If you are here, it most likely means you are a MARRIED DAD. There is a perception out there in today’s society that if you are a MARRIED DAD with a traditional family, there must not be any challenges or obstacles. That is simply not the case. If you are a married Dad, it means you most likely view yourself as the strength and rock of your family. It means you most likely quietly stress about the things that your wife and kids do not know about. It means you most likely work extremely hard at work because you know that life is not all about you…it’s about those amazing people around you. It also means at times you have to figure out how to juggle work time, kid time, quality time with your spouse, and perhaps a little bit of time for yourself somehow. Being in this situation, means you are pulled in several different directions. This page is dedicated especially for you. You will find valuable tips and tricks that will make your journey more enjoyable.

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What It Means to Be Masculine Today


In this episode, we have invited Nicky Billou, the host of The Thought Leader Revolution Podcast. He is inspired by achievement and is dedicated to assisting others in achieving outstanding results.

But there was a time when Nicky’s marriage was in ruins and he didn’t even want to live anymore.

Today, Nicky talks about the biggest mistakes men make when it comes to marriage and what it means to be masculine today.

What You’ll Learn

Childhood days

[4:36]

Nicky had a great childhood as a Christian boy from Iran. He grew up admiring his father and treated him as a hero as his father taught him how to be a man.

[8:29]

His father was an old-fashioned, masculine man who taught him to be humble. His father portrayed how to show love and affection despite being a manly man.

Marriage

[16:41]

Nicky was married to a wonderful woman. They have two wonderful boys. Their youngest was diagnosed with a condition called Subglottic Tracheal Stenosis, which required a hazardous surgery that caused his wife to panic.

[17:42]

The doctor explained that the surgery would require a tube on their son’s throat and grafts on his body. However, there is also a 20% chance of failure, which could worsen their son’s condition.

[18:55]

Nicky felt that he had to be tough and strong (different from what he would do today), which caused him and his wife to argue often. A couple of weeks after his son came out of the hospital, Nicky was presented with a divorce petition from his wife. This made him feel like he wanted to die.

[20:01]

One morning, Nicky reached out to one of his friends and shared his frustrations. His friend encouraged him that life is worth living, and Nicky was thankful he made that call.

[21:01]

Nicky insists on the importance of having friends around when you have troubles. He encourages people to avoid hurting themselves as it will make life infinitely worst for their children.

Dealing with relationship trauma

[21:41]

Nicky met Owen Williams, an expert in helping men dealing with relationship trauma. He helped Nicky to recover by joining several sessions with men’s group. Two things got in the way of Nicky and his wife getting back together. His wife was not receptive to it at the time and Nicky still held much anger toward her.

[23:06]

Nicky’s perspective changed the day he was asked when he’d stop blaming his wife and when will he would take responsibility for his mistakes.

[25:32]

Nicky learned from Owen Williams that a woman will think about leaving her marriage for two years before giving a hint of that possibility. By the time a woman comes to tell you that she wants a separation, it will be hard to turn that around. Before that happens, wake up, be wise, and be a father to your children.

Buildup of emotions

[29:47]

When Nicky’s wife decided to divorce, he lost his sense of self and self-worth, and it was one of his worst experiences. But when he was in the room with his fellow men, he felt a surge of love and life-force coursing through his body, as if God were speaking to him that everything will be all right through a messenger.

Strength to walk a new path

[32:37]

Nicky expresses his yearning for his children. But even though he could not speak to them, he knew that his children missed him. He trusts God, and he knew that he had a bigger purpose in life. Nicky knew that his calling was to go out there and guide men and families to be of service to their children.

Advice

[40:03]

Nicky admires women and their ability to help each other. That is why he encourages men also to aid each other in times of need.

[42:05]

Going through a divorce means losing 70% of the wealth you’ve accumulated, denied access to kids, and it also destroys your sense of self, making it impossible to be your best.

[43:05]

Nicky is honored to help men be their best for their children their wives. As a man, it is his job to make sure that his children do not suffer.

[48:10]

You need to draw a line when it comes to the people that you associate with. It is even more important as a couple.

RELATED EPISODES:

Strong Men, Strong Marriages with Dr. Mike Frazier

The Art of Masculinity with Johnny Elsasser

The Anatomy of Marriage Part 1: The Woman’s Side


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The Hard Way with Brad Lea


In this episode, we are excited to talk to Brad Lea, the founder of Lightspeed VT, the most advanced interactive training platform on the market. He is a soon-to-be billionaire and the host of the Dropping Bombs podcast. Brad is also the author of the Real Deal and has a new book coming out, The Hard Way. He’s also been featured in Forbes, Huffington Post, Inc. Magazine, and is a regular guest on several top-rated podcasts.

Brad talks about how he blew it as a father and how he’s leveled up as a parent, raising his daughters to be strong, confident women. He tells us how to build confidence and shift our mindsets by accumulating knowledge. He also talks about how to rack up wins to replace old patterns and crush self-sabotage and procrastination once and for all!

Brad Lea learned the hard way in business, marriage and fatherhood. Take advantage of the wisdom bombs he drops in this podcast!

Brad Lea

People call Brad “The Real Brad Lea” because he keeps it real no matter what. He is a successful businessman and philanthropist. He is best known as the founder and CEO of LightSpeed VT, a global leader in web-based training and communication platforms with headquarters in Las Vegas, NV. Brad is continually striving to enhance the technology to better serve his clients.

Engaging, authentic and dynamic, Brad is passionate about helping people succeed. In fact, he’s created the Dropping Bombs podcast to help people succeed in Life and in Business.

He’s dropping bombs on a wide-range of topics that educate, inspire and deliver results. Brad’s bombs are explosive strategies you can leverage to obliterate any obstacle getting in the way of your personal or business success. Listen to the Official Brad Lea Podcast for exclusive content, success strategies rooted in real-life experiences and stories from the front lines. Brad’s dropping bombs. Listen up or run for cover!

What You’ll Learn

A hobby that brings joy to Brad

[5:55]

Usually, Brad likes to chill out. His off time is literally spent chilling, not thinking, not deciding, and not doing much. Brad also loves fishing.

[7:53]

His favorite sport growing up was football and baseball.

 

Brad’s advice to his 18-year-old self

[9:38]

His advice would be to start reading voraciously on a regular basis, non-fiction, self-help books—read, read, read. And then the next advice would be don’t worry about what other people think and invest money more wisely.

 

Game changer books for Brad

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. How to Win Friends and Influence People with Dale Carnegie. Think and Grow Rich.

 

Childhood

[12:28]

His dad was the kind of children-should-be-seen-and-not-heard type of dad. Their parents got divorced when he was two. Their mom got left with all of the kids. She put four of them in a foster home and kept the brand new baby, which was his little brother.

[13:47]

His father didn’t come to any sporting events. He didn’t give Brad many life lessons. He let his kids figure things out for themselves.

[15:48]

Being left alone, nobody loved Brad. Nobody gave him any affection, but that is what taught him the most. It taught him how to survive. It taught him how to fend for himself. Resourcefulness is what his father taught him by leaving him alone.

[18:27]

He’s glad he grew up the way he grew up because he believes that’s why he is the way right now. He’s very resourceful. He can survive anywhere. He can do anything. It builds confidence and self-worth to where you’re not afraid.

 

What Brad learned early on that changed the game for him as a father

[24:01]

Brad teaches them to be independent, creative, resourceful, and kind. That’s the main thing. Just be a good person.

 

Things Brad learned about how to operate within his marriage

[30:14]

A lot of times, we tend to forget that our wives are our partners. Trust and communication are the backbones of any relationship.

[34:08]

People in a relationship where there’s flirting and there’s cheating and there’s alcohol-fueled rages, you’re not being a good dad. The right dad would respect himself and his wife and/or partner and their children and do what’s best for each.

[36:17]

If you’re not happy where you’re at, then you have to change what you’re doing. And in order to do that, you have to change what you believe. And in order to change what you believe, you have to enter new information into the equation. You cannot have new beliefs with the same information.

[38:01]

Everybody deserves love. Everybody deserves respect. Everybody deserves to be in a good relationship. And a good relationship is based on communication and trust and respect.

 

The rhino symbol on Brad’s book “The Hard Way” 

[41:53]

The rhino symbolizes just being hard to stop, being unstoppable. But at the end of the day, the book is about lessons.

[44:01]

Brad wrote the bool to share lessons of his life that are going to really help people turn their life around and accelerate.

[46:40]

There are so many people out there that are trying to be something they’re not or they’re afraid to be who they are in fear of the judgment of others. So if there’s one most valuable lesson, it’s be yourself. That’s when you will find true happiness.

 

How might we best do that without it sabotaging us?

 [48:16]

First, you have to make a commitment to do so because otherwise, it can backfire. Spend some alone time and get real with yourself. You start out by forgiving yourself for all the bullshit and the procrastination and the nonsense you’ve put yourself through and others. Second, you got to commit to do what you say you’re going to do. Number three, you rack up the wins. You have to replace all of those memories, all those years of lies, cheats, steals, let downs, you have to replace them.

 

Tactics in his daily life

[53:51]

Gratitude is a magical ingredient that most people don’t understand, but if you are grateful, that is the most critical part. So every morning, Brad wakes up, trains himself to do it. Puts a sign on his wall that said, congratulations, you get another day. Then he focuses on four things:

  1. Health
  2. Relationships
  3. Money
  4. Seeking knowledge

[57:55]

Focus on those four things every single morning and that will start to build confidence. You’ll start to become a little bit more knowledgeable. You’ll start to shift your beliefs. You’ll start to grow as a human being, and you’ll start to reach that potential that everybody has.

RELATED EPISODES:

Real AF Self-Discipline with Andy Frisella

No Excuses Fatherhood with Wes Watson

How to Raise Confident, Mentally Tough Daughters with Emily McCarthy


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Success is Closer Than You Think

It’s been about a year since our worlds were drastically changed by the pandemic. Many of us feel discouraged and stressed out. It seems impossible to stay motivated and focused. We lose the momentum we had toward whatever goals we planned to achieve pre-COVID.

Today’s show is for those who feel frustrated and overwhelmed, for those who struggle with imperfection, impostor syndrome, and self-doubt. It’s for those on the brink of giving up.

Don’t do it. Keep showing up. I will tell you why. When life fights you the most, be ready, because something amazing is heading your way.

This is my personal story about the success that I would’ve never experienced had I given up all those times I wanted to quit. Success is so much closer than you think.

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Pulling the Positive from Failures with UFC Champion Frankie Edgar

Frankie Edgar on Life Lessons from the Octagon


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Strong Men, Strong Marriages with Dr. Mike Frazier


Our guest today believes the saying “happy wife, happy life” is a lie. If you feel like you’re doing everything right in your marriage and wonder why it’s not working, this show is for you.

In this episode, we have invited Dr. Mike Frazier, the founder of Strong Men, Strong Marriages. Today, we talk about what it really means to be a man and a husband and how you need to define that for yourself. We’ll go through communication, connection, intimacy, and all the secrets you can use to make your marriage strong and exciting.

My marriage looked good from the outside. But inside it was a nightmare.

Dr. Mike Frazier

Mike’s been married since 2005 to his beautiful wife Elizabeth. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in neuroscience from the Brigham Young University, attended UCLA medical school, and went through the psychiatry residency training program at UC Irvine.

What You’ll Learn

How did Mike get involved in being a doctor?

[19:22]

Around age 16, Mike felt like he wanted to go into a counseling type of profession. He did couples counseling as part of his training in psychiatry. But what really pointed Mike in that direction was his own struggles in his marriage. Mike’s wife was actually sex trafficked by her family for many years, from a child up until were married.

[23:53]

Mike’s wife didn’t really trust him. It was hard for her to talk about sex. And so Mike felt like he was feeling not doing a good job. The other side of happy wife, happy life is that if you do enough to make her happy, it’s her turn to make you happy. And so Mike felt like since he’s doing his part, now it’s his wife’s turn.

[25:20]

He realized it was more about building up his strength, becoming more attractive, and that’s what actually worked to create a better and stronger marriage.

It’s impossible that we can make someone else happy

[29:50]

That was the kind of a real breakthrough moment for Mike was he remember he was listening to a podcast by someone named Jody Moore. And she just said this phrase, you are not responsible for your wife’s emotions. And he was like, “what? I’m not responsible for emotions.” Mike felt like he had been let out of jail.

[30:38]

Where do emotions come from? What Mike teaches and believes is that they actually come from thoughts, beliefs, and experiences and that creates a certain emotion.

Moving the “Win”

[32:59]

Moving the win. So instead of the win being “my wife’s happy” the win is “I behaved in a way that I want to impact as a husband.” A lot of really good things happen when you do that.

[36:30]

A lot of men are under that impression of like, if I do X, hopefully, she’ll do Y. And if she doesn’t, it’s going to rub me the wrong way. And after that happens so many times, that’s when that animosity builds.

[40:55]

What you have to do is you have to ask for what you need, want, desire. Do it in a confident way. Do it in a secure way. Do it in an empowering way. Not an overpowering way.

[44:46]

It’s a risk. You have to give up the relationship you have now to get the relationship you want.

What kind of husband do you want to be?

[46:47]

What Mike recommends is you actually write what kind of husband you want to be and visualize it. You start your day with that and it’s clear to you.

[47:31]

The other element that Mike shares is this idea of how are you trying to move your wife? Are you trying to move her into a position of subservience and obedience, or are you trying to move her into a place of freedom and choice?

[50:02]

You have to control the controllable and you have to measure the tactics, behaviors, the things that you do that are going right to help move that relationship forward.

[58:14]

A great way to look at conflicts is it is an opportunity actually for more connections. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

RELATED EPISODES:

Toolkit for an Extraordinary Marriage with Larry Hagner

How to Build a Ridiculously Fulfilling Marriage with Nate Bagley

21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage


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Toolkit for an Extraordinary Marriage with Larry Hagner


How many hours have you spent training to be a husband? We expect marriage to work out without ever learning the skills to maintain a successful relationship. We want more sex and intimacy as well as better communication and connection, but we are missing the tactics.

Today I am with Nate Bagley from the Growth Marriage podcast to talk about elevating your marriage. We go over the tools you need to take the relationship with your wife to the next level.

“Marriage is a skill. Communication is a skill. Connection is a skill.”

What You’ll Learn

Extraordinary Marriage

[4:28]

The four elements to a legendary marriage are taking care of yourself, the friendship, the partnership, and the lovers’ aspect.

[5:03]

The foundation that those elements sit on is communication. The most important thing is creating an environment of psychological safety, tactical empathy, emotional validation, active listening—all these things that we don’t know how to do.

Larry’s Mission

[7:13]

Growing up in a fatherless environment most of his life, Larry had a wake-up call and realized he didn’t have a reference for how to be the dad he wanted to be.

[7:30]

Larry is on a mission to ensure that dads have all the tools and resources they need to be the absolute best husbands and fathers that they can be.

The Dad Edge

[17:46]

Struggling in marriage for the first part, he figured he needs to learn patience, anger resolution, emotional resilience, and communication within marriage.

Life’s Lessons

[18:55]

Larry shared that the Dad Edge Project encompasses five elements of being a husband, father, and man. One of those is mastering personal and family finances because 50% of divorces that happen are due to financial distress that causes a lot of stress to people. The second element is optimizing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Creating an extraordinary marriage is the third element. The fourth is an epic connection with your kids with psychological safety. The last element is being a leader.

[19:42]

According to him, there are skills to learn, master, and practice that are going to help you optimize those elements.

[21:06]

Skill are not feelings. If he feels like losing his patience, he can use the skill to create space between response and reaction or reaction and response. He learned to put all these into practice.

Daily Basis to be in Peak Condition

[29:19]

Larry shared that when he’s the healthiest, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically, he can serve his wife profoundly.

[30:10]

He added that his wife’s three biggest needs are to be seen, heard, and cherished. Attention is important in the relationship, so his wife can feel she is important.

[30:47]

He shared that his job in the relationship is not to fix his wife’s problems, but to validate, support, and create space for her.

[32:11]

Larry said that they a routine in his family because they want to make sure everyone gets ample attention.

Appreciative Inquiry

[37:37]

Larry discussed that appreciative inquiry is a way of taking teams, culture, relationships, and focusing on the best of what was, the best of what is, and what the best of what could be.

[41:17]

It’s about creating epic connection through psychological safety, communication, physical touch, words of affirmation, date nights, and asking future generative questions that elevates the entire relationship and fixes communication problems.

[44:49]

Larry added that most people will approach and interact with agenda and expectation. It’s important to approach any interaction with appreciation and curiosity.

[45:40]

He shared that when there’s wrongdoing in the family, especially with his kids, he doesn’t punish them. He would celebrate their courageous behavior but letting them know that there will be a conversation and natural consequences. This creates an important environment for relationships. Psychological safety is about knowing that they can come to you without feeling guilty or shameful.

RELATED EPISODES:

21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

How to Build a Ridiculously Fulfilling Marriage with Nate Bagley

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage Part 1—The Individual


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