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Imposter Syndrome: Defeating Your Inner Bully with Dr. Jamie Hope


Every year, we envision a new future and set goals to become who we really want to be. Why is it that more often than not, we never get very far? If we pay close attention, we can hear a taunting voice, an inner bully who says, “You can’t do that. Who do you think you are? You’re not worthy or deserving. You’re a fake, a fraud, and a loser.” Meet Imposter Syndrome, and we all deal with it.

Today we have Dr. Jaime Hope on the show. She’s an Emergency Medicine Physician, Wellness Expert, Teacher, Speaker, and Author. Jaime tells us how to notice when Impostor Syndrome is creeping up and how we can shut that bully down. She gives us tools to build resilience against our own negative voices and build a new vision of ourselves. Jaime also reveals how to deal with times of stress by connecting the pain with our vision and purpose. Best of all, she gives us examples of how we can “program” our kids to have built-in protection against imposter syndrome.

Get ready to defeat that inner bully once and for all!

“Your brain is neutral. It doesn’t care what self-identity you give it. It believes what you tell it with confidence and repetition.”—Dr. Jaime Hope

Dr. Jaime Hope

Dr. Jaime Hope is a dual board-certified physician working outside of Detroit, Michigan, in one of the busiest emergency departments in the country. In over twelve years on the job, she has learned that no matter what brought her patients to the ER, they all want the same thing: to live happier, healthier lives. Today, whether she’s helping patients, teaching future doctors, or engaging the local community, Dr. Hope is showing others how to create better habits and make healthy living fun, practical, and accessible. Her talk, Learn How to Gain Confidence & Remove the ‘Imposter Syndrome’, can be found on YouTube.

“We act in accordance with how we view ourselves.”—Dr. Jaime Hope

What You’ll Learn

  • Jaime wanted to be one of the fly girls on In Living Color.
  • Now Dr. Jaime Hope uses the truths of human behavior to teach patients how to work with themselves instead of against themselves, empowering them to make substantial changes for better health.
  • Our expectations for ourselves are ridiculous.
  • We think of ourselves as either/or. Either we’re perfect or we’re a total screw up.
  • We are born with a healthy self-esteem.
  • As we grow up, bullies or other negative experiences plant seeds of self-doubt in us.
  • These seeds get watered more than the seeds of self-confidence. They grow larger and stronger, creating hyperbolic negative beliefs.
  • We focus on the negative and let it invalidate the positive. If we fall short in any way, it overshadows everything.
  • Not everyone’s always going to like you.
  • What imposter syndrome sounds like—Do I belong? Am I capable? Am I worthy? Do others think I’m capable?
  • The difference between mantras and affirmations
  • Affirmations won’t work if you really don’t believe them. This can do more harm than good.
  • You can train your brain for the positive thinking, but it must be done with the same consistency and confidence as your negative thoughts to start to change.
  • The brain likes short, catchy, frequently repeated phrases.
  • How to formulate first-person, action-oriented mantras
  • If you view yourself as an impatient parent, you’re going to act like one.
  • Your kids will learn how to deal with situations from observing you.
  • Own your own feelings. Your kids can’t make you frustrated. You’re choosing to be frustrated over the situation.
  • You become your child’s inner voice, which means you have the opportunity to implant a positive voice.
  • Examples of mantras to teach your kids
  • What to do when we go down the path of absolute negativity and hopelessness
  • How to turn stress into success
  • The 5 Types of People You Need in Your Life:
    • People who light the way for you
    • The fail friend
    • Your tribes
    • Someone who would take a bullet for you
    • Those you are lighting the way for
  • Keeping the learner/beginner mindset
  • It’s important to share mistakes so others don’t repeat them.
  • What brings the most joy in marriage
  • When it comes to opening up emotionally as a man, do you want to be a strong, rugged individual, or do you want a strong relationship?
  • As a husband and father, you must see AND BE SEEN.
  • Look how far you’ve come with all your negative thoughts. Imagine what you can do now that you know how to defeat them!

 

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Do the Work: How to Stop the Cycle of Self-Sabotage with Gary John Bishop

4 Questions to Crush Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

How to Eliminate Negative Emotions by Targeting False Thoughts

 


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lifelong learner

The World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner


Today, Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman revisits The Dad Edge. He is a former Spanish teacher turned UFC Champion who now hosts The Spaniard Show podcast and is the author of Driven: My Unlikely Journey from Classroom to Cage.

Charlie is here to talk about his new book, Becoming the World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner: A Book for Anyone Who Wants to Pursue Anything. He shares his principles for overcoming the fear of starting something new and pushing through obstacles in business, health, and relationships. He gives us a template on how to tap into courage and the mental tools we need to keep moving forward not matter what. Learn how to become the world’s toughest lifelong learner in this episode!

 

Becoming the World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner

Whatever idea or passion you pursue, you’ll face obstacles, mess and doubt. I know because I’m chronicling the ups and downs in real time as I build my life and career: TOP 7 ranked UFC fighter, reality TV champion, nationally-ranked Division I wrestler / 1st Team All-Academic, podcaster with 1200+ episodes. This book is a combination memoir and how-to for hanging tough as you find the best way forward. In it, I share 11 principles that have helped me transition from professional fighting into podcasting, speaking and writing. I hope you’ll join me in trying to live them out and learn from the best. In the first three years of my podcast, I’ve recorded 128 talks with world-class guests, and I’ve systematically shared insights from studying 89 books. This is how I pursue my mission to embody and inspire lifelong learning that will help you make the most of your life. I’m out to sharpen the same hunger in you so you can take my title: World’s Toughest Lifelong Learner.


RELATED EPISODES:

How to Persevere In Spite of Fear with Charlie “The Spaniard” Brenneman

Brenneman vs. Hagner: The Good Dad Project Interview

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

How To Dream Big and Conquer Your ​Aspirations with Diamond Dallas Page​

Pulling the Positive from Failures with UFC Champion Frankie Edgar


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modern manhood

Modern Manhood: What it Means to Be a Good Man Today with Cleo Stiller


Do you consider yourself to be one of the “good guys?” What is the truth about masculinity? What does it mean to be a good man in today’s rapidly changing society? The old ideas of the male being a lone pursuer, protector, and provider are evolving, leaving many men confused about their role in family and society.

Today we have Cleo Stiller on The Dad Edge. She is the author of Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today. Cleo has had conversations with men all over the cultural, economic, and geographical spectrum, along with experts in psychology and sociology, to get a deeper understanding of what men really want and need.

In this episode, Cleo Stiller provides context for men and women when it comes to friendship, sex, parenting, money, and work. She also tells us how dads can become better human beings and raise their sons to confidently navigate the modern world.

There’s no way you’re going to raise a son who is comfortable expressing himself if you aren’t comfortable expressing yourself.—Cleo Stiller

 

Cleo Stiller

Cleo Stiller is a Peabody Award and Emmy Award-nominated journalist, speaker and television host on a mission to inspire positive social action around the world — and now an author with Simon & Schuster.

Stiller’s latest project is a new book Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today based off of years of Stiller’s reporting with men as they reconcile what it means to be “a good man” in a #MeToo era.

Modern Manhood is a #1 New Release on Amazon and has received coverage in Fortune Magazine, Rolling Stone, ABC News, The Independent, PBS, LinkedIn’s Weekend Essay and many more.

Prior to this, Stiller spearheaded health-focused digital and social video content for Univision’s cable news network for Millennials, Fusion. This culminated in the creation of an original docuseries about relationships, technology and culture. It’s the network’s second highest performing original series and has received multiple award nominations, including a prestigious Peabody Award for public service.

Stiller is an Emmy nominated and Gracie winning journalist with a background in digital video reporting — and a passion for women’s health. She’s a frequent conference speaker, most recently at New York University’s Center for Global Affairs Women’s Global Health Conference and her work has been covered by The New York Times, Self.com, Variety,Bustle, Essence,LifeHacker and a Reddit AMA.

Stiller now consults with media companies, brands and organizations to create and execute video campaigns optimized for digital reach that educate, humor and inspire viewers.

Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today

Emmy and Peabody Award–nominated health reporter Cleo Stiller’s fun(ny) and informative collection of advice and perspectives about what it means to be a good guy in the era of #MeToo.

Here are a few self-evident truths: Predatory men need to go, sexual assault is wrong, and women and men should be equal. If you’re a man and disagree with any of the aforementioned, then this book isn’t for you.

But if you agree, you’re probably one of the “good guys.” That said, you might also be feeling frustrated, exasperated, and perhaps even skeptical about the current national conversation surrounding #MeToo (among many other things). You’ve likely found yourself in countless experiences or conversations lately where the situation feels gray, at best. You have a lot to say, but you’re afraid to say it and worried that one wrong move will land you in the hot seat. From money and sex to dating and work and everything in between—it can all be so confusing! And when do we start talking about solutions instead of putting each other down?

In Modern Manhood, reporter Cleo Stiller sheds light on all the gray areas out there, using conversations that real men and women are having with their friends, their dates, their family, and themselves. Free of judgment, preaching, and sugarcoating, Modern Manhood is engaging, provocative, and, ultimately, a great resource for gaining a deeper understanding of what it means to genuinely be a good man today.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why Cleo doesn’t use the phrase “toxic masculinity”
  • This is the most progressive generation and cultural norms are changing quickly.
  • Cleo’s book, Modern Manhood, seeks to provide context for men and women all over the country about gray areas when it comes to dating, parenting, money, and work.
  • Class, ethnic, and regional background affect our ideas of what being a good man means.
  • The loss of friendship and loneliness of modern men
  • The reason men don’t have meaningful friendships once they reach adulthood
  • “Woke,” the new term for politically aware
  • Should you call out a friend for being inappropriate?
  • Men don’t know how to talk about their problems, so they turn to humor (sometimes inappropriate) to bond.
  • Women are increasingly out earning their male partners.
  • Men are hardwired to provide, but most men don’t want to be THE provider, but a provider.
  • Men being the sole provider is new in human history. Historically, it was a dual income society, where men hunted and women gathered, both providing food.
  • Single income households developed after agriculture started.
  • Strip the idea from your mind that the only way you can provide as a man is through money. There are so many other ways.
  • Questioning stereotypical idea of masculinity as the lone wolf, stoic, protector, and pursuer
  • Most men get their idea of what being a good man means from their father for what he did or did not do.
  • If there is something about your idea of a being good man that is making you miserable, you can reframe it.
  • We often equate work with misery and feel like we’re doing something wrong if we’re happy.
  • Sex and dating in the age of the #metoo movement
  • We don’t see connected, intimate sexual interactions in media and in our culture, so we don’t practice them either.
  • Get comfortable with your feelings within. Everything that makes you uncomfortable will come out in your children. If you’re afraid of your feelings, they will be too.
  • How to teach your sons to process emotion.
  • It’s not so much about what a good guy does, but what a good person does. You are a human, you should be able to rely on and open up to the people that you love.

MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt

 


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living your authentic life

Living Your Authentic Life


Are you living your authentic life? What if you have everything that’s supposed to make you happy and you’re still miserable?

On today’s show, we have Dad Edge Alliance member and everyday dad, Josh Long. Josh had a very successful 16-year career that he hated. He was so hungry for significance in his life, that he threw himself into volunteering for his community. He eventually ran for city council and won. Everything looked very admirable on the outside, but inside he was dying.

Josh was overcommitted and stressed. He began to rely on alcohol to cope. His marriage was in crisis, and he started investing emotionally in another woman. He was living a life of quiet desperation, until he took a hard look at what he was giving his time and energy to and realized he was living for the wrong reasons.

Listen to how Josh saved his marriage, became a better father, and started living a life according to his true values.

“We have to rebuild ourselves before we rebuild our marriages.”—Josh Long, The Dad Edge Alliance

 

RELATED EPISODES:

5 Rules for an Unshakable Marriage

Why Your Ego is the Enemy with Ryan Holiday

How to Stop Being A Miserable F*ck with John Kim


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become irresistible to your woman

Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt


Is it possible to become absolutely irresistible to your woman?

Whether things cooled off after the kids or your marriage is in serious trouble, today’s show is going to dive deep into what your woman requires to deeply connect with you on an emotional and sexual level.

Allana Pratt is a relationship coach and intimacy expert who has been featured all over the media, including CBS, Forbes, People Magazine, and FOX.

She is going to reveal some surprising insights about why your woman may have lost desire for you. She talks about what men should do if they are being emasculated. Allana also explains how to articulate what you truly want without seeming needy, how to make your woman feel safe and seen so she is receptive to you physically, and how to remove the fear of rejection in all your conversations, inside and outside the bedroom.

Women love sex. They like to have lots of it. What they require is safety. If you want more sex, how can you make her feel safer, more seen, more understood, more held, more able to surrender?—Allana Pratt

Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt

Allana Pratt inspires open hearted living, with delicious sass. Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on The Jenny McCarthy Show, Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, TLC and FOX. This cum laude graduate of Columbia University is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg, Alanis Morissette and Dr. Bernie Seigel and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn to thrive after heartbreak and find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With over 4 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create healthy, thriving intimate relationships with themselves first, which naturally attracts their ideal match.

After working with thousands of men and women who struggle to open their hearts again in the aftermath of a harsh breakup, Allana helps them learn how to date again and find lasting love. She inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature to attract all the love and attention they can handle. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’, and awakens their ‘noble badass’ so they can create hot, healthy intimate relationships.

What You’ll Learn

  • Men tend to shame themselves for their sexual desires
  • Why men don’t feel free to communicate their needs.
  • Most men avoid asking for what they want sexually from their wives because they don’t know how to respond to rejections (e.g. “you want it all the time, you didn’t take out the trash, I’m tired”).
  • Men haven’t learned to sit in the fire and burn through conflict, but it’s through conflict that we learn.
  • Men usually run away, hide, or pretend nothing is wrong and never address the root problem. Intimacy issues perpetuate.
  • When you approach your woman, the degree to which you hesitate is the degree to which you will receive hesitancy. The degree to which you doubt yourself, is the degree to which your woman will doubt you.
  • Whatever you’re afraid she’ll say, she’ll say. You’re creating her response.
  • How to take your power back to become irresistible to your woman
  • Why you must integrate shame, guilt, and fear instead of trying to bury it or destroy it
  • Men must tell themselves that their worth is not based on their woman’s behavior, approval, or agreement. They are the masters of their realities.
  • If you’re totally present and able to be with any truth your woman has, she will respect you.
  • Own what is your responsibility.
  • Your unattachment to the result is the key to getting what you want.
  • How to connect with the past-rejected part of yourself and love it without condition so you can approach life as a whole person.
  • We clamber for pleasure and avoid pain, but too much pleasure is detrimental, and the avoidance of pain prevents us from becoming stronger.
  • Certainty is sexy—even being certain that you don’t know the answer.
  • When men aren’t authentic and vulnerable, the women steps into a masculine role.
  • When men share only to get attention, the woman senses the agenda and it backfires.
  • What men need most from women
  • Keep your heart open in the face of trauma and fear. Know your worth and truth no matter if anyone agrees or not.
  • Being emasculated by your woman is wrong
  • How man can deal with a woman who emasculates them
  • What a woman who is centered and conscious can awaken in a man
  • How a man can awaken the radiant goddess in their woman
  • The ideal time and environment to have deep conversations with your wife
  • How to proactively choose what to see out of perceived failures
  • How to appeal to your wife’s love language
  • How to penetrate your woman in three ways—physically, mentally, and spiritually.

RELATED EPISODES:

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar


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