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Dads Discovering The Greatness Zone – GDP008

“Dads Discovering The Greatness Zone” Episode Overview

Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson interview Jay Forte about how Dads can their Greatness Zone by leveraging the 3 A’s: Aware, Accountable, and Authentic.

Key Take-Aways

Learn the “3 A’s” (Aware, Accountable, and Authentic) and why they are important to being a Dad.

  • Being Aware:  How to be powerfully present in the moment
  • Being Accountable:  Understand how your words and impact make a difference
  • Being Authentic:  Having sense of self, and how to set an example of being awesome

 

Guest: Jay Forte – The Greatness Zone

Jay Forte, MS, CPC, ELI-MP, is a business and motivational speaker, certified workplace, CEO and life coach, author, adjunct professor and nationally ranked thought leader. He provides talent, strength-based and mindfulness tools to help people live extraordinary lives and organizations achieve exceptional results. He is the author of Fire Up! Your Employees and Smoke Your Competition and The Greatness Zone – Know Yourself, Find Your Fit, Transform the World. His new books, The Greatness Habit and The Rhodium Rule, are due out soon.

Jay is the host of the Blog Talk Radio show “The Greatness Zone” on VividLife Radio. He also is the host of the weekly podcast for today’s young adults and their parents titled, “Ready for Life.” His mindfulness and self-awareness based tools are used by people and organizations around the globe. He has published over 400 blogs, articles and white papers on the topics of performance, leadership, service, talent, mindfulness, possibilities and success at college.

When not teaching, coaching CEOs or helping today’s millennials get ready for life, he writes, gardens and cooks (as any good Italian) in Ft. Lauderdale, FL.

The Greatness Zone Thinking

“Your vocation in life is where you greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.” – Frederick Buechner

“What is it on this planet that needs doing that I know something about that probably won’t happen unless I take responsibility for it?” – Buckminster Fuller

Both quotes are the key to our greatness zone – of knowing ourselves, knowing our worlds and owning our connection of the two. Or said another way, the more self and world aware we are, the more we can build our lives around what we do best. We know and use our inventory of talents, passions, strengths and interests, to connect with the world’s needs, challenges and opportunities. This is how to live in our zone.

Talent and skills may be latent and untapped. Work doesn’t always allow opportunities to showcase and utilize them. We need to keep our eyes and ears open for the potential to enter our greatness zone.

To Find Their Greatness Zone, Dads Are:

Aware

They tune in, stop and notice themselves and their world. They pay attention to gather information about how to connect what is best in them to the needs, challenges and opportunities in today’s world. By tuning in and gathering information in this moment, they have the ability to be wiser, braver, stronger and more significant in the next moment.

To paraphrase Jon Kabat Zinn on mindfulness: The power of stopping and noticing and being aware allows you to use the information you just got in this moment to make the next moment better.

Jay’s advice: Take a moment to stop and notice the situation. Give yourself some space to be aware about how you are thinking and feeling, to think about alternative responses you can give by choosing your energetic response and then deliver it. Don’t react, instead respond.

Accountable

They understand the power of words and are impeccable to their word – with themselves and others. They are accountable for supporting and guiding with their words and actions. They honor their commitments and agreements – in and out of the house.

Jay says that being aware and being accountable go hand-in-hand, referencing the first agreement The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: Be Impeccable to Your Word. Words have a great deal of impact.

As the saying goes:

“How you talk to your kids creates how they talk to themselves.”

The power of our words can never be underestimated. As parents, we need to be encouragers to our kids and guide them. Use language to support your kids and to exhibit caring and nurturing as a dad. We need to hold ourselves accountable for raising our kids up, and we need to hold our kids accountable to their commitments.

Authentic

They appreciate who they are and stay strong in their sense of self. They don’t let the voices of others or peer pressure dissuade or direct them to things that are not for them. They set the example that they are great and awesome, just as they are.

“Your vocation is where your greatest joy meets the world’s greatest need.” – Frederick Buechner

Your vocation, or your purpose in life, are related. Jays says that you’ve got to be authentic to know what your greatest joy is — and then, committed enough to go and find in today’s world where to do it and not be thrown. According to Jay: “We’re all either ‘true you’ or ‘you on view’.” In other words, we’re either our true selves or the image of a person whom others around us think is fill-in-the-blank (ex.: cool; financially successful; etc.). The only way you’ll ever really be happy is if you identify the true you.

Both parents and kids need to be authentic with each other. This is especially important for dads with daughters. Fathers need to be able to show their emotions and be willing to cry in front of — and with — their daughters, in particular. Ask more questions. Do more listening instead of telling.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

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Best Nutritional Supplements for Dads to Boost Energy, Mood, Mental Clarity, Sex Drive, and Testosterone – GDP007

“Best Nutritional Supplements for Dads to Boost Energy, Mood, Mental Clarity, Sex Drive, and Testosterone”

Episode Overview

Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson interview Dan Nessel, Director of Marketing for Perfect Supplements, to talk about the 5 best nutritional supplements for busy dads. In this episode: Larry, Shawn, and Dan share common supplemental needs for the everyday busy Dad. We all want to have more energy, more mental clarity, and an increase in sex drive. Dan shares some great insight as to why many men are affected by supplemental deficiencies in their diet and how Perfect Supplements can help.

Key Take-Aways

In order to be our best as Dads, we have to be fueling our bodies and minds with the best possible nutrients. Start with a proper diet first — the best way to receive nutrients, then incorporate supplements. The goal is to eat whole food and be good to the planet, too.

Supplements are purer when they’re minimally processed. Nutrients are heat and processing sensitive, and they can be chemically, structurally altered and made less effective. It takes the body more effort to break down things we eat that are not real food. Tune in to the podcast to hear Shawn explain more.

  • The majority of supplement manufacturers use fillers and additives in their supplements. What is printed on the label may or may not be accurate.
  • Americans spend $33 billion per year on nutritional supplements. It is critical to ensure we are spending our money wisely on products manufactured at the highest quality and with the best standards in the industry.

 

Guest: Dan Nessel

Dan Nessel is the Director of Marketing at Perfect Supplements. Dan has been actively involved with research, product development, and marketing in the natural products world for over 15 years. As an entrepreneur, Dan has successfully launched five online companies and now happily splits his times between promoting the benefits of a perfectly natural diet and playing with his energetic 11 and 13 year old boys.

Energy:  Best Nutritional Supplements for Dad Energy Boost

In 2012, Americans spent nearly $10 billion on energy drinks alone, not counting coffee.

For Dads, who depend on coffee and other energy drinks, Dan recommends this supplement above all else for energy:

Desiccated (dried out) liver, which should be taken daily for a long time to have long-lasting energy, is a great product to use as a starting point. The easiest way to take desiccated liver is in capsule form. However, you could still open up the capsule and use the powder.

Also, Vitamin A, particularly from liver, is directly correlated with longer lifespan.

Mood:  Best Nutritional Supplements for Dads to Boost Mood

Most recent studies show that 1 in every 10 Americans are on a prescription medication to treat chronic depression and $22.9 billion is spent every year to treat depression. Men, in particular, make up 35% of the total yearly expenditures ages 18-50.

For Dads, who struggle with depression or just want an elevation in mood throughout the day, Dan recommends these supplements to improve mood:

  • Acai — high in antioxidants (particularly, anthocyanins — clinically proven to help lower bad cholesterol); contains plant sterols (helps break up arterial plaque, helps improve blood circulation and oxygenation)

  • Rhodiola — thought of as a “tonic herb” that defends the body overall and protects general health and well-being; shown to improve physical and mental performance by reducing fatigue caused by stress

  • Cordyceps — clinically proven to help improve oxygenation of blood and cognition (focus)

Rhodiola and Cordyceps are adaptogen herbs. The whole idea of adaptogen herbs are balancing the body. Another way to look at adaptogen herbs are that they help your body adapt to your environment. Examples where adaptogen herbs can be found are in Chinese medicine and ayurvedic practices.

There are three criteria to be an adaptogen herb:

1. It has to be non-toxic and not cause side effects.

2. It has to produce a nonspecific resistance to any stressors in the body (physical, chemical, or biological). In other words, it has to treat the whole body — not just a symptom.

3. It has to produce a normalizing influence on the body.

Remember: You should work with your doctor, especially if you are on prescription medication. In other words, if you are taking pharmaceutical anti-depressants or mood stabilizers, make sure you check with your doctor first before taking supplements — and do not take it upon yourself to simply stop taking your medication without letting your doctor know.

Sex Drive & Testosterone:  Best Nutritional Supplements for Dads to Boost Libido

In a recent study, 39% of men over the age of 45 suffer from low testosterone (hypogonadism). Low testosterone levels can be pretty complicated. According to Dan, it’s not as simple as finding something that just gives you testosterone because it needs to be bioavailable, easily absorbed, and it depends if a lot of things are going on in the body.

Research has shown that a low fat diet tends to lead to lower testosterone, so you need to eat healthy fats. You also need to have good sleep and low stress. Magnesium can help reduce stress. When stress goes down, testosterone goes up. 50% of people in the United States are deficient in magnesium. Spirulina has magnesium in it.

There are both sexual and non-sexual signs of low testosterone.

Sexual symptoms of low testosterone include:

  • Low sex drive
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Poor erectile function
  • Weaker and fewer erections
  • Reduced sexual activity

Non-sexual symptoms of low testosterone include:

  • Increased body fat
  • Decreased muscle mass
  • Low energy levels
  • Depression

To help men increase their testosterone levels naturally, Dan recommends:

Blue Ice Royal (blend of high-vitamin butter oil and fermented cod liver oil). In addition to the omega fats, it has Vitamins A, D, K2, zinc, and fish oil. Vitamin A and Vitamin D are fat-soluble vitamins and are often found in fatty foods. Vitamin D3 is particularly helpful. In general, Shawn says that Vitamin D is a hormone that works well with magnesium.

Remember: You won’t necessarily become fat by eating fat. Shawn suggests that we should reframe fats in our mind by thinking in terms of proteins, carbohydrates, and energy. Fats are the seed for all of our sex hormones to get built, including testosterone.

In a Journal of Clinical Endocrinology study of 2,299 men, researchers found those who had enough Vitamin D had more testosterone than those who had less. Also, both Vitamin D and testosterone levels appeared to peak in August, drop in the winter, and hit their lowest levels in March.

Remember: You can go outside and get Vitamin D from sunlight. Just remember to wear sunscreen. Wearing a hat and sunglasses to further protect yourself from damaging UV rays would be good ideas, too.

Free Resources:

Check out a free chapter from: THE DAD’S EDGE on UNLIMITED PATIENCE HERE

Check out this free resource on: CONNECTION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Check out this free resource on:  CONNECTION WITH YOUR KIDS

Links

Books Mentioned In This Episode

The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman by Tim Ferriss

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