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parenting your adhd kid

Parenting Your ADHD Kid with Confidence Angela Pruess


Parenting is always a challenge. We aren’t given a manual when our kid is born. Parents whose kids have ADHD are even more unprepared. The Dad Edge constantly receives emails from dads who are struggling with their ADHD son or daughter. Most feel frustrated and helpless. They don’t enjoy parenting, and their kids can sense that. But there is hope for ADHD parents. All we need is the right skillset.

Angela Pruess is a licensed family therapist with a background in Child Psychology, Child Development, and Play Therapy. She is the founder of Parents with Confidence and also the mother of three children, two having special needs.

Angela explains the 3 different types of ADHD and the best way to manage each one. She talks about how to create an environment that encourages emotional intelligence and a growth mindset. She also tells us how to develop and leverage our parent-child connection, understand the true motivation behind our child’s behavior, and discipline our children without emotional damage.

Empower yourself to grow emotionally resilient ADHD kids who will live their best lives!

Angela Pruess

Angela Pruess, LMFT, is a Child and Family Therapist and special needs parent on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging kids. Over at parentswithconfidence.com, she wants to make life easier for you by decoding your child’s maddening behaviors, as well as their developmental and emotional needs. When she’s not supporting parents, or seeing kids in her private practice, she is at home being challenged (a lot) by her own three kids (and sometimes husband).

“Kids do better when they feel better.”—Angela Pruess, LMFT

What You’ll Learn

  • Parents forget to try to understand their kids. We need to know what drives them.
  • There is no quick fix for helping an ADHD child.
  • How amazingly resilient kids are. Their high-plasticity brains keep them openminded to learning about themselves.
  • How to manage emotional resentment towards your child.
  • ADHD cannot be helped. There are differences in the child’s brain structure since birth. Executive functions are limited as well as a broad range of important skills that bleed into everything.
  • Has ADHD always been around? How come we haven’t heard of it till now?
  • The outdated diagnostic criteria for ADHD.
  • The 3 different types of ADHD: Hyperactive, Inattentive, and Combined
  • Hyperactive: Physically hyper, but also impulsive, these children have a hard time stopping and thinking before the act. They show a limited ability for self-control and taking time to make best decisions.
  • Inattentive: It may look like these children are lazy and not paying attention, but there is an invisible piece. They don’t know where to start and get stuck. Parents have to be on child’s back to get things done. These are the dreamers, staring out the window. They are observant, curious.
  • Combined: These children present both aspects of ADHD. All of these children struggle with emotional control and regulating their attention.
  • How does ADHD show up besides hyperactivity and poor academic performance?
  • How to tell if your child has ADHD and is not just misbehaving.
  • Playing too much video games, not getting sleep, and too much sugar are some habits that lead to ADHD behaviors.
  • Parents expect to treat each kid the same, but they must seek to better understand each individual child’s neurobiology and personality.
  • The more you know about how each child ticks, the more you can influence your kids.
  • Use a humble, open approach instead of being authoritarian.
  • Kids put their needs out in the form of their behavior.
  • Unwanted behavior will not end until your child’s needs are met.
  • Their behavior is just the tip of the iceberg. Underneath is a huge variety of internal factors and drivers.
  • Be aware of your child’s sensory needs. Some are triggered by noises or being touched.
  • Being the “behavior police” with your ADHD child breeds disconnect and resentment.
  • How to draw the line between positive parenting and giving into bad behavior.
  • Get into the habit of thinking of the golden rule when interacting with your child. How would you want to be addressed? What would inspire you to do better?
  • ADHD kids are bright and advanced in other ways. They want to be acknowledged and respected for their gifts.
  • When children are upset, they shift into stress brain and their thinking brain goes offline.
  • How to teach your child to be aware of their emotions and help him/her be genuinely motivated to learn how to cope with their feelings.
  • All humans are wired with a negativity bias. Try to focus on the positives and achievements instead of everything your child does wrong.
  • Growth Mindset. Think of the whole picture when it comes to dealing with your ADHD child, not just right now. Instead of putting out fires, use challenging situations as a learning experience.

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Faster than Normal: Secrets of the ADHD Brain with Peter Shankman

How to Unlock ADHD Superpowers with Peter Shankman

Anxiety and Depression in Kids: A Parent’s Survival Guide with Natasha Daniels

How to Help Kids with Anxiety and Depression – Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Natasha Daniels

Strategy Guide for Parenting ADHD Kids with Brian King

 


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alcohol-free

What to Expect When You Go Alcohol-Free


Are you concerned about your alcohol intake?

It’s the peak season for drinking. Many guys waking up with a nasty hangover will wonder what it would be like to give up alcohol for awhile.

But we worry.

Wouldn’t it be boring? What would our friends think? How would we relax at the end of the day?

Today we have everyday dad and alliance member, Darren Bellew on the show. After 35 years of drinking, he decided to try a 30-day detox. Once he reached that milestone, Darren experienced the benefits of being alcohol-free and just kept going.

More than a year later, Darren is still alcohol-free. Instead of feeling deprived, he has more energy, more time, better performance, and a deeper connection with his family. Darren has built a better relationship with himself, learning to solve his problems rather than putting them off by drinking.

If you’re thinking of taking a break from the beer and the booze in 2020, this episode will help you understand what to expect when you go alcohol-free!

“When you start to go alcohol-free, the biggest fear is losing that connection.”—Darren Bellew

RELATED EPISODES:

Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns

How Giving Up Alcohol Will Revolutionize Your Life with Ruari Fairbairns

How to Conquer Alcohol Addiction with Ruari Fairbains

Sobered Up, So Now What? with Steve Galatioto


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financial independence

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence with Brad Barrett


Do finances stress you out? You’re not alone. Most of us aren’t clear about what we have to do to achieve financial independence. The average 50-year-old has about 50K in savings. Most millennials are not saving at all. The majority of family households don’t even have a budget to know what they’re spending on.

Money problems wreak havoc on our physical and mental wellbeing as well as our relationships. The best time to take control and be intentional about financial independence is right now.

Financial legend, Brad Barrett, returns to The Dad Edge. He’s the cohost of the Choose FI Podcast, the co-author of Choose FI: Your Blueprint to Financial Independence, and cofounder of a financial independence movement that has spread worldwide.

Brad went from being a full-time CPA to retired and financially independent at the age of 35. Now he empowers others to design their paths to financial independence.

Today, Brad gives us simple, actionable steps you can take right now to cut expenses, save money, and build wealth without feeling deprived. He also talks about how to get your spouse in on the game to use your financial plan to bring you closer.

It’s not about what you’ll be giving up, it’s about making your life better. Don’t waste another day or another cent. It’s time to build a lifestyle according to what you value most.

Brad Barrett

Brad and his wife are both Virginia Certified Public Accountants (CPAs) and find themselves constantly looking for new strategies to make their lives less stressful and more financially secure.

Brad lives for finding smart and creative life hacks to make their lives easier and he looks forward to helping others do the same in in their lives on the path to financial independence.

Brad is passionate about everything from saving money, to living a more healthy lifestyle, to ‘boring’ things like tracking your finances and cutting down on your tax bill. But his favorite topic is leveraging credit card rewards to save more money, and take trips you never would have dreamed possible for pennies on the dollar.

What You’ll Learn

  • Living a life of intentionality with freedom as your goal
  • How to reframe and anchor to a 15-20 year working life instead of the traditional retirement age.
  • If you look at saving and budgeting as deprivation, you’re going to be bitterly unhappy.
  • Life is an experiment. Find out what makes you happy and what helps you interact best with your wife and kids.
  • How to figure out what you value.
  • Why you should never sacrifice date nights with your wife.
  • Cutting back in less important areas allows you to spend lavishly on the things you really value.
  • Cutting expenses on housing, food, and transportation
  • Brad’s $2 per person per meal family dinner plan.
  • Preparing food in advance to avoid scrambling for take-out or ready-to-eat food.
  • How intentionality and planning saves both money and time.
  • Having happy hour with your spouse at home to save the huge bar tab.
  • How FI can bring you closer together as a couple, turning life into a game you play together.
  • How to live the same middle-class life as everyone else without being chained to a job.
  • The FIRST STEP: Get an honest understanding of what’s going on in your finances.
  • Face your mistakes. Put your financial failures on paper without beating yourself up about it.
  • How the money story that comes from our childhoods affects us as adults
  • Think about what kind of security you need. Each person is different.
  • Sit with your spouse. Ask yourselves, what do you want your lives to look like, and is your current budget going to get you there?
  • Hiding or avoiding talking about your financial habits with your spouse is destructive. You don’t want to be enemies. You want to be teammates.
  • Make decisions and take action. It doesn’t help to learn of you don’t act on the information.
  • In the beginning, the easiest way to begin to save money is decide what to cut, like subscriptions you don’t really use.
  • Bolder steps you can take like moving to a less expensive city or selling your car.
  • Reframe your budget mindset as a path to a better life.
  • Think about how you can earn more—start a side hustle, ask for a raise at your current job, or add to your education and skills.
  • Get easy quick wins that will inspire you to do more.
  • Think about how much less stressful your life would be if you knew you had a few thousand in the bank as a cushion. You don’t have to take crap from your job when you have enough money saved up.
  • It’s not about deprivation, it’s about making your life better.

RELATED EPISODES:

ChooseFI: Stock Market, Tax, and Retirement Hacks with Brad Barrett

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier

Choose FI Podcast with Larry Hagner


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surviving suicide dads

Surviving Suicide: A Dad’s Story


Suicide is the number one killer among men aged 35-50. The World Health Organization reports that suicide represents half of all male violent deaths worldwide. Why are men at such risk and what can we do about it?

Men are more likely to go for desperate measures for several reasons. Our culture teaches men to internalize emotions and hide distress. At the same time, men tend to lose their close friends and support systems as they step into the role of a provider. They’re also reluctant to seek help when struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal thoughts.

The first step in fighting suicide among men is raising awareness. Today, one of our Dad Edge Alliance Commanders courageously steps up to share his story of surviving suicide.

Nick Sotelo recounts his intense battle against rage, darkness, and suicide. He also tells us how to interrupt the negative scripts that run through our heads and what to do when overwhelmed with shame and hopelessness.

We never know what is going to send us or someone we care about down a dark road. This is an episode every dad should listen to for himself and any boy or man he knows.

Get help:
SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE

RELATED EPISODES:

When a Father Commits Suicide

Getting Real About Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

Surviving the Dark Night of the Soul

Finding the Strength Through the Struggle

Fighting the Battle Within with Chad Robichaux

Triumphing Through Dark Times: Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Chad Robichaux


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atomic habits james clear

Atomic Habits for Dads with James Clear

Are you having trouble breaking bad habits and committing to good ones?

Today’s guest says the problem isn’t you, it’s your system.

James Clear is the NY Times Bestselling Author of Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones.

James talks about how building a system of small habits will compound over time for huge results.

He’ll also teach us how to design our environment so that we’ll stick to good habits without even thinking about it.

Most importantly, James will tell us how we can apply atomic habits to our relationships with our spouses and children.

Whether you want to quit drinking, lose weight, excel in your business, or build deeper connection with your family, get ready to reshape your life for success!

“Most of your results in life are a lagging measure of your habits.”—James Clear

James Clear

James Clear is an author and speaker focused on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. His work has appeared in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Time, and on CBS This Morning. His website receives millions of visitors each month and hundreds of thousands subscribe to his popular email newsletter at jamesclear.com.

He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Through his online course, The Habits Academy, Clear has taught more than 10,000 leaders, managers, coaches, and teachers. The Habits Academy is the premier training platform for individuals and organizations that are interested in building better habits in life and work.

“The shape of your environment is one of the most overlooked drivers of your habits and behavior.”—James Clear

Atomic Habits

No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world’s leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results.

“If you can’t find a tribe to join, go out and create it.”—James Clear

What You’ll Learn

  • A significant part of our life is structured and shaped by our habits.
  • Tiny habits are the fundamental unit of a larger system.
  • Why men are so extreme with their habits
  • We dismiss small rewards and always look for a huge, immediate payoff.
  • Our psychology can run counter to what’s best for us.
  • Change your mindset to focus on process and system rather than goals.
  • Good habits make time your ally.
  • Bad habits make time your enemy.
  • Habits have a compound effect.
  • When men reach the point that they are frustrated with the time it’s taking for results, they must remember that the work is not wasted, it’s being stored.
  • The power of the willingness to get better by one percent each day.
  • We often don’t set goals for relationships because it’s difficult to measure if we’re being a better friend, spouse, or parent.
  • How atomic habits can be applied to relationships
  • How have atomic habits served James in his relationship with his wife
  • Creating sacred time and space with your spouse
  • Making a habit of displays of affection
  • Creating habits you and your wife can do together, like a daily gratitude list
  • Use environmental design to cue the habit we are trying to create. Make the good habit the path of least resistance.
  • How to create friction against bad habits
  • Designing your digital and social environment
  • How to make sure you’re taking action on your real priorities
  • What James struggles with when it comes to sticking with habits.
  • An ambitious person has a lot of goals in all aspects of life, and we are forced to choose. When we say to yes to one thing, we so no to everything else
  • The way to choose what goals to pursue is to look at life as a series of seasons. What season are you in now? Business, family, retirement?
  • Prioritizing according to where you are in life doesn’t mean you can’t do it all, you just can’t do it all at the same time.
  • The best way to increase your performance is to cut your priorities in half.
  • How to make decisions when you’re in a stressed or emotional space
  • James’s dad’s mantra: I am free. I don’t have to do anything. I have time and space.
  • Shifting your definition of success–Many standards we measure ourselves against are social ideas that don’t truly mean anything to us. Come up with a standard for yourself.
  • Life lessons he learned from his dad, who played for Minor league baseball. “Trust your preparation.” The win is not in the moment of the game or test, it’s all the practice and lessons that came before it.
  • Greatest lesson James learned about marriage.


 RELATED EPISODES:

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less with Greg McKeown


James Clear’s Links

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