Podcast Episodes

TT 76 - How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How are mobile devices affecting our physical and mental health? How are they affecting our relationships? In this age of constant internet connection, we are facing an epidemic of living inside our phones instead of with the real live people in front us.

In this short episode, I talk about four reasons why spending too much time on your phone is harmful and what The Dad Edge Alliance is doing to set boundaries for screen time.


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Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

Today, I have an awesome return guest on to talk about ADHD and ADD. Peter Shankman’s new book, Faster Than Normal, is the number one new release on Amazon. He is back to help us uncover the secrets of ADHD and give us alternatives to medication.

This is a huge topic for our generation, being fathers, and the next generation, which is our own kids. We undoubtedly have the most medicated children in history, but whether you or your child have ADHD or not, you will get a lot out of this episode!

Peter Shankman

Peter Shankman is a spectacular example of what happens when you merge the power of pure creativity with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and a dose of adventure, and make it work to your advantage. An author, entrepreneur and corporate keynote speaker, this “worldwide connector” is recognized worldwide for radically new ways of thinking about customer service, social media, PR, marketing, advertising, and ADHD.

Extreme Self-medication

Peter wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until he was 30 years old. Since then, he has developed some wild ways of coping with his ADHD. They may seem crazy at first, but the logic is valid. What Peter has been told is that adults and children who have ADHD don’t produce enough of the brain chemicals that help us focus – serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline. Typically, these are replaced by medication, but Peter self-medicates … by sky diving.

Peter has over 500 jumps under his belt. When he leaps out of the airplane, his brain floods with all the chemicals he is lacking. He becomes super focused, and even when the skydive is over, its effects will last for up to hours later. He brings his laptop to the hangar, so that after the jump he can toss his parachute aside and work.  In this state, Peter says he has the mental power to hammer out 10,000 words in 30 minutes.

You’ve gotta understand yourself.

Faster Than Normal

ADHD brains move much faster than a normal brain. Peter says it’s like having a Lamborghini with bike brakes. If you don’t know how to control it, you can easily veer of the road.

He has several strategies to keep his brain in check so he can use it to his advantage. They are outlined in his new book Faster Than Normal: Turbocharge Your Focus, Productivity, and Success with the Secrets of the ADHD Brain. These tips are not only for people who have ADHD, but for anyone who wants 4 more hours of productivity out of their day. Here are some highlights:

  • Follow a routine – Whether it’s you or your child who has ADHD, following a routine helps keep the ADHD bran on track.
  • Eliminate choices – Choices can be distracting, even something as simple as picking out what to wear. Simplify your life so that you don’t have too many options.
  • Exercise and Nutrition ­– Peter says exercise is crucial to taming his brain. He even goes as far as sleeping in his gym clothes and keeping his bike at the end of his bed so that he doesn’t have excuses to skip his workout.
  • Nutrition is also important, especially for ADHD kids. Choose foods that nourish the brain, not sugary cereals and pop tarts. Peter recommends high-protein and healthy carbs like fruit and vegetables.

Play the tape forward. How are you going to feel if you don’t work out and eat like shit?

  • Prioritize your time – People ask Peter how he has time to write a book. He makes time. If you want to increase the value of your life, it’s not about “I don’t have the time.” You make time for your priorities.

Save your energy to focus on them.We all have the same 24 hours a day. It’s up for you to choose.

  • Know yourself – Know what you can and cannot handle. Take care of yourself. ADHD is a condition of extremes. Peter knows he can’t have just one drink. He had to quit drinking because of that. He also can’t have just one slice of pizza, so he avoids that too.

Our ADHD Kids

Society considers ADHD a negative thing. Kids feel something is wrong with them and associate taking medicine with being sick. Not only that, when children rely on medicine all their lives and are taken off as adults, they often turn to illegal drugs and alcohol to self-medicate.

  • Get a second opinion – When a doctor’s first choice is to put your child on drugs, you don’t have to listen to him. Seek out other specialists for more information.
  • Make sure they know they’re NOT broken – Explain to your child that their brain is just faster than normal, and anything faster is good.
  • Get them outside – Don’t let your kid sit in front of the TV for long periods of time. Go walk around outside for 30-40 minutes. Get in the pool. This simple act does wonders.

Peter’s Dadly Wisdom

We often go through the motions when communicating with our kids. Peter Shankman, says it’s important to dig deep.

 Ask questions – not just, “How was your day at school?”

 

RELATED EPISODES:

How to Unlock ADHD Superpowers with Peter Shankman

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King


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Resources

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

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Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

How to Reignite Your Marriage After Having Kids

When the kids are born, men focus on being a father. We cannot falter in our role as a provider and protector. Our spouses focus on being mothers, which is a twenty-four-hour, seven-days-a-week job. Our marriages inevitably suffer, but many parents feel guilty for leaving the kids.

On today’s short episode, I’m going share my personal experience and why you need to leave the kids behind and spend some time getting to know your spouse again.


Resources

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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GDP 132 - Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Today we have Omar Pinto, host and founder of the wildly popular SHAIR Podcast. SHAIR stands for Sharing Helps Addicts in Recovery. He’s part of our Dad Edge Alliance and he’s also a friend.

“O” shares the heart-wrenching story of the son he had to give up. He also takes us through his insane addiction to cocaine and alcohol, and how he not only survived, but transformed into one of the most well-known voices in recovery today. This is a special episode you will not forget!

The SHAIR Podcast

Drugs and alcohol are one of the most popular topics on the GDP. Many of us drink alcohol –  some of us are social drinkers, some of us might drink a lot – we’re all over the spectrum, but we’re all curious if we’re depending on it too much. There also might be some recreational drug users in the community who may wonder if their life could be better without drugs, but are too afraid to ask for help.

Omar Pinto has a huge fan base and he’s changing lives. Every week The SHAIR Podcast broadcasts amazing life-changing success stories from addicts and alcoholics all over the world and shares their inspiring journey into recovery. He also manages a 100% private Facebook accountability group for active and recovering alcoholics and addicts. His passion and life’s purpose is to inspire people struggling with addiction to take that first step towards recovery, to show them that their life could be so much better and that there is a better way to live.

Omar’s Story

Came from a dysfunctional home. His mom was Jehovah’s Witness, but his dad left the religion and it became a constant source of tension in the home. His dad was explosive and he grew watching parents fight all the time. At one point, Omar remembers that they each had their own bedroom, and he thought that when he got older he would do the same. This was normal to him.

His dad’s side of the family were heavy drinkers, but no one ever said the word “alcoholic.” They were social drinkers, weekend warriors. There was never a wedding, birthday, or funeral where alcohol was not involved.

Omar had low self-esteem as a kid. He worried about how he looked, whether he was smart, and if he would ever be a good athlete. He was a C student who had no special talents. Worst of all, he had a difficult time trying to fit in because his mom was Jehovah’s Witness. He couldn’t go to parties or participate in holiday activates. He was isolated and lost. It’s no wonder that drinking appealed to him.

At the age of seventeen, he got a job at a steakhouse. He left with a fat stack of cash every night and it was party time. He had no goals or aspirations. He was attending college, but not getting anywhere. He was already living the dream – a career waiter. The fun he was having was irresistible. But he started to drink on the job and one day passes out and gets fired.

He spent five years in college and didn’t get a degree. He decided to move to LA and get into the mortgage business. This was before the recession hit, and he was making the bucks. He met a girl and started a volatile relationship. Dysfunction seeks dysfunction. Omar was always wanted to be the hero, so he attracted victims. Once he rescued them, he took them hostage. Omar says he was an angry person; anger protected him and kept him sharp. His girlfriend moved in, and they had serious fights. He would go to work with scratch marks on his face.

After multiple break ups and reunions, he finally said he’s done with her for good. He was free and finally ready to move on with his life. A week later, his ex-girlfriend called.

She’s pregnant.

Fatherhood Nightmare

Omar was distraught. He called his dad and cried to him, but instead getting a sympathetic ear, his father told him, “Stop crying and man up. You’re twenty-five. You have nothing going for you. You couldn’t finish college. You can’t hold a steady job. This is the best thing that could happen to you. This will teach you how to be a man.”

The tears just stopped. Omar put his head back, and said, “Alright, Dad.”

His pregnant girlfriend moved back in, and the nightmare continues. It was rough, but Omar pushed through. As soon as his son was born, she left him to stay with her parents.

A constant battle to see his son ensued. Each time he tried to make arrangements, she avoided him or put him off. He spent the next year trying to see him. Finally, he told her, “If you want, you take full custody and relinquish me of any financial responsibility.” That was the offer she had been waiting for. She never answered him, just sent the papers. He was done.

The Descent into Addiction

Omar was broken and in a serious depression, he never stopped thinking about his son. Then someone offered him an online casino job in Costa Rica. This is where he met his present wife and the drug that would lead him into destruction.

Omar was told that above all, he had to fit in. His contacts and partners were valuable to the business. When he met all his coworkers, he couldn’t believe what insane partiers they were. They had bars in their offices. They even smoked weed right there at work. Omar drank and got high at work every day, having the best time ever.

One night, Omar was falling asleep on the desk. All his coworkers were on the way to the casino, but he told him he was too tired to go. How did they have the energy to stay out all night? Then one of the guys offered Omar some cocaine. The clouds parted. The angels sang. Omar felt like it was the secret elixir of success.

But it doesn’t take long to degrade into a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde situation. Omar’s problem skyrocketed. He regularly fell into coke-induced psychosis and paranoia, disappearing on binges and acting on insane delusions.

During the same time, he married his new wife and she was pregnant. But he couldn’t stop. One night, with his heart racing so fast he had to down booze and sedatives to prevent a heart attack, he hit an all time low. He got on his knees and prayed for God to take him out of this world or get him clean.

He woke up the next day, got in his car, and drove to his therapist. “I need help,” he finally said. The therapist new of a Narcotics Anonymous meeting that was starting in an hour. Omar made it. He shared his story. The people surrounded him. That was the beginning his journey into recovery.

A Life of Purpose in Recovery

The 12 Steps radically changed Omar’s life. They allowed him to work through his father’s death and the unresolved situation with his son. Omar knew his story might inspire people to make the first step toward recovery. He created The SHAIR Podcast for those who are suffering from this disease who are hiding behind a veil of shame, those who are isolated behind a computer who just need one ray of hope and support to get started.

Thanks to the program that saved his life, Omar is still with his beautiful wife and his daughter who is now fourteen-years-old. He surrounds himself with people with the same values and principles. Fidelity, loyalty, and responsibility are non-negotiable. As painful as the situation with his son was, Omar says he wouldn’t be the man he is today or appreciate his family like he does today if he hadn’t gone through it. Now, it’s his goal to be the best dad he can be for his daughter.

Omar’s Dad Wisdom

If you are lost and haven’t quite found out how to communicate with your kids and be a good father, you have to view your circle of influence.

If you have sucky friends who are shitty dads, get rid of them. Find guys who are solid who care about their children.

 

If you’re struggling with drugs and alcohol and you’re afraid to ask for help, if you’re afraid to be found out, go to SHAIR Private Facebook group. You will be welcomed and surrounded with absolute love and support.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN.

 

Mentioned Episodes:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

SHAIR 134: “DO EPIC SHIT” with Larry Hagner of The Good Dad Project and The Dads Edge Alliance


Resources

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

Links

Omar Pinto

theshairpodcast.com

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Private Facebook Group

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Discipline Disagreements: How to Align with Your Spouse in Front of the Kids

Discipline Disagreements: How to Align with Your Spouse in Front of the Kids

One of the most common conflicts that can destroy a family is an unstable system of discipline. Often, one spouse gives into a kid and undermines the other’s authority. When this happens on a regular basis, children can learn who is the ‘yes’ parent and who is the ‘no’ parent and begin to play the mother and father against each other. How can we avoid these destructive dynamic even if we don’t agree with our partner’s discipline? Find out in this short episode.



Resources

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Join our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Download a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Download this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links


Create an Epic Life

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