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Create an Unbeatable Mind, Body, and Become Sealfit with Mark Divine

Mark Divine will make you challenge yourself. This is the consistent message of Mark Divine, founder of SEALFit, author of Unbeatable Mind and Kokoro Yoga-Warrior Yoga. Right now, you are capable of more than you are right now. Mark Divine continues to prove this with countless client success stories; the GDP’s own Larry Hagner is living proof.

 

Physical and Mental Fitness

Mark Divine been with us before. In our previous interview with him, Mark talked about having an Unbeatable Mind through a mission, vision and power statement (this sounds familiar because we’ve incorporated it in quite a few podcasts!). In this episode, Mark expands the conversation to the physical aspect. One does not outweigh the other, as a matter of fact, mind, body and spirit are one in this practice.

 

What in the WOD are you talking about??

Coming from his Navy SEAL background as well as his own research, Mark has developed a physical program that is both mentally and physically challenging. The beauty of the program is it can be customized to every fitness level. Based on an idea similar to CrossFit, Mark’s SEALFit program combines the intensity of a CrossFit program with the mental focus of yoga. Worried about injuries associated with CrossFit programs? Mark’s got that covered, too! He’s put in safeguards, mentally and physically, to help you stay injury-free.

 

Take Your Game Up a Notch

So, maybe you are already in great shape or you simply want to find a workout program that fits your busy schedule. Mark’s program is sustainable and meets every experience level. And that guilt about taking time for yourself (remember, we had this conversation last week)? Turn that guilt to viewing this as a way to make yourself the best version of yourself in order to serve others. This is a message we continually drive home: you cannot show up as your best self if you do not take care of you first.

 

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family stays connected

Five Ways to Make Sure Your Family Stays Connected


Ensuring our families stay connected is something that every dad desires.

You know your family. You know your spouse’s trigger points, what’s going on with their day and  what bothers them. You know what is going on in your kids’ lives: their friends, their favorite activities, their sensitivities. Whoa-wait-do you? When is the last time you sat down and really listened, or scheduled an activity together and really made quality time? Too many times our best intentions to build the connections with our family are overlooked by our busy schedules and outside commitments. Changing just some of our simple daily habits, though, can really help strengthen the most important connections of all.

Your Family Stays Connected By Taking a Few Minutes to Talk Everyday

Yeah, you ask your kids how they’re doing, but are you really paying attention, or are you absentmindedly listening while mentally going over that meeting with your boss you had an hour ago? Admit it, you’ve done it before; most of us have. But listening and truly paying attention to what they have to say helps to build those bonds. It just makes people feel important when you really listen. Think about it: when someone is really engaged and listening to you, you know it. You also know when someone is just half way there. You just feel better when the other person is actively listening: asking good questions and being present.

Schedule an Activity

It doesn’t have to be a trip to DisneyWorld (unless that’s what you really want to do), it’s the daily activities of simply playing with your kids. Our intentions might be good, but if it’s not in our routine schedule, we may not get to it. You schedule meetings for work, why not schedule activities with your family; the reason you go to work?

Do Physical Activities Together

No, this doesn’t mean putting your kids to work pulling weeds in the yard while you mow the lawn. Spend some times outside: go for a walk, throw a ball, wrestle. Whatever it is, the simple act of being active together creates a different bond than just sitting on the couch (there’s quality in that, too, just not all the time). Schedule a hike or set a goal of doing a challenge course together (Color Run, anybody?).

Have a Meal Together and Express Gratitude

It doesn’t have to be the Beaver Cleaver family meal at 5 o’clock; dinner can be whenever you can connect. And when you’re sitting around that table eating (please don’t talk with your mouth full), maybe say something you’re grateful for. Heck, why not make it something you’re grateful for about someone at that very table? While you’re at it, make this a tech-free zone. Nothing says “I’m physically present, but not mentally here” like a cell phone at the table.

Pay Attention to the Small Stuff

Small Stuff. The stuff that keeps gnawing at the back of our minds when we have a moment’s down time. Paying attention to our spouse’s and kids’ small stuff helps them know we care enough to listen to their deepest needs. You might even help them take that small stuff off of their plate!
Daily habits can be changed. It doesn’t take moving a mountain to do it, either. Really, it’s just a conscious effort to take what you typically do in a day and just insert some of these 5  easy steps to make those family connections even stronger.

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3 ways to improve your sex life

3 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life – GDP005

“3 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life” Episode Overview

In this episode, Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson talk about some shocking statistics about sex and marriage. Larry and Shawn share 3 ways to improve your sex life. These strategies include: ensuring husbands connect with their wives on an emotional level first; not rushing physical intimacy; and how a reduction in stress can improve sex.

Key Take-Aways – Statistics

Sex is a big part of marriage, especially for men. Most men show and receive their love in a physical manner. In a recent poll of over 50,000 Americans aged 21-50:

  • 60% of married couples are engaging in sex on a “somewhat regular basis” of weekly sex
  • 20% of married couples have sex about 2 times per week (Seems similar to frequency of new couples)
  • 40% of married couples have sex 1 time per week or 1 time every other week (Seems “semi-normal,” according to Shawn)
  • 15% of married couples have sex 1 time per month
  • 10% of married couples have sex 3-4 times per year
  • 15% of married couples have sex 0-1 time per year

 

Problem #1: Not Connecting with Your Partner on an Emotional Level Before a Physical Level

Before having sex, men must communicate with their partner on an emotional level. Check out a related podcast episode, “5 Ideas on How to Connect with Your Spouse”, where Larry and Shawn talk more about communicating and connecting with your partner.

Solution: Connect with your partner on an emotional level first!

Foreplay for a woman starts with her emotions, connectivity, and feelings of being understood and heard. Here are some tips:

1) Ask open-ended questions and not closed questions.

2) Ask questions that ascertain feelings and not just words.

3) Ask what, when, how, and why questions.

4) Don’t ask questions your partner can simply answer with “yes” or “no.” Examples:

  • “Tell me about the best part of your day.”
  • “Why?”
  • “Tell me more about that.”
  • “How did that make you feel?”

5) Observe your partner’s body language. Remember: 93% of all communication is through body language, gestures, and vocal tone. Look for the emotions/feelings she/he is sharing and not just words.

6) For more insight, check out “The 6 Human Needs” by Tony Robbins. These tie into our deepest fear in a relationship: Fear of not being enough, especially for the other person.

Problem #2: Rushing into Physical Intimacy

Most women are like ovens – they need to be preheated. Most men are like microwaves – they simply turn on.

Solution: Connect with your partner on an emotional level first!

Yes, this point so important that it’s being emphasized again. Here are some tips:

1) Engage in physical intimacy (i.e., hug and kiss) without an agenda during the day or week. Freely make these affectionate deposits into the love bank – instead of only hugging and kissing your partner as a precursor to sex that you plan to have in the next minute or so.

2) Remember: Foreplay begins in morning and throughout the day, especially if you plan on having sex that same evening. It can be a hug and kiss or doing something kind and helpful (i.e., helping around the house and with kids).

3) Physical affection can be best if you start with all other areas of her/his body besides the obvious body parts. Examples:

  • Cuddling
  • Massage shoulders, feet, back, etc.

 

Problem #3: Too Much Stress and Too Little Energy

Let’s face it: A big reason that people don’t have sex is that they don’t “feel” like it. This holds true for men, but especially for women.

Solution: Work, along with your partner, to set up things so that there’s less stress and less overexertion of herself/himself each day.

Stress will naturally wear down a person’s battery. Here are some tips:

1) Help with planning with the kids. Example: Pick-ups/Drop-offs for school and activities.

2) Scheduling and execution of household duties. Examples:

  • Larry’s wife handles the lion’s share of household duties, as Larry handles the lion’s share of work outside the house — but Larry has his duties at home, too, and he gets them done (period).
  • Kids have their assignments, enforced by Larry.
  • Larry understands the things that really depress his wife’s mood the most, and he helps in those areas.

3) Find creative ways that you can take things off of your collective plates. It’s just going to free up more energy for each other.  😉

4) Encourage and help your partner exercise on a consistent basis. You can spend some quality time to workout or train together. Exercise has physical benefits, such as increased energy and overall health. Exercise also has emotional benefits, such as feeling better about your body and health in addition to increased confidence.

Free Resources:

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How to connect with your spouse

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“5 Ideas on How to Connect with Your Spouse” Episode Overview

Larry Hagner and Shawn Stevenson share five ideas on how to connect with your spouse. They discuss some of the common challenges of marriage and how to overcome them with easy strategies.

Key Take-Aways

Intimacy gets lost when we get too busy and don’t make the time to truly connect with our spouse. The best way to connect with her/him is through communication, having a real conversation. Larry and Shawn discuss some of the common challenges of marriage and how to overcome lost connection and intimacy with five easy strategies.

The Problem: Limited Time to Connect

We have limited time in the day to connect with our spouse. We have demands of work, homework, extra curricular activities with kids, our health, hobbies, quality time with our kids and family.

At times, there is very little time to connect during the day. We can be exhausted from the day. We burn the candle on both ends. We “check out” when we get home. When we don’t make time for our spouse, we can potentially lose our connection. We lose intimacy.

Idea #1: Go on Once a Month (or More) Dates

Couples who do not take time with each other one-on-one can lose their connection. Your dates have to be something that gives you a platform where you can communicate and catch up. You should be in a situation where you will be able to hear each other and hold a conversation.

One suggestion would be to have Date Night more than once a month. Another suggestion would be to have an annual Date Day, where you spend the whole day and evening together. A third suggestion would be to have a mini date night or day, where you spend a few hours together. You could go out to dinner or just hang out together doing something simple.

Here are some tips to have a successful Date Night or Date Day:

  • You must schedule it.
  • Book a babysitter.
  • Make reservations for dinner at your favorite place.
  • No movies, concert, or plays: It must be interactive between the two of you.

 

Idea #2: Take 10 Minutes Every Day Before Bed to Catch Up

This time is sacred. Before bed may be the only time you and your spouse have to really connect with one another by having a meaningful conversation. A huge driving force for women, especially, is to be heard. There is something special and transformative about lying in bed together and having real pillow talk.

Here are some tips to have a fulfilling 10 minutes:

  • Ask open ended questions: What; When; Why; How. The more questions your spouse can answer without simply answering “yes” or “no”, the better.
  • Hold hands or physically touch (ex., give a backrub/massage) during your conversation.
  • No TV, iPad, or phones during your 10 minutes.

Jack Canfield (author of Chicken Soup for the Soul series) wrote a book called The Success Principles. In his book, Jack mentions that he and his wife share five things they appreciate about each other every night before bed.

Verbally acknowledge 3-5 things you appreciate about each other. Feeling significant is a human need, and hearing those things are powerful.

Idea #3: Talk or Text Throughout Your Day

Communicate on a daily basis or throughout the day. Call or text during the day to “check in” and let your partner s/he is in your thoughts. A useful tip would be to keep your interaction lighthearted and make your spouse laugh or make your spouse feel appreciated. Long-term happiness is related to gratitude and appreciation.

A suggested number of times is at least three times per day. We generally eat three times a day. Why not take some time there to communicate with our life partner?

Here are two helpful suggestions when talking/texting:

  • Make it a point to communicate via text or phone call to pay a compliment about something specific.
  • Don’t just give a simple “l love you.” The communication has to be something with more thought and specifics. Why do you love your spouse?

 

Idea #4: Pay a Genuine Compliment at Least 3 Times a Day (For 1 Week)

This strategy ties in with Idea #3: Talk or Text Throughout Your Day. Be aware of your spouse and her/his needs.

Of course, feel free to pay daily genuine compliments for more than just one week. One week is simply a good starting point to help turn the act of paying a genuine compliment into a positive habit.

Here are two important guidelines when giving compliments:

  • It has to be something specific.
  • It must be something important, empowering, and impactful for your spouse.

 

Idea #5: Choose to Love Your Spouse

The first 90 days or so of a relationship are linked to primal chemistry, the initial stage of the honeymoon phase where flaws are commonly overlooked. Love is more than a feeling. To really love someone is to make a purposeful choice.

Learning to love is a skill. Love is a practice, something you have to cultivate and take care of in your relationship. You have to take loving your partner upon yourself by making love a study. Learn from examples of others whose relationships who are more than happy and who you admire. Read books and seek out advice.

Choose to look at your spouse with gratitude and appreciation. Choose to be positive and have a happy perspective. Choose love.

 

Free Resources:

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