How to Unf*ck Yourself

How to Unf*ck Yourself with Gary John Bishop

As men, we like to plan. We like to be able to foresee what’s going to happen so that we can be prepared, but life will inevitably throw curveballs our way. These periods of uncertainty can provoke stress, anxiety, and fear. How can we embrace uncertainty and use as the most powerful opportunity to grow?

Gary John Bishop is one of the world’s elite performance coaches and NY Times Bestselling Author of Unf*ck Yourself. He is here to teach us how to embrace uncertainty, how to take extreme ownership of our lives, and how we can teach our kids to do the same.

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Gary John Bishop

You might notice from his accent that Gary John Bishop is Scottish. He moved to the US in 1994 and toured as a musician, meeting famous people and his wife who he is still very much in love with to this day.

Gary eventually gave up music and got into construction. He was asked to do a personal development course and refused. It seemed liked foo-foo stuff to him. But Gary ended up taking the course and it blew his mind. He was forced to get uncomfortable and face his life. He came out the other side with life-altering insights.

From then on, Gary was fascinated by the personal development world and became the senior program director for the largest personal development company. He realized that he was wrong about himself. He was not the solid person he thought he was. He started questioning his thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and how they were affecting his decisions in life. He listened to the dialogue he kept with himself. He started to explore it and change it. Now he has his own coaching business, his book, and a series of courses.

'You have so many thoughts a day. 80-90% of those thoughts you had yesterday. You want to change your life, but you’re thinking the same stuff.' @GaryJohnBishop #thoughts #innerdialogue #selftalk #personalgrowth Click To Tweet

What You’ll Learn

  • Why we are wired for certainty
  • Why uncertainty is inevitable no matter how hard we try to avoid it
  • How you can empower yourself by embracing uncertainty
  • How to analyze your thoughts to find weak and limiting inner dialogue
  • How to stop living in the idea of what you think should happen and operate in reality
  • Why there’s a lot of pressure as a dad to have all the answers
  • How to give yourself room for your own humanity
  • Why it’s good to be human in front of your kids
  • How to take responsibility for the way you are
  • How we give away our power by basing our happiness on other peoples’ behavior
  • How to instill ownership in your kids from an early age
  • How to stop the blame game
  • How to be with yourself when you’re at your worst
  • Why men avoid being pressed, but should embrace being stressed
  • How to be in communication with your feelings
  • Why positive psychology doesn’t work for some people
  • Why the language you use with yourself is so important
  • Why consciously and cognitively connecting other people is crucial
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4 Questions to Crush Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

4 Questions to Crush Self-Sabotaging Thoughts

In our last episode, Wes Chapman shared his horrific story of trauma and how his whole life he had been told that he would never be a normal, successful, happy person because of what he went through. Wes healed and soared above his past. If he believed in his heart what all the doctors and adults told him, he would never be able to become the extraordinary man he is today.

It’s bad enough when other people are putting us down, but for many of us, our worst enemy is ourselves. We tell ourselves we’re not good enough, that we’re not capable, or that we’re inadequate. This negative self-talk silently kills us every day.

In today’s short episode I give four questions we can ask ourselves to crush self-sabotaging thoughts.

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The Mask of Masculinity with Lewis Howes

The Mask of Masculinity with Lewis Howes

Today we have an unbelievable episode with Lewis Howes. For those of you who don’t know him, Lewis Howes is the host of the hugely popular The School of Greatness podcast and the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The School of Greatness.

Lewis Howes is one of the most sought after speakers today and has appeared all over the media, including just recently on Ellen. His new book is called The Mask of Masculinity, and Lewis Howes completely sheds his mask for us in this show.

You will hear things that will shock you as well as things that will inspire you. This is one episode you will never forget.

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Lewis Howes

Lewis Howes had big dreams to be an athlete. His goal in life was to get paid for having fun and he was on the road to his dreams, making it into arena football and setting his sights on the NFL, until a wrist injury ended his career.

His whole identity revolved around sports, and at 23 years old with a massive ego, he had no idea what to do with himself. His family was troubled and his father, who had been his biggest supporter during his sports career, got into a tragic accident that left him mentally and emotionally stunted. Lewis had to learn how to be a man on his own, and took the past decade to reinvent himself into the person you see today.

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Show Highlights

  • How both the good and bad sides of his father shaped him.
  • What his parents miserable relationship taught him about marriage.
  • How his brother went to prison for over four years when Lewis was just 8-years-old.
  • How both of his sisters attempted suicide.
  • How he was raped when he was a little boy.
  • The moment he spoke about his sexual abuse and how it freed him.
  • Why he was terrified to write his book, The Mask of Masculinity.
  • Why woman would also want to read The Mask of Masculinity.
  • How holding onto shame and secrets becomes a man’s prison.
  • Why he has no desire to have kids … yet.
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Why Nice Guys Don't Get Their Needs Met

Why Nice Guys Don’t Get Their Needs Met

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, dropped some knowledge bombs on us in our last episode. He also did a live Q & A with our Dad Edge Alliance membership group. Today you will hear a clip of highlights from the call itself as Dr. Robert Glover expands on why nice guys don’t get their needs met.

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Mr. Nice Guy’s 3 Covert Contracts

  1. If I’m a good guy, I will be liked and loved (and women will desire me).
  2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
  3. If I do everything right, I’ll have a smooth problem free life.

The number one way to stop the effects of Nice Guy Syndrome is to assume the responsibility of taking better care of ourselves and making sure our own needs are met.

Each of us is like a big cup that only holds so much. Nice guys take care of everyone else and hope that others will fill them back up. We can’t figure out why we do everything right and yet fail in our work, love, and sex life. We become more desperate to please and seek validation from others. Women turn a cold shoulder to us, not because they are rejecting sex. They are rejecting the neediness.

When we take care of ourselves, we become more generous and  more judicious givers. Healthy giving is not giving to get, it’s a measured response.

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no more mr. nice guy

No More Mr. Nice Guy with Dr. Robert Glover

Why are we not getting our needs met when we seem to be going out of our way for everyone? Dr. Robert Glover talks to us today about Nice Guy Syndrome and why it’s actually not so nice for you and for those around you. This show will change everything you thought you knew about being Mr. Nice Guy.

Dr. Robert Glover

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.

Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications.

Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world.

As a result of his work, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males. Along with these personal changes have come similar transformations in these men’s professional careers and intimate relationships.

Nice Guy Syndrome

Dr. Glover started discovering the dynamic of Nice Guy Syndrome in his thirties. He was in an unhappy marriage and couldn’t figure out what was wrong. He was doing everything to try to make his wife happy and avoid conflict. Somehow, no matter what he did it was never good enough. She was moody and had lost all interest in sex. Dr. Glover was bewildered why being a nice guy wasn’t working.

The problem was that being a nice guy on the outside made him hold in his frustrations. He became resentful and passive aggressive. His wife actually told him she’d rather be with an outright asshole than to be with him. He wanted to stay married so he went to support groups and therapy and began to understand what had happened to him.

A key piece to the development of Dr. Glover’s Nice Guy Syndrome was his childhood. He and his father were close and spent lots of time together, but there was one problem–his father was extremely moody. He would get angry for no reason and stay that way for weeks. Dr. Glover was determined not to be like his dad. He wanted to be different from all the jerks that women complained about. He would be the nice guy and women would desire him because of that.

Core of Nice Guy Syndrome

Nice guys live by three covert contracts. The problem is, no one knows they are operating by these unspoken rules.

  1. If I’m a good guy, I will be liked and loved (and women will desire me).
  2. If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
  3. If I do everything right, I’ll have a smooth problem free life.

When nice guys don’t get the results they hoped for, they don’t give up. They tend to double-down and try harder. That’s when they need to look outside for help.

Some Nice Guy Traits

  • seek the approval of others.
  • hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
  • put other people’s needs and wants before their own.
  • sacrifice their personal power and play the role of a victim.
  • tend to be disconnected from other men and from their own masculine energy.

How to Reclaim Your Personal Power

  1. Don’t try to do it alone.
  2. Don’t try to do it with your intimate partner.
  3. Find a safe person or safe place (friend, therapist, coach, mentor, support group).
  4. Practice talking about things you’ve hidden about yourself.
  5. Keep connected with a tribe.

 


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