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How To Be Adaptable To Change as a Working Dad with Vaughn Kohler, Cohost of the MFCEO Project

Episode Overview:

working dadWhat defines you? As men, many times we define ourselves by the job title we hold, but that can be fleeting at times given the state of the world. So, what’s a working man to do?

Vaughn Kohler, writer, speaker, mentor, co-host of a top-rated business podcast (in other words, man of multiple hats) talks with Larry and Shawn about being confident enough in your skills and abilities so that, whatever job you’re in or wherever life leads you, you are defined by a core set of skills that will never go away.

Key Takeaways of a Working Dad:

The world is volatile

Change is a given. As cliche as it is, along with death and taxes, change is one thing we can count on. Sometimes that job we’re in doesn’t work out, relationships falter, but we don’t need to be defined by these facts. What defines us is what we take away from this change.

Who are you?

Just because you work at a law firm and you have a law degree and, yes, technically you ARE a lawyer, this is not WHO you ARE. What skills do you bring to the table? Are you the key communicator, researcher, negotiator? See the difference? You are defined by the core talents you have, not your title.

You don’t have to be extraordinary…

It’s definitely ok to be a working dad, but just be you. Be deliberate in your actions and what you set out to achieve. Even if you aren’t superhuman (because NO one is), you can achieve what you want through understanding your gifts and applying them with deliberate action every day.

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Five Proven Ways to Raise Confident Kids

Five Proven Ways to Raise Confident Kids Episode Overview:

Show hosts Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson provide a down-to-earth approach to Five Proven Ways to Raise Confident Kids. Through personal anecdotes (as well as Shawn’s Mike Tyson rendition of “Hotline Bling”-a true must listen!) and real-world advice, Larry and Shawn give you the steps you need to raise the most confident kids.

Key Takeaways from Five Proven Ways to Raise Confident Kids:

• Discover five ways to help develop confidence in our kids
• Learn how decision making can help kids develop life skills
• Learn to Selflessly Serve Others (SSO)
• Teach confidence by modeling confidence to our kid

  1. Teach kids problem solving skills. Kids learn by example. You are their example. Next time you and your child face a challenge, work together to solve it. This lets your child know you believe in their abilities and boosts their confidence!
  2. Teach kids to serve others. We’re not just talking clearing out their closets and donating to Goodwill; it’s more about elevating others. What skill can you help your child identify that they can use to help those less fortunate?
  3. Don’t rescue your child. Experience helps us learn. Remember when you put your hand on the hot burner as a child? You hopefully learned not to do that again. Letting our kids learn from their own mistakes helps them grow. What better gift can you give them then that of experience? DISCLAIMER: This rule does not apply if your child is in immediate danger; it goes without saying.
  4. Let your kids make decisions. If you ask your kid what the next family car should be and their answer is, “Porsche 911 Turbo”, maybe you need to narrow their options. Once you’ve narrowed them, however, the options empower your child to make decisions and learn that they do have a voice.
  5. Model confidence. In order for our kids to be confident, we need to be confident ourselves. Kids learn from our actions. Show up in a strong, confident way and you will see the change in your own children.

While this episode covers Five Proven Ways to Raise Confident Kids, you will get so much more and be able to take action right away.

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Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

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3 Reasons Why It’s Important to Teach our Kids Ninja Skills

 

Check out the video above and you will see what I am talking about.  This is a quick highlight recap of our day at KOR.  It’s a short clip with photos and video with some heartfelt music by Cold Play.

The Good Dad Project/KOR American Ninja Warrior Day was a day like no other! 

About four times per year, The Good Dad Project partners with local businesses in the St. Louis, MO area to do “Dad/Kid Meet Ups.”  In the past, we have held these events at St. Louis City Museum, The Painted Pot, and Upper Limits Indoor Rock Climbing.

Our most recent meet up definitely topped them all! 

We decided to partner with the KOR Complex, owned and operated by Brendan O’Neill in St. Charles, MO.  KOR is a VERY UNIQUE facility with an experience like no other.

If you are a fan of American Ninja Warrior, this facility is right up your alley.  KOR offers some of the most popular obstacles such as:  The Famous Warped Wall, Cannon Ball Alley, Salmon Ladder, Pegged Wall, Inverted Stairs, Floating Doors, and many more.

The Good Dad Project Meet Ups are more than just quality time with our kids.  It’s about creating a memorable experience.  The meet up experiences are meant to go above and beyond taking our kids to the park or going to see a movie.  Each experience gives dads an opportunity to be creative, adventurous, and do something completely outside the box.

 

1.  Much like our day at KOR, life is full of OBSTACLES:

Each day we have an opportunity to help support and guide our kids through problem solving skills.  When the obstacles show up in life, it’s so important that our kids can rely on us to help guide them through it.

Our Ninja Day at KOR provided Dads the opportunity to guide, cheer, and help their kids through the obstacles.   Smiles, cheering, positive reinforcement, and teamwork were the experiences that came from each obstacle.

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2. We can show our kids that we can Face Our Fears:

I will admit, some of the obstacles at KOR can be downright intimidating at first.  The Warped Wall tops out at a daunting 14.5 feet. That’s a big jump to say the least!  Attempting to climb inverted stairs and then lache to the floating doors can be frightening.  However, every Dad and child took on these obstacles together.

In everyday life, we preach to our kids to face their fears, have confidence in themselves, and to take chances.  Very rarely do we get to show them by example.  Our Ninja Day provided this opportunity in a big way.

Some of the greatest moments of the day were not just the Dads cheering on kids, but the kids cheering on the Dads!

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3.  Celebrate the Everyday Victories:

The KOR complex erupted with cheer when one of our dads or kids would conquer an obstacle.  In everyday life, we overcome obstacles.  For our kids, it can be something as simple as getting a good grade on the big test, making a new friend, or a random act of kindness.  However, it can also be something as big as making the game winning run, getting a driver’s license, or graduating high school.

For Dads, it can be something as simple as we finally crossed two things off our honey-do list, we closed a new account at work, or we earned a raise.

The takeaway is this:  we have victories every single day.  It’s so important that as a family we cheer each other on through the obstacles and celebrate the wins together.

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A special thanks to all who participated on our Good Dad Project Ninja Day at KOR!

If you haven’t signed up to be a free member of our community, please do so below.  The Good Dad Project is dedicated to improving the lives of Dads and Families.

All the Best,

 

Larry

Speaker, Author, and Founder of the Good Dad Project

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