If you are here, it most likely means you are a MARRIED DAD. There is a perception out there in today’s society that if you are a MARRIED DAD with a traditional family, there must not be any challenges or obstacles. That is simply not the case. If you are a married Dad, it means you most likely view yourself as the strength and rock of your family. It means you most likely quietly stress about the things that your wife and kids do not know about. It means you most likely work extremely hard at work because you know that life is not all about you…it’s about those amazing people around you. It also means at times you have to figure out how to juggle work time, kid time, quality time with your spouse, and perhaps a little bit of time for yourself somehow. Being in this situation, means you are pulled in several different directions. This page is dedicated especially for you. You will find valuable tips and tricks that will make your journey more enjoyable.

Self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice

Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Sacrifice

At the Dad Edge Alliance, we’re disrupting the default settings of fatherhood so that we can go from living ordinary to extraordinary lives. One of the reasons we men become frustrated and burned out is because we feel it’s our job to shoulder the load for everyone. But if we practice self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice, not only will we feel happier, but we’ll also find we have more to give to everyone in our lives.

Today we interview another dad in the trenches. John Culford is a recent Dad Edge Alliance member who’s been married for fourteen years and is the father of two sons, aged twelve and thirteen.

John shares his challenges with communication, understanding, and connection with his wife and kids. He reveals what strategies he’s implementing to make his family grow closer during quarantine and beyond. He also tells us how getting into the habit of being kind to himself, claiming space, and opening up about his struggles with his family his secret to staying grounded and moving forward.

You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice yourself for the benefit of others.—John Culford, DEA member

What You’ll Learn

  • John’s experience with a pre-marriage bootcamp
  • We he’s learned that no conflict is really resolved
  • How to listen effectively during disagreements so that your spouse knows she’s being heard
  • Why Joh is setting aside 1 hour a week with his wife to talk about things they don’t know about each other.
  • Strip down to the facts of a challenging problem or source of stress. We often don’t know why we’re really bothered by something.
  • Detach from feelings when thinking of solutions to a problem. Emotion creates noise that distracts us from the best path forward.
  • How to parent a child with anxiety
  • How to be there for your kids when they’ve matured and don’t open up to you any more
  • How to intentionally make time for important discussions so it’s best for everyone
  • Why you must remove “buts” from your responses
  • How to show your kids to turn challenging situations like coronavirus into a positive experience they look back and remember in a positive light.
  • How to explain to your family when you need time alone.

Be kind to yourself. You’re going to fail. As put together as you think you are it’s okay to make mistakes. Let your family become part of that story.—John Culford, DEA member

 


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IT’S TIME TO REINVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

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Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
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Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
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running your family as a team

Running Your Family as a Team with Marc Roberge from O.A.R.


Of a Revolution, or O.A.R., is a rock band that has been making music for over twenty years. Whether you know their name or not, chances are you’ve heard their songs on the radio. Today, we are honored to have O.A.R.’s lead singer Marc Roberge on the show for his second interview with The Dad Edge Podcast!

Marc talks about how dads can use this time of quarantine to reestablish the household hierarchy and start running the family as a team. He tells us what it’s like to be a dad on and off the road, how he keeps his marriage alive, and why he is open about his weaknesses and imperfections with his kids. He also shares stories about his own father and how the nostalgia of summers growing up in the neighborhood are the inspiration for his songs to this day.

This show is about the meaning of friends, family, and embracing the good and bad in life. Slow down and have a listen.

It takes work to run this household. If you work with me, it will run smoothly. If you battle me, we’re going to battle.—Marc Roberge

O.A.R.

What do you call a band whose twenty year-career spans sold-out stands at both Madison Square Garden and Red Rocks Amphitheater, millions of albums sold over the course of what will be nine full-length releases, and multiple chart-busting entries? In the case of O.A.R., two simple words suffice: “The Mighty.”

That’s the best way to sum up the Maryland quintet—Marc Roberge [lead vocals, rhythm guitar], Richard On [lead guitar, backing vocals], Chris Culos [drums], Benj Gershman [bass], and Jerry DePizzo [saxophone, guitar, backing vocals, additionally MikelParis [keys, backing vocals, percussion] and Jon Lampley [trumpet, backing vocals].

Since their emergence in 1996, the musicians have tirelessly delivered a signature brand of rock steeped in alternative scope, roots tradition, and pop ambition. Among many highlights, 2008’s All Sides yielded the platinum single “Shattered” and bowed in the Top 15 of the Billboard Top 200 a space they continually occupied with King [2011] and The Rockville LP [2014].

Beyond packing arenas and amphitheaters coast to coast, they’ve given inspiring performances on The Today Show, CONAN, the 2015 Special Olympics Opening Ceremony, the ESPYS, in addition to playing their hit song “Peace” at the coveted Times Square New Year’s Eve Celebration on the eve of 2016.

“Richie Sambora announced us at Red Rocks as ‘The Mighty O.A.R.’ a few years back,” recalls DePizzo. “Those two words just stuck with us, and Marc suggested we use it as the album title. We have a great sense of pride in the career we’ve had up to this point. The term wraps up who the band is in 2019. It feels good to us.”

“Our hope is everyone leaves our show feeling better than when they got there,” says Culos. “We make that happen by playing together as a unit, playing with a pulse. Through that pulse, we tell our story. It’s about friends and family – our brotherhood. The Mighty refers to our foundation.”

O.A.R. most definitely do that on their latest offering. They also tread uncharted territory. Rather than follow the same playbook and record during a set timeframe, they intermittently recorded throughout 2018, working on or writing a song only when inspired. Crafting all the songs simultaneously until the very last hours of the production deadline. In the studio, longtime producer Gregg Wattenberg would be joined by PomPom, who added a fresh take on the sound with an electronic sensibility and expanded soundscape.

“We used to rent a place for a month, go in, write music, take off for a break, and then record for another month,” says Roberge. “Thanks to Wattenberg, we now had access to a brand new studio and his guidance without the pressures of the clock. We could come and go when inspired, and fell into this comfortable experience. For the first time the schedule went out the window.”

“PomPom grew up around O.A.R. music,” DePizzo says. “To be able to bring someone into the fold who came up with your tunes and influence added a whole different perspective.”

Case in point is the first single, “Miss You All The Time.” Produced by Gregg Wattenberg and Derek Fuhrmann. Its lush keys and moving guitar riff uphold an orchestral admission, “I miss you all the time.” The emotionally charged send-off immediately resonated with fans as the official music video directed by Rudy Mancuso swiftly clocked over 5 million views on YouTube, and counting.

“Like anyone, we’ve seen tragic losses over the years,” says Roberge. “You have people in your life who are so important and influential, and then one day they’re gone. It happens quickly, and you’re left to pick up the pieces. We wanted to celebrate their greatness instead of mourn. ‘Miss You All The Time’ is a moment to honor those who aren’t with us anymore.”

Whether it’s the space and harmony of “Free”, the uplifting anthem “California”, or the addictive groove on “Knocking at Your Door,” O.A.R. ignite a bold, brilliant, and inspired next chapter.

“It’s a renewal of experiences,” says Roberge. “We’ve built the foundation, we’ve got the confidence to be who we are.”

And, who are they now?

Well, they’re The Mighty O.A.R.

What You’ll Learn

  • The tremendous influence of Stephen King and Stan By Me on Marc’s music
  • Through all the tours and fame, Marc always comes home “when the streetlights come on.”
  • Even as a successful musician on tour, Marc values being home with his wife and family above all.
  • Life encompasses moments of loss, sadness, weakness, but the moments in between are what counts and should be celebrated.
  • Marc admits that it’s hard to maintain the patriarchal role when he’s weak and flawed. It helps him to be open about this to his wife and kids.
  • As a dad, Marc believes dads shouldn’t float around and hope it all works out. Get in the trenches.
  • Why parents should encourage kids to do their own thing and get on board with it
  • When things go wrong, kids usually are afraid to tell their parents. How can we create a net of psychological safety so they will come to us first?
  • Marc talks about how he could go to his dad for anything, and so did the kids in his neighborhood.
  • How Marc’s father led by example—very few words, no BS.
  • How Marc maintains open communication in the home.
  • Cultivating the team mentality in the family
  • How running your family as a team helps siblings get along better
  • The most important habit for kids is learning to take responsibility.
  • How the quarantine situation has helped Marc’s family ignore little frustrations and learn how to communicate better
  • Marc sees this time as a silver lining to the virus. This is the most time many of us have ever spent with our family.
  • Fathers have time to reestablish the hierarchy in the house.
  • The best times Marc and his wife shared were not big, exotic vacations but simple road trips in the car.
  • Why his wife is his “final call” person
  • The purest songwriting experience Marc ever had
  • How O.A.R. has adapted to Covid-19 life by songwriting on Zoom and streaming concerts from home.
  • Marc’s plan for living through the coronavirus—stay home, write songs, take care of himself and his family

It’s all about neighborhood. It’s all about crew. It’s all about your friends. I believe in that stuff. We’re not alone.—Marc Roberge

RELATED EPISODES:

Of A Revolution with Marc Roberge

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

 


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Wild Power: Understanding Your Woman’s Cycle with Alexandra and Sjanie from Red School


Today we’re going to shed light on a mysterious phenomenon that puzzles most men and even women—the menstrual cycle. We usually shy away from discussing this topic in great detail, but it is a huge part of life as a couple. Understanding your woman’s cycle will allow you to get to know her in a way you never thought possible.

Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer are the authors of Wild Power and the co-founders of Red School. They are going to teach us about the four seasons of your woman’s cycle, what goes on in her mind and body and how you can work in harmony with the seasons.

They tell us how to take advantage of what each season has to offer as well as knowing what your partner needs before she even asks for it. You will know when she craves space, when she needs connection, and when she’s most sexually charged.

This episode will be a revelation. Alexandra and Sjanie’s advice will equip you with all the knowledge you need to appreciate and “flow” with the wild power of your woman’s cycle.

Red School

Red School teaches a radical new approach to women’s health and wellbeing; creativity and leadership; and spiritual life based on the power of our menstruality consciousness.

With combined experience in the fields of psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, coaching, teaching and facilitation, Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer are both published authors and experts in the fields of women’s health and wellbeing and spirituality.

Between us they have forty years of exploring and learning about menstruality from their own deeply lived experience and the collective knowledge they have gathered from working with thousands of women in workshops, one to one sessions and passing conversation.


What You Will Learn

  • Understanding the menstrual cycle is knowing your wife
  • How working with a woman’s cycle creates harmony in families
  • Women experience different emotional climates, and that is not bad thing if you understand what is happening to her
  • The female cycle is fundamental to a woman’s creative and sexual energy.
  • Why women have different perspectives and change their minds depending on the time of month.
  • The four seasons of menstruation:
    • Winter (1 or 2 days before her period till it’s over) – energy is low, and she feels vulnerable. She will want to drop out from the world and withdraw. Men should provide safety, space, and decision-making.
    • Spring (end of period till day 11) – a time of experimentation and possibility. Motivation begins to come back. She will need cherishing.
    • Summer (approx. 11-19 days) – This is her superwoman time. She will be productive, industrious, playful, sensual, and attractive. She will be less defensive. She will want to be seen and appreciated. It’s a good time to have difficult conversations and approach her with physical intimacy.
    • Fall (after day 18 or 19) – Sensitivity will begin to heighten. She will have bigger, stronger feelings and be tough and critical. She will need to slow down and reevaluate what she is doing. During this time, she will need to be heard. The best thing to do for her is listen to the truth in what she’s saying without getting defensive or dismissive.
  • To be understood is everything for a woman.
  • The power of being cycle efficient is that everyone’s needs are met and everyone’s happy.
  • Bickering falls away when each takes responsibility for what they can handle it when they can handle it. It’s a dance.
  • Do men have cycles?

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Stop Drifting and Consciously Design Your Future with Dominick Quartuccio

Get Lit: Forget the Pressure to Find Your Why with Dominick Quartuccio

5 Practices to Make You a Mentally Tougher Man with Dominick Quartuccio


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living your authentic life

Living Your Authentic Life


Are you living your authentic life? What if you have everything that’s supposed to make you happy and you’re still miserable?

On today’s show, we have Dad Edge Alliance member and everyday dad, Josh Long. Josh had a very successful 16-year career that he hated. He was so hungry for significance in his life, that he threw himself into volunteering for his community. He eventually ran for city council and won. Everything looked very admirable on the outside, but inside he was dying.

Josh was overcommitted and stressed. He began to rely on alcohol to cope. His marriage was in crisis, and he started investing emotionally in another woman. He was living a life of quiet desperation, until he took a hard look at what he was giving his time and energy to and realized he was living for the wrong reasons.

Listen to how Josh saved his marriage, became a better father, and started living a life according to his true values.

“We have to rebuild ourselves before we rebuild our marriages.”—Josh Long, The Dad Edge Alliance

 

RELATED EPISODES:

5 Rules for an Unshakable Marriage

Why Your Ego is the Enemy with Ryan Holiday

How to Stop Being A Miserable F*ck with John Kim


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Become Irresistible to Your Woman with Allana Pratt


Is it possible to become absolutely irresistible to your woman?

Whether things cooled off after the kids or your marriage is in serious trouble, today’s show is going to dive deep into what your woman requires to deeply connect with you on an emotional and sexual level.

Allana Pratt is a relationship coach and intimacy expert who has been featured all over the media, including CBS, Forbes, People Magazine, and FOX.

She is going to reveal some surprising insights about why your woman may have lost desire for you. She talks about what men should do if they are being emasculated. Allana also explains how to articulate what you truly want without seeming needy, how to make your woman feel safe and seen so she is receptive to you physically, and how to remove the fear of rejection in all your conversations, inside and outside the bedroom.

Women love sex. They like to have lots of it. What they require is safety. If you want more sex, how can you make her feel safer, more seen, more understood, more held, more able to surrender?—Allana Pratt

Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt

Allana Pratt inspires open hearted living, with delicious sass. Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on The Jenny McCarthy Show, Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, TLC and FOX. This cum laude graduate of Columbia University is the Author of 4 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg, Alanis Morissette and Dr. Bernie Seigel and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn to thrive after heartbreak and find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. With over 4 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create healthy, thriving intimate relationships with themselves first, which naturally attracts their ideal match.

After working with thousands of men and women who struggle to open their hearts again in the aftermath of a harsh breakup, Allana helps them learn how to date again and find lasting love. She inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature to attract all the love and attention they can handle. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’, and awakens their ‘noble badass’ so they can create hot, healthy intimate relationships.

What You’ll Learn

  • Men tend to shame themselves for their sexual desires
  • Why men don’t feel free to communicate their needs.
  • Most men avoid asking for what they want sexually from their wives because they don’t know how to respond to rejections (e.g. “you want it all the time, you didn’t take out the trash, I’m tired”).
  • Men haven’t learned to sit in the fire and burn through conflict, but it’s through conflict that we learn.
  • Men usually run away, hide, or pretend nothing is wrong and never address the root problem. Intimacy issues perpetuate.
  • When you approach your woman, the degree to which you hesitate is the degree to which you will receive hesitancy. The degree to which you doubt yourself, is the degree to which your woman will doubt you.
  • Whatever you’re afraid she’ll say, she’ll say. You’re creating her response.
  • How to take your power back to become irresistible to your woman
  • Why you must integrate shame, guilt, and fear instead of trying to bury it or destroy it
  • Men must tell themselves that their worth is not based on their woman’s behavior, approval, or agreement. They are the masters of their realities.
  • If you’re totally present and able to be with any truth your woman has, she will respect you.
  • Own what is your responsibility.
  • Your unattachment to the result is the key to getting what you want.
  • How to connect with the past-rejected part of yourself and love it without condition so you can approach life as a whole person.
  • We clamber for pleasure and avoid pain, but too much pleasure is detrimental, and the avoidance of pain prevents us from becoming stronger.
  • Certainty is sexy—even being certain that you don’t know the answer.
  • When men aren’t authentic and vulnerable, the women steps into a masculine role.
  • When men share only to get attention, the woman senses the agenda and it backfires.
  • What men need most from women
  • Keep your heart open in the face of trauma and fear. Know your worth and truth no matter if anyone agrees or not.
  • Being emasculated by your woman is wrong
  • How man can deal with a woman who emasculates them
  • What a woman who is centered and conscious can awaken in a man
  • How a man can awaken the radiant goddess in their woman
  • The ideal time and environment to have deep conversations with your wife
  • How to proactively choose what to see out of perceived failures
  • How to appeal to your wife’s love language
  • How to penetrate your woman in three ways—physically, mentally, and spiritually.

RELATED EPISODES:

Becoming a Legendary Couple After the Kids

The Unexpected Secrets of Men, Women, and Sex with Nell Gibbon Daly

How to Light Your Woman Up with Brandy Salazar


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