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Social Media Envy

How to Neutralize Your Social Media Envy

Most of us look at our social media feeds multiple times a day. We see other guys’ snapshots of what looks like a perfect life. Sometimes we feel jealous, or we get down on ourselves for not accomplishing as much. In this episode of Thursday Throwdown, I talk about how to neutralize your social media envy.

We all feel envy from time to time, especially when it comes to social media. It looks like some guys have a blissful, successful life, but this is an illusion. All of us have challenges and hardships. Life gets messy for everyone. The images we see on social media are only the highlight reels. You can’t judge your real life against the cherry-picked moments of others’ lives. Remind yourself:

  • Don’t compare yourself to other people.
  • Realize you’re only seeing a glimpse into a person’s life.

 


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James Krause

Pressure, Perseverance, and Fatherhood with UFC Fighter James Krause

What does an ultimate fighter and a good dad have in common? UFC fighter James Krause tells us about perseverance and pressure and how he thrives off uncertainty and challenge. He also talks about being a father to his 2-year-old girl and how he came to adopt his little sister.

James Krause is an American professional mixed martial artist and entrepreneur, currently competing in the lightweight division of the UFC. He’s also featured on FOX Sports’ reality show, The Ultimate Fighter.

James Krause was born in Newport News, Virginia. His parents divorced when he was two years old. His mother moved them to Missouri where they lived in extreme poverty, sometimes surviving on only $400 a month.

In school, James was physically behind. He was small and got picked on a lot.  At the age of nineteen or twenty, he decided to try mixed martial arts. He didn’t get into fighting with the intention of competing. He wanted to learn how to defend himself and build confidence. He fell in love with the physical act and the fact that a smaller person could defeat a larger person.

You don’t have to be talented to be great.

Perseverance

James Krause says that people don’t succeed because they stop learning. People forget what hard work is and their lives become stagnant.

James never stops learning. He trains every day for the UFC, and he applies the same model to all aspects of his life. Including business, marriage, and fatherhood. He believes in intelligent repetition can allow him to accomplish goals much faster, but it takes passion to persevere. If you want to become successful at something, you must be willing to do it for fee. Hard work beats talent.

If you do something long enough and you just don’t quit, you have no choice than to become good by default.

Pressure

As a fighter, James Krause is subjected to extreme pressure, not just from the challenge of fighting his opponent, but being in front of a live audience as well as on TV. How does he push through the pressure? James says uncertainty and challenge have become essential to his growth. The only way to deal with pressure is to continuously put yourself through it. Embrace and repurpose opportunity, and objectively look at the situation without emotions.

Fatherhood

James Krause’s daughter was born two years ago. When his stepfather died of cancer and his mother ended up in prison, he also adopted his little sister who has been living with him for almost a year. It wasn’t something he and his wife planned to do, but they have been making it work. He looks at it from a positive perspective and thinks it’s one of the best things that could’ve happened to his little sister. Now that she is with him, she can become a much greater person than she would have if she had been raised by his mother.

Life Lessons for His Girls

James Krause never went through phases of drinking and partying in his youth. He feels he learned life lessons before most other people, so he expects more from his kids in advance. He says that some people are a product of their environment and won’t change, but he also knows that everything can be taught and everything can be learned. Being a genuinely good person also goes a long way. James believes that whatever you put out into the world, you will get back.

I don’t expect perfection, but I expect greatness.

 

Watch James Krause on The Ultimate Fighter
FOX Sports Wednesdays at 9pm CST

 



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Finally, a Book Especially for Dads to Read to Their Kids

In this episode, I talk about how my son inspired me to write a a book especially for dads to read to their kids.

As men and dads, most of us are task-oriented and find it hard to put our emotions into words. We feel odd communicating and we don’t know if it will resonate with our kids. Many of us work and are gone for the majority of the day. How do we let our kids know how we feel about them and how we are there for them no matter what? Books are a great way to start the conversation, but the majority of books out there are from a mom’s perspective. That is why I wrote Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You.

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

Available on Amazon in Kindle and Paperback

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You illustrates a father’s love for his kids. There are so many books on the market that illustrates the relationships between moms and kids, but very few for dads. Being a dad is one of the toughest yet rewarding jobs in the world. Most of our kids don’t clearly understand how much we love them, how much we think about them when we are not around, and how important they are to us. This book is a short, funny, and powerful read for both dads and kids.

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

 


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Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

Getting Real About Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

What happens when we go through something so difficult that it rocks the very core of who we are? Today I have a real, raw discussion with Josiah Novak from True Transformation about my battle with insomnia, depression, and anxiety.

Regular listeners know that I just recovered from a 33-day bout of debilitating insomnia. It was the most insane thing I ever went through. It tested me mentally, emotionally, physically and I felt that I might lose everything that was important to me. For the first time in my life, I understood how awful depression and anxiety could be.

During this episode, I go through the story from beginning to end. Here are a few takeaway lessons from my experience.

Listen to your body

My insomnia began after vigorous training for SEALFIT 20X. After breaking my personal records, I didn’t feel right. Instead of listening to my body, I kept pushing myself and the adrenaline and cortisol from the intense workouts wouldn’t let my body calm down. I put myself through an unnecessary domino effect of absolute hell.

Ask for help right away

I couldn’t sleep for more than 90 minutes to 3 hours a night. I thought it would pass and go away on its own. It didn’t.

I couldn’t think right. I began to have panic attacks. If I had gotten help in the beginning, it may not had gotten to that point.

Don’t give up

My wife became a single mother during this time. I had gotten so depressed I didn’t know what to do with myself. There was tension in our relationship and I felt that if I couldn’t function, provide, or please her, what good was I as a man? At one point I thought I wouldn’t be able to hang on much longer. But eventually I broke the cycle. As desperate as I felt, there was an end to the nightmare.

The doctor isn’t always right

I tried all kinds of sleeping pills and psychiatric meds. I even swigged shots of Benadryl. One doctor told me that if my prescription didn’t work for me, there was no hope. Another doctor prescribed me four different powerful drugs to take everyday. They had awful side-effects. Against doctor’s orders, I tapered myself off and now use natural techniques to make sure I fall asleep.

Set boundaries

You can’t ‘yes’ to everything. In the end you spread yourself too thin and can’t give your attention to those who need it most, like your kids. Think about what’s important in your life and save your energy for your priorities.

Depression and Anxiety can happen to anybody

I now have tremendous compassion for people who have depression and anxiety. It’s not something anyone wants to have. It’s not something anyone can control. It represents emotional struggle, a cycle that no one knows how to deal with. It can seem like digging an endless hole. If you’ve never experienced it, you don’t know. Men do suffer depression and anxiety, and we should be talking about it.

 

Referenced Episode : How to Get Rid of the Dad Bod in 2017 with Josiah Novak

 


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4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

On today’s Thursday Throwdown, I recap the 4 pillars of effective leadership that we discussed in the Dad Edge Alliance membership community call last week.

Good leadership skills are not only essential in work and business, but also in our roles as fathers and husbands.

4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

1. Honesty

Honesty earns respect and trust. Be direct and straightforward, but in a tactful way.

2. Delegation

A true leader will step in and take ownership when things go bad, and he will push people into the spotlight when things go well.

3. Adapting to Change

Standing still means falling behind. If we’re not challenging ourselves, we’re standing still and the world will pass us by.

4. Strategic Thinking

A leader must always think about what’s going to happen next. Be proactive instead of reactive.

 

Did you catch our previous episode? How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

 

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

Available on Amazon

 


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