dr. nicole lepera

How to Do the Work with Dr. Nicole LePera

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, our guest is Dr. Nicole LePera. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis.

As a clinical psychologist in private practice, she often found herself frustrated by traditional psychotherapy’s limitations. She began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves.

Nothing short of a paradigm shift, her teachings empower individuals to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become.

Today, she talks with us about how to do the work when it comes to resolving childhood traumas, dealing with anxiety, building resiliency, and becoming a greater example for our children.

How to Do the Work

From Dr. Nicole LePera, creator of “the holistic psychologist”—the online phenomenon with more than two million Instagram followers—comes a revolutionary approach to healing that harnesses the power of the self to produce lasting change.

Now, Dr. LePera is ready to share her much-requested protocol with the world. In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for SelfHealing as well as an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from a diversity of scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps us recognize how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, resulting in whole body dysfunction—activating harmful stress responses that keep us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviors can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell.

In How to Do the Work, Dr. LePera offers readers the support and tools that will allow them to break free from destructive behaviors to reclaim and recreate their lives. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, this is a celebration of empowerment that will forever change the way we approach mental wellness and self-care.

What You’ll Learn

What Brings Dr. Nicole Joy and Happiness?

[11:07]

Being really present in her life is what brings Dr. LePera joy and happiness. Little did she know how she wasn’t present in her life for the better part of 30 years.  Receiving, seeing, experiencing, and feeling how it translates into her work is what lights her up.

 Dr. Nicole’s Favorite Quote

[12:07]

“Life is lived in moments.” Dr. LePera understood it as a concept, yet she didn’t understand how to practice it. She later realized that she’s now embodying the quote and learning to be present in her moments.

Advice to her Past Self

[13:18]

Gear up for the challenge of growing—challenging personal beliefs embedded in the subconscious and challenging herself to show up differently in the world.

Growing Up

[14:21]

Nicole was born into a family with a lot of anxiety. A lot of worry was present whether it was medical concerns or issues. Anxiety was an implicit part of her childhood experience. It became a large motivator in her desire to understand people.

 Wounded Healer

[15:20]

Dr. Nicole says that a lot of us consider ourselves wounded healers. The way she understands her desire to go into the healing profession is really from that understanding to relieve the symptoms of others.

Anxiety and tension

[16:12]

Anxiety and tension in her family weren’t talked about. It was this inner experience that they were all sharing without labeling it or speaking about it.

Her mother and father’s relationship

[18:42]

Dr. Nicole doesn’t know if she thought about it because it was her normal.  This happens to a lot of us. We just see, and we’re modeled relationships which becomes a format for our own personal relationships.

[19:36]

Dr. Nicole would have thought everything was fine and great and close in her parents’ relationship until she realized that she was repeating the same patterns in her relationships. She didn’t necessarily feel that depth of connection.

 Relationship with her Father

[20:04]

Her dad was very active in her life.  She has many memories of her dad playing with her, and they spent a lot of time together. They had points of connection, but not necessarily in terms of depth and emotion.

Goal

[21:49]

Dr. Nicole’s goal for everyone is to hold space and to acknowledge that some of us might come to the realization that our relationship a parent is one in which we need to stop engaging. She can see both sides of understanding and a parent’s limitations because they are humans, too. They were impacted by what they were taught.

Writing her book

[23:44]

Writing a book wasn’t something Dr. Nicole necessarily thought was a need. After the evolution of working as a traditional therapist, she came by this new holistic method that she now uses through her own healing and then began sharing it with others.  She was considering the theory and beginning to put it out on Instagram.

Aha Moment

[25:30]

Dr. Nicole had an office where people and clients would come week after week. They would have incredibly insightful conversations about all the things that aren’t working in life and all the things they will do differently to manage the symptoms or make their relationships more fulfilling. She had many people who had all of this insight but could not create change in their life.

[26:27]

Many of us are operating from a deeper part of our mind called the subconscious. We are running on almost a blind autopilot. What we’re doing in that unconscious state is repeating all of these habits and patterns that aren’t serving us.

[28:18]

We must gain the tools to begin to create a more conscious, intentional experience of creating a future that’s different from the past.

Bridging the Gap between the subconscious and conscious mind

[29:38]

We need to check and identify how unconscious we are. At that moment, we want to begin to fire up a new part of our brain. We want to teach ourselves how to be present in our given moment. We can access our senses. We can tune in to what’s actually here and hook our attention on that instead of where it typically is for many of us lost in our mind somewhere else.

Pattern-interrupts

[31:35]

When something external inflicts a change upon us, we have a chance to go into a new space, a pattern-interrupt where we can become conscious and make new choices in that moment, or we can slide right back into autopilot.

 Being Present and Intentional

[35:55]

Outside of using what’s present in our environment, we always have access to our senses. If you are at dinner, instead of focusing on what happens after dinner, you’re focusing on the taste of the food. We can always access the present moment, and it’s a practice.

[37:06]

Emotions feel unsafe for a lot of males in general.

Judgments

[39:36]

We sit in judgment of our feelings. Some of us have a general belief that feelings, whatever they are, are bad. And that’s not the reality. Feelings are a natural human occurrence.

Deep Breaths

[40:58]

We can teach ourselves and show ourselves through living the experience of regulating our emotional body through our breath.

[44:00]

We have to practice breath before we really need it. We have to build it into our day. For Dr. Nicole, it begins every morning where she created the intention of just practicing how to breathe from her belly.

Gratitude

[46:03]

Gratitude for many of us is what’s present, and that is often what’s right in front of us.

[48:37]

We now know that our heart is incredibly powerful. Our heart energy not only affects our whole system but communicates with our brain. It affects everyone around us. When we begin embodying these feelings, we can become really powerful in creating our future.

 The Inner Child

[49:44]

The deepest part of our subconscious that impacts us into adulthood is the area called our inner child.

[50:00]

We all have childlike parts of ourselves, even though we’re running around in different aged adult bodies. The inner child accumulates things that have happened in such a distant past that they feel so far, yet because we house all of these patterns in our subconscious, and we operate largely through them. Many of us find ourselves into adulthood, repeating some of these older habits and patterns that don’t serve us.

Role Modeling

[1:00:44]

Children are much more receptive to how they’re watching us. Navigating our feelings is going to be so impactful for them. Our brain actually has something called mirror neurons that fire when we’re watching people around us. This includes our emotional experiences.

[1:01:22]

Modeling into your emotional experiences and expressing them, and letting them out for your children to see usually is going to be the much more impactful way to teach children emotional resilience.

[1:01:45]

Our brains and our whole bodies really are neuroplastic and are changeable. All of us, whoever we are, as we change, all of the relationships around us change. The beautiful endpoint of this conversation is so much change as possible. Even if you’re a parent with older children, as you begin to do differently, it has so much more of an impact than we realize.

Dr. Nicole LePera’s Links

Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-lepera-phd-454b558

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/?hl=en

Twitter: https://twitter.com/theholisticpsyc?lang=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/


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reactive parenting

Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, we have invited Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindfulness mama mentor. She coaches smart, accomplished, overstressed individuals on how to cultivate mindfulness in their daily lives.

Hunter has over 20 years of experience in yoga, mindfulness practices and a certified teacher of parent effectiveness training. She has taught mindfulness to thousands of parents worldwide. She is also an international speaker and an author as well.

Today, she talks with us about the meaning of being a mindful father and breaking the cycle of reactive parenting.

What You’ll Learn

Dads’ Achilles Heel

[1:31]

Patience is the Achilles heel for men. Most of us don’t realize that patience and mindfulness are skills and not something we’re supposed to feel. Our feelings will trick us where we think that we have to have the feeling of patience, but it’s actually a skill that we can strengthen.

 

Action Review

[4:24]

We are all human, and we are going to mess up eventually. It’s not always perfect. You’re not going to take the magic pill and suddenly have the patience of Yoda in every situation. You’re going to make mistakes from time to time. But you can identify exactly where the mess was and how to avoid it in the future. It takes practice and trusting the process.

 

An Intense Father

[7:45]

Hunter was a highly-sensitive kid. Growing up, she had a lot of freedom and independence, but her father had a bad temper, which was intense. That is the last thing that Hunter wants to give to her children. In her childhood, her father wasn’t taught the parenting skills, and Hunter would cower behind her bedroom door, scared.

[8:44]

Hunter and her father now have a great relationship. Her father is very encouraging and loving in a lot of ways. Still, there was his temper side, which damaged their relationship for a long time. They were able to heal their relationship in Hunter’s late 20s. But the style of discipline that her father used was really damaging to their relationship

[10:01]

Hunter’s father is a challenging man. He suffered enormously, which is connected to the patterns that go back generations. He was an artistic kid and had dyslexia. Her grandfather would beat him with a belt because he couldn’t do well in his math problems, so he had a lot of suffering that he passed on to Hunter.

[11:17]

For Hunter, his father did the best with what he had in raising her. She sees that patterns from generations come through, and she doesn’t want to hit her children. She wants to have a great relationship with them, which is the driver of her work.

 

The Wounded Healer

[13:40]

Hunter’s experiences motivated her to step into something that she wanted to create that would be a better experience for her daughters and herself as a parent and her journey of satisfaction with parenting them.

 

Embedded in our DNA

[14:21]

We have this great belief in our decision-making abilities. There are habits, patterns, causes, and conditions for the different life habits beyond our control. The most evolved part of our system when we’re born is that we can detect a threat. That system is one of the only parts that are completely fully developed at birth. We’re born with these causes and conditions that have little to do with what we decide. We can shift and change those patterns, which are already in us. We do this thing because we think that it’s all something that we decide, and we start to blame and shame ourselves for all of these things

[16:20]

No one decides to be impatient and to lose their temper. It’s is part of the legacy that we are given. This is part of the nervous system that we have. It’s our biology to have a threat response. To blame ourselves isn’t helpful. It doesn’t help us grow and change and do better. But it’s also not true because it’s not a choice that you made.

 

The Ability to Learn

[18:40]

Anyone can learn new skills, new tactics, new techniques, and new things to improve their reactivity and response. We can respond in a moment versus react. It’s the story that we actually tell ourselves that even keeps us from even being open to the fact that we can learn something new.

[19:49]

It’s important to accept the full range of our emotional experiences. We all have the seeds of anger within us. We may have even seeds of more anger and aggression because we have more angry and aggressive ancestors. But we have neuroplasticity where our brains are constantly growing and learning and changing in response to whatever we’re practicing, and what you’re practicing grows stronger.

[21:36]

With time and practice, we grow deeper grooves in the brain, and we can literally change the brain. We’re always growing and learning and changing. Don’t tell yourself that you are this way because what you practice grows stronger, and you can start to shift and change those patterns.

 

 

The Judgemental Culture

[24:52]

We live in a very judgmental culture. The whole story of original badness versus original goodness is not a helpful story. We have this idea that being harsh and mean and judgy to ourselves is helpful. But it actually makes you less likely to grow and change.

 

Self-Compassion

[25:50]

Self-compassionate people are actually much better at building habits and making changes. You’re human, and you’re going to make mistakes. Inevitably, we’re all going to make mistakes. If we answer ourselves with a harsh and damning voice internally, we won’t reach out, make mistakes again, and try new things again. If you give yourself that soft landing and give yourself some kindness when you make a mistake, it makes sense that you’re able to step outside your comfort zone again because you’re inevitably going to make more mistakes as you grow and learn.

 

Going through the Emotions

[28:42]

When you’re supercharged and in a really difficult place where you’re sad, upset, angry, or disappointed in yourself, Hunter teaches how to walk through feeling those feelings.

[29:17]

At that moment, you need to soothe yourself. Go for a walk, listen to music, or just do some stuff to take you away a little bit until you’re ready and calmed down enough to face something.

 

Practicing the Muscles

[31:34]

Those difficult moments with our kids are equivalent to the big game. We wouldn’t put our kids in the Little League World Series without having them go to some practices, learn the skills, and get that muscle memory of practicing that skill. We don’t have the muscles that we don’t practice. We can’t expect ourselves to go into a situation and be calm and nonreactive if we haven’t practiced.

[32:28]

Johns Hopkins had 47 different studies, a meta-study of studies that show that mindfulness meditation lowers anxiety, lowers depression, helps us sleep better, has better health outcomes, and, more importantly, for parents, really increases our impulse control.

[34:19]

We want to understand that our nervous system is perceiving our child as a threat. Our nervous system is preparing us for action. The body’s leading, and we got the whole mind and the body there together. We can do a couple things at that moment, using the mind and using the body to calm our stress response.

 

Releasing the Energy

[37:11]

That threat response is building up energy in your body. There’s blood flowing to your muscles, they’re getting tense and getting tighter, so there’s an energy in your body, and you have to release that energy so you can literally shake it out.

[47:47]

Identifying the emotion and saying it out loud and not putting the blame on kids or your spouse takes the power of the emotion away. It’s a way of taking responsibility because your kid or spouse didn’t make you feel that way. Our emotions arise through many causes and conditions, and some have to do with ourselves.

[42:39]

Your emotions have a lot of different causes and conditions. It’s just about owning them. When we say them out loud, we make ourselves more aware of what’s going on with us. It’s like this beautiful thing because it’s also modeling emotional intelligence. When we say those things out loud, our kids learn how to take care of their feelings because they’re just learning from us

[43:51]

It’s no true that there is something wrong with having these feelings and that shameful to have. We need to just own it, and then we can come back to a more peaceful state more easily.

 

Accepting our Feelings

[46:17]

When we ignore our feelings and try to push them away, it just gets worse. When we walk with our shadow behind us, with the difficult things that we don’t want to look at behind us, that shadow becomes big and scary. But when we walk with our shadow in front of us, we can see and deal with it. It’s just our shadow. It’s part of our existence, and we have unpleasant feelings. It’s part of life. When we can acknowledge them, it can flow on by a little bit more easily instead of getting bottled up.

Hunter Clarke-Fields’ Links

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/huntercyoga/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmamamentor/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/huntercyoga

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hunter-clarke-fields-7b336b91

Mindful Mama Podcast: https://www.mindfulmamamentor.com/blog/Resources/podcast/

 


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michael jr.

Funny How Life Works with Michael Jr.

In this episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, we welcome the iconic comedian and author, Michael Jr. to the show. Spreading laughter and positivity to stages like Jimmy Kimmel Live and Comedy Central, Michael now is on a mission to take it to the next level through his anticipated book Funny How Life Works.

Today, Michael shares with us how he struggled his way to success, the impact of stories to people’s lives, and how to be the most understanding, inspiring, and iconic father you can ever be.

Live life with a punchline in mind.

Michael Jr.

Known as one of today’s most gifted comedians, Michael Jr. brings laughter and understanding to audiences all over the world. Michael got his start performing at the legendary Comedy & Magic Club in Hermosa Beach: home of Jay Leno and “The Tonight Show.” This outstanding performance led to Michael Jr. performing at the “Just for Laughs” comedy festival in Montreal where he became the first comedian to ever appear live via satellite on “The Tonight Show” which catapulted Michael’s career.

Now, Michael Jr. tours the country using comedy to inspire audiences to activate their purpose and live a life fulfilled. His impactful delivery and versatility has landed him on The Tonight Show, The Late, Late Show, Oprah, Jimmy Kimmel Live, Comedy Central, TedX Talks and a keynote for Fortune 500 companies.

Michael has spent a significant portion of his career making laughter commonplace in uncommon places such as homeless shelters and prisons, in addition to empowering his audiences with an appearance in Sony Pictures’ feature film War Room as well as a starring roles in Selfie Dad, and MORE THAN FUNNY.

On the home front, Michael is happily married. He and his wife are the proud parents of five beautiful children.

Funny How Life Works

“Michael’s stories, accumulated throughout his own unusual journey, reveal important truths you and I can absorb and apply to make our lives better, and to improve the lives of everyone around us. And of course, you’ll find yourself laughing out loud as you read.” –John Maxwell

Funny How Life Works is a behind-the-scenes look at the life and career of comedian Michael Jr. Infused with the same laugh-out-loud humor and practical wisdom that define his stand-up acts, Michael shares a collection of stories meant to inspire readers to embrace their purpose–their “punchline.”

Michael Jr. proposes that life is more similar to comedy than we know. Rather than assuming that our days are random and obstacles are unfortunate, Michael Jr. encourages readers to strategically embrace each life event as part of a setup, leading to their punchline.

This unique look at life is demonstrated by stories from Michael’s own personal and professional life. From unruly hecklers to an unexpected Tonight Show audition, Funny How Life Works is filled with humor and seasoned with wisdom. It is more than a memoir–it’s a source of inspiration.

What You’ll Learn

Michael’s Upbringing

[12:42]

In high school, Michael woke up early in the morning and walked for an hour to go to school every day. He noticed how his dad talked seldomly.

[13:52]

When Michael started making money, his dad would ask him to pay $250 a month for rent. Michael couldn’t use his money for the things he wanted to buy. At 17, he approached his father that he had enough. His dad laughed at him. He realized that his father did it to set him up to independence.

[14:52]

Michael understood that nothing will be handed to you when you grow up. It’s not about how you earn the money but how you use it. How you use it reflects your character as a person.

Conversation as a Father

[16:61]

Having conversation about sex or anything, Michael’s dad would never approach him explicitly and seriously. Michael recommends to bring up the topic you wanted to talk about while doing other things—segue.

[18:20]

He believes that kids live for our father’s approval but as adults, we live from our father’s approval.

[18:57]

It becomes powerful when you talk to your children thinking they were not listening. If you want to introduce them to someone, during an event or at any point in time, brag what your kids can do. When will you get another opportunity to brag about them? That time will be the time.

Process of Moving On

[21:04]

Michael’s sister died due to carbon monoxide poisoning. She ran away from home with a friend and they went to a house and made a fire without any caution.

[23:00]

Don’t overprocess things that happened to you. Avoid getting to a point where it chains you up to the past. Don’t live from the negativity that happened. Make that event push you to become a stronger person and build resilience.

Dealing with the Pandemic

[29:52]

Michael does stand up comedy and keynote speaking at corporations. He does not want it to be a financial driver, but only makes an appearance when he wants to. He created a course along with his book to use comedy as an avenue to spread the meaning of life.

[31:05]

He learned that laughter is an emotional response, and by attaching learning to it, the information lingers.

Awe-Inspiring Father

[39:04]

Whoever and whenever your dad is, Michael affirms he did the best job he could do. Even if you have not met him thinking he does not care about you, you never know the story behind—his struggles and pain watching you from afar.

The Re-Blame Game

[43:50]

Play a game called The Re-Blame Game. Instead of blaming your father for the negative things they have done, blame the positive. Michael blamed his dad for loving children even if they were not his own. It is something that Michael learned from him.

Marriage Lessons

[52:11]

Michael learned not to expect something in return. You make your other-half happy, not because you expect something. It’s not a debt-debtor relationship. Fill it with joy and fun. If there is an argument, settle it immediately.

[54:08]

When you commit yourself to it and the next time it happens again, you will deal with it instantaneously. Work on it and make that sacrifice.

Michael Jr.’s Links

Website: https://michaeljr.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/michaeljrcomedy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaeljrcomedy/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/THEMICHAELJRSHOW

Do you want to support him? Be a Patreon!: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljr

Order Michael’s book “FUNNY HOW LIFE WORKS” on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3pNsddm

 


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75 hard transformation

A Dad’s 75 Hard Transformation Story

In today’s episode of The Dad Edge, we interview Justin Holland, popularly known as Juice, who completed the 75 Hard challenge with us in The Dad Edge Alliance.

Juice started 75 Hard on November 1st with a starting weight of 344 pounds. He chose November specifically because it’s the toughest time to begin a challenge like this. It’s the holiday season, and Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year were all standing in the way of his success.

Juice thought if he could go through this, he could go through anything. He has now dropped down to 290 pounds!

What You’ll Learn

Juice’s story

Juice is a father to two girls and a boy. He’s a special member of the mastermind because he keeps all the other dads motivated by the progress pictures he posts every week.Even though it wasn’t a necessity to make those pictures public, Juice wanted to make himself more accountable and motivate others to push themselves further.What he learned from the challenge:

  • Drinking a gallon of water every day will reduce your hunger. Sometimes you’re hungry because you’re dehydrated.
  • Eating healthy becomes a lifestyle after you complete the challenge. You’re not forced to do it anymore.
  • You get immense mental clarity and toughness from 75 Hard. The physical transformation is just a bonus.
  • You become much more patient and emotionally resilient.

Talking about patience

Juice talked about an incident where he was disappointed his daughter about something. But rather than blaming or punishing her, he and his wife Jill talked the situation out with her. This helped them build a better relationship and everyone walked away from the conversation happy and satisfied.

Juice’s plans for the future

Juice plans to take a break and start with the next phase of 75 Hard in mid-Feb. The reason he decided to take a break is that he wants to test the skills he has learned in the real world and come back stronger.

 


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How to Access Your Power, Confidence, and Clarity with Shana James

Many of us are frustrated with our relationships. We’re settling for mediocre marriages that we don’t know how to revive. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Our relationships are not the problem. The problem is that we lack the skills to make them into what they could be. Today you will be empowered with those skills.

We are fired up to talk to Shana James. She is a coach, TEDx speaker, author, and the host of the Man Alive podcast. She is here to help us understand what women love most about their men. She is going to teach us how to ask for what we need and what we desire without fear. She also shows us how to access our power, confidence, and clarity so that we can live truly extraordinary lives.

Shana James

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers, and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle the spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She’s been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in her clients’ professions and love lives. Then she creates a clear and unique path for them to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, she cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses, and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, her range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

What You’ll Learn

About Shana

[11:14] Shana had a hard time connecting during the pandemic. One thing that brings Shana joy is nature, getting out, and hiking.

[12:30] Shana tries not to take life too seriously as a parent.

 

Things she finds attractive about a man

[13:43] Shana finds it attractive when a man expresses a range of strength, and at the same time, expresses emotions of sadness and fear. She also feels attracted to honesty and communication, and a man with a vision and purpose.

 

Vulnerability among men

[19:34] What surprises Shana is men’s vulnerability towards how they feel. A lot of men don’t have an opportunity to share without fear. This shows up through frustration.

[23:33] It is not just about physicality, it is even harder for men to say that they need love.

 

The biggest problem of a relationship

[25:54] Shana said that one of the biggest pain points of a relationship is communication and be willing to take the risk of having a difficult conversation. What happens outside of the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom.

 

Problems and factors that affect sex

[28:46] Women often fall out of the mood when they have on their minds. Sometimes we need to put ourselves in our wife’s shoes in order for us to realize what is affecting their reactions to us asking for physical attention.

 

Difference between Masculine and Feminine Energy

[32:20] Men often slow down if their wife is a stronger woman, but for men, getting things done gives us a more empowered feeling.

 

Listening to your partner

[37:52] Listening to your partner is important. You need to understand how they feel and what they have to say in order for you to understand where they are coming from. This connection will help loosen each other up and lead to understanding.

[40:52] Context of the conversation is important as well. You need to make your partner feel that you will listen to understand, and you need to tell them where your mind is. This will remove her fears and anxiety.

[43:34] On the opposite side of every complaint is a desire. Women tend to have the stereotype to nag. Instead of letting it go, seek to understand why something is wrong.

 

Knowing you can explore more in your relationship

[45:12] You don’t need to know what you are supposed to do. You can explore together. Stay humble and curious.

 

Men Asking for What They Need

[46:34] Men often do not want to feel inferior, so they resist asking for what they need.

[52:41] Rejection does not feel good, especially when you feel that it’s personal.

 

Receiving and accepting your partner’s feedback

[56:37] You need to take in what is happening with your partner, not just in an intellectual way, but in physical and emotional way.

Shana James’s Links

ShanaJamesCoaching.com

Facebook

Man Alive Podcast

TEDx Talk


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