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Create an Unbeatable Mind, Body, and Become Sealfit with Mark Divine

Mark Divine will make you challenge yourself. This is the consistent message of Mark Divine, founder of SEALFit, author of Unbeatable Mind and Kokoro Yoga-Warrior Yoga. Right now, you are capable of more than you are right now. Mark Divine continues to prove this with countless client success stories; the GDP’s own Larry Hagner is living proof.

 

Physical and Mental Fitness

Mark Divine been with us before. In our previous interview with him, Mark talked about having an Unbeatable Mind through a mission, vision and power statement (this sounds familiar because we’ve incorporated it in quite a few podcasts!). In this episode, Mark expands the conversation to the physical aspect. One does not outweigh the other, as a matter of fact, mind, body and spirit are one in this practice.

 

What in the WOD are you talking about??

Coming from his Navy SEAL background as well as his own research, Mark has developed a physical program that is both mentally and physically challenging. The beauty of the program is it can be customized to every fitness level. Based on an idea similar to CrossFit, Mark’s SEALFit program combines the intensity of a CrossFit program with the mental focus of yoga. Worried about injuries associated with CrossFit programs? Mark’s got that covered, too! He’s put in safeguards, mentally and physically, to help you stay injury-free.

 

Take Your Game Up a Notch

So, maybe you are already in great shape or you simply want to find a workout program that fits your busy schedule. Mark’s program is sustainable and meets every experience level. And that guilt about taking time for yourself (remember, we had this conversation last week)? Turn that guilt to viewing this as a way to make yourself the best version of yourself in order to serve others. This is a message we continually drive home: you cannot show up as your best self if you do not take care of you first.

 

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Overcoming Addition and Becoming a Dad with Purpose with Shane Ramer


Shane Ramer, founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, comes on the GDP and shares an extremely raw interview on addiction, substance abuse, recovery, and being a dad with purpose.  Brace yourself for this amazing interview with Shane Ramer.

It’s the elephant in the room. Everyone knows it’s there, but no one wants to say anything; better to keep the status quo than rock the boat. No one knows what will happen if the boat is rocked and that is scary. At the same time, we hate the elephant; it is destroying our family, our other relationships and possibly our job. The elephant is addiction and addiction is hard to admit. Shane Ramer, founder of thatsoberguy.com, knows this reality all too well.

 

Shane Ramer’s Childhood and Background

Growing up, Shane turned to alcohol to soothe the pain he endured dealing with a troubled childhood. As he became an adult, Shane realized that he was using alcohol to escape life’s realities and soon came face-to-face with the fact that his own marriage was struggling because of it. He hit a wall. He could not longer stand the elephant in the room. With that, he sat down with his wife and said he needed help. Shane knew he was meant for something much more than where he was.

 

Going through intensive counseling and support from his family and friends, Shane learned to manage his life as an alcoholic. Knowing that he wasn’t the only one struggling, Shane started thatsoberguy.com in order to help other men struggling with similar issues. Today, Shane is a successful businessman, husband and father, dedicated to helping men voice their fears that keep them in the bonds of addiction.

 

But I’m Not an Addict

 

We’re not saying you are, but the lessons Shane discusses reach to all men. Society is great at telling boys that real men don’t cry, “suck it up” and never show emotion. So what do you do with all that pent-up emotion? Maybe you already have a healthy way of showing emotion, or maybe you need a little liquid courage to loosen up or just maybe you can’t get to work in the morning without your daily beer. Wherever you are on the spectrum, the learning to deal with fears and emotions without bottling them up will make you and those around you much happier.

 

It’s Ok to Talk About It

 

Again, we men are great at helping others solve their problems. That’s what we think we are here for. Our own problems? What problems? Oh! You mean the ones we don’t talk about? Well, we’ll be fine. Will we? Take a look at your own life and think about areas where your bottled-up emotions eat away at your true self. What is the worst thing that is going to happen if you talk to someone about your issues? You actually may deal with them? Whoa. What about your Man Card? Guess what, it’s safe and secure and probably in better condition than it was when you kept your fears and feelings to yourself.

 

Be A Man

 

Being a man means owning up to all areas of our lives. Even our fears. Showing up as the best dad, husband, employee and friend takes guts. Owning our issues takes even more guts and grit. You’ve got it in you, so be the best man you can be right now.

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==>NEW!!<== Grab a copy of The Dad’s Edge AUDIOBOOK on iTunes or Audible

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Being a New Dad in the Early Years by Chris Cottle

As I think back over the last 10 years of being a father, I reflect on the joys and the struggles of the early days. There have been many joyous moments such as being there when my son was born, watching him smile as he woke up from a nap, his first words, his first steps and I can go on and on. But the biggest struggle through all those joyous moments was I physically could not tell him that I loved him. It is even difficult for me to type those words, that I couldn’t. It’s not that I didn’t. Because I truly did and still do. I was able to overcome this difficulty with the help of my friends and my wife. I now have three kids and I tell them every day that they are loved. Now let’s take a difficult walk down memory lane.

 

As a child I don’t recall my father being present much, mostly due to the fact that he was in the Navy as an officer. He was out to sea quite often. Even when he retired from the Navy he was going to work early and coming home late. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not knocking my dad in any way. He was doing what he had to at the time. The more I think about it I don’t recall many of the men in my family telling myself or my brother I love you. We heard “I’m proud of you” when the time called for it, but not those three important words. I never knew how they would affect me later down the line.

 

It was the summer of 2005 and my wife was due with our first child. We were the typical first time parents. We had read all the books we could find, bubble wrapped the entire house, and had prepped for this day for weeks in advance. The day had come and we were officially parents! I held my son for the first time and everything changed. My whole world was fixed on him. While at the hospital I felt the need to say I love you to my boy, but the words physically wouldn’t cross my lips. I shrugged it off and hid it from my wife, she was a ball of emotion and I didn’t want to blemish this moment. Flash forward to a few weeks later. I felt the urge to express my endearment yet again, but nothing but “I” would come out of my mouth. I was heartbroken and thought what kind of father can’t tell his son I love you.

 

I talked to my wife about my issue and believe it or not she was understanding considering my history of being emotionally inept (In the past I have not been one to express emotion much). I spent a lot of time discussing my lack of verbal communication with my best friend at the time, who was also quite supportive. Finally I came to a conclusion. I chose to show my son I loved him despite the lack of words. I was constantly holding him and taking care of him on my off shifts. I knew that if he felt loved I wouldn’t have to say it. If I remember correctly, with the more I showed him, the easier it was to say it down the road. Once he began making noise and communicating in his own way, I was able to tell him I loved him as well as show him. My wife began calling me the baby whisperer as I was able to soothe him on occasion when she could not.

 

After everything was said and done, I found comfort in my wife and friends. Because I felt comforted I in turn discover a solution to my issue. If I couldn’t say the words like I wanted to, I was able to wrap him in my loving arms showing my love. Sometimes you have to find other solutions that may not show themselves in the beginning, give it time and you will discover them where you least expect.

 

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The Difference Between a Dad and a Father by Brendan Hufford

A Dad teaches.

A Dad hugs.

A Dad is present.

A Dad forgives.

A Dad empowers.

A Dad educates.

A Dad entertains.

A Dad models his words in action.

A Dad lives his dreams so his kids can live theirs.

A Dad priorities his faith and family above all else.

A Dad reads bedtime stories.

A Dad wrestles.

A Dad plays and inspires imagination and creativity.

A Dad does not belittle his children or his wife.

A Dad does not obliterate all independence and resilience in his sons.

A Dad does not force his sons to love what he loves and do what he does.

A Dad does not expect his children to be carbon copies of himself; powered by the narcissistic notion that they could not possibly come to better conclusions on their own.

A Dad is not selfish.

A Dad does not abandon his sons.

A Dad does not miss birthdays.

A Dad does not move away.

A Dad does not make promises and break them.

A Dad does not treat his son like he is an inconvenience.

A Dad supports his sons financially, emotionally, and physically.

A Dad is there to help you move into your first place.

A Dad is there not only at your graduations, but for every conference, game, event, etc.

A Dad is there for 3AM meltdowns and phone calls.

A Dad is there to advise when you want and need it.

A Dad is there to advise when you DON’T want it or need it.

A Dad flies across the country every other weekend to see his kid.

A Dad puts the brakes on his business to give his son the time he needs.

A Dad wants other people to ask his son,

“What the heck does your dad do for a living? How is it that he can be at every single game and practice? How can he drop you off and pick you up from school every day. Doesn’t he work?”

He does.

A Dad wants his sons to know he’s going to be there for them, not because he promises to do so, but because he’s been there so many times before. His body of work that precedes him means that he’ll never have to make a promise that his sons are unsure of whether or not he’ll keep. It means that he can tacitly support his sons and daughters and they’ll never question how (or whether) their father loves them.

Being a Dad is work.  It’s hard work, but it’s rewarding work.

It’s hard work.

It’s hard work over time.

It’s hard work over a long period of time.

It’s consistent hard work over a long period of time.

Just because you’ve had a kid, it doesn’t make you a Dad. And if you can’t have kids, or can’t right now, remember that even in this moment, you’re much more of a Dad already than most men are even decades years after they’ve had kids.

The article that follows is written by Brendan Hufford.  He writes articles and thinks thoughts on how to create a business that matters, without ruining your family atHustleHeart.co and hosts a free mastermind for Entrepreneur Dads.

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How to Set and Accomplish SMART Goals as a Dad

Episode Overview on How to Set and Accomplish SMART Goals as a Dad:

Larry and Shawn give you a New Year’s gut check on your New Year’s Resolutions. Providing realistic and specific strategies to help you set and accomplish smart goals as a dad, you will come away from this episode feeling recharged to have a stellar 2016!

Key Takeaways:

The streamers litter the floor, intertwined with glittery confetti and rapidly deflating balloons. Half-full champaign bottles are stacked like the haphazard beer can pyramids, reminiscent of the after effects of a frat party.

Looking around, you can’t help but compare these sad-looking post New Year’s party favors to your quickly fading New Year’s resolutions. Actually, you’re not the only one feeling this dismay. Over 50% of people have given up on their resolutions after 6 months. But wait! There is hope!

You have to be SMART. You need to set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Sensitive (SMART) goals. Using this method helps you to stick to those resolutions that sometimes get away.

Specific

General resolutions like, “I want to lose weight” are great aspirations, but not very specific ways to accomplish smart goals as a dad. So, make the goal more narrow like, “I want to lose (amount of weight)by (insert reasonable deadline here!).” This way, you are able to make yourself more accountable because your goal is more real.

Measurable

A natural second step to specificity is making your goal measurable. Let’s say you want to go on a vacation next winter with your family. There are certain costs associated with this goal like air fare and hotel accommodations (not to mention dining and the numerous amounts of commemorative t-shirts you’ll end up stuffing in your luggage). Once you have that set amount, look at how much money you can put away towards this vacation each month. This way, that fun vacation is top of mind and you will have plenty of money when the time comes!

Achievable

Ah…yes. Losing those last 10 pounds can be the hardest thing to do and you aren’t going to do it in 2 days, let alone 2 weeks (I don’t care what the tabloids tell you). Do your research on your goal and what is reasonable to achieve in a given amount of time. This way, you will not sabotage your efforts and are on a better path to seeing results.

Relevant

Why do you want to lose that weight or go on that vacation? Is it just because you thought it sounded good or because the neighbors took an awesome trip last year they won’t stop talking about? How are these reasons relevant to your values? Gut check yourself and identify the core motivator for accomplishing your goal.

Time Sensitive

Your goals should have a deadline. This way, you have better idea of what to achieve by what day and have fun checking off the mile markers along the way!

Once you have set your goal, review it and make sure it meets all of the SMART criteria. Having a road-map for your resolutions will help you avoid having your resolutions fall to the proverbial post New Year’s ball room floor.

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