinker. His youngest son is smart, aloof, and enduring. The middle son is a sponge, a gifted talker, and brave.

[01:10:37]

Ron wants to try everything. He realizes that if he does not start doing things, he will die. He will try anything as long as there is an angle to make money from it.

[01:12:32]

“Live like you are dying.” It’s the motto Ron lives by. It’s the legacy he wants to leave.


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