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Being a Coach, a Dad, and Raising Strong Daughters with Bret Johnson

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Bret Johnson knows being a dad.  He knows being a coach of youth sports.  He knows how to raise a confident strong daughter.

Bret Johnson

Bret Johnson is the driving force behind Team Johnson.  He runs the all of the day-to-day management of the business, in addition to business strategy, event planning, management, and logistics for any Team Johnson or Chalene Johnson appearances.  He negotiates all contracts, handles all sponsors and partner relationships, and coordinates and communicates with all who are a part of the Team Johnson Affiliate Program.  In addition, Bret works one-on-one with a small hand selected group that he coaches on personal, spiritual, and business development.  Bret is the former owner and CFO of Powder Blue Productions as well as the Turbo Wear clothing line that he and Chalene created together. He has also built and sold several multimillion-dollar fitness and lifestyle companies.

Bret Johnson began his career as a Quarterback at UCLA and Michigan State University, and later finished his career in the CFL with the Toronto Argonauts and Atlanta Falcons.  Bret has preserved his love and passion for football by coaching High School Football at Mission Viejo High School with his father and brother.

Bret will be the first to tell you that his greatest accomplishment is raising two amazing kids.

It’s a Girl’s World

Let’s face it: there are definite differences between raising boys versus girls. Beyond the stereotypical pink versus blue, girls are just made differently. They typically have different interests than boys and they respond to stimuli differently. A girl’s world can be complex and helping your daughter navigate these waters as a father can seem overwhelming. But, there is hope; after all, even though she may sometimes seem other-worldly, your daughter is human.

The Basics

Just like sons, daughters need to feel love and validation from their fathers. Remember dads, the relationship your daughter has with you will create the foundation for the relationships she has with other men in her future. Reinforce how much you accept her for who she is, her interests, and the fact that you will always be there for her. She needs this, particularly in the world children will live in as adults.

 

Social Media

At no other time in history has it been easier to find out who is doing what and when, what the latest diet fad is, who is the hottest celebrity, and, maybe most frightening, bullying. And that’s where girls can be hit the hardest, right on line. It’s easy to make fun of others behind a screen and say hurtful things, demean another’s character, or even more devastating to a girl, criticize her appearance. Dads, here is where you can play a vital role, be active in her online media life. Yep, let her know you are watching what she is doing, not so much that you are concerned with her behavior, but how others interact with her. And, if necessary, model positive online behavior and communication so that she can see how to best represent herself to others in this media.

 

“Do These Pants Make Me Look Fat?”

 

Even in an age where a variety of body types are getting more positive media coverage, the skinny models still barrage our girls in the checkout lines of every store. It seems that no matter what they hear about their image, girls still want to look like what they see in the magazines. Your job, dad, is to remind her that those models are airbrushed and that skinny is not always healthy.

 

Be Proactive

Dad, it’s not as hard as you think. She’s your daughter, she loves you and she is looking to you to see how to respond to men in a positive way. Raising a strong daughter means that she feels comfortable in her own skin, she can communicate effectively with all people and that she has the courage to pursue her own passions. Don’t worry, you won’t break her; she’s tougher than you think!

 

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Thanks for checking out this week’s episode with Bret Johnson on Raising Strong Daugthers

Shane Ramer

Overcoming Addition and Becoming a Dad with Purpose with Shane Ramer


Shane Ramer, founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, comes on the GDP and shares an extremely raw interview on addiction, substance abuse, recovery, and being a dad with purpose.  Brace yourself for this amazing interview with Shane Ramer.

It’s the elephant in the room. Everyone knows it’s there, but no one wants to say anything; better to keep the status quo than rock the boat. No one knows what will happen if the boat is rocked and that is scary. At the same time, we hate the elephant; it is destroying our family, our other relationships and possibly our job. The elephant is addiction and addiction is hard to admit. Shane Ramer, founder of thatsoberguy.com, knows this reality all too well.

 

Shane Ramer’s Childhood and Background

Growing up, Shane turned to alcohol to soothe the pain he endured dealing with a troubled childhood. As he became an adult, Shane realized that he was using alcohol to escape life’s realities and soon came face-to-face with the fact that his own marriage was struggling because of it. He hit a wall. He could not longer stand the elephant in the room. With that, he sat down with his wife and said he needed help. Shane knew he was meant for something much more than where he was.

 

Going through intensive counseling and support from his family and friends, Shane learned to manage his life as an alcoholic. Knowing that he wasn’t the only one struggling, Shane started thatsoberguy.com in order to help other men struggling with similar issues. Today, Shane is a successful businessman, husband and father, dedicated to helping men voice their fears that keep them in the bonds of addiction.

 

But I’m Not an Addict

 

We’re not saying you are, but the lessons Shane discusses reach to all men. Society is great at telling boys that real men don’t cry, “suck it up” and never show emotion. So what do you do with all that pent-up emotion? Maybe you already have a healthy way of showing emotion, or maybe you need a little liquid courage to loosen up or just maybe you can’t get to work in the morning without your daily beer. Wherever you are on the spectrum, the learning to deal with fears and emotions without bottling them up will make you and those around you much happier.

 

It’s Ok to Talk About It

 

Again, we men are great at helping others solve their problems. That’s what we think we are here for. Our own problems? What problems? Oh! You mean the ones we don’t talk about? Well, we’ll be fine. Will we? Take a look at your own life and think about areas where your bottled-up emotions eat away at your true self. What is the worst thing that is going to happen if you talk to someone about your issues? You actually may deal with them? Whoa. What about your Man Card? Guess what, it’s safe and secure and probably in better condition than it was when you kept your fears and feelings to yourself.

 

Be A Man

 

Being a man means owning up to all areas of our lives. Even our fears. Showing up as the best dad, husband, employee and friend takes guts. Owning our issues takes even more guts and grit. You’ve got it in you, so be the best man you can be right now.

Resources:

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Connect with Shane Ramer:

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overcoming addiction

Overcoming Addiction and Being a Better Dad

Overcoming Addiction…It starts as something simple, it seems to help us escape from our daily routine and stressors, harmless enough. Eventually, it takes more of our time because the relief it gives becomes necessary. Over time, though, we notice other parts of our life start to falter and this “thing” begins to seem more like an albatross around our neck rather than a release. But we’ve grown so accustomed to its presence that we don’t know how to shake it: the monkey on our back, the “addiction”. The word addiction is so seamlessly connected to drug, alcohol, gambling and pornography abuse that we can’t possibly associate it with anything else. But, addiction is really anything that steals our time away from other responsibilities to the detriment of our daily lives.

 

It doesn’t have to be a drug…

 

It can be anything from working too much to our golf game to even our health. The kicker is, whatever we are doing that takes away from our other daily obligations and loved ones is simply a symptom of a possibly stronger underlying issue. Maybe we are working really long hours to avoid dealing with a situation we simply do not want to address or maybe we are so obsessed with our health because we fear not being well enough to take care of our family. The intentions may be good, but we really need to take a look at why we engage in these behaviors.

 

Overcoming Addiction and What To Do?

Take a moment a evaluate how it’s affecting your life. If this thing or hobby is taking away from the areas of your life you hold near and dear to your heart, look at how you can curb this habit. Anything can become an addiction if we allow it to control other areas of our life.

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rich roll

Work Your Passion, Get Healthy, and Find Your Ultra with Rich Roll


RICH ROLL IS THE MAN…Simple as that!

Cliché as it sounds, life is a journey. Really, it is. Sometimes our journeys completely change course midstream, rendering us a little scared and helpless. There are ultimately two choices to make at this time: one to give up and wonder why we have had such bad luck and the universe must hate us or the other to embrace the fact that life has given us a gift (although it may not seem so at the time) to try something new.

Rich Roll

This is Rich Roll’s story. Celebrity attorney turned strict vegan and founder of Ultra Endurance, one of the most extreme fitness challenges around, chose the second route. After dealing with drug and alcohol abuse and basically taking his health to an all-time low, Rich decided he needed to do something. This Stanford University grad decided to scrap the law and start fresh. He thought about what made him happiest: sun on his shoulders, the beach, and decided he needed to do something that inspired him daily. On the Good Dad Project, we’ve talked about Work-Life Integration, and this is exactly what Rich did. Instead of trying to “balance” his law practice with his life (which wasn’t happening), Rich decided, instead, to integrate his passions into his daily life. Hence, a new perspective on his health and fitness which ultimately led to Ultra Endurance.

Feeling the Pain

Sometimes, in order for us to actually make a change we really know needs to happen, we need to feel a pain deep enough. This pain can propel us to reach that next level. Not listening to that pain or not pursuing your passion and simply living in the status quo won’t get you to your greatest potential. Pain moves us to do something to alleviate the uncomfortable feeling. So, here’s that choice again, do we take the risk for greater reward or simply live with what is comfortable, even if our “comfortable” is uncomfortable? Rich resonates this point saying that his own personal struggles compelled him to change because the pain became too uncomfortable.

The Change and Our Kids

Rich’s change included becoming a vegan in order to help in his quest for optimal health. With a family, this was not so easy, (come on, how many kids say, “oh please no more chocolate. I really want that tree of broccoli”?). He chose not to push his food beliefs on his kids, understanding that the more he pushed, the more likely they were to push back. Instead, he gave them choices. With these choices, he found his kids would more often than not make the choice that made their body feel better (healthier foods). With this base, kids are more likely to make wise food choices on their own.

Being an Example

Everything we do as parents is seen by our children and what we do, our children will model. If we provide a model to our children that demonstrates pushing through pain to positive change, we give our kids the greatest chance to be their best selves. When we take care of our needs and promote positive change, our kids will model positive behaviors.

Resources:

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

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level up your life

Level Up Your Life Through Ruthless Self Evaluation


Level up your life through Ruthless Self Evaluation!

The last interview we had with Niyi Sobo was one of the best we have done to date.  He shared so many different insights on having the right mentality, the importance of self-discipline, and how to level up your life through constant self-evaluation.

 

LEVEL UP YOUR LIFE by asking your family to evaluate you

Niyi shared one of the coolest (and scariest) things I have ever heard on any of our podcast guests to date.  I have always been a man who wants to improve.  I have no doubt if you are wanting to level up your life, you are also a man who constantly wants to improve.  However, I have never thought about leveling up my own life by surveying my family.  The fear of what they might say is pretty scary.  Niyi clearly explained that he gives his family a weekly survey on how they think he is doing as a man, a father, and a husband.  Think about that for a minute…he puts his guard down and risks humiliation from his family just so he can get very direct feedback on how he can improve.

 

I put this strategy into action and had my family evaluate me

Over dinner the other night I got out a dry erase board and came up with four areas my family could rate me.

  1. Listening: how well do I listen?  Am I engaged?  Do I listen my wife and kids when they speak?  Am I distracted?
  2. Playing: Do I play with my kids enough?  Do I say “no” too often when they ask me to play?  Do I seem engaged when we play?  I wanted to know their feedback because we truly only get a handful of years to play with them.
  3. Affection: Kids need physical and emotional reassurance that we care about them.  I wanted to get their feedback on if I give them the hugs they need when they need them.  Do I give them a pat on the back when they do something great?  Do I pour words of encouragement into them when they need it or do they need more?
  4. What can Dad do better: This final category was open to feedback from them.  This was the part of the survey that they could say anything they wanted.

 

The results of my family survey

I happy to report that my kids and wife gave me rave reviews on affection and playing.  They all said I play with them plenty and I am an affectionate father.  However, there was one glaring thing I needed to work on…Listening!  My kids and my wife all agreed that active listening was a problem for me.  The feedback I got was that I can be easily distracted by my mobile device and they have to say my name 2, 3, or even 4 times to get my attention!

It was tough to hear this feedback, however, it was extremely liberating.  I asked the family:  “What do I need to do to make this better?”  The answers and the feedback was clear:

  • When spoken to, look my kids and wife in the eyes and actively listen.
  • No cell phones between the hours of 5pm-9pm.
  • Pause the TV when someone is speaking or has a question.

I was able to put my ego aside and receive all this amazing feedback.  I have to say, Niyi was right on point with this.  I feel empowered now that I have that raw feedback to be a better listener.

Thanks for checking out this episode of Level Up Your Life!

Resources:

==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

GRAB A COPY OF THE DAD’S EDGE HERE

Check out our Dad Edge Group on Facebook Request Entry Here

We have new Dad Edge T-Shirts!  Grab one HERE

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Niyi Sobo Links

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Niyi Sobo Website:  Im Not You