If you are here, it most likely means you are a MARRIED DAD. There is a perception out there in today’s society that if you are a MARRIED DAD with a traditional family, there must not be any challenges or obstacles. That is simply not the case. If you are a married Dad, it means you most likely view yourself as the strength and rock of your family. It means you most likely quietly stress about the things that your wife and kids do not know about. It means you most likely work extremely hard at work because you know that life is not all about you…it’s about those amazing people around you. It also means at times you have to figure out how to juggle work time, kid time, quality time with your spouse, and perhaps a little bit of time for yourself somehow. Being in this situation, means you are pulled in several different directions. This page is dedicated especially for you. You will find valuable tips and tricks that will make your journey more enjoyable.

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Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman


Gary Chapman is the author of one of the most popular books on marriage in the world, The 5 Love Languages. Today he talks about his new book, 5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage: …When You’re Stuck at Home Together.

Whether it has been challenging or delightful for you to be spending more time with your spouse during COVID-19, it’s the perfect time to troubleshoot and renew your love. If you have a good marriage, this will make it better. If you have a troubled marriage, this will tear down the walls and help you start rebuilding.

Get on the fast track to a loving, harmonious marriage with these 5 simple tips!

“Love is a choice you make every day.” – Dr. Gary Chapman

 

Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman, PhD, is the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 12 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. Dr. Chapman travels the world presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. He lives in North Carolina with his wife, Karolyn.

5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage …When You’re Stuck at Home Together

Let Sheltering in Place Together be an Opportunity to Renew Your Relationship
The COVID-19 pandemic has affected all facets of life. The health crisis has overwhelmed medical workers, business closings have exacerbated financial stress, and—perhaps most unexpectedly—sheltering in place has placed married couples in endless, unprecedented proximity.

Whether this has been challenging or delightful for you and your spouse, let this time be an opportunity to renew your love. Learn how to do so in 5 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage… When You’re Stuck at Home Together by Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages®. This guide will help enrich your time stuck together by teaching you and your spouse how to:

  • Call a truce on throwing word bombs
  • Tear down emotional walls
  • Discover and speak each other’s love language
  • Learn the value of teamwork
  • Have a daily “sit down and listen” time

What You’ll Learn

  • Practice your spouse’s love language, not yours.
  • The biggest challenge is when your spouse’s love language is something you haven’t received as a child. But you can learn to speak them even if you didn’t receive them.
  • How to get back to loving each other intentionally
  • When we’re under stress, we throw verbal bombs at each other.
  • Verbal bombs burst inside the hearts of our spouses.
  • Call a truce, and vow not say anything negative for a week.
  • Replace negative comments with compliments.
  • Even if your spouse doesn’t agree to refrain from negative comments, call the truce on your side. It will automatically help.
  • Daily Sit Down and Listen Time (not Talk Time)—Ask your spouse to share 3 things that happened today and how they felt about them.
  • Even if you live together, you don’t know the person’s thoughts and how they feel about what’s going on.
  • Listening says, “I care about you.”
  • Listen long enough so you can honestly say that you understand. You do not have to agree.
  • Don’t criticize the way your partner feels.
  • Your spouse will be more likely to affirm you if you’ve taken the first step.
  • Use your energy to solve the problem instead of winning the argument.
  • How to be accommodating without becoming a doormat
  • If you win an argument with your spouse, you’ve created a loser. It’s no fun to live with a loser.
  • You’re a team. Each player on the team does something different. Use an attitude of service and play your strengths.
  • Love stimulates love.
  • There are no perfect husbands. When we fail in word or deed, we need to apologize to our spouses.
  • When we apologize and seek to speak her love language, it starts a process.
  • Don’t sit around waiting for a person to change. We as men, should make the decision to lead.
  • We can influence our spouse in a positive way using their love language.
  • Make a 6-month commitment to using these 5 tips.
  • When you start moving in a positive direction as a couple, you are likely to continue moving forward.

RELATED EPISODES:

Strong Fathers, Strong Kids with Meg Meeker

How to Argue and Other Marriage Tips with Zach Brittle

The 5 Love Languages and How They Made My Marriage Thrive

 


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The Full Monty: Dad-Life as an Ex-Navy SEAL with Monty Heath


Becoming our best selves is a choice. We can choose to watch life pass us by, sleepwalking to our deathbeds full of regret. Or we can make the decision to take destiny into our own hands, leaving a distinct mark on the world.

Today we have former Navy SEAL Monty Heath on The Dad Edge Podcast. Monty made the choice to leave the Navy SEALs before getting married and starting his family. He talks about how keeping calm is the most effective and important way to operate in life. He reveals how closely he came to divorce and the choice he made to never quit on his marriage. Monty also discusses his approach to dad life and teaches us how we can keep cool and rational through the inevitable chaos of fatherhood.

“I want to raise kids who are better than me.”—Monty Heath

Monty Heath

In 1993, Monty Heath became a U.S. Navy SEAL, completing one of his lifelong goals. He was fortunate enough to serve alongside America’s finest in Operations Enduring Freedom and Joint Forge. Monty credits SEAL Team Two and Red Squadron as adding significance to everything else he would do in life. During his service, Monty was twice awarded the Bronze star with combat Valor designation.

After eleven years of faithful service, Monty left the SEALS (admittedly one of the most difficult things he’s ever done) to start a family and change focus to the civilian sector. Through the years, he has lead a variety of successful military and civilian endeavors, including supervising the U.S. Navy’s SEAL mentorship program and BUD/S preparatory program. He has provided executive protection for several Forbes 400 individuals and their families. He is truly honored to be helping those he feels need and deserve it the most – America’s veterans and service members.

“Calm people are the best people.”—Monty Heath

What You’ll Learn

  • Monty considered himself to be an immature warrior.
  • The difference between approaching life with a subjective or objective mindset.
  • Avoid conflict when one or both sides are emotional instead of logical.
  • Monty’s advice to his younger self—You don’t have to classify and quantify everything in your sight. Mostly, people don’t want your unsolicited opinions and advice. If they did, they would ask you for it.
  • Seek mentorship and knowledge. Sometimes you have to step into the thick of it to grow.
  • Why Monty didn’t try to have kids until he felt he was ready
  • In life, try to get “mission focus.” Keep your eyes on the future and the goal, and all the pieces of uncomfortableness are just hoops you need to jump through to get there.
  • How to use empathy to help people in a heightened emotional state
  • The emotion/logic seesaw—We cannot judge people for their visceral reactions. Meet them where they are in their feelings and validate them.
  • Growing up in a dysfunctional family helped Monty in keeping calm through his experiences as a Navy SEAL.
  • How Monty and his wife have beat the odds when it comes to their marriage after being on the brink of divorce many times.
  • It’s a conscious decision to be married and monogamous.
  • Monty believes life is about more than casual sex. It’s better to have a wife, friend, and partner.
  • He credits his wife for putting up with his caveman antics for so long.
  • Marriage—If you love each other, then it’s worth it.
  • Choice—Tomorrow has nothing to do with today. You can choose to do something to make yourself better. Apply time, effort, and discipline.
  • Anything worth doing is hard. If you’re out of your comfort zone, you’re doing it right.

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Raising Kids with the Dichotomy of Leadership with Jocko Willink

Staring Down the Wolf with ex-Navy SEAL Mark Divine

Warrior Toughness for Real Life with Navy SEAL Stephen Drum

COVID-19: How to Protect and Lead Your Family Through Crisis with Retired Navy SEAL Jason Redman

Navy SEAL Tactics for Parents with Chris Sajnog

 


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Marriage Skills for Men

How’s your marriage? Great? Okay? Bad? Could it be better?

Of course it could, but we are never taught marriage skills. We expect our relationship to work by default, but it’s not going to get better on its own. Marriage takes constant, intentional work. No relationship runs on autopilot no matter how much a couple loves each other.

John Barbee felt he was failing as a husband and a father. He realized he was only participating with his family on a surface level. One day, he decided to take action and shape his relationship with his wife. This involved communication, partnership, friendship, and intimacy. Mostly, it involved investing in himself.

Now John’s excited about his marriage again and is here to share his marriage skills for men. Get ready to finally learn how to fill your marriage with possibility again!

Never give up on your marriage.

What You’ll Learn

  • The accelerated growth and phenomenal change that happens when you start to take care of yourself
  • John always thought that just being in the room with his kids while watching TV was “being present” in their lives.
  • We say “yes” to all the things and can only give a fraction of the effort. What is really important?
  • The difference between quitting and prioritizing what matters
  • It’s up to you to direct your marriage and update your knowledge on how to cultivate a rich family life.
  • Good sex does not mean you have a good relationship.
  • What happens when you grow and those around are not changing? Can you outgrow your marriage?
  • What turned John’s marriage around?
  • Who can men really go to about problems in their relationships?
  • We often live in superficial connection.
  • How to take on deep conversations with your spouse
  • Involve questions that connect. Did you ever ask what makes your wife happy? What makes her upset? What are her likes, dislikes?
  • Why it’s important to understand your spouse’s childhood
  • Stop trying to fix your spouse. Love her for who she is right now.
  • Work on yourself. Be patient. When you start growing, you want everyone to grow with you, but everyone has their own pace. If you are your best self, you are helping them to become their best.

MENTIONED EPISODES

4 Elements of a Legendary Marriage

What It’s Like to Do the #75Hard Challenge

Changing Your Relationship with Alcohol with Ruari Fairbairns


Our biggest regrets in life happen
when we’ve lost our patience. 

Stop Reacting and Start Living

Do the work. Make a plan. Follow along with simple, yet powerful exercises and tap into the patience that is within you.

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The Cool, Calm, and Connected Family with Arlene Pellicane


We all want to live in a happy home, have a deep relationship with our spouse, and confident and capable kids. But how do we create the home life we dream of in today’s world?

Arlene Pellicane shows us how. She is an author and speaker whose mission is to encourage families. Among her books are Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband, and Cool, Calm, and Connected. Arlene helps parents raise kids who are ready for life (not just playing video games), and also helps couples take their so-so marriage to a joyful one.

Arlene Pellicane talks about what a man needs most from his wife and how a couple can fall in love again. She explains the complementary roles of mothers and fathers and how to leverage the strengths of each. Arlene also tells us how to raise obedient, respectful children, and how we can live with more purpose, and less screen time.

You can live in a happy home. Listen to discover how.

“The home works best when children obey their parents.”—Arlene Pellicane

Arlene Pellicane

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books including Parents Rising, 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom, and Calm, Cool and Connected: 5 Digital Habits for a More Balanced Life. Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, and FamilyLife Today. She’s the host of the Happy Home Podcast and regular contributor to Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Arlene lives in San Diego with her husband James and their three children. You too can have a happy home – Arlene’s books will show you how.

31 Days to a Happy Husband

What does a man need most from his wife? Arlene Pellicane, author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife, asked numerous husbands that question. Based on their answers, Pellicane identified five keys that will give wives a new appreciation and understanding of how to love and care for their mates.

Parents Rising: 8 Strategies for Raising Kids Who Love God, Respect Authority, and Value What’s Right

Do you feel like you’re fighting a losing battle? Against the culture, against the busyness, sometimes even against your spouse and kids… Often it seems like everything is against you as a parent, and your everyday life can feel far from joy-filled. But it doesn’t need to be that way. Parents Rising will show you eight cultural trends that parents are up against today and what you can do to claim victory.

What You’ll Learn

  • Even if you didn’t have a happy home growing up, you can create one.
  • The 5 keys that will give wives a new appreciation and understanding of how to love and care for their husbands.
    • Domestic tranquility–A husband needs a peaceful haven.
    • Respect–A husband needs to be honored in his home.
    • Eros–A husband needs a fulfilling sex life.
    • Attraction–A husband needs to be attracted to his wife.
    • Mutual activities–A husband needs to have fun with his wife.
  • Before, kids were seen and not heard. The dynamic has flipped.
  • Amusement is not the highest priority.
  • Dads are good at taking charge.
  • Moms tend to over-accommodate and overcomplicate.
  • The differences between the mother and father is good and complimentary. Leverage these qualities.
  • Don’t let your wife stop you from being the leader.
  • How to speak to your wife about how she is managing the kids without upsetting her.
  • How screen time prevents kids from enjoying simple pleasures
  • What screen time does to a child’s brain—it’s like eating candy all day long.
  • Devices are programmed to be addictive. We would not hand a child a beer or cigarette.
  • During video games, the prefrontal cortex doesn’t get blood flow.
  • How to tell if your child is a casual, at risk, or addicted video gamer
  • Devices prevent neural pathways from being built. It’s just one-way passive consumption.
  • Devices prevent kids from learning social skills, like looking someone in the eye or carrying on a conversation.
  • Why you should not let your kids have their own devices
  • Will kids be left behind technologically if they don’t spend time on the internet?
  • QUIZ: Is my child getting too much screen time?

MENTIONED EPISODES:

Protecting Your Family from Gaming Addiction with Cam Adair

Digital Minimalism with Cal Newport


Protect your kids with the Bark App

cyberbullying

sexual content

suicidal ideation

online predators


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Self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice

Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Sacrifice

At the Dad Edge Alliance, we’re disrupting the default settings of fatherhood so that we can go from living ordinary to extraordinary lives. One of the reasons we men become frustrated and burned out is because we feel it’s our job to shoulder the load for everyone. But if we practice self-compassion instead of self-sacrifice, not only will we feel happier, but we’ll also find we have more to give to everyone in our lives.

Today we interview another dad in the trenches. John Culford is a recent Dad Edge Alliance member who’s been married for fourteen years and is the father of two sons, aged twelve and thirteen.

John shares his challenges with communication, understanding, and connection with his wife and kids. He reveals what strategies he’s implementing to make his family grow closer during quarantine and beyond. He also tells us how getting into the habit of being kind to himself, claiming space, and opening up about his struggles with his family his secret to staying grounded and moving forward.

You don’t necessarily have to sacrifice yourself for the benefit of others.—John Culford, DEA member

What You’ll Learn

  • John’s experience with a pre-marriage bootcamp
  • We he’s learned that no conflict is really resolved
  • How to listen effectively during disagreements so that your spouse knows she’s being heard
  • Why Joh is setting aside 1 hour a week with his wife to talk about things they don’t know about each other.
  • Strip down to the facts of a challenging problem or source of stress. We often don’t know why we’re really bothered by something.
  • Detach from feelings when thinking of solutions to a problem. Emotion creates noise that distracts us from the best path forward.
  • How to parent a child with anxiety
  • How to be there for your kids when they’ve matured and don’t open up to you any more
  • How to intentionally make time for important discussions so it’s best for everyone
  • Why you must remove “buts” from your responses
  • How to show your kids to turn challenging situations like coronavirus into a positive experience they look back and remember in a positive light.
  • How to explain to your family when you need time alone.

Be kind to yourself. You’re going to fail. As put together as you think you are it’s okay to make mistakes. Let your family become part of that story.—John Culford, DEA member

 


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Dad Edge Virtual Summit 2020

IT’S TIME TO REINVENT HOW WE SHOW UP FOR OUR FAMILIES

Coronavirus is forcing our evolution as fathers.  We are all going to build a whole new set of superpowers.  And these superpowers are needed right now.  For many of us, we are multiplying our future ability to serve, exponentially.

YOU WILL NOT WANT TO MISS THIS.

Guest Speakers

Dr. Meg Meeker
New York Times Bestselling Author of “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” and “HERO”
Anthony Trucks
Former NFL Football Player and American Ninja Warrior
Aaron Walker
Founder of View From the Top and bestselling author of “View from the Top” and coming soon “Isolation is the Enemy of Excellence.”
Dominic Quartuccio
Bestselling author of “Design Your Future.”

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