If you have landed here…it means you are either a NEW DAD or about to be a New Dad. So, first and foremost, CONGRATS!! Being a first time dad is quite an experience and it is something you will never forget. Want to know why? It’s because you are about to take a plunge into life that you most likely feel incredibly unprepared for. You are probably concerned about: Finances and how you will make ends meet? Perhaps you are worried about how having a child will affect the relationship with your spouse or significant other? You are also concerned about how you are going to tackle the task of fatherhood with no experience right? Do any or all of these concerns sound familiar? I want you to know right here and now…THIS IS OK to feel this way. If you are a new dad…this page is specifically just for you. I am going to share several different tips and strategies that will help you along the way.

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The Highly-Evolved Father with Adam Schafer from MIND PUMP

Today we talk to a previous guest whose story about his father’s suicide is one of our top shows ever in the history of The Dad Edge. Adam Schafer from the hugely popular Mind Pump Podcast is back. He wasn’t a father the first time he was on the show, but now he’s the proud new dad to his one-year-old son Maximus!

Adam talks about how having a baby has changed his lifestyle and relationship with his wife for the better. He opens up about his struggles with empathy, trauma, and childhood insecurities. He also talks about manufacturing adversity for our kids so that they will build resilience and character.

You’ve never heard this side of Adam Schafer before. This show is full of insights that will take your fathering skills to the next level. Listen now!

Adam Schafer

Adam had a lot of adversity to overcome as a child. He lost his father to suicide at the age of seven and bounced around to nine different homes by the time he was seventeen. Adam was bullied in school which ultimately led to him being home-schooled.

In the midst of his childhood turmoil one constant in Adam’s life was his love for sports. He was a natural athlete who loved snowboarding, water skiing, basketball and anything else sports related. Adam’s love for sports led him down the path of learning about fitness and nutrition.

Adam got started with his career in fitness in 2001. His first entrepreneurial venture was as a child of ten so it seemed natural for Adam to become an entrepreneur in fitness. As a part of his ongoing quest to learn and grow in his career Adam has obtained certifications from top fitness training institutions. Adam has found a way to train and teach even more people through Mind Pump.

Adam found that combining his passion and expertise with that of his Mind Pump cohosts, Sal, Justin, and Doug, gives him the opportunity to make a big impact on the fitness industry.

What You’ll Learn

  • How to approach parenthood with intention instead of reaction
  • Will having a baby make you lose your identity as a couple?
  • Will you still find your wife attractive when she is pregnant?
  • Can sex actually be hotter after the baby?
  • Having a child brought Adam and his wife Catrina closer together.
  • As a couple, they knew that raising a new human being was going to change the awesome lifestyle they had created for themselves—dining out, going to sports events, traveling.
  • Even though they don’t do their favorite things anymore, they don’t feel like they’re missing out.
  • Marriage should not go on the back burner when the kids come. Your spouse must come before kids.
  • Most of us react based on the neurosis and insecurities we developed as a child. We must deal with unresolved anger towards our parents.
  • Be aware of displaying negativity as a couple in front of the kids. Do not react in front of the child. Show alignment.
  • There is always work to be done in a relationship.
  • Developing self-awareness and emotional intelligence is the key to evolving as a man and father.
  • We must make the choice to use trauma to become better instead of an excuse to be worse.
  • Why we have to manufacture adversity for today’s kids who have everything
  • Adam’s hacks on how to make sure you show appreciation to your partner.
  • Why Adam doesn’t say “I love you” without a deeper reason behind it.


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Embracing the Parenting Journey

As men, we often feel alone on our journeys—especially when it comes to parenting. Today’s guest is Dad Edge Alliance member, Simon. He talks about how when his wife got pregnant he didn’t want to have a boy because it would force him to confront issues he didn’t want to deal with. The thought of becoming a parent baffled him, but once his son was born he realized that shedding his former self and embracing the parenting journey came naturally.

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This is a guest post by Allon Khakshouri of Business-dad.com

Enjoying a healthy sex life is a key ingredient to a thriving marriage. At the same time it is the one topic very few parents dare talk about, often leading to lots of frustration and anger to already challenged relationships.


Sex is so important because it is what makes you and your spouse more than just roommates. It requires you both to speak about the kind of intimate and emotional things that create a deeper sense of connection than you have with anyone else and helps strengthen trust between partners.


But lets face it: Becoming a dad triggers so many changes it can feel overwhelming: sleepless nights, endless fights and new responsibilities are just some of the challenges we all face and that can make sex quite unappealing. I remember how relieved I was knowing that my wife would need a few weeks to fully recover before she would request me to demonstrate my love making skills. I was sure that this would allow me to get adjusted to being a dad so that by the time my wife would be ready, I would feel revitalised and hungry for sex.


However, something strange happened: The more time that passed without having sex, the less I craved for it. Suddenly I felt concerned and unmanly: Was something wrong with me and our relationship?

I guess I was not the first to have such thoughts


According to studies conducted by the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, two thirds of marriages suffer a serious decline in their relationship satisfaction within the first three years of becoming parents. And the biggest victims of unhappy couples are the babies– two decades of research have shown that marital conflict is bad for babies and can affect their social and academic skills later on in life.


As John Gottman says:


“When there is a precipitous decline in relationship satisfaction and an increase in hostility, it transfers to the baby and affects the baby.”


And definitely the combination of having an unsatisfactory sex life and not speaking openly about it, is a big warning sign that the relationship is in trouble. So if you love your baby and you are committed to improving your relationship, addressing your sex life is a great place to start.


But let’s be honest: Feeling uncomfortable about becoming too physical after welcoming your baby is normal and especially common in the first few months after a mom gives birth. Since nobody dares to speak about their lack of sex, both husbands and wives start doubting themselves: Men lose confidence and feel rejected, while their spouses  feel unattractive, unwanted and unsexy. As a result, sex becomes another trigger for more conflicts and disputes, often enhancing arguments that are already evolving from role changes, lifestyle adjustments and even financial tensions.




What most of us don’t realize is that almost every couple struggles with intimacy after having their first baby. There are all sorts of reasons for this:


Initially, we need to give our partner time to physically recover. But when we stop hooking up with our partner, testosterone levels drop, which is why many men tend to crave less for sex. Women on the other hand feel touched out by their babies–and let’s face it– they suddenly transform from sexy studs into a supermoms. Add the fact that couples feel tired and exhausted, and it becomes apparent why so many of us experience longer periods of sexual abstinence.


Unfortunately, when we stop having sex for longer periods of time, we become lazy. We care less about how we look, ignore seduction attempts by our partner and over time even withdraw from her altogether. This is how so many dads end up feeling isolated and rejected when witnessing their wives spending so much time with their little one.


I remember how right after the birth of our son, it was extremely difficult for me to become intimate again. We were both feeling quite irritable and tired so it just didn’t seem right. Luckily I had the courage to speak to other couples about their relationships and realized that we are all in the same boat! Just because we argue more often, feel more exhausted and less sexy, does not mean something is wrong with our marriage. We sometimes forget we have just added a new person into our lives, and that takes some adjustments.


And if you haven’t had sex for a while, you are not alone. I met couples who needed weeks, others months and some even years to get back into their normal lovemaking routines. Don’t get me wrong– I am not advocating to accept having a poor sex life. To the contrary, what I am saying is that it is your responsibility to get out of your comfort zone and spice up your marriage, and in a minute I will tell you how. My point is that too many couples give up on their relationship way too quickly, whether they get divorced or simply live together feeling disillusioned and unhappy.




Let me tell you what I did when I realized that we needed to prioritize intimacy. Instead of panicking, I decided to work on our relationship and use the birth of our boy as an opportunity to upgrade our relationship, deepen our communication and reviving our sex life.


We started by integrating these simple practices into our life so that having regular sex would become much easier:


  • 7-8 hours Sleep You may think it is impossible. I did too. However, I made a few adjustments that made all the difference. I now go to sleep by latest 10pm on normal weekdays, and have a nighttime ritual that includes a soothing shower, no TV-and phone time at least an hour before going to sleep, that spending at least 30 minutes of quality time with my wife. These steps have made all the difference because it is hard to jumpstart your libido when you feel tired.


  • Speaking Time. As I mentioned above, my wife and I spend some time together before going to sleep. But even just 10 minutes of talking time will give you both have the opportunity to express feelings, needs and desires. Once you both reconnect again emotionally, good sex will follow.


  • Becoming More Physical. We have always been quite a physical couple. However, as parents we needed to redefine sex to include more than just penetration. My wife and I now use every opportunity to hug, kiss and cuddle together, and it triggers instant pleasure every time.


  • Flirting: This is something we forgot in the first 1-2 weeks after the birth of our son. But it’s amazing how just a few words can make such a difference. I try and surprise my wife every few days with a very thoughtful text message, a hidden note that she may find at a random moment, or by sending her flowers with a handwritten card, and every single time these little surprises make her glow from joy.


  • Asking Questions. I wanted to find out how it felt for my wife to be a mom, what her biggest struggles were, what she was dreaming about for the future, and what her deepest desires looked like. She reciprocated by asking me about how this change of becoming a dad felt like. These moments of sharing were extremely bonding,


  • Listening. Sometimes women just want to be heard, so I really made an effort to become more patient and try and relive the words that my wife was sharing. By learning to empathize with your partner and all she goes through, you will instantly become her superhero again.




Of course, some things will work better for you than others. And it is up to you to fine tune the details. But they will definitely help you rekindle our relationship. I see these actions as a kind of foreplay that needs to be in place before addressing our sex lives.


However, if you are serious about spicing up your love life, you need to have regular sex. So how can you do that, now that you are busier than ever with a whole family to take care of?


Well, here is the thing. Like with other areas in your life, it all comes down to creating habits that help you live the lifestyle you want. This doesn’t need to be too difficult, but it takes consistency. Like going to the gym, starting a new hobby, or waking up earlier, every beginning or new start is a bit more difficult. However, once we overcome the initial resistance, we start finding joy in our new behavior.


In the same way, it is essential to create routines of spending intimate moments together. The trick that really made all the difference to us was scheduling our time together in the same way we schedule anything else. Initially that meant planning the day, time and place that we would spend some quality time together in advance.


Yes, I know this sounds premeditated and unromantic.  However, it works wonders, because only by ritualizing time for ourselves, do we build up the kind of stamina that allows us to overcome all the obstacles that can make intimacy so difficult for new parents. Even an hour per week can make all the difference. I remember how my wife and I used to find excuses all the time why not to have sex, until we made sex become an integral part of our lifestyle again that we both crave for.


By scheduling your time together, you can address any obstacles that could distract you both from enjoying your time together. For example, you may want to leave your baby with your parents and create the kind of romantic setting that will allow your wife and yourself to switch off from everything else that is going on in your life.




So now that you know about the importance to intimate time together, let me share with you 6 tips that will help you regain a vibrant sex life without any further delay:


  • Avoid feeling pressurized: During your time together, be romantic and have fun, without experiencing the need to have full-blown sex. Teasing and taunting each other with kisses, massages and anything else that pleases both of you qualifies as intimate time.


  • Have date nights together: If you can, add weekly date nights for the two of you to enjoy quality moments together. This is your time alone together, to experience a romantic ambience and to become real lovers again. The quicker you start with this, the easier it will be to revive your sex life.


  • Create a romantic atmosphere: Small details like candle lights and clean sheets can make your time together more bonding and fun. Stimulate the senses by using aroma sticks for a pleasant smell, and playing sensual music.


  • Be flexible: Scheduling intimate time in advance may sound premeditated. But there is room for some creativity as to when, where and how you both engage with each other. For example, I often feel exhausted in the evenings, my wife and I enjoy planning our time together on weekends that our son is with my parents, so we have time for ourselves in the afternoon. Also be open minded and experiment what gives you both joy and pleasure.


  • Be a giver: Focus on making your wife feel desired and attractive, and giving her the kind of joy that will make her want to reciprocate. By treating her like your queen, you will soon become a true king.


  • Clear your head: It can be hard to switch off from distractions like thinking about your business, your kids, or anything else that is circulating your mind. However, try to make this your “us time”, and commit to being fully present, playful and open with your partner.  The more you can do this, the better and more fun your sex life will become.


You will discover that spending time together in this kind of intimate setting will help you both communicate more openly, share both vulnerabilities and desires and create a deeper more trusting connection between each other. You will find out that this kind of intimacy is the bread and butter for better sex.


The best part is that once you have rekindled your sex life, other areas of your relationship will improve as well. You will feel more confident, happy and energized. All of a sudden, being a dad will become the most enjoyable time of your life!


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How Overcoming Adversity Can Make You a Better Dad with Nick Dinardo

Nick Dinardo draws on adversity to inform and inspire his life as a podcaster, personal performance coach, author, and dad.

Nick Dinardo is an entrepreneur, a consultant, and a public speaker who focuses on resilience, personal growth, and education. Nick is the author of bestselling book The Game of Adversity: 8 Practices to Turn Life’s Toughest Moments into Your Greatest Opportunities. He is also the host of The Sweet Adversity Podcast and has interviewed hundreds of experts on overcoming adversity, dealing with trauma and stress, and the critical role it plays in our cognitive development.

Nick has dealt with adversity his entire life. At the age of seven, his family went from the American dream to a foreclosed home, divorce, and mental illness. He spent a year sleeping on the floor in a one room apartment where his family shared a kitchen with seventeen other families.

Nick had a great dad, but was angry at his father for not understanding his mom and her mental illness. He still hoped and dreamed his parents would fall in love again, but that never happened. They moved from place to place until his mom got her life back together. During this disruptive time, Nick turned to sports for role models of those who went through hard times and still became great, successful people.

Sports is a microcosm of life

Nick Dinardo’s book, The Game of Adversity, uses sports as a Trojan horse to explore the psychological aspects of adversity and how high performers focus on process, not outcome. Coaches like John Wooden and Bill Belichick implemented this idea in their methods. Wooden made his players adhere to a very strict routine and told them not to think about basketball outside of practice. Belichick didn’t care about the score so much as he did about the team and their cognitive skill development. If the players prepared through the process, the win would come without consciously focusing on the goal.

Focusing on goals can make us unhappy

Goals are anti-presence because you’re focused on the end instead of what’s going on right in front of you. You can’t enjoy the moment because you’re always looking to the future, but you can establish a new norm for yourself and stop waiting till you reach any of your goals to be happy.

We have a choice

Men have evolved to be very results-focused, and we feel like a failure when we don’t achieve our goals. This creates stress and our response effects our cortisol levels, which effects our sleep and the function of our bodies. It triggers a chain reaction that goes all the way into how we treat people and how we approach our day.

Fighting our natural instincts to relentlessly push for our goals is tough, but when faced with a stressful situation, we can actually train ourselves how to respond in a positive proactive way instead of a negative reactive way.

Kids overcoming adversity

Nick says what’s important for kids to overcome extreme adversity is a positive relationship with one adult. Despite the hardship his family went through when he was young, he had a solid social circle of caring adults that acted as a foundation of strength.

Dad wisdom after a childhood of adversity

Nick Dinardo is the new dad of a 5-month-old boy. When Nick thinks about the things his father did for him, one thing stands out. It comes down to love. He remembers his dad always gave him hugs in kisses, even in front of his friends. His dad always told him he loved him multiple times a day. Nick says not to worry about the parenting books and the latest trends. When it comes to being a good dad, all things fall into place from love.


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Pump the Brakes


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Hello again.  Thanks for allowing me to share more with you.  It’s been awhile and I’ve been kicking around a few ideas.  Just one more disclaimer…I’m sharing some pretty heavy thoughts with you. 

Over the summer I had one of those moments that caught me off guard, and nearly knocked me off center.  It’s happened before, but it was a little different this time.  It’s a little different every time.

I am the first to admit that I am generally hurried (almost always for that matter), and that at times it may take a lot to catch my attention.  However, I can be stopped dead in my tracks. 

Anytime a child is ill or a life ends, it’s difficult to hear.  Remember in December 2012 when the Sandy Hook Elementary shootings saturated the news?  I really struggled with how this happened.  Kids less than six years of age left their short, beautiful lives behind that day.    Our kids’ preschool issued a letter of reassurance to parents that safety and security of our children came first.  It kindly suggested that no one be allowed into the building without a parent badge, or without being directly escorted to the building office.  In fact, we were all asked to escort anyone without a badge directly to the office.  All good, right?  But geez, maybe my kids should just stay at home with me.  Over and over and over, this all got me thinking…

Jude had just turned two and Sara was three at the time of Sandy Hook.  I remember thinking of the victims’ families.  And I kept thinking those kids were no older than six. Six years old.  It kept hitting me every morning as I pulled into our usual parking spot and moved us from the car and into the building.  And it would hit me again, as I got back into the car with my little people inside and their empty car seats as I left the parking lot.

I personally hurt for those and little lives lost and I thought, “What if I were only given six years with my kids?”  I did the math.  And it meant that I had already spent half of that time with Sara, and a third with Jude.  BOOM!  I needed to soften up a bit, refocus my priorities with my family, commit to less busy-ness, and live in memorable moments with my family.  It brought perspective on perhaps how much time I had been wasting.

This summer, somewhat similar, but different circumstances arose. 

Shelly and I were sharing an afternoon walk with Sara prior to naptime.  I was off from work, so we thought some time together would be fun.  We were full speed ahead up the sidewalk as we were on a mission.  When a nap is in the timeline, you know it’s a priority to stay on schedule.  Not off our block yet, a neighbor called for my wife, and Shelly turned around to chat with her.  Our families take turns keeping an eye on one another’s home while out-of-town, so I too quickly assumed our neighbors were departing for a bit, and wanted to let us know.  Sara and I continued up the block assuming that Shelly would catch up.

I turned around to find Shelly in tears embracing our friend.  I was caught off guard…what in the world was going on? 

Long story short, our neighbor’s three-week old grandson had just spent the 4th of July weekend in the hospital and was diagnosed with a rare form of leukemia.

Three weeks old and leukemia.  Talk about a little more than one of life’s sucker punches.  At that time, the exacts of the cancer were unknown. The up-front chance of survival was maybe 10-20%.  Not only were they dealt this card, but the ride to even stabilizing him for chemotherapy included a journey into PICU, hard core breathing machines, sedation, spinal taps, crowds of medical staff responding to immediate needs…the list went on and on.

Almost six months later I sit here trying to get my head around this.  Why on earth was an innocent newborn and his family handed this?    Why was this new Dad told the chance that his son will be here in a year was less than two out of ten coin tosses? I couldn’t, and still can’t answer these questions. I don’t know that anyone can. 

I wonder what if this would have been my family?  What if I were told there’s not much time to share with my child?

The truth is that I’ve been close before.  Sara was a preemie, and is a NICU survivor.  We were fortunate to need the NICU for only three weeks.  But I’ve been there when no one is certain why what is happening, is happening.  Three uncertain weeks of not knowing whether or not my daughter would come home.  I’ve been given the news that probability of survival may be low or isn’t really known.  And I’ve been that new Dad that can’t hold his child because of all the life-saving measures. 


Yet, like most of us, I still need to be reminded to pause.

Funny how life grabs our attention, and continues to prove us so human at times.  It is way too easy to get distracted, engulfed, in the fast pace of parenthood, work, and life. 

Guilty as charged here. 

I need to commit (and recommit) to slowing down, or maybe even slamming on the breaks when life is sharing these moments.  I need to accept life’s dare to pause, listen, and decide how to not live my life wasting precious time. 

So what did I do, you may be asking?  I’m honestly still working on that part (as usual).  Me, the constant work-in-progress as a Dad, is still slowing down, being kinder, being gentler, and becoming less self-centered.  I am working on listening to everything my children have to tell me because what they so badly want to share with me now is everything to them.

Funny enough, Sara asked to take a walk at 9pm on a summertime Friday night not long after this story happened.  Instead of defaulting to getting ready for bed, we put on our shoes and set off in the neighborhood, just her and I.  I have no doubt that many we passed by that evening thought “that little girl should be in bed,” but that was our time.  And when I put her in the bathtub that night, I admired her lone, life-saving NICU scar on her chest.  And gave thanks for the five years we’ve shared.  And I soaked up the noise of listening to her splash and play and exist.  Just listening to her breathe sometimes amazes me, because it was such a challenge in the beginning.  I paused.

On an ending note, I would ask that you remember the mentioned family as leukemia and it’s complications took an infant from his family.  However you believe, please don’t forget them. 

And, take time to pause.  I dare you to be an even better Dad than you already are…no more time wasted.

Thanks again for reading, and don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and maybe even what you can do to pump the brakes.

Best regards,

Jason Enders


My head hurts, this morning.  But honestly, the ache in my heart is greater. 

I submitted the above piece a week ago to Larry.  Since then, I’ve been reminded again to pause. 

I just rushed through the morning drill with my family and my thoughts are fresh.  I have a presentation at noon, a plane to catch tonight, an expense report due, a suitcase to pack…you see where this is going.  People are counting on me.  But instead I am writing to you.

It’s no coincidence this morning that my parking space was right in front of a tree that quietly holds onto a purple ribbon placed there in memory of a life lost last week.  Yes, it happened again.  A family in our school lost their six-year old son last week the day after I sent my initial writing in.  We found out of his passing in a letter from the school’s principal.  That letter in my daughter’s backpack stopped me in my tracks.  A first-grader gone in his sleep.

Yet, here I am again hurried.

I needed that parking place this morning.  I needed to walk past that purple ribbon, and to be reminded. Filled with shame, I had to grit my teeth.  It made my head hurt, but my heart hurt even more.  As I sit here writing and trying to be better, I accept the dare to slow it down (again).  But even more, I am clearly reminded that the most important people counting on me are the ones I wake-up with each morning. 

Thank you for helping me pause.