Dad Edge Mailbox January 2021

The Dad Edge Mailbox January 2021

Today we check The Dad Edge Mailbox and answer some questions like:

Is it possible to have a fulfilling and passionate marriage after the kids?

How do we keep things fresh and exciting over the years and even decades?

In this world of busyness, how can we accomplish everything we want to do?

What are the skills we need to learn to become the parents our kids can always rely on?

Learn these secrets and more in this quick episode!

What You’ll Learn

  • It’s not our fault if we have a mediocre marriage, but it is our fault if we don’t do anything about it.
  • Marriage and parenting skills can and must be learned.
  • Self-care gives us the grounding and inner-reflection we need to be good husbands.
  • How to make date nights more than just a dinner out
  • What respect really looks like in a marriage
  • Drilling down your schedule to 3 daily priorities
  • Time-blocking strategy for productivity
  • Tracking the time you spend on social media
  • Planning your fitness first thing in the morning sets you up for success.
  • Using tactical empathy with your family
  • Creating an environment of psychological safety for your kids

RELATED EPISODES:

The Art of Negotiating with Your Kids with Chris Voss

Communication Mastery for Fathers with Chris Voss

The Dad Edge Mailbox for August 2019

 


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Stop Being the “Nice Guy” with Dr. Robert Glover

Many of us take pride in being the “nice guy.” But could being the nice guy be ruining our lives?

We are all probably guilty of Nice Guy Syndrome on some level. We sometimes give only to receive in a passive attempt to get what we want without directly asking for it. We avoid conflict to get the acceptance, validation, approval, and even the sex that we need. Some of us might not even realize we suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome and wonder why we are anxious and unhappy.

Dr. Robert Glover is back on The Dad Edge for a discussion we all need to hear. He talks about how to stop being dependent on external things for our happiness. He shows us how to reclaim our identities after losing ourselves in relationships. He also explains why we need to get comfortable with our existential fears to become empowered men.

Stop being a nice guy and start living true to yourself!

If you have to give up anything that’s important to you to be in a relationship, it’s going to create a toxic environment.

Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men’s professional careers and intimate relationships. Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men, the director of TPI University, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Washington. Dr. Glover divides his year between Bellevue, WA and Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

What You’ll Learn

  • Nice Guy Syndrome, at its core, is codependency.
  • Borrowed functioning means your wellbeing depends on the happiness of those around you.
  • It’s an anxiety and shame-based disorder. You manage people and situations to avoid anxiety or feelings of worthlessness.
  • Losing ourselves in relationships is not healthy, even though we’ve been taught that it’s noble to throw ourselves on the sword for our wives and kids.
  • The difference between fusion and differentiation
  • What most of us call “intimacy” is losing ourselves in another person so much that there is no distinct otherness anymore.
  • Fusion kills sexual passion.
  • The “Alpha Male” in human society who takes all is a myth. Things (including women) were shared.
  • Marriage emerged much more recently with the patriarchy.
  • Up until 100 years ago, marriage was an economical arrangement. Romantic love is a new idea.
  • Pair bonding in modern times doesn’t work well for happiness.
  • What you can count on in a relationship is that your childhood baggage is going to reveal itself.
  • Tension is healthy. Anytime there is tension, there is growth.
  • It used to take a whole tribe to meet our needs. Expecting one person to fulfill all our needs is impossible and unfair.
  • Differentiation is two complete adults who choose to be together.
  • If we are acting as an independent person, we are more attractive to the opposite sex.
  • Almost no one is sexually monogamous, even if they aren’t physically cheating on their spouse.
  • Men give up control in their marriage and then get resentful. Then we sneak around to get our needs met.
  • Friends are often the first thing men sacrifice.
  • Angst from being disconnection from our tribe
  • It’s human nature to try to find connection because we’re afraid of disappearing into nothingness. Practice getting comfortable with existential fears to be more self-reliant.
  • Men load up their to-do lists, don’t get everything done, go to bed stressed, and wake up the next day with even more to do. If we stay busy, we don’t have to feel anything.
  • Learn to be with stillness.
  • Schedule unscheduled time. Build chunks of time into your day for unscheduled things and things that matter.
  • Appreciate life right now. Today is the best day of your life.

 

RELATED EPISODES:

Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

 


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The Benefits of a Plant-Based Diet for Men with Fraser Bayley

The plant-based lifestyle seems to be everywhere lately, but is it really possible to maintain our bodies without animal protein? Won’t we feel tired and hungry all the time? What about our libido and testosterone levels?

Today’s discussion will reveal the surprising benefits of a plant-based lifestyle for men. Our guest is Fraser Bayley. He has founded Veg Up with his wife, Lauren, and together they help people cut through the confusion to achieve peak performance, an amazing body, and insane mental clarity on a plant-based diet.

You will hear how a plant-based diet can radically change your bloodwork, your energy levels, and your psychological wellbeing. You will also learn how being the healthiest dad you can be will make you more available for your kids while setting an example that will prime them for a healthy adult life.

Fraser Bayley

Fraser was a former butcher back in Auckland, New Zealand before he left the industry to study Nutrition, Human Structure & Function and Personal Training at the University of Auckland and Auckland University of Technology.

Coming from a former life of severe mental health issues, Fraser has spent the past 15 years deeply immersed in psychology & the human mind. Being an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test, he seeks to understand the human mind as much as possible! These concepts are heavily woven into how he teaches their students all around the world.

He enjoys nomadic living & travel in their RV, hiking & outdoors, reading & learning from people from all walks of life.

What You’ll Learn

  • Where do men get protein on a plant-based diet?
  • It’s not what you consume, but what you absorb. Are you absorbing all the protein and nutrients in your current diet?
  • We’re meant to believe we need more protein that we really do.
  • You can play with your macro-nutrients if you get the same number of calories per day.
  • How to bridge your way through the transition to a plant-based diet
  • What vegging up does for libido and sexual performance
  • Hormone profiles and cholesterol levels before and after 90-days on a plant-based diet
  • Plant-based diet can help you train harder.
  • Micronutrient density drives energy levels and recovery.
  • Each person is different with the plant-based foods that work well for them.
  • Being in shape doesn’t mean anything if you don’t have quality of life.
  •  Before
    • Always tired
    • Moods all over the place
    • Anxiety
    • Needed a lot of caffeine
    • Acne
    • Visually in shape, but do not feel good
  •  After
    • Increased Energy
    • Mental clarityhttps://www.veguplife.com/
    • Blood glucose control
    • Emotional regulation
    • Less stress
    • Clear skin
  • How to begin becoming more plant-based? Start adding instead of eliminating.
    • Add more green vegetables
    • Try more plant proteins and find out what you like
    • Include more colors. Colors are micronutrients. Think of the rainbow.
    • Eat living foods (sprouts)
    • Add fermented foods (sauerkraut)

RELATED EPISODES:

Healthy Habits for Marriage, Fatherhood, and Fitness

Fit 2 Fat 2 Fit and Back Again with Drew Manning

Real AF Self-Discipline with Andy Frisella


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Our biggest regrets in life happen
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How to Build a Ridiculously Fulfilling Marriage with Nate Bagley


Marriages have taken a beating during the pandemic. We are under a constant generalized stress that keeps our nerves on edge and lowers our emotional capacity. But we can use this time to build a ridiculously fulfilling marriage, and our guest today teaches us how.

Nate Bagley is a marriage researcher, educator, husband, and a new dad. He is the founder of the Growth Marriage Community and podcast and his mission is to rid the world of mediocre love.

Nate has an incredible story. Before he got married, he quit his job and toured the country to gather information that 99% of us do not get. What do madly in love couples do that everyone else is missing out on?

Let’s find out!

 

What You’ll Learn

  • Nate sold everything he had, rose 30K on Kickstarter, and went cross-country to interview 100 couples.
  • Your marriage is the sum of all the couples you’re surrounded with.
  • Just because people are married doesn’t mean they have a good marriage.
  • Most fulfilled couples don’t pursue happiness. The goal is not to be happy. Pursue growth and happiness will be the result.
  • You cannot depend on your partner to validate your existence.
  • Going through struggles together increases joy and connection.
  • It’s your job to make you happy, not your partner’s.
  • Our body chemicals trick us into expecting happiness from our partner because that’s what we experience when we first fall in love.
  • We go from yearning to earning affection.
  • There are different stages of love that we must accept.
  • The idea that couples are supposed to become one is mistaken. That is codependency or enmeshment.
  • You are two separate individuals with different desires who support each other.
  • How to tell if you are integrated with your partner in an unhealthy way
  • The paradox of marriage—you have to meet opposing needs at the same time.
  • Sometimes you need swing from closeness to independence, or from novelty to predictability, and back again.
  • If you’re not having great sex, your marriage is probably not great.
  • There is an emotional and spiritual aspect of sex beyond physical satisfaction.
  • When marriage becomes like work, it’s important to make sex a priority.
  • Find a balance between safety and pleasure in the bedroom.
  • Most people have stale sex lives because it consists of whatever they’re comfortable with without rocking the boat.
  • Sex becomes a routine that feels boring because it feels safe. Expand your comfort zone to improve your sex life.
  • Manage your anxiety. Self-soothe. Learn to recognize what is legitimate fear. Then you can tolerate uncomfortable conversations and be curious instead of anxious about new experiences in the bedroom.
  • Part of having a great sex life is to handle rejection with grace.

RELATED EPISODES:

Secrets to an Awesome Marriage with Dr. Kim Kimberling

How to Fix Your Unhappy Marriage with Seth and Melanie Studley

Love Languages and Other Marriage Tips for the Pandemic with Gary Chapman

 


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AWESOME marriage

Secrets to an Awesome Marriage with Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage is one of the most challenging and important relationships in our lives, yet most of us come into it completely unprepared. So many men struggle to connect with their wives. Maybe we’re giving it all we have, and it seems like nothing works. We might wonder if it was ever meant to be, and we must decide whether we should divorce or settle for a lifelong roommate.

We want neither.

We want an awesome marriage.

Today we have Dr. Kim Kimberling on the show to reveal the secrets to an awesome marriage. He is going to teach us to empower ourselves with simple tools that we can use everyday to build trust, communication, and sexual intimacy.

A strong marriage is the best gift we can give our kids.

It’s time to build an awesome marriage you believe in.

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Dr. Kim has been a professional counselor for over thirty years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. He also holds Masters Degrees in Christian Ministry and Theological Studies, and a Bachelors of Business Administration. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage reaches thousands of people each month with God’s plan for marriage and relationships.

Dr. Kim has been married to his lovely wife Nancy for over 40 years. Together they have two adult married children and five awesome grandchildren.

7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage: Strengthen Your Most Intimate Relationship

All of us want an enduring marriage, a beautiful marriage we can believe in. That kind of marriage happens through intimacy. Intimacy requires hard work and a guide. Dr. Kim Kimberling is that guide and this book and its tools will show you how communication and intimacy in marriage can be yours.

Kimberling offers insights like connecting every day in spite of what’s in the way, learning how to fight in the right ways, stopping the insanity of doing the same thing over and over even when it isn’t working, and finding that the best sex ever is well within the context of Christian marriages.

Once these 7 secrets are a part of your marriage, you can stand together and fight anything that would ever try to tear your marriage apart.

Whether you have just celebrated your first anniversary or your fiftieth, 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage by Dr. Kim Kimberling is for you.  If you have a good marriage, this book can help you have a great marriage.  If you are struggling, Kim Kimberling will help you turn the corner and make your marriage into what you want it to be.

What You’ll Learn

  • The best gift for kids is a strong marriage
  • Your kids need to see you dating
  • You can’t put your marriage on hiatus
  • We’re all vulnerable to affairs if we leave our marriage unattended
  • We work very hard to put the ring on the girl’s finger, but then we slack off.
  • We have to keep pursuing our wives.
  • Your wife wants to have a relational conversation with you. Communicate 30 minutes a day.
  • Be a good listener. Focus and respond and engage.
  • You have to know your spouse. What makes her feel loved and care for?
  • She must know that you are there for her today, tomorrow, and always.
  • Women must completely trust you to open up sexually
  • Affirm your spouse in public.
  • How to express your needs as a man without feeling shame, guilt, or needy
  • Do not minimize what is important to you.
  • Reinforce what you like from her.
  • Keep your expectations realistic.
  • Being a bad communicator is not in your DNA. You can learn how to communicate.
  • The simplest way to start communication is to ask basic questions. What’s the best thing that happened to you today? What’s the worst thing? How did you see God work in the world today?
  • It’s not her against you or vice versa. You’re a team.
  • Try this for 30 days and see what results you get.
  • How to evaluate if your marriage has improved?
  • Stay true to the values you share with your spouse.
  • Get an accountability partner to help you avoid temptation to pornography or other women.
  • Use this time of social distancing to grow your marriage instead of destroying it.

RELATED EPISODES:

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Ultimate Guide to Demystifying Women with Robert Kandell

Sexploration and Intimacy Tips for Married Men with Dr. Corey Allan



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