dads to read to their kids

Finally, a Book Especially for Dads to Read to Their Kids

In this episode, I talk about how my son inspired me to write a a book especially for dads to read to their kids.

As men and dads, most of us are task-oriented and find it hard to put our emotions into words. We feel odd communicating and we don’t know if it will resonate with our kids. Many of us work and are gone for the majority of the day. How do we let our kids know how we feel about them and how we are there for them no matter what? Books are a great way to start the conversation, but the majority of books out there are from a mom’s perspective. That is why I wrote Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You.

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

Available on Amazon in Kindle and Paperback

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You illustrates a father’s love for his kids. There are so many books on the market that illustrates the relationships between moms and kids, but very few for dads. Being a dad is one of the toughest yet rewarding jobs in the world. Most of our kids don’t clearly understand how much we love them, how much we think about them when we are not around, and how important they are to us. This book is a short, funny, and powerful read for both dads and kids.

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

 


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Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

Getting Real About Insomnia, Depression, and Anxiety

What happens when we go through something so difficult that it rocks the very core of who we are? Today I have a real, raw discussion with Josiah Novak from True Transformation about my battle with insomnia, depression, and anxiety.

Regular listeners know that I just recovered from a 33-day bout of debilitating insomnia. It was the most insane thing I ever went through. It tested me mentally, emotionally, physically and I felt that I might lose everything that was important to me. For the first time in my life, I understood how awful depression and anxiety could be.

During this episode, I go through the story from beginning to end. Here are a few takeaway lessons from my experience.

Listen to your body

My insomnia began after vigorous training for SEALFIT 20X. After breaking my personal records, I didn’t feel right. Instead of listening to my body, I kept pushing myself and the adrenaline and cortisol from the intense workouts wouldn’t let my body calm down. I put myself through an unnecessary domino effect of absolute hell.

Ask for help right away

I couldn’t sleep for more than 90 minutes to 3 hours a night. I thought it would pass and go away on its own. It didn’t.

I couldn’t think right. I began to have panic attacks. If I had gotten help in the beginning, it may not had gotten to that point.

Don’t give up

My wife became a single mother during this time. I had gotten so depressed I didn’t know what to do with myself. There was tension in our relationship and I felt that if I couldn’t function, provide, or please her, what good was I as a man? At one point I thought I wouldn’t be able to hang on much longer. But eventually I broke the cycle. As desperate as I felt, there was an end to the nightmare.

The doctor isn’t always right

I tried all kinds of sleeping pills and psychiatric meds. I even swigged shots of Benadryl. One doctor told me that if my prescription didn’t work for me, there was no hope. Another doctor prescribed me four different powerful drugs to take everyday. They had awful side-effects. Against doctor’s orders, I tapered myself off and now use natural techniques to make sure I fall asleep.

Set boundaries

You can’t ‘yes’ to everything. In the end you spread yourself too thin and can’t give your attention to those who need it most, like your kids. Think about what’s important in your life and save your energy for your priorities.

Depression and Anxiety can happen to anybody

I now have tremendous compassion for people who have depression and anxiety. It’s not something anyone wants to have. It’s not something anyone can control. It represents emotional struggle, a cycle that no one knows how to deal with. It can seem like digging an endless hole. If you’ve never experienced it, you don’t know. Men do suffer depression and anxiety, and we should be talking about it.

 

Referenced Episode : How to Get Rid of the Dad Bod in 2017 with Josiah Novak

 


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4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

On today’s Thursday Throwdown, I recap the 4 pillars of effective leadership that we discussed in the Dad Edge Alliance membership community call last week.

Good leadership skills are not only essential in work and business, but also in our roles as fathers and husbands.

4 Pillars of Effective Leadership

1. Honesty

Honesty earns respect and trust. Be direct and straightforward, but in a tactful way.

2. Delegation

A true leader will step in and take ownership when things go bad, and he will push people into the spotlight when things go well.

3. Adapting to Change

Standing still means falling behind. If we’re not challenging ourselves, we’re standing still and the world will pass us by.

4. Strategic Thinking

A leader must always think about what’s going to happen next. Be proactive instead of reactive.

 

Did you catch our previous episode? How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

 

Daddy Will Always Love and Protect You

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Breaking the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset with Larry Yatch

Today’s guest needs no introduction. Larry Yatch from the SEALed Mindset is back on the Good Dad Project podcast to answer a few questions from our Dad Edge community about how to break the cycle of the fixed mindset in our kids and in ourselves.

Larry Yatch and the SEALed Mindset

For those of you who haven’t listened to Larry Yatch’s episodes, he is a former Navy SEAL who has used his elite training and past experiences to formulate a system to teach the fundamentals of leadership, teamwork, courage, and the growth mindset to school kids, civilians (like the SEALed Mindset GDP Special Membership), all the way up to executives and corporations.

How to Break the Cycle of the Fixed Mindset

The fixed mindset is the belief that intelligence, skill, and talent is given to us as traits, like the color of our eyes. We believe either we are good at something or we are not, which leads to a tendency to avoid trying difficult things. Many of us are stuck in the cycle of the fixed mindset and are unwittingly instilling it in our kids by praising them the wrong way.

Johnny’s really good at baseball.

The growth mindset is the belief that skills are developed and that the more work we put in, the better we will become at something. In the growth mindset, challenges are welcome. We embrace difficulty knowing that each experience forces us to get better. We instill this mindset by praising effort.

Johnny works really hard at baseball.

What to expect from adopting the growth mindset

“I love the concept of growth mindset, and both my wife and I are working hard to instill this in our parenting. A challenge that I face is being realistic with my own expectations. How can I invite and live a life with a growth mindset and positive attitude without immersing myself to the point where it has a negative effect?” – Jeff

If we see a negative effect and feel defeated, that means we’re still operating in the fixed mindset. Simply put, even when we’re trying to implement a growth mindset, most of us don’t know that we’re still reinforcing the fixed mindset. In the growth mindset, defeat and difficulty are positive things. There can not be a negative effect.

How do we know when we’re pushing to far?

I have a question about pushing my kids to face their fears and overcome obstacles. When do you ignore their cries and push them ahead, and what is too far?” – Andy

The problem we have with instilling the growth mindset at an early age is that we understand it at an adult level and try to implement it in a logical way. But, as all dads know, logic and reasoning don’t work with three-year-olds. These processes have to do with self-regulation, and this part of a child’s brain doesn’t exists yet. It’s our job as parents to be this part of the brain for them.

In the meantime, we can use operant conditioning to modify behaviors. This means offering positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement for particular behaviors. We have to be careful though. Our children can use the same techniques to get what they want and may actually be conditioning us.

What can we men do when faced with something beyond our control?

I took this opportunity to ask Larry Yatch my own question. Regular listeners know that I went through a debilitating 33 days of insomnia. I was at a point in my life where my business, mastermind group, and podcast were never better. I was in the best physical shape of my life and my family was thriving. Then it all was in danger of collapsing when I couldn’t sleep. I asked Larry what could I have done differently.

Larry Yatch first told me I should’ve asked for help earlier. We men tend to try to handle things ourselves. We’re supposed to have all the answers, but we don’t. This is when we need to ask others for their help an advice. Asking for help does show weakness. It is empowering, and the person whom you allow to help you will feel better about themselves. Asking someone to help you is a gift.

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DAD EDGE ALLIANCE - Unlock the Secrets to Living an Epic Life

The Dad Edge Alliance – Unlock the Secrets to Living an Epic Life

In the last episode of GDP, we had ultra-successful businessman and life coach Aaron Walker. He explained that he owed 100% of his success to his tribe and the people he surrounded himself with. In this week’s Thursday Throwdown, I will tell you how you can make sure you surround yourself with the right people to become the best husband, father, and man you can be.

It’s seems the older we get, the more closed off we become. Why is that?

I posted this question on the Dad Edge private Facebook group and got tons of answers. It’s harder to make new friends as an adult. Priorities change when we have families, and we feel guilty for taking time away from our spouse and kids to spend time with friends and mentors. We might not want to make ourselves seem vulnerable by asking for advice or help. Even when we become successful, we might feel we can’t relate to anyone anymore. Some of us experience such great failures, we’re embarrassed to talk about them.

Even the guys who are involved with sports and church activities still feel like something is missing.

That is why we have built this tribe where we can talk about anything in an ego-free, judgement-free, arrogance-free environment. This is an brotherhood of likeminded men––those who want to teach and those who want to learn; those who want to inspire and those who want to be inspired. We discuss real things that will make us better, more powerful, and more efficient men so that we can live our lives at full throttle. We can live life together and on purpose.

Welcome to the Dad Edge Alliance, where the elite and the hungry want to interact.

As a Member of the Dad Edge Alliance you will have exclusive access to:

1. Weekly live video community talks on Zoom.

2. Monthly elite guest speakers like:

  • Nell Gibbon Daly – sex, intimacy, communication
  • Todd Stottlemyre, MLB starting pitcher – relentless success
  • Jeff Bouwman – debt elimination and financial planning
  • Navy SEALs – elite mindset training
  • former Pro-football players, fitness coaches, life coaches and more!

3. A library of recorded video conferences.

4. Access to the Dad’s Edge Alliance private Facebook community, free books, and other resources.

 

If you’re hungry to live life differently, this is the place to be.

 

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Referenced episodeWorking to Live, Not Living to Work with Aaron Walker

Heads up on Monday’s upcoming show – Don’t miss Brett McKay, creator of The Art of Manliness blog.


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