money personalities

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language with The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer


Money is the number one cause for friction between couples. Out of the 50% of marriages that end in divorce, 70% of them end because of financial issues. This is a staggering number, but money in marriage is not something we are taught to navigate, and we don’t know how to show our kids a good example either.

Today we have The Money Couple, Scott and Bethany Palmer on The Dad Edge. They are financial advisors who got tired of seeing their clients’ marriages destroyed because of money. Together they wrote The 5 Money Personalities and The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage.

Scott and Bethany reveal the 5 money personalities, the reasoning behind each one, and how we can learn to work with our spouse’s and our children’s money personalities. They also discuss how harmful it is to argue about money in front of the kids and how to use money language to actually bring your marriage and family closer than ever before.

(Look for the link at the end of the show notes to money personality assessments for you and your whole family.)

Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple

“Over two decades ago, our passion to save marriages was born. As Financial Advisors, for over 25 years,  helping couples, we discovered: money “issues” are not about dollars and cents. Couples struggle to communicate about and agree on money which creates tension, fights, and even divorce.

Couples struggles along with ours,  broke our hearts and propelled us into a decade of research and work with a Stanford scientist to develop The Money Personality Assessment. We now have the Assessments, tools and resources for couples to agree about money and experience a magnificent marriage.”

The 5 Money Personalities: Speaking the Same Love and Money Language

The hidden key to a healthy relationship is not just managing money but understanding how the other approaches money.

Every couple argues about money. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married for 40 years or dating for 4 months, money touches every decision you make as a couple―from the $5 cup of coffee to the $50,000 car. And when the two of you don’t see eye-to-eye on how much to spend or how much to save, that’s when arguments turn into ugly toxic fights that leave both persons feeling hurt and angry. It’s why money has become the #1 cause of divorce in the U.S. Obviously, something needs to change. The reason this crisis has not been addressed is because it has never been identified, defined, or given a name. Scott and Bethany Palmer, aka “The Money Couple,” have identified and defined this problem and offer concrete solutions to fix it.

Once you know your Money Personality, you can get to the root of money arguments and start really working together. You’ll discover what has an impact on your loved one’s money decisions, and you’ll learn how to talk about money in a way that’s actually fun! You’ll figure out how to put an end to money secrets and lies once and for all.

It’s not just about money management, and it’s definitely not just about overcoming debt. It is a whole new way of living that will change everything in your relationship. Tens of thousands have already been transformed. Are you ready?

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage

Raise your hand if your parents had “the talk” with you. No, not that talk. We mean the money talk.
Money affects you and your kids every day. Now there’s a way to talk about money in a way that actually brings your family closer.

With two kids of our own, we suspect our parenting goals are likely the same as yours—no spoiled brats, no crippling debt, and kids who know a dollar actually takes work. That’s why we wrote this book.

The 5 Money Conversations to Have with Your Kids at Every Age and Stage offers practical advice for dealing with three age groups (5–12, 13–17, and 18 and beyond). It is the parenting “how to” book you don’t want to live without.

  • Conquer the 5 toughest money conversations to have with your kids
  • Discover your kids’ Money Personalities by taking the age-based Money Personalities Assessment (access code included inside)
  • Learn their Money Languages so you can be heard

We give you relationship secrets, share our experiences, and make it fun. Whether your kids are 5 or 25, this book will change the course of your family forever!

What You’ll Learn

  • How huge arguments start from simple differences in how you spend money
  • How money personalities can come up in every conversation you have
  • Money arguments in front of the kids model a bad marriage to them.
  • We think that if we have the perfect cashflow, budget, and retirement, we’ll have a great marriage. This is not true.
  • Opposites attract and then attack.
  • There are no right or wrong money personalities, just different ones.
  • You have to understand which money personality you’re married to and accept that.
  • Why we’re not good at compromising when it comes to money
  • Why you should “never stop getting a PHD on your spouse”
  • How couples might have the same primary money personality, but different secondary money personalities that will cause conflict.
  • Exercises you can do to appease to your spouse’s money personality
  • Family money huddles to discuss E.N.D.s—Evaluation, Needs, Dreams.
  • Dreaming together is important for a couple.
  • What is financial infidelity and how it is damaging to marriages.
  • The importance of understanding a kid’s money personality
  • Teaching kids the financial and relational sides of money.
  • Encourage your kids to work from a young age to instill work ethic (and prevent them from living in your basement when they become adults).
  • You can’t just have one talk with your kids about money. You have to look for real-life opportunities to train them.

FREE MONEY PERSONALITY ASSESSMENT

KIDS MONEY ASSESSMENTS

RELATED EPISODES:

Optimizing Your Personal Relationship with Money — Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Grant Sabatier

How to Raise Money-Empowered Kids with John Lanza

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence


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financial independence

Reframing Your Life for Financial Independence with Brad Barrett


Do finances stress you out? You’re not alone. Most of us aren’t clear about what we have to do to achieve financial independence. The average 50-year-old has about 50K in savings. Most millennials are not saving at all. The majority of family households don’t even have a budget to know what they’re spending on.

Money problems wreak havoc on our physical and mental wellbeing as well as our relationships. The best time to take control and be intentional about financial independence is right now.

Financial legend, Brad Barrett, returns to The Dad Edge. He’s the cohost of the Choose FI Podcast, the co-author of Choose FI: Your Blueprint to Financial Independence, and cofounder of a financial independence movement that has spread worldwide.

Brad went from being a full-time CPA to retired and financially independent at the age of 35. Now he empowers others to design their paths to financial independence.

Today, Brad gives us simple, actionable steps you can take right now to cut expenses, save money, and build wealth without feeling deprived. He also talks about how to get your spouse in on the game to use your financial plan to bring you closer.

It’s not about what you’ll be giving up, it’s about making your life better. Don’t waste another day or another cent. It’s time to build a lifestyle according to what you value most.

Brad Barrett

Brad and his wife are both Virginia Certified Public Accountants (CPAs) and find themselves constantly looking for new strategies to make their lives less stressful and more financially secure.

Brad lives for finding smart and creative life hacks to make their lives easier and he looks forward to helping others do the same in in their lives on the path to financial independence.

Brad is passionate about everything from saving money, to living a more healthy lifestyle, to ‘boring’ things like tracking your finances and cutting down on your tax bill. But his favorite topic is leveraging credit card rewards to save more money, and take trips you never would have dreamed possible for pennies on the dollar.

What You’ll Learn

  • Living a life of intentionality with freedom as your goal
  • How to reframe and anchor to a 15-20 year working life instead of the traditional retirement age.
  • If you look at saving and budgeting as deprivation, you’re going to be bitterly unhappy.
  • Life is an experiment. Find out what makes you happy and what helps you interact best with your wife and kids.
  • How to figure out what you value.
  • Why you should never sacrifice date nights with your wife.
  • Cutting back in less important areas allows you to spend lavishly on the things you really value.
  • Cutting expenses on housing, food, and transportation
  • Brad’s $2 per person per meal family dinner plan.
  • Preparing food in advance to avoid scrambling for take-out or ready-to-eat food.
  • How intentionality and planning saves both money and time.
  • Having happy hour with your spouse at home to save the huge bar tab.
  • How FI can bring you closer together as a couple, turning life into a game you play together.
  • How to live the same middle-class life as everyone else without being chained to a job.
  • The FIRST STEP: Get an honest understanding of what’s going on in your finances.
  • Face your mistakes. Put your financial failures on paper without beating yourself up about it.
  • How the money story that comes from our childhoods affects us as adults
  • Think about what kind of security you need. Each person is different.
  • Sit with your spouse. Ask yourselves, what do you want your lives to look like, and is your current budget going to get you there?
  • Hiding or avoiding talking about your financial habits with your spouse is destructive. You don’t want to be enemies. You want to be teammates.
  • Make decisions and take action. It doesn’t help to learn of you don’t act on the information.
  • In the beginning, the easiest way to begin to save money is decide what to cut, like subscriptions you don’t really use.
  • Bolder steps you can take like moving to a less expensive city or selling your car.
  • Reframe your budget mindset as a path to a better life.
  • Think about how you can earn more—start a side hustle, ask for a raise at your current job, or add to your education and skills.
  • Get easy quick wins that will inspire you to do more.
  • Think about how much less stressful your life would be if you knew you had a few thousand in the bank as a cushion. You don’t have to take crap from your job when you have enough money saved up.
  • It’s not about deprivation, it’s about making your life better.

RELATED EPISODES:

ChooseFI: Stock Market, Tax, and Retirement Hacks with Brad Barrett

All the Money You Will Ever Need with Grant Sabatier

Choose FI Podcast with Larry Hagner


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Breaking Free from Your Default Life with Matt Aitchison

Breaking Free from Your Default Life with Matt Aitchison


Are you leading a rich life? Or are you drifting without intention, just trying to make it through the day? If you think there is more for you than what you have now, this show is for you.

Wealth is our topic today. We’re not talking about the usual definition of wealth, but what it means to you. To some people, having a happy, healthy family is wealth. To others, it’s freedom. To many, it’s the sports cars and big houses. But it doesn’t matter what your dream life is if you’re not thinking and acting in a way that gets you results.

Today’s guest is Matt Aitchison. He is the creator of The Rich Life Academy and host of the Millionaire Mindcast. “Matty A” is here to talk about breaking free from your default setting by auditing every aspect of your life and reengineering it so that you will exceed beyond the present identity you have for yourself.

We as human beings will never exceed or excel beyond the identity we have for ourselves.

Matt Aitchison and The Rich Life Academy

Matt Aitchison is a millennial entrepreneur, a 7-figure real estate investor, speaker and avid adventurist. Most importantly he is a proud husband and father to two beautiful girls who make his live a whole lot richer.

After some huge mistakes early in his life, Matt was determined to change his trajectory. He always dreamed of living a big life. He wanted to be financially free, make a difference in peoples’ lives, travel frequently, and have a bunch of fun while doing it all.

He decided that entrepreneurship would be his vehicle to unlock the life he always dreamed of. Now he is passionate about helping people design an intentional way of living that creates abundance and wealth, whatever that means to the individual.

If you identify yourself as a grinder, that’s all you’ll ever be.

What You’ll Learn

  • What are the main drivers for the pursuit of wealth
  • The amount of mental real estate worrying about financial security takes up
  • What holds most men back from taking time to step into a better life
  • How we mistake movement for achievement
  • Why a lack of clarity keeps men stuck in a default life
  • How to make a detailed vision of your future and reverse engineer your path to success by breaking it down into smaller goals
  • How to make sure you’re not opting in to things by default
  • Protecting your time as a parent
  • Why some men are proud of being miserable
  • How hoarding responsibility puts a strain on your relationships and keeps you stuck
  • Asking yourself the right questions
  • How to start on your dreams when you feel like you have no time
  • The R.I.C.H. Life Audit
    • R–relationships, personal and professional
    • I–income and investment
    • C–community and contribution
    • H–health: mental, physical, and spiritual
  • How to redesign your ecosystem of friends and mentors
  • How to do a time audit of your weekly activity
  • How “busy” is the new “lazy”
  • Why we get distracted and overwhelmed and flow into things that do not serve us
  • How to play the game of life at a higher level
  • The smart, small choices you can make every day that will add up over time

Don’t confuse your current circumstance with who can become and what you can achieve.


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How to Execute Major League Achievement Todd Stottlemyre

How to Execute Major League Achievement—Exclusive Dad Edge Alliance Q&A with Todd Stottlemyre

It doesn’t matter where you’re at. It only matters where you’re going. That is what Todd Stottlemyre says. He’s a former 3-time World Champion Major League Baseball player and the author of Relentless Success: 9-Point System for Major League Achievement.

Todd’s a good friend of The Dad Edge Alliance and returns for this live Q&A in our mastermind group where he answers questions about failure, fatherhood, and how to make an impact in life. He confesses the mistakes he has made, the adversity he’s faced, and what compelled him to pass on what he has learned in his life in the form of a book.

Todd Stottlemyre is a dynamic guest. Prepared to get fired up and learn how to execute major league achievement in your life!

 



MENTIONED EPISODES:

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

Relentless Success Through Triumph and Tragedy with Todd Stottlemyre


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Personal Development Event for Dads

The Ultimate Personal Development Event for Dads

Today I’m joined by my two facilitators for The Dad Edge Summit live event, Jason MacKenzie and Jeff Bouwman. We recorded this episode live in The Dad Edge Mastermind community. The men online were not only able to listen but also interact with us on the podcast.

There are five dimensions of manhood. They are health (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual), work, our relationship with our spouse, our relationship with our children, and finances. In this live Q&A, we go through how we approached each dimension of manhood in last year’s Dad Edge Summit and how we will approach them in this year’s summit using techniques like appreciative inquiry, group exercises, and visualization.

At most personal development events, we are part of an audience. We sit and listen to speakers, but The Dad Edge Summit is different. It’s active, not passive. The intimate setting allows for deep self-exploration and fosters breakthroughs that change the lives of the participants. Listen to why The Dad Edge Summit is the ultimate personal development event for dads!

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Jason MacKenzie and Jeff Bouwman

Jason MacKenzie is the author of The Dadly Book of Open: How Cultivating Vulnerability Makes You a Stronger, Wiser and More Courageous Father. Jeff Bouwman is the author of Your Income, Your Life, which helps parents understand what their relationship with money looks like today, and define what it could be going forward.

The two of them partnered up to create Adaptive Growth Systems, a full service training agency that specializes in bringing teams, organizations, and communities together to achieve the goals that matter most.

What You’ll Learn

  • Why the traditional meeting structure doesn’t bring about dynamic change
  • How to build on strengths to create a future beyond imagining
  • What is appreciative inquiry (founded 30 years ago by David L. Cooperrider) and why it matters
  • How to create a shared culture where everyone can flourish, whether in business or in your own household
  • How to search through questions the best of what was, what is in the present, and what is to become to create a living vision
  • How to move from a deficit-based approach to one of possibility
  • How the dad/child relationship parallels the generation gap
  • How technology has changed a dad’s role. Before, our dad had the answers. Now the answers are at kids’ fingertips.
  • How to bring people together by asking better questions
  • Why men focus on weaknesses instead of strengths
  • How we’re taught to improve through correcting what’s not working instead of focusing on what is working and building on that
  • That self-improvement historically comes from eliminating weaknesses
  • How most people have never considered that focusing on strengths is a more effective way to improve
  • How it’s scientifically proven that when we focus on strengths, we accelerate the path we’re on
  • How to crowdsource the intelligence in the room
  • Giving yourself permission to talk about the things you are good at
  • The 3 key appreciative inquiry questions
  • What questions you can ask yourself to find your strengths
  • How to learn from your weaknesses
  • How to create a safe space in an emotionally charged situation involving your wife and kids
  • How to reframe around what you want instead around what you don’t want
  • The difference between being positive and generative
  • What men can expect at The Dad Edge Summit 2019 – Building connections with higher caliber people

MENTIONED EPISODES

How to Optimize the 5 Dimensions of Manhood

How Embracing Vulnerability will Strengthen your Resolve and Manhood with Jason MacKenzie

How to Pay Off Debt and Create Financial Security for Your Family with Jeff Bouwman

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop

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