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How to Teach Your Kids Success By Failing Forward

Failing Forward is a powerful life lesson.

As adults, we know we don’t have all of the answers. We fail, we make mistakes,  and we struggle. But if we have the mindset that we can learn from these mistakes and failures, then we persevere and get better. Too many times, though, we get stuck in the pervasive idea that failure is bad, unacceptable; heck, there’s even tag lines quoting “Failure is not an option”. The problem with this thinking is, if failure is not an option, then how do we ever progress forward?

 

Changing our mindset to one of growth, helps us be great examples for our kids on how to tackle their failures. These 6 tips will help uou and your kids achieve your best self.

Failing Forward and Letting Kids Fail

Too many times as parents, we get so impatient with our kids’ ability to finish something in a certain amount of time. We must remember that they are kids and need to,learn. Doing things for our kids teaches them nothing; wait, it does. It teaches them dependency. If our kids can’t learn to be independent and have their own way, of thinking, then we will cripple them in their future.

Change Your View of Failure

Let’s face it, failing is not fun. It is so much more fun to win. Maybe we have been condition to avoid failure at all costs because it is seen as “bad”. What we may not realize is our fear of failure caps our children’s view of what is possible. Instead, we need to help kids learn from their failures.

Model Failing Forward

It’s time to swallow that pride. As difficult as it may be, let your kids see when you fail or share times that you have failed with them. This helps them see that even adults makes mistakes, but the important thing is learning from them. You can even give them examples of others failing forward. When kids see that failure does not occur in a vacuum, they have more freedom to make the mistakes they need to make to grow.

Not Everyone Gets a Trophy

Teach your kids that not everyone wins a trophy. This is a tough one. This Lesson helps kids appreciate the times they do win. Not only that, it helps kids set and work toward a goal. To help your child achieve, ask them questions about how they think they can improve.

Failing Forward Teaches Perseverance

Teach perseverance. Try. Try again. Then, try again. This is grit. When kids learn how to keep going even when it feels like it is impossible, they learn to reach their full potential.

Have a Sense of Humor

The power of having a sense of humor when we make mistakes. Having resiliency through humor when we fail immediately changes our perception of the situation and also shows others that we do not fear failure. Failure is a fact of life. Dealing with it with less drama and more laughter brings more positivity to a situation.

In order for kids to learn to embrace failure, we need to embrace it ourselves. It won’t be an easy road, but definitely worth the ride.  

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10 Life Lessons To Raise Superhumans

Raise Superhumans!  Life is challenging, life is crazy, so teach super powers along the way.

Habits are formed early in life. We tend to respond to life in the way we were raised. If we want our kids to react positively even in the face of adversity, we must model these behaviors. Preparing your kids for life with these ten tips just might help you demonstrate these key skills.

Raise Superhumans #1:  Care for Your Surroundings

Clothes on the floor, unmade beds, toothpaste in the sink. Small stuff, but these little unkempt habits can wreak havoc in a relationship. Not only that, you want your kids to have a sense of pride in their belongings and surroundings and to emulate that, to others. Teaching them this skill early on will give them a clean,routine while demonstrating a sense of self respect.

Raise Superhumans #2: Peer Pressure

Peer pressure knows no age. We can fall into it as adults. Don’t let your kids see you compromise your principles just to have it turn around and lecture them on standing up for themselves. Practicing what you preach here will save your child, and yourself, a great amount of heartache.

Raise Superhumans #3:  How to Make Money

Money does not have to be a scarcity. As a matter of fact, if you put your head to it, you can make money rather easily. Teaching kids that, making money, is a matter of drive and determination as well as resourcefulness, gives them a sense of security and self-empowerment.

Raise Superhumans #4:  Mananging Money

Once your kids have money, their relationship with money can be another obstacle. Our relationship with money correlates to how much we save and spend. Teaching your kids to be temperate with money and learning to set it aside for what they want is rewarding as well as smart, as it staves off anxiety over having enough for life’s emergencies and wants.

Raise Superhumans #5:  Create a Plan

Ask your kids what they want to be when they grow up and they will likely look at you with gleaming eyes full of excitement. But, without a strategic plan, that excitement will fade as the dream fails to come to fruition. Teaching your child to develop a plan for what they want supports their dreams and gives them hope for the future. Even if their plans fail, they will no doubt have learned from the journey.

Raise Superhumans #6:  Teach Them How to Persevere

Don’t quit. A common mantra, but at times, it does not come into practice when times get tough. Showing your kids how to get through times even when they seem impossible gives them a strength that will prepare them for other challenges they will face.

Raise Superhumans #7:  How to Cook

Enough said. Your kids need to know how to prepare healthy food for themselves and eventually their own families. This will set them up for a healthy future.

Raise Superhumans #8:  Focus on Solutions, Not Problems

Teaching kids to get out of their own heads provides them a basis for a positive mindset. Teach them how to ask questions that lead to an unbeatable mind. Show them how to create a power statement for the times they start to spiral into negativity.

Raise Superhumans #9:  How to Communicate

This skill is a non-negotiable. Kids need to understand that their words affect their environment and that of others. Helping kids harness their own unique communication skills and teaching them the power of their words will open doors for them for a lifetime

Raise Superhumans #10:  Teach Kids to Take Care of Themselves

Our physical and mental well-being is interlocked. Taking care of our body creates a more positive mindset and puts us in a better position to take care of everything else. Include your kids in your workouts and demonstrate how important health is to their overall well being.

These are not the only aspects of life to teach your kids, but these provide a strong basis for a happy life. The idea is to work towards mastery along the beautiful journey of a life.

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Create an Unbeatable Mind, Body, and Become Sealfit with Mark Divine

Mark Divine will make you challenge yourself. This is the consistent message of Mark Divine, founder of SEALFit, author of Unbeatable Mind and Kokoro Yoga-Warrior Yoga. Right now, you are capable of more than you are right now. Mark Divine continues to prove this with countless client success stories; the GDP’s own Larry Hagner is living proof.

 

Physical and Mental Fitness

Mark Divine been with us before. In our previous interview with him, Mark talked about having an Unbeatable Mind through a mission, vision and power statement (this sounds familiar because we’ve incorporated it in quite a few podcasts!). In this episode, Mark expands the conversation to the physical aspect. One does not outweigh the other, as a matter of fact, mind, body and spirit are one in this practice.

 

What in the WOD are you talking about??

Coming from his Navy SEAL background as well as his own research, Mark has developed a physical program that is both mentally and physically challenging. The beauty of the program is it can be customized to every fitness level. Based on an idea similar to CrossFit, Mark’s SEALFit program combines the intensity of a CrossFit program with the mental focus of yoga. Worried about injuries associated with CrossFit programs? Mark’s got that covered, too! He’s put in safeguards, mentally and physically, to help you stay injury-free.

 

Take Your Game Up a Notch

So, maybe you are already in great shape or you simply want to find a workout program that fits your busy schedule. Mark’s program is sustainable and meets every experience level. And that guilt about taking time for yourself (remember, we had this conversation last week)? Turn that guilt to viewing this as a way to make yourself the best version of yourself in order to serve others. This is a message we continually drive home: you cannot show up as your best self if you do not take care of you first.

 

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How to Teach Grit

Teach GRIT!

The Good Dad Project Podcast with Frankie Edgar was a game changer for so many reasons.  The coolest thing about the GDP and having a dad podcast is that no matter fame nor fortune, men jump at the chance to share their views, their journey, and even their struggles.

For this week’s five minute Thursday, I wanted to recap some highlights from the interview with Frankie.

When under pressure, be calm, cool, and collected

When the UFC Octagon cage doors close…anything can happen.  The secret to a successful outcome in the octagon is being prepared for anything because anything can happen.  Frankie shares that being calm, cool, and collected is absolutely necessary to be able to think rationally.

Being calm, cool, and collected is a skill that transfers from the cage to the family.  Through our journey of fatherhood, there will be situations that test us under pressure.  When we respond calmly and avoid a knee-jerk panic reaction, it illustrates our emotional resiliency.

How to teach GRIT

Teaching grit is probably one the most difficult lessons to teach our kids.  Our instinct is to protect them from anything that is difficult.  Our society also puts such an emphasis on winning at all costs.

Frankie mentioned that he loves leveraging sports to teach his kids grit.  For example, he doesn’t really care if his kids win or lose a wrestling match.  What he wants to see if how hard they fight for the win.  If there isn’t a desire and a fire in the belly to win, that is a bigger problem.  None of us can coach desire.  Desire is either there or it’s not.  However, we can teach how to leverage our desire to win to tap into our grit.  We can even leverage our losses to teach us lessons on how to win in the future.  Finally, we can teach grit through losing and failure.  A victory is even sweeter when we have to work at it extremely hard.  Lessons of grit are learned through sports and as parents we can use situations like losses to teach these lessons.

For Parents of Youth Sports:  Take a Seat and Enjoy

Frankie had some excellent advice for parents of youth sports and that’s “take a seat and enjoy.”  Be the silent voice of love and support when it comes to sports.  Its extremely difficult to not get emotionally wrapped up in our kids sports performance.  I am speaking from a father who is a parent and a coach of my kids sports teams and I see it all the time.

Parents can be extremely tough on their kids even when they think they are helping.  I didn’t really get this mentality until I read The Matheny Manifesto by Mike Matheny, manager of the St. Louis Cardinals.  If you really want to see your child love sports and if you want to see peak performance…take a seat, enjoy, and let the coaches do their jobs.

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5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2 – GDP029

“5 Life Changing Lessons from Dad Part 2” Episode Overview:

Shawn and I did things a bit different for this episode.  We really wanted hear from our audience.  So, I reached out on social media and posed a question:

“What was one life changing lesson you learned from your dad growing up that has inspired you to be a better man?”

The responses were incredible.  We chose five quotes from five different fathers and then reflected on each quote.  If one of these quotes really hit home, tweet it.  You never know who needs inspiration and you could literally change someone’s day and life.

Life Changing Lesson #1 from Jay Forte

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“My mother, when teaching us how to cook, would tap us on the head and say, “When you know your ingredients, you can make something good.” Then in the next moment she would tap us on the heart and say, “When you know YOUR ingredients, you can make something good.”

What a great quote!  Truly illustrates knowing our strengths and using them for the greater good.  Everyone of us is born with gifts and strengths.  Being able to recognize what we are good at and sharing with the world is the best thing we can do.

Life Changing Lesson #2: from Jeff Watts:

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“Always wear a belt if your pants have belt loops.”

Shawn and I got off on a tangent on this one (sorry Jeff LOL!).  All kidding aside, this quote is a great reminder to always pay attention to detail.  Also, to always stay curious about the world around us.

Life Changing Lesson #3 from Coach Jelani Bush:

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“Don’t wear your head as a hat rack!”

Short, simple, and to the point.  Use your brains to make purposeful and good decisions.  Simple as that.

Life Changing Lesson #4 from Katie Logan

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“Don’t call him.  If he is interested, he will call you.”

For all you men out there who have daughters…make sure you share this one with them.  Katie is spot on here.  For the most part, guys are pretty simple creatures.  If we are interested in a woman, it’s usually pretty obvious.  On the other hand, if we are not interested, it’s pretty obvious as well.  For all the dads out there who have daughters…I have no doubt you wouldn’t want your daughter wasting time and stressing about a guy that you know is not interested.  This quote will save a ton of time and heartache.

Life Changing Lesson #5 from Mike Rekart:

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“One night I overheard my son praying…”Dear Lord, please help me be the person my dad wants me to be.”  Later that night I prayed…”Dear Lord please help me be the father my son needs me to be.”

This one was just epic!  Reason being, there are so many meanings in this quote.  One thing Shawn and I took from Mike’s quote was “shared vulnerability.”  This quote illustrates how important it is to a child that they are accepted and loved by their fathers.  Moreover, it shows the desire from a father’s point of view to want to be guided to be the very best.  The Good Dad Project Show, Community, and Resources are exactly that…a resource for dads to be their very best.

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