As Dads, we are pulled in several different directions. We have work, family time, household responsibilities, homework, sporting events with our kids…our list is endless. Is it possible to take just a small amount of time (just 30 minutes) to attend to our own health? For some of us, taking 30 minutes per day would seem like a daunting task or maybe even selfish. Part of being the best versions of ourselves means having the healthiest body and mind possible. With out those two critical components, we can become over stressed, tired, and burnt out.

Optimum Gut Health For You And Your Kids

Optimum Gut Health for You and Your Kids with Dr. Adrian Chavez


As men, leaders, fathers, protectors, and providers, it’s up to us to take action when it comes to our health and the health of our kids. We need to make sure we put high-quality nutrient-rich foods into our bodies to perform our best and prevent disease.

But let’s face it – the American Diet sucks. Most of our food comes out of a package and is loaded with chemicals, sending our gut health into mass chaos.

Today we have Dr. Adrian Chavez on to talk about how processed foods affect the microbes in your gut and how this huge population of living bacteria affects every aspect of your physical and mental health.

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Dr. Adrian Chavez

Dr. Adrian Chavez has a PhD in Nutrition and is a nutrition and natural health consultant. He is an expert in the gut/brain connection and hosts the Your Nutrition Prescription podcast.

Adrian, who is now a dad, grew up with two dads that influenced his life. His biological father was a drug dealer who was in and out of jail since Adrian was born. When Adrian was nine years old, he disappeared and left Adrian, his mom, and his brothers on their own. They struggled to survive and even lived in a homeless shelter for a few months.

The other man in Adrian’s life was his step dad who stepped in as the man of the family. He worked hard labor sixteen hours a day, six days a week to take care of Adrian’s mom and her kids. Adrian’s mom also worked very hard. As parents, they had little time or energy to be active parts of Adrian’s life, but they demonstrated a tremendous work ethic when it came to the survival of the family.

A year ago, someone reached out to Adrian with news of his father. He had been deported back to Mexico and wanted to reconnect. Adrian relayed his story to the contact, but informed him that he had no desire to be involved with his biological dad. Adrain had accepted the loss of him long ago, moving on and using his experience to become a better dad.

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What You’ll Learn

  • How anxiety and depression are connected to your gut
  • The link between gut bacteria and autism
  • How there are 10X more bacteria and yeast in our body than our own human cells
  • How our very first exposure to flora is our mother’s vagina
  • The most frequent complaints from men aged 20s-50s
  • How food companies engineer snacks to be addictive
  • How gluten triggers and immune reaction
  • Why vegetable oils cause inflammation
  • The whole food diet explained
  • How diet can cause psychological problems
  • Why doctors are trained to give you medications
  • Why we get extreme food cravings, especially  for sugars
  • Why sometimes your will power had nothing to do with dieting
  • What Dr. Adrian eats daily
  • The “small, frequent meals” myth
  • Why you don’t have to eat brown rice
  • A list of the most nutritious, disease-fighting foods
  • How we get our kids to eat these healthy foods
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Make Huge Improvements to Your Sex Life

5 Small Ways to Make Huge Improvements to Your Sex Life


In the previous episode, I had “Sex with Emily” on this show. As a female, a doctor of Human Sexuality, and a beautiful woman, Dr. Emily Morse gave us some fantastic tips on how to break the silence when it comes to talking about sex with our spouses.

Most of us men in The Good Dad Project community have been married for a while and things have cooled off in the bedroom department. Dr. Emily Morse said that it only takes 6 months to 2 years for the honeymoon phase to wear off. When kids enter the picture, making sex a priority is harder than ever.

Whether you are a husband or a wife, most of us can agree that we want amazing sex lives with our partner. In this short episode, I go over 5 small ways to make huge improvements to your sex life.

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TT 76 - How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How to Disconnect from Your Phone and Reconnect with Your Family

How are mobile devices affecting our physical and mental health? How are they affecting our relationships? In this age of constant internet connection, we are facing an epidemic of living inside our phones instead of with the real live people in front us.

In this short episode, I talk about four reasons why spending too much time on your phone is harmful and what The Dad Edge Alliance is doing to set boundaries for screen time.


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GDP 132 - Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Drugs, Alcohol, and Fatherhood with Omar Pinto

Today we have Omar Pinto, host and founder of the wildly popular SHAIR Podcast. SHAIR stands for Sharing Helps Addicts in Recovery. He’s part of our Dad Edge Alliance and he’s also a friend.

“O” shares the heart-wrenching story of the son he had to give up. He also takes us through his insane addiction to cocaine and alcohol, and how he not only survived, but transformed into one of the most well-known voices in recovery today. This is a special episode you will not forget!

The SHAIR Podcast

Drugs and alcohol are one of the most popular topics on the GDP. Many of us drink alcohol –  some of us are social drinkers, some of us might drink a lot – we’re all over the spectrum, but we’re all curious if we’re depending on it too much. There also might be some recreational drug users in the community who may wonder if their life could be better without drugs, but are too afraid to ask for help.

Omar Pinto has a huge fan base and he’s changing lives. Every week The SHAIR Podcast broadcasts amazing life-changing success stories from addicts and alcoholics all over the world and shares their inspiring journey into recovery. He also manages a 100% private Facebook accountability group for active and recovering alcoholics and addicts. His passion and life’s purpose is to inspire people struggling with addiction to take that first step towards recovery, to show them that their life could be so much better and that there is a better way to live.

Omar’s Story

Came from a dysfunctional home. His mom was Jehovah’s Witness, but his dad left the religion and it became a constant source of tension in the home. His dad was explosive and he grew watching parents fight all the time. At one point, Omar remembers that they each had their own bedroom, and he thought that when he got older he would do the same. This was normal to him.

His dad’s side of the family were heavy drinkers, but no one ever said the word “alcoholic.” They were social drinkers, weekend warriors. There was never a wedding, birthday, or funeral where alcohol was not involved.

Omar had low self-esteem as a kid. He worried about how he looked, whether he was smart, and if he would ever be a good athlete. He was a C student who had no special talents. Worst of all, he had a difficult time trying to fit in because his mom was Jehovah’s Witness. He couldn’t go to parties or participate in holiday activates. He was isolated and lost. It’s no wonder that drinking appealed to him.

At the age of seventeen, he got a job at a steakhouse. He left with a fat stack of cash every night and it was party time. He had no goals or aspirations. He was attending college, but not getting anywhere. He was already living the dream – a career waiter. The fun he was having was irresistible. But he started to drink on the job and one day passes out and gets fired.

He spent five years in college and didn’t get a degree. He decided to move to LA and get into the mortgage business. This was before the recession hit, and he was making the bucks. He met a girl and started a volatile relationship. Dysfunction seeks dysfunction. Omar was always wanted to be the hero, so he attracted victims. Once he rescued them, he took them hostage. Omar says he was an angry person; anger protected him and kept him sharp. His girlfriend moved in, and they had serious fights. He would go to work with scratch marks on his face.

After multiple break ups and reunions, he finally said he’s done with her for good. He was free and finally ready to move on with his life. A week later, his ex-girlfriend called.

She’s pregnant.

Fatherhood Nightmare

Omar was distraught. He called his dad and cried to him, but instead getting a sympathetic ear, his father told him, “Stop crying and man up. You’re twenty-five. You have nothing going for you. You couldn’t finish college. You can’t hold a steady job. This is the best thing that could happen to you. This will teach you how to be a man.”

The tears just stopped. Omar put his head back, and said, “Alright, Dad.”

His pregnant girlfriend moved back in, and the nightmare continues. It was rough, but Omar pushed through. As soon as his son was born, she left him to stay with her parents.

A constant battle to see his son ensued. Each time he tried to make arrangements, she avoided him or put him off. He spent the next year trying to see him. Finally, he told her, “If you want, you take full custody and relinquish me of any financial responsibility.” That was the offer she had been waiting for. She never answered him, just sent the papers. He was done.

The Descent into Addiction

Omar was broken and in a serious depression, he never stopped thinking about his son. Then someone offered him an online casino job in Costa Rica. This is where he met his present wife and the drug that would lead him into destruction.

Omar was told that above all, he had to fit in. His contacts and partners were valuable to the business. When he met all his coworkers, he couldn’t believe what insane partiers they were. They had bars in their offices. They even smoked weed right there at work. Omar drank and got high at work every day, having the best time ever.

One night, Omar was falling asleep on the desk. All his coworkers were on the way to the casino, but he told him he was too tired to go. How did they have the energy to stay out all night? Then one of the guys offered Omar some cocaine. The clouds parted. The angels sang. Omar felt like it was the secret elixir of success.

But it doesn’t take long to degrade into a Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde situation. Omar’s problem skyrocketed. He regularly fell into coke-induced psychosis and paranoia, disappearing on binges and acting on insane delusions.

During the same time, he married his new wife and she was pregnant. But he couldn’t stop. One night, with his heart racing so fast he had to down booze and sedatives to prevent a heart attack, he hit an all time low. He got on his knees and prayed for God to take him out of this world or get him clean.

He woke up the next day, got in his car, and drove to his therapist. “I need help,” he finally said. The therapist new of a Narcotics Anonymous meeting that was starting in an hour. Omar made it. He shared his story. The people surrounded him. That was the beginning his journey into recovery.

A Life of Purpose in Recovery

The 12 Steps radically changed Omar’s life. They allowed him to work through his father’s death and the unresolved situation with his son. Omar knew his story might inspire people to make the first step toward recovery. He created The SHAIR Podcast for those who are suffering from this disease who are hiding behind a veil of shame, those who are isolated behind a computer who just need one ray of hope and support to get started.

Thanks to the program that saved his life, Omar is still with his beautiful wife and his daughter who is now fourteen-years-old. He surrounds himself with people with the same values and principles. Fidelity, loyalty, and responsibility are non-negotiable. As painful as the situation with his son was, Omar says he wouldn’t be the man he is today or appreciate his family like he does today if he hadn’t gone through it. Now, it’s his goal to be the best dad he can be for his daughter.

Omar’s Dad Wisdom

If you are lost and haven’t quite found out how to communicate with your kids and be a good father, you have to view your circle of influence.

If you have sucky friends who are shitty dads, get rid of them. Find guys who are solid who care about their children.

 

If you’re struggling with drugs and alcohol and you’re afraid to ask for help, if you’re afraid to be found out, go to SHAIR Private Facebook group. You will be welcomed and surrounded with absolute love and support.
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Mentioned Episodes:

Porn – Why We Watch It, When It’s a Problem, and How to Stop with Nell Daly

SHAIR 134: “DO EPIC SHIT” with Larry Hagner of The Good Dad Project and The Dads Edge Alliance


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What Doesn't Kill Us Scott Carney

What Doesn’t Kill Us with Scott Carney

Would you climb to the top of Kilimanjaro in 30-degree weather wearing nothing but boots, shorts, and a knit cap? Today’s guest did it and he wrote the book on it. We have NY Times bestselling author of What Doesn’t Kill Us, Scott Carney to tell us why he put his body through such extremes and why we all should get out of our physical comfort zones for better health, mental resilience, and disease resistance.

We talk about dads’ health a lot on the GDP – diet, exercise, and finding the time to take care of ourselves, but we’ve never had a show like this. Scott Carney believes our comfortable modern lifestyle is making us weak and shows how to use 15 minutes a day to make ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally invincible.

Think about it. We get up from our warm beds into a warm shower. We walk from our front doors to our cars, from our cars to our workplaces. Whether we go to the store or the gym or the movie theater, our climate is controlled. We are never exposed to the elements. Our environment is always the same.

Our human evolution was not built for that. Our bodies developed systems for survival and adaptation, but we are never challenged. Our habitat is static and these systems aren’t exercised anymore. This is why Scott Carney believes there is more to human health than diet and exercise. He suggests there is a third pillar, the environment you inhabit.

If your environment is static, you’re not exercising your systems.

Scott Carney’s story

Grew up in Rhode Island with a good family. His father was a surgeon and was absent most of the time. He was a good man, but worked probably 100 hours a week. Scott and his father were not incredibly close because of that. But he had a close relationship with his mom, and spent most of his childhood whacking sticks at trees, pretending he was a knight.

Scott says that did everything he wanted to do as a kid. He played video games, went sailing, dug for mollusks on the beach. He played Dungeons and Dragons. The game was considered counter-culture at the time, but being dungeon master involved a great deal of storytelling. Scot was telling stories to his friends throughout his teens, and he thinks that’s why he became a writer.

Scott grew up in an exclusively white suburb. In 5th grade, his parents asked him to choose a school. When they visited a poorer school in low-income community, he saw his first black kid in a skull cap and he told his parents that this was the school he wanted to attend. He was a minority and he chose it for that.

I’m interested in finding places that make me uncomfortable. 

Scott’s mission before was debunking false gurus and selling his articles to magazines like Playboy and Details. One day he spotted a picture of Wim Hof sitting on an iceberg in nothing but a pair of shorts. Wim Hof had broken all kinds of records when it came to testing the limits of the human body, but when Hof claimed to be able to teach people to do the same, Scott had to go out and debunk him. He had seen deaths result from people with claims like this. Maybe Wim Hof was a genetic freak, but normal people would die if they followed him.

Scott meets him and is unimpressed with Hof’s appearance. His big ruddy nose from years of alcoholism, his bad balding head with long hair hairstyle, gave him the aura of a smelly homeless dude. Still, Scott went to Hof’s training center in Poland. The first thing Scott sees when he arrives at the dilapidated farm house is a guy outside his window, barefoot and only wearing his underwear in the dead of Polish winter. The man was throwing snow on himself and Scott could see the steam rising from his body. He wondered what he had gotten himself into.

But after hanging out with Hoff and training under his methods, Scott realized it wasn’t bullshit at all. He could learn to do the same things. He found out he could get comfortable with the cold, and he could learn these skills quickly.  At the end of the week, in 2-degree weather, Scott found himself in boots, shorts, and a hat climbing to top of a mountain and burning up all the time.

This started him on the path that would lead him to Kilimanjaro and his bestselling book, What Doesn’t Kills Us.

What Doesn’t Kill Us

We are hairless apes with billions of years of development behind us. Our bodies and cells are evolved to change in relation to the signals we receive from light, temperature, and elements.

But we have factored out our environment. The systems created to respond to changes have gotten lazy and weak.

Scott says that when those systems aren’t used, they turn against us, causing inflammation and chronic health problems from blood pressure to auto-immune diseases like Lupus, Crohn’s, and allergies.

15 Minutes to Exercise Your Systems

Scott says that when you start giving people environmental stimulus that is uncomfortable, you start to trigger the fight or flight response that modulates all sorts of systems in the body. If you learn to control your physical response, it can help with all kinds of problems, even anxiety.

Fathers don’t have a lot of time to train in the snow and climb mountains in their boxers, but staying in a comfort zone for a man is deadly. This quick 2-phase morning routine will help sync your systems.

  1. Wim Hof breathing protocol – You can do this exercise in bed. What you’ll essentially be doing is hyperventilating. Breathe deeply in and out thirty times. You’ll get lightheaded, and this is normal. Then after the last breath, hold it till you feel like you’re going to gasp (but don’t pass out). Then take a half-breath and hold it for ten seconds. After that, do another cycle of thirty breaths, then hold again. The second time you’ll discover that you can hold much longer. You might see colors behind your eyes. You will feel dizzy, amped, and full of adrenaline. Do one more rep of thirty breaths. Now, let all air out, get on the floor, and do as many pushups as you can while holding your breath. Tip: Do not eat beforehand. All your blood will go to your stomach.
  2. The Cold Shower – After your breathing exercise, you can eat breakfast. Then hop in the shower. Start off with warm water and at the end, turn the water all the way to cold (the colder the better). The goal is this: when the water is cascading, instead of clenching your body and shivering to create heat, learn to relax in the cold. Get the mental power to be at ease in this stressful environment. This teaches body to find another way to heat itself, thus raising metabolic rate. This exercise also helps anxiety by activating the fight or flight and then stopping it

Wisdom to Make Us Better Men

Dads are constantly faced with stressors. Work, kids, relationships. How can we be better responders instead of horrible reactors?

Scott Carney is not a dad, but he says to always try to do things that make you uncomfortable. Stay curious throughout your life. Explore. Find something weird, strange, new, or unfamiliar. When we lose our curiosity, we die a little bit.

Kids have great curiosity. Learn from them.


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