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Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

Former Major League Baseball star, Todd Stottlemyre, tells us how to dream big, set goals, and create a plan to break the world of impossible.

Todd Stottlemyre is a former MLB starting pitcher, entrepreneur, speaker, and a transformational mindset coach. His book, RELENTLESS SUCCESS, comes out on July 1st, 2017. He also is the proud father of four daughters and one son.

Todd’s dad, Mell Stottlemyre, was a pitcher for the Yankees, and Todd grew up in Yankee Stadium among baseball’s most legendary players – Yogi Barra, Roy Munson, and Mickey Mantle.

He knew since he was a child that he wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps, and made his way to the big leagues. Like his dad, he also played with the world’s greatest players and was part of three different champion teams.

After his baseball career, Todd built a Wall Street firm that specialized in asset management. He was very successful, but he says it was only because he failed a bunch of times and learned how to jump up and try again.

Todd Stottlemyre considers himself blessed. His parents said you can, you will, go for it. He has achieved his goals and he’s gotten to the point where he wants to give back. Now he helps other people break the impossible to realize their dreams.

Chase your dreams, not someone else’s

Todd Stottlemyre says a goal becomes real by a massive desire that comes from within. There is no I want to do. There is only I must do. Some people might ask, what are you going to do if you don’t make it? If you have a true goal, that’s not a thought.

Just like in baseball, not every major league player’s son follows in his father’s footsteps, but Todd fell in love with the game early on. His Dad would come home from road trip and play ball with his brother and him before going to the stadium. If his dad saw them playing and they weren’t having fun, he’d tell them, “if you’re not having fun, don’t do it.” He didn’t care if they wanted to dig ditches, if when they dug a ditch, they did their best. Sports wasn’t required by his parents. They wanted him to follow his own dreams, work hard, live a life of passion, and strive to be the best at whatever they did.

However, Todd did share the same passion for baseball as his father. There was no I want to play. It was an I must play, and he focused and sacrificed to make his dream come true.

Habits and Sacrifice

Success is simple, but not easy. Small behavioral changes and action steps lead you closer to your goal, but you must make sacrifices and adopt new habits.

Some say it takes twenty-one days for a new habit to stick. Others say it takes much longer. It might be different for everyone. Todd says to force yourself to do new habits until you don’t have to think about it anymore. Just like when you were a kid and your parents reminded you to brush your teeth over and over, every night. It had to be drilled in. Now you brush your teeth without having to consciously think about it.

The good news is that successfully adopting new habits builds momentum into the next habits. Once you see it working, you believe in can happen, and it makes new habits much easier to take on in the future, and if your habits are part of your big picture goal, there will be no more should do’s, just do’s.

Balance

While you’re working toward your goals, Todd says it’s crucial to maintain balance in eight areas of your life – spiritual, family, relationships, health, job, financial, business, and personal development.

When striving toward goals, you can drive so hard, it consumes you. Sometimes you can forget the other pieces of your life and you are in danger of losing balance.

Todd sees these eight areas of life as a wheel. When one or two spokes in the wheel break down, you have a wobbly wheel. Life becomes unstable.

Family is one of the most important spokes in the wheel of life. Todd remembers one day when his wife told him, “When you’re at home, you’re not really home.” She said even the kids noticed, and wondered why dad always had to be on the phone or in the office working.

Todd’s advice on that balancing act is, “Wherever you are, be there 100%.”  When he’s on a date with his wife, there’s no calling, texting, email, or social media. When he’s working, he’s focused on work. He doesn’t take other calls while he’s in a meeting. The goal is to be well rounded and to keep the wheel rolling smoothly toward your goals.

Don’t Play the Victim

Some of us might think we’re not in ideal circumstances to chase our dreams. Todd says that when you’re stuck in a place that you feel is unfair, if you’re struggling, remember that it’s happening to you for a reason. The problems you’re facing now are giving you the wisdom that you will need for something around the corner you can’t see. Instead of playing the victim, play the champion and learn from the challenges that face you.

Ignore the Haters

Naysayers are going to try to take the wind out of your sails. You’ll come across small-minded people and even friends that will say “you can’t do that.” As we get older, we buy into all the reasons it’s not going to work.

Remember that most people who’ve done extraordinary things were surrounded by naysayers, but once they broke into the world of the impossible, then it became possible. If great achievers listened to the haters, they would’ve never crossed the threshold to the next level.

Seek Mentors

It’s human nature not to be coachable, especially men. We’re stubborn. We like to think we got it all figured out. We don’t even like to stop and ask for directions. But most successful people have had a mentor or group of mentors behind them.

Getting coached doesn’t mean you’re inadequate or lacking in talent. Coaches don’t stretch the human performance, coaches help us understand what our potential is. They see areas for improvement we don’t see. They shorten the learning curve

Todd’s Dad Wisdom

Todd Stottlemyre’s parents never said, you can’t do that, that’s crazy. He credits them for his winning attitude in life. That’s why he says that as dads, we must empower and encourage our kids no matter what. You, yourself, might think your kids are going to fail and be tempted to warn them that they might not make it. Don’t be the naysayer. You might not even know anything about the goal they’re trying to achieve. Ask yourself, is this an opinion?

Todd also urges dads to spend quality time with their families. Again, wherever you’re at, just be there. Do the listening, Be genuinely interested. Tell them you love them. Especially when it comes to the dad/daughter relationships, it’s important for them to know they’re loved. Don’t wait for them to approach you.

 


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How To Dream Big and Conquer Your ​Aspirations with Diamond Dallas Page​

Today on The Good Dad Project I talk to wrestling legend Diamond Dallas Page about his career, his new projects, and his tips on raising FOUR daughters!

DDP’s Career

For the few who don’t know about Diamond Dallas Page, he’s famous around the sports entertainment world of professional wrestling as “DDP.” His drive and ambition would lead him on an inspirational journey from being three-time world wrestling champion to his current endeavor of inspiring others to Own Your Life. DDP has developed his life-changing DDPYoga including books, audio cd’s and DVD workouts and is touring the country to promote his system.

Diamond Dallas Page dreamed of being a wrestler since he was a kid. He started practicing and entered a few matches, but abandoned his goal of becoming a wrestler when he began working in nightclubs and bars at the age of seventeen. Page loved the bar industry, especially all the perks he enjoyed as part of the scene. But when wrestling blew up, he felt he should have been part of it and deeply regretted giving up on his childhood dream.

One day, Page and his friend were having drinks in the back office of the bar he managed. He started riffing on ideas about a character named Diamond Dallas Page and his entourage of females called “Diamond Dolls.” Page wrote it all down just for fun. Little did he know that this seed of an idea would turn into his dream career.

Page began as a wrestling manager and ended up stealing the stage away from the wrestlers in the ring. He long thought he was too old to begin training to wrestle, but he couldn’t shake the dream. Eventually, DDP made the remarkable leap into professional wrestling at the age of 36.

Diamond Dallas Page, the former good guy of World Championship Wrestling “turned bad” continues to be one of the most recognized and respected superstars of professional wrestling. Also known as the “people’s champion,” his contagious popularity can be credited to his unshakable confidence and positive energy.

DDP As a Husband and Father

Back in Page’s days as a bar manager, one of his best bartenders was abandoned by the father of her two girls. They were left with a mortgage for a $400K home and nothing else. Page stepped in and took on the roll of the father and has looked after them ever since.

His other two daughters he had with his wife, Brenda. Brenda and the two girls now help Page with DDP Yoga and his other endeavors. He says the relationship they have together now is amazing.

Dad Wisdom for Raising Daughters

Diamond Dallas Page says that living in a household with 5 women was a challenge, and it’s hard not to get caught up in the drama. He suggests the following:

  1. Breathe. The most important technique DDP uses to diffuse a situation is deep breathing. When drama ensues and emotions run high, he coaches his girls in breathing for up to five minutes before actually beginning to discuss the problem.
  2. Mediate. He also would sit his daughters in a room and break the issue down. The reason for the fight is usually below the surface, and he would force them to communicate and be accountable for their behavior.
  3. Don’t yell. As a professional wrestler, DDP knows how hard it is to control your voice when you’re angry, but he says that once you start yelling and emotions get involved, you’re not hearing them anymore.
  4. Listen. Bite your tongue, shut your mouth, and listen to their side of the story.
  5. You can’t be their buddy all the time. It’s important to learn how to say no sometimes and tell them why you are saying no.
  6. You’re not always going to do it perfectly. Page says that nobody’s going to be a perfect dad. Don’t beat yourself up about making mistakes, but…
  7. Learn from your mistakes. You can’t keep making the same blunders and expect it to turn out differently. If something is isn’t working in your relationship with your daughter, try a new approach.

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Achieving Goals

6 Essential Steps to Achieving Your Goals for 2017

New Year’s is almost here and most of us busy dads are already thinking of what we’d like to accomplish in 2017. It’s easy to set goals, but how do we make sure we reach them?

We can start by setting SMART goals. SMART is an acronym for five goal requirements. Today we talk about these 5 steps to achieving your goals, plus one bonus step!

How to set SMART Goals

1. Make the Goal Specific

The more general the goal is, less likely to conquer it because you won’t have a definite target.

2. Make the Measurable

That which doesn’t get measured, doesn’t get accomplished.

3. Make the Goal Achievable

If you set yourself up for an unrealistic goal, you’re setting yourself up for failure.

4. Make the Relevant

The goal must be beneficial to your life, otherwise you won’t be motivated to go through with it.

5. Make the Goal Time Sensitive

Set a time limit to give a sense of urgency.

 

And for the bonus step.

6. The Goal Must Be Aligned with Your “Why”

When your goals are aligned with your life’s purpose, you will pursue them with passion.

 

 


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Will It Fly with Pat Flynn

Will It Fly with Pat Flynn

Larry and Shawn interview Pat Flynn, founder of Smart Passive Income and author of Will It Fly. In this episode, Pat shares his dynamic story of ground-up success and balancing an entrepreneurship with family.

Key Takeaways:

The intro of Will it Fly with Pat Flynn…We’ve all done it-taken a plain piece of paper, folded it into what we believe will be an aerodynamic masterpiece, only to watch our paper dream nose-dive to the floor. Why? Why would our paper airplane be any different from the other guy’s which looked eerily similar, yet flew like an F-15 Fighter jet? Well, maybe we simply needed a bit more direct guidance. Pat Flynn likens this scenario to entrepreneurship: we see one guy making bank over a great internet idea; we think it looks simple enough, buy business cards, get a great website going and boom. Fail. Why? Maybe that idea worked for that other guy because it worked for them; it fit their values, and it helped them look inward.

Pat states that in work, you don’t need to trade time for money; it’s more trading value for money. For instance, if you provide a service, product or idea online that makes other people’s lives easier or better, you can literally work mere hours in a work week, wake up and see exponential money in your account. Of course, this only works if the idea, product or service is something you believe in and others will need. You need to identify your “why”. Why do you want to create this product, service or idea?

Then, once you’ve got that great product and it’s time to market it and get your business up and running, you have to balance your family and home life as well. Schedule your work around your life, not your life around your work.  This means building entrepreneurial boundaries. In other words, make your own set hours, stick to them and “check-in” to your family and other core values. This way, you are able to focus 100% on what is directly at hand.

So, maybe your first attempt with the paper airplane didn’t fare so well. But, in your second attempt, you got guidance, you decided what you wanted the airplane to look like and it was a total success.

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How to Set and Accomplish SMART Goals as a Dad

Episode Overview on How to Set and Accomplish SMART Goals as a Dad:

Larry and Shawn give you a New Year’s gut check on your New Year’s Resolutions. Providing realistic and specific strategies to help you set and accomplish smart goals as a dad, you will come away from this episode feeling recharged to have a stellar 2016!

Key Takeaways:

The streamers litter the floor, intertwined with glittery confetti and rapidly deflating balloons. Half-full champaign bottles are stacked like the haphazard beer can pyramids, reminiscent of the after effects of a frat party.

Looking around, you can’t help but compare these sad-looking post New Year’s party favors to your quickly fading New Year’s resolutions. Actually, you’re not the only one feeling this dismay. Over 50% of people have given up on their resolutions after 6 months. But wait! There is hope!

You have to be SMART. You need to set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Sensitive (SMART) goals. Using this method helps you to stick to those resolutions that sometimes get away.

Specific

General resolutions like, “I want to lose weight” are great aspirations, but not very specific ways to accomplish smart goals as a dad. So, make the goal more narrow like, “I want to lose (amount of weight)by (insert reasonable deadline here!).” This way, you are able to make yourself more accountable because your goal is more real.

Measurable

A natural second step to specificity is making your goal measurable. Let’s say you want to go on a vacation next winter with your family. There are certain costs associated with this goal like air fare and hotel accommodations (not to mention dining and the numerous amounts of commemorative t-shirts you’ll end up stuffing in your luggage). Once you have that set amount, look at how much money you can put away towards this vacation each month. This way, that fun vacation is top of mind and you will have plenty of money when the time comes!

Achievable

Ah…yes. Losing those last 10 pounds can be the hardest thing to do and you aren’t going to do it in 2 days, let alone 2 weeks (I don’t care what the tabloids tell you). Do your research on your goal and what is reasonable to achieve in a given amount of time. This way, you will not sabotage your efforts and are on a better path to seeing results.

Relevant

Why do you want to lose that weight or go on that vacation? Is it just because you thought it sounded good or because the neighbors took an awesome trip last year they won’t stop talking about? How are these reasons relevant to your values? Gut check yourself and identify the core motivator for accomplishing your goal.

Time Sensitive

Your goals should have a deadline. This way, you have better idea of what to achieve by what day and have fun checking off the mile markers along the way!

Once you have set your goal, review it and make sure it meets all of the SMART criteria. Having a road-map for your resolutions will help you avoid having your resolutions fall to the proverbial post New Year’s ball room floor.

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