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Being a Coach, a Dad, and Raising Strong Daughters with Bret Johnson

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Bret Johnson knows being a dad.  He knows being a coach of youth sports.  He knows how to raise a confident strong daughter.

Bret Johnson

Bret Johnson is the driving force behind Team Johnson.  He runs the all of the day-to-day management of the business, in addition to business strategy, event planning, management, and logistics for any Team Johnson or Chalene Johnson appearances.  He negotiates all contracts, handles all sponsors and partner relationships, and coordinates and communicates with all who are a part of the Team Johnson Affiliate Program.  In addition, Bret works one-on-one with a small hand selected group that he coaches on personal, spiritual, and business development.  Bret is the former owner and CFO of Powder Blue Productions as well as the Turbo Wear clothing line that he and Chalene created together. He has also built and sold several multimillion-dollar fitness and lifestyle companies.

Bret Johnson began his career as a Quarterback at UCLA and Michigan State University, and later finished his career in the CFL with the Toronto Argonauts and Atlanta Falcons.  Bret has preserved his love and passion for football by coaching High School Football at Mission Viejo High School with his father and brother.

Bret will be the first to tell you that his greatest accomplishment is raising two amazing kids.

It’s a Girl’s World

Let’s face it: there are definite differences between raising boys versus girls. Beyond the stereotypical pink versus blue, girls are just made differently. They typically have different interests than boys and they respond to stimuli differently. A girl’s world can be complex and helping your daughter navigate these waters as a father can seem overwhelming. But, there is hope; after all, even though she may sometimes seem other-worldly, your daughter is human.

The Basics

Just like sons, daughters need to feel love and validation from their fathers. Remember dads, the relationship your daughter has with you will create the foundation for the relationships she has with other men in her future. Reinforce how much you accept her for who she is, her interests, and the fact that you will always be there for her. She needs this, particularly in the world children will live in as adults.

 

Social Media

At no other time in history has it been easier to find out who is doing what and when, what the latest diet fad is, who is the hottest celebrity, and, maybe most frightening, bullying. And that’s where girls can be hit the hardest, right on line. It’s easy to make fun of others behind a screen and say hurtful things, demean another’s character, or even more devastating to a girl, criticize her appearance. Dads, here is where you can play a vital role, be active in her online media life. Yep, let her know you are watching what she is doing, not so much that you are concerned with her behavior, but how others interact with her. And, if necessary, model positive online behavior and communication so that she can see how to best represent herself to others in this media.

 

“Do These Pants Make Me Look Fat?”

 

Even in an age where a variety of body types are getting more positive media coverage, the skinny models still barrage our girls in the checkout lines of every store. It seems that no matter what they hear about their image, girls still want to look like what they see in the magazines. Your job, dad, is to remind her that those models are airbrushed and that skinny is not always healthy.

 

Be Proactive

Dad, it’s not as hard as you think. She’s your daughter, she loves you and she is looking to you to see how to respond to men in a positive way. Raising a strong daughter means that she feels comfortable in her own skin, she can communicate effectively with all people and that she has the courage to pursue her own passions. Don’t worry, you won’t break her; she’s tougher than you think!

 

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Bedtime Rituals and Sleeping Smarter as a Family

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Bedtime Rituals are critical to the foundation of a good night sleep.  When it comes to our kids, they thrive on routines and rituals.  So why not have bedtime rituals to get them in the right mindset and to avoid bedtime chaos?

Bedtime Rituals Equals Success!

#nosleep, #workedallnight, #sleepdeprived, #itsanepidemic. Yep, you’ve heard this before; it’s almost a badge of honor anymore to say you worked 24 hours straight or need to chug 64 ounces of Mountain Dew or Monster to stay awake. Why do we celebrate sleep deprivation, when sleep is our body’s way of repairing itself so we can be our very best? In Shawn’s first episode of Sleep Smarter, he gave us simple tips to improve the quality of a night’s sleep: remove blue light, black out curtains, just to name two. But this time, Shawn goes a little deeper in identifying more specific ways to get the best sleep of our lives.

The Lion

Lions are cool. They are the kings of the jungle; noble and fearless. You know what lions don’t do? They don’t stand around the preverbal water cooler (if lions were in an office and had a water cooler-it’s an analogy. Stay with me here) and say, “Yeah Bill, I just killed two antelope after being up for 24 hours straight just prowling around.” You know why? Well, first, they’re lions and they wouldn’t have that conversation, and second, lions are only awake about four hours out of the day. Four hours. But, they are biologically programmed to sleep long hours so they can make those four waking hours incredibly effective.

Granted humans don’t require as much sleep as lions. But, in order to be fully functional and at our best our bodies do require an ample amount of sleep in order to repair. Sleep is as essential as oxygen, food and water to the health and well-being of our bodies. We need those 7-8 hours of sleep per night. Non-negotiable.  Bedtime rituals get our bodies and minds in the right state so we can ease into a healthier night sleep.

But I’m Good With 5 Hours

Really? You’re really bright-eyed and super bushy-tailed after a measly five hours of sleep? You wouldn’t be ok with 75% of your oxygen intake, so how is sleep any different? The truth is, without ample sleep, your body is not able to fully recover. When we sleep, our bodies are in an anabolic state (read: muscle building, tissue repair, hormone rebalancing). If we are sleep deprived, we age faster and our bodies are less likely to be able to completely repair themselves. So, what the heck do you do?

Create Routine

Shawn Stevenson shares a way we can get our kids and the whole family in the right mindset for bedtime.

In a culture that seems to value over working, it is hard to imagine placing value in something that is the complete opposite: rest. But, it’s that rest that will make us be better at work. So, take a cue from your work life, you schedule meetings, why not schedule a sleep routine? This routine, be it turning off electronic devices earlier, brushing your teeth, reading to the kids, or whatever, will start to signal your body to begin the sleep cycle. As this becomes habit, you will find yourself getting to sleep faster and your sleep will be of better quality.

Create Culture

In order to get everyone in your household on board with quality sleep, you have to create a culture where sleep is valued by everyone. This means, shutting off all devices earlier, getting everyone, kids and spouse, to buy into the routine of getting ready for bed and setting the example so that sleep becomes just as important as eating and breathing.

This is just the tip of the ice berg. There is so much more in this podcast to help you get your best night’s sleep, but these tips should get you started. In the mean time, maybe create a new cultural norm: #sleepsmarter.

Resources:

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Jordan Goodman

How to pay off your home mortgage and be financially free in 5 years with Jordan Goodman


Jordan Goodman, America’s Money Answer Man, comes on the Good Dad Project Podcast and shares insights on paying off our mortgages in 5-7 years, paying off credit debit, and saving for the future.

The American Dream: House, 2.5 kids, pets, credit card debt, 30 year mortgage with an arm, car loan, wondering how to pay for the education of those 2.5 kids, the list goes on. It’s kind of a given, isn’t it? Being strapped till the end of time with debt? It kind of nestles itself right in with the family, just like that annoying relative. How comfy! But, what if, you could eliminate that unwanted “family member” more quickly than you thought?

The Mortgage

Jordan Goodman (Money magazine, financial analyst at NBC along with being the author of numerous books on the topic) has helped people pay off their mortgage in 5-6 years and reduce their credit card debt. Yeah, right, you say. But, it’s true! He says if you have equity in your home, take out a Home Equity Line of Credit, connect it to your checking account, use the credit line to pay towards the principal of your mortgage. Repaying the line of credit and then repeating the process six months to a year down the road, you will have that house paid off rapidly.

The Debt

Credit cards can be both a blessing and a curse. The blessing is that they help build our credit. The curse is that, if we overspend on them, we can find ourselves in a world of hurt. Use one credit card to pay your bills every month and then pay it off the next month. That way, you keep your credit in great standing and pay your regular bills.

The Budget

Half of all divorces occur because of money issues. Yep, that unwanted family member is responsible for half of all the broken marriages. So, one solution to that issue is to have open communication with your spouse regarding handling money. Our relationship with money may differ from that of our spouse (most likely it will), so, understanding how our spouse deals with money and communicating how you deal with money is key to a happy home. If you really enjoy golf outings, but your wife loves her Manolo Blahnik’s (it’s a big name designer guys), then make those items part of your budget. Don’t just cut out the things that bring you joy in the name of frugality (unless, of course, you’re simply trying to put food on the table).

Of course, this is simply the tip of the ice berg. This episode really dives into the details of how you can get yourself on a better path with your money and unload the “family member” you aren’t so fond of.

Resources:

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

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Five Ways to Make Sure Your Family Stays Connected


Ensuring our families stay connected is something that every dad desires.

You know your family. You know your spouse’s trigger points, what’s going on with their day and  what bothers them. You know what is going on in your kids’ lives: their friends, their favorite activities, their sensitivities. Whoa-wait-do you? When is the last time you sat down and really listened, or scheduled an activity together and really made quality time? Too many times our best intentions to build the connections with our family are overlooked by our busy schedules and outside commitments. Changing just some of our simple daily habits, though, can really help strengthen the most important connections of all.

Your Family Stays Connected By Taking a Few Minutes to Talk Everyday

Yeah, you ask your kids how they’re doing, but are you really paying attention, or are you absentmindedly listening while mentally going over that meeting with your boss you had an hour ago? Admit it, you’ve done it before; most of us have. But listening and truly paying attention to what they have to say helps to build those bonds. It just makes people feel important when you really listen. Think about it: when someone is really engaged and listening to you, you know it. You also know when someone is just half way there. You just feel better when the other person is actively listening: asking good questions and being present.

Schedule an Activity

It doesn’t have to be a trip to DisneyWorld (unless that’s what you really want to do), it’s the daily activities of simply playing with your kids. Our intentions might be good, but if it’s not in our routine schedule, we may not get to it. You schedule meetings for work, why not schedule activities with your family; the reason you go to work?

Do Physical Activities Together

No, this doesn’t mean putting your kids to work pulling weeds in the yard while you mow the lawn. Spend some times outside: go for a walk, throw a ball, wrestle. Whatever it is, the simple act of being active together creates a different bond than just sitting on the couch (there’s quality in that, too, just not all the time). Schedule a hike or set a goal of doing a challenge course together (Color Run, anybody?).

Have a Meal Together and Express Gratitude

It doesn’t have to be the Beaver Cleaver family meal at 5 o’clock; dinner can be whenever you can connect. And when you’re sitting around that table eating (please don’t talk with your mouth full), maybe say something you’re grateful for. Heck, why not make it something you’re grateful for about someone at that very table? While you’re at it, make this a tech-free zone. Nothing says “I’m physically present, but not mentally here” like a cell phone at the table.

Pay Attention to the Small Stuff

Small Stuff. The stuff that keeps gnawing at the back of our minds when we have a moment’s down time. Paying attention to our spouse’s and kids’ small stuff helps them know we care enough to listen to their deepest needs. You might even help them take that small stuff off of their plate!
Daily habits can be changed. It doesn’t take moving a mountain to do it, either. Really, it’s just a conscious effort to take what you typically do in a day and just insert some of these 5  easy steps to make those family connections even stronger.

Resources:

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

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Thank you for checking out this week’s episode on 5 Ways to Make Sure Your Family Stays Connected.

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Eric Davis Raising Men

Eric Davis on Leading from the Front.

At the GDP, we’ve had story after story of men overcoming numerous challenges, only to become stronger men and better fathers. Through all of these stories, the common thread is grit and determination. In this episode, we talk with Eric Davis, Navy SEAL and author of Raising Men, continues this trend and brings a fresh perspective on how to become the best version of yourself as a father.

Eric Davis on the Seal Way of Life

Eric explains how the principles from his SEAL training gave him the keys to be the best father he can be. As observers, we, as the general public, see images of SEALs in film or TV, we are only exposed to the exciting and heroic moments. What isn’t revealed, Eric says, is dealing with the times when he has to be away on deployment, no phone calls, no contact with family. It takes a certain discipline, on his behalf and that of his family, to deal with those times.

Embrace Failure

One of the principles Eric Davis uses is to embrace failure. This seems counterintuitive for a SEAL, but it is exactly what they do. Instead of sulking over a loss or failed mission, they look at what they can learn from it and move on (sound familiar? Attitude of gratitude?). Apply this to your life: we aren’t perfect as humans-we will make mistakes. So, what better lesson to teach our kids when life does not go as planned, to take the failure and deliberately turn it in to a lesson on how to approach similar future situations.

Eric Davis on Leading from the Front

Be a winner. Eric says that in the SEALs, when they are training there are multiple drills run. They compete against each other, even in training, and when they don’t complete first or second, they are made to continue the grueling workout. So why don’t we do the same with ourselves? In other words, continue to improve. This way, when our kids see ourselves continuing to strive for our best selves, they will do the same.

Take Care of YOU

It’s ok to focus on you. Too many times as dads, we are driven to continue to provide for our families, often to our own detriment. And what does that teach our kids? That life is over when you have a family? As men, we still need to feed our own needs for self-care and strong friendships. It’s the common scenario of making sure you take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.

It doesn’t take Navy SEAL training to be a great dad; it takes the drive and desire to want to better yourself on a daily basis. It takes showing up for your kids on your toughest days.

Resources:

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Check out our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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