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What Happened When My Family Gave Up Screen Time for 40 Days

What Happened When My Family Gave Up Screen Time for 40 Days

Electronic devices are a part of our lives now. Can you imagine giving them up? Would your kids survive without their phones, tablets, and video games? Listen to what happened to my family when we gave up our screen time for 40 days!


My family is Catholic and for Lent this year, my nine-year-old decided to give up screen time. That means no Playstation, no Wii no TV, no iPad. Our whole family was so inspired by his sacrifice, we all gave up our screens and it has changed our lives in amazing ways. We don’t sit around watching TV anymore. It forces us to go outside and play basketball or football. No one is looking at their phones. We even play board games. We huddle together and read books. Now that we’ve given up our screens, we really don’t want them back.

Would you take the no screen time challenge? Let us know if you do and share your experience in the Dad’s Edge Facebook Group.

 

Referenced episode: Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre


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Breaking the World of Impossible with Todd Stottlemyre

Former Major League Baseball star, Todd Stottlemyre, tells us how to dream big, set goals, and create a plan to break the world of impossible.

Todd Stottlemyre is a former MLB starting pitcher, entrepreneur, speaker, and a transformational mindset coach. His book, RELENTLESS SUCCESS, comes out on July 1st, 2017. He also is the proud father of four daughters and one son.

Todd’s dad, Mell Stottlemyre, was a pitcher for the Yankees, and Todd grew up in Yankee Stadium among baseball’s most legendary players – Yogi Barra, Roy Munson, and Mickey Mantle.

He knew since he was a child that he wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps, and made his way to the big leagues. Like his dad, he also played with the world’s greatest players and was part of three different champion teams.

After his baseball career, Todd built a Wall Street firm that specialized in asset management. He was very successful, but he says it was only because he failed a bunch of times and learned how to jump up and try again.

Todd Stottlemyre considers himself blessed. His parents said you can, you will, go for it. He has achieved his goals and he’s gotten to the point where he wants to give back. Now he helps other people break the impossible to realize their dreams.

Chase your dreams, not someone else’s

Todd Stottlemyre says a goal becomes real by a massive desire that comes from within. There is no I want to do. There is only I must do. Some people might ask, what are you going to do if you don’t make it? If you have a true goal, that’s not a thought.

Just like in baseball, not every major league player’s son follows in his father’s footsteps, but Todd fell in love with the game early on. His Dad would come home from road trip and play ball with his brother and him before going to the stadium. If his dad saw them playing and they weren’t having fun, he’d tell them, “if you’re not having fun, don’t do it.” He didn’t care if they wanted to dig ditches, if when they dug a ditch, they did their best. Sports wasn’t required by his parents. They wanted him to follow his own dreams, work hard, live a life of passion, and strive to be the best at whatever they did.

However, Todd did share the same passion for baseball as his father. There was no I want to play. It was an I must play, and he focused and sacrificed to make his dream come true.

Habits and Sacrifice

Success is simple, but not easy. Small behavioral changes and action steps lead you closer to your goal, but you must make sacrifices and adopt new habits.

Some say it takes twenty-one days for a new habit to stick. Others say it takes much longer. It might be different for everyone. Todd says to force yourself to do new habits until you don’t have to think about it anymore. Just like when you were a kid and your parents reminded you to brush your teeth over and over, every night. It had to be drilled in. Now you brush your teeth without having to consciously think about it.

The good news is that successfully adopting new habits builds momentum into the next habits. Once you see it working, you believe in can happen, and it makes new habits much easier to take on in the future, and if your habits are part of your big picture goal, there will be no more should do’s, just do’s.

Balance

While you’re working toward your goals, Todd says it’s crucial to maintain balance in eight areas of your life – spiritual, family, relationships, health, job, financial, business, and personal development.

When striving toward goals, you can drive so hard, it consumes you. Sometimes you can forget the other pieces of your life and you are in danger of losing balance.

Todd sees these eight areas of life as a wheel. When one or two spokes in the wheel break down, you have a wobbly wheel. Life becomes unstable.

Family is one of the most important spokes in the wheel of life. Todd remembers one day when his wife told him, “When you’re at home, you’re not really home.” She said even the kids noticed, and wondered why dad always had to be on the phone or in the office working.

Todd’s advice on that balancing act is, “Wherever you are, be there 100%.”  When he’s on a date with his wife, there’s no calling, texting, email, or social media. When he’s working, he’s focused on work. He doesn’t take other calls while he’s in a meeting. The goal is to be well rounded and to keep the wheel rolling smoothly toward your goals.

Don’t Play the Victim

Some of us might think we’re not in ideal circumstances to chase our dreams. Todd says that when you’re stuck in a place that you feel is unfair, if you’re struggling, remember that it’s happening to you for a reason. The problems you’re facing now are giving you the wisdom that you will need for something around the corner you can’t see. Instead of playing the victim, play the champion and learn from the challenges that face you.

Ignore the Haters

Naysayers are going to try to take the wind out of your sails. You’ll come across small-minded people and even friends that will say “you can’t do that.” As we get older, we buy into all the reasons it’s not going to work.

Remember that most people who’ve done extraordinary things were surrounded by naysayers, but once they broke into the world of the impossible, then it became possible. If great achievers listened to the haters, they would’ve never crossed the threshold to the next level.

Seek Mentors

It’s human nature not to be coachable, especially men. We’re stubborn. We like to think we got it all figured out. We don’t even like to stop and ask for directions. But most successful people have had a mentor or group of mentors behind them.

Getting coached doesn’t mean you’re inadequate or lacking in talent. Coaches don’t stretch the human performance, coaches help us understand what our potential is. They see areas for improvement we don’t see. They shorten the learning curve

Todd’s Dad Wisdom

Todd Stottlemyre’s parents never said, you can’t do that, that’s crazy. He credits them for his winning attitude in life. That’s why he says that as dads, we must empower and encourage our kids no matter what. You, yourself, might think your kids are going to fail and be tempted to warn them that they might not make it. Don’t be the naysayer. You might not even know anything about the goal they’re trying to achieve. Ask yourself, is this an opinion?

Todd also urges dads to spend quality time with their families. Again, wherever you’re at, just be there. Do the listening, Be genuinely interested. Tell them you love them. Especially when it comes to the dad/daughter relationships, it’s important for them to know they’re loved. Don’t wait for them to approach you.

 


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Why Fathers Need to Ask for Help

Why Fathers Need to Ask for Help

As men, we hate to admit when we don’t know all the answers. We don’t want to seem weak and vulnerable, but fathers need to ask for help sometimes, and here is why.

None of us want to be at a loss when it comes to what to do about job struggles and relationship issues. We especially don’t want to be failing as fathers. Parenting is an intimate thing. That’s why it’s so difficult to ask for help when we need it. But we need to learn that it’s okay to ask for help. We can’t do it all alone and we don’t have to.

We’ve had the honor of interviewing several Navy SEALs on The Good Dad Project. The SEALs are one of the most successful organizations in the world. They are elite performers who accomplish amazing goals in the most stressful and dangerous situations. How do they successfully complete these extreme missions?

As a team.

They work together solving problems and helping each other, and would not be able to do what they do without their teammates by their side.

Just striving to be a better father and man means you are part of an elite group of men too. Join a local group, a mastermind group, or our Dad Edge Private Facebook Group. Seek out a mentor or a friend. Find a place where you feel safe and ask for help.

 

Referenced Episode: Leading Our Family With Confidence with Chris Sajnog


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The Art of Charm and Professional Relationships with Jordan Harbinger

The Art of Charm and Professional Relationships with Jordan Harbinger

Work relationship issues can lead to broken deals, missed promotions, and lost jobs. Today, Jordan Harbinger from the Art of Charm Podcast uncovers the truths and smashes the myths about building relationships at work. He also tells us how our body language dictates how we are treated, and gives us his drill to start appearing more confident and competent right away.

Jordan Harbinger’s Story

Jordan is not a dad, but course, he had a dad. He got into trouble as a kid because his dad was always working. Working hard was how he showed love to his kids. Jordan says this was not a great way to be a father. Every kid would rather have time with their dad.

Jordan started skipping school. He wasn’t cool, so he didn’t go hang out with the other kids. He went home to his computer and spent all his time on the internet – the internet of 1993. It was nothing like the world wide web we know today. Jordan figured out ways to tap phone calls. At the age of thirteen, he was exposed to conversations about real emotions and problems. The world of adults became three-dimensional to him and it opened him up to how complex human relationships are. It became his obsession.

After he graduated law school, he got internship at an old prestigious white-shoe firm. Jordan noticed one of the partners was never there. One day he asked him, “why are you always out of the office? And how do you still make so much money?” The man told Jordan that he didn’t worry about billing hours because he brought in a lot of deals. He focused on business generation, not so much client service. He went out to enjoy golf, jujitsu, cruises, and events for charities. His socializing generated the relationships that brought the firm revenue.

At that moment, Jordan’s mind imploded. All patterns he had in his head about how work works were turned upside down. He realized that the way you network is through generating and putting energy into relationships, and, like parenting and marriage, something grows out of that.

What Happens if We Don’t Work on Professional Relationships?

Jordan keeps tabs on his old buddies who are finding themselves behind. They keep hitting barricades and never get the promotions they’re expecting. They work hard and wonder why they’re stuck.

Jordan says, ninety-nine times the guy didn’t outperform you, but out-networked you.

If you’re in an organization, and you’re not mindfully working on relationships, you’re being willfully ignorant of the secret game being played around you.

Why We’ve Ignored the Social Aspects of Business

Most of our dads taught us to work as hard as we can and never give up. Eventually, our hard work gets noticed. We get promoted and promoted again. Maybe we even get to the top. Or, maybe not.

Myth

This old-school mindset leads us to believe that:

  • We should be getting promoted for work ethic and skill – nothing else.
  • If we didn’t sweat and grind for it, it isn’t ours.
  • Getting something as a result of our relationships is wrong.

This way of thinking is setting us up for failure. Relationships with people in our career-life are just as important as the ones with our wife and family. If we put time and effort into connecting with people, there is nothing wrong with enjoying the success we may achieve as a result. If we fail to build rapport with the people in our professional lives, we will lose out.

Face It.

People are going to choose the people they like. If there are three candidates with roughly the same qualifications, the person in charge will choose the one they feel most comfortable with. They will choose someone they work well with and have fun with.

It’s not just about likeability, it’s about productivity and success. It’s very rare that a team who is qualified and gets along doesn’t succeed. But we see the disaster that happens when teams that do NOT get along. One poorly chosen team member can ruin a whole project, and everyone fails. This is why sometimes highly-qualified candidates get passed over for a better team player or someone with better social and management skills.

Building Rapport and Self-confidence

We receive first impressions visually. Nonverbal communication is our first way to show confidence and competence. Appearing confident will cause people to treat you differently. Once we’re treated with respect, we act accordingly. When we carry ourselves differently, we’re treated differently. When we’re treated differently, we’ll act differently. We actually grow into those personality characteristics.

Project Confidence, not Ego

Projecting confidence is not trying to be the emotionless Rambo-type. Some of us developed emotional toughness in our school days to protect us and never outgrew it. But now it’s time to drop the tough-guy act. We want to act confident, not egotistical.

Be the First One to Be Vulnerable

People bond over shared experiences. Knowing, liking, and trusting has to do with vulnerability. Be the first person to display weakness with confidence. Share a relatable problem. This helps generate rapport and people feel they can trust you. No one will feel safe sharing with you if you don’t share with them.

Body Language and Confidence

Stand up straight with your chin up, shoulders back, and with a smile on your face. This is open, positive body language, but it’s hard to manage nonverbal when you’re in the middle of interacting. You can’t remember all the time. It needs to be a habit so you don’t have to think about it anymore.How can we condition ourselves to use confident body language without thinking about it?

Jordan Harbinger’s Doorway Drill

You can do this drill in your own house. Every time you walk through a doorway, remember to stand up, put your chin up, put your shoulders back, and smile. If you have trouble remembering to do this, take a pad of post it notes and leave them on all the doorways. Every time you see the post it, you’ll wonder why it’s there and you’ll remember the drill. By the time you become blind to the post it notes, you will get the doorway drill.

Jordan Harbinger’s Dad Wisdom (as a son)

Don’t think that talking about your day is boring to your kids.

Many men don’t want to talk about work to our families. We think it’s stressful or uninteresting. But as a boy, Jordan said he would have loved to hear about his dad’s work and about what grown men are supposed to do day to day.

Being a dad is not just provide, provide, provide. Part of being vulnerable is sharing daily challenges with our kids. Spend some time with your kids. Use it to build a bond with them.  Take advantage of the fact they want to listen to you. When they’re older, they might not.

 


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Taking Risks for a Life of Fulfillment

In our last episode, we talked with Sam Weinman about how to win at losing, how to succeed when we fail, and how to learn from defeat. I want to recap on this because the fear of losing is one of the most popular topics discussed in our Dad’s Edge Private Facebook Group. A lot of guys are afraid of taking risks and doing something new. We’re afraid of failing. We hold back because we think we’re not good enough.

But, think about it.

What would life would be like if you took no risks?

What if you always knew what exactly what would happen?

Would you be afraid?

No. You would have certainty. You would know the outcome of every situation in life. Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it?

No, really think about it.

Absolute certainty would be a curse. You would be bored without any challenges or surprises, and life would be unfulfilling.

So start today.

Do something that scares you a little.

In order to live life to the fullest, we must take risks, get our hands dirty, and fail.

 

Referenced Episode: How to Teach Our Kids to Win at Losing with Sam Weinman

 


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